conditional friends, update

[Teri Jean]

The other day a co-worker and friend dropped the bomb by saying our working relationship will be fine but any other relationship is over. We had done a lot together over the past few years; meals out, four wheeling, drinks after work at the Legion Club, etc. His wife stopped calling or dropping of treats, etc.

So hense this is because I am transitioning it was more the change of appearance and the preception of others and how they would talk. Well we had a serious chat for over an hour and then a turn of events happened that still has me wondering where this is going. His wifes B-Day was this month so I sent flowers. Then we had the "talk" and out of the blue he is back to the talking together and hanging out as if nothing had been said earlier in the week. Then last night his wife left a gift of treats; banana bread, bars, and candy with a beautiful card.

Although the landscape is changing there has been no attempt to move forward there seems to be a effort on their part. Maybe I need to do something to show I want their friendship also.

Teri

[Nigella]

IMHO all you need to do is continue with things as they were. Any changes that have taken place I assume has been on their part.

If that is the case, it is up to them to prove that they still want your friendship.

[boardpuppy]

Hi Teri,
Take a small step toward them (friendship) and see what happens, you never know what will happen in the future (good or bad).

Hugs,
Alice

[Blaire]

If you're trying to convince everyone that you're the same person you've always been, then you need to be the same person you've always been.

[SuzanneBender]

It sounds like your friend and his wife are offering an olive branch for the earlier events.

Accept the branch and offer a gesture of friendship back. Friendship is a two way street that is about giving of ones self for those you care for.

[morgan51]

this is a difficult journey for us and our friends I am experiencing much the same from my best girlfriend she quit calling and doesn't come around I can only be me just trying to stay the course and be willing to be her friend if and when she comes around. I would make it better if I could but the ball is in her court. I will try to reach out in a little while again. Morgan

[Teri Jean]

Suzanne you may be right as the letter in the card suggested the desire to remain friends. Friendship is a two way street and if you don't try they will not either.

Teri