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sherri52

01-25-2010, 04:38 PM

My purges were all by my first wife. Fairly cheap to replace since there wasn't that much to replace. If I did it today I would have to hit the lottery to replace it all.

minalost

01-25-2010, 04:38 PM

I know what you mean! I'm in the process of replacing stuff from my last (and I do mean LAST!) purge, and it's going to cost a mint! In fact I'm having to go slow because I just can't afford to do it all at once! It's going to take forever!

NEVER PURGE!

Elle1946

01-25-2010, 04:42 PM

I have purged several times and it was several thousand dollars. My main gripe is that some of the things that I got rid of can not be replaced and I miss them.

ReneeT

01-25-2010, 04:43 PM

As consolation, at least I know just what to buy! My collection is smaller but more focused. I am buying things I will actually wear!

renee k

01-25-2010, 04:55 PM

As consolation, at least I know just what to buy! My collection is smaller but more focused. I am buying things I will actually wear!
:iagree:

I'm with Renee, purged twice since I became single and got serious with my crossdressing. Now I buy what I intend to wear out, (no pun intended!) And try to co-ordinate my wardrobe to have more versatility. Although I have this addiction for heels and skirtsuits! LOL!!
Renee K

Nicole Erin

01-25-2010, 04:57 PM

I have never formally purged, but have gone thru a lot of piece by piece wardrobe replacements.

If I purged today, probably about $600 worth, however, some stuff I buy new, some from the thrift.

I keep only what I need.

victoriamwilliams1

01-25-2010, 05:00 PM

I consider purging about 9 years ago when I caught by a neighbor and 11 years ago when I was pull over by the police in my scared years. In both occasions I purged the outfits I wore and I miss those outfits!

If I was to purge and re buy for myself it would be about $5k because I would buy things that I would need and wear this time so if I get the urge I think a storage center would be cheaper in the long run since most purges last for about 90days and no longer than a year.

Joni Marie Cruz

01-25-2010, 05:02 PM

Renee, hon, I am so glad for you that you have had your last purge and will purge no more forever from this day forth. Can I get an amen? And now, because we share an interest in high heels and ballet boots, I am going to offer you some help. If you should ever, ever, Goddess forbid, once again have the urge to purge, why you can just send your clothes, shoes, makeup, wigs, etc, etc to little old me and I will keep them safe and sound for you and shower them with TLC. Then when you want them back again, I will send them home all freshly laundered or drycleaned, unstained, de-spotted, DNA free and fresh as little daisies.

No need to thank me, I'm happy to offer.

Hugs...Joni Mari

Michelle-Leigh

01-25-2010, 05:05 PM

No purging for me ! What a terrible waste of irreplacable clothes and money..... I never threw out anything that wasn't worn out !!

josie_S

01-25-2010, 05:07 PM

Ouch. This hits a little close since I purged everything a few months back. Nothing is left. I'm sad. It wasn't even one of those emotional purges where I freak out and throw everything away in an irrational attempt to hide my 'hobby.' I actually *rationalized* it, thought it through and convinced myself I didn't need these things anymore.

Just by looking at some stuff online, I'm sure I'm looking at AT LEAST $1k in stuff. If I factor in the stuff I want now in addition to the stuff I need to replace--well my credit is in trouble :D

SouthernBelle.GG

01-25-2010, 05:15 PM

As consolation, at least I know just what to buy! My collection is smaller but more focused. I am buying things I will actually wear!

That's got to be the only upside.

I swear if hubby ever purged, I'd have a fit! I can see myself going through the trash 'cause there are definitely things that I know he loves and would want back when he came to his senses - plus there are a few things I'd want for myself. Shhhh! :)

Nicole Bishop

01-25-2010, 05:20 PM

My Rule ;

1) If I have never thought of wearing it........ gone

2) If it doesnt work with anything .......gone

3) If it is a replica of something else and you dont wear it ...gone

4) Uncomfortable including shoes ....gone

As for purging ....Well kicked out the girlfriend eight months ago more space now in the closets and in my head.....That is purging!

Chrissy be good

01-25-2010, 05:35 PM

Can't even imagine how much I've gotten rid of over the years......such a bumout

Karen__Starr

01-25-2010, 06:35 PM

Brina Halloween

01-25-2010, 06:36 PM

Purging costs nothing, it is the restocking fees that send the pocketbook scampering for a dark corner.

That's got to be the only upside.

I swear if hubby ever purged, I'd have a fit! I can see myself going through the trash 'cause there are definitely things that I know he loves and would want back when he came to his senses - plus there are a few things I'd want for myself. Shhhh! :)

:lol2: I am just surprised those items you like didn't mysteriously move themselves already....

SouthernBelle.GG

01-25-2010, 07:07 PM

:lol2: I am just surprised those items you like didn't mysteriously move themselves already....

Well, ummm. errrr, hmmm...
:heehee:

JiveTurkeyOnRye

01-25-2010, 07:40 PM

I find that since coming out while I'm more likely to spend money on clothes than I was when closeted, I'm less likely to waste it. If it's something I'm on the fence about whether or not I would wear it in public, I usually put it back. Sometimes I miss out on stuff, like I'm still feeling like I wasted the chance to buy a corduroy dress at old navy last fall, but at the same time glad I didn't spend $30 on something that just hogs closet space. I feel like when I was closeted I would just buy random things out of an urge to have new women's clothes, even if they didn't look great on me, because wearing them out wasn't really a consideration. Now I only buy stuff I know I'll wear, which means I'm more discerning about what I'll spend my money on.

I did lose some stuff in a purge a few years ago that I can't replace and that sucks, but it was a lesson learned that I needed to be more proud of who I am not try to chuck a part of me out to the curb.

Jannette H

01-25-2010, 07:52 PM

Purging is the biggest loss ever. Last big purge cost me big bucks nobody should do this or want to do this ever. Less than (2 weeks) I was back buying again dumb dumb dumb. This time some items cost more. Box it up and put in storage. Much cheaper in the long run.

Kellie Day

01-25-2010, 09:12 PM

If you're comfortable with who you are, why purge?

Me, I'm happy with the clothes I've accumulated over the years, some of which would now be deemed "vintage", just as I'd be called "mature". As styles change, some things you'd find on the racks 10 years ago are unobtainable now, and since fashion is a personal thing, there's no "progress"--just what you like. We're here because what we like differs from "ordinary people", and so it's not surprising that we often disagree with current trends. (I mean, not to be judgmental, but how dumb are "destroyed jeans"?).

Just last week I stumbled across a stretchy ankle-length tube skirt I bought in the late 90s. This, along with a transparent pirate blouse and spaghetti strap top from the oughties and just last week made a look I liked a lot which couldn't have been composed without the history in the attic.

Don't purge--merge!

Jenniferpl

01-25-2010, 09:53 PM

Been there done that. The only purging I do these days is when it is worn out or I have not worn it in a year.

AKAMichelle

01-25-2010, 10:45 PM

I purged so many times before that I can't remember what I lost. Now I am kind of glad to have been able to re-buy many of the items. I will never purge again. I learned my lesson after probably 20+ purges. Although it's not a bad idea to clean out some of those items which you now regret buying. Besides it just gives you more space for more clothes.:D

Kelly Greene

01-25-2010, 11:18 PM

There are several kinds of purging:

1. Making room for new stuff. ( sometimes necessary )(the price, new cloths )

2. having to dispose of things because you are afraid of being caught. ( not such a good Idea but understandable ) (the Price regret and fear )

3.Getting mad and trying to force yourself to man up and stop cross-dressing, Because you think you believe it is wrong. ( Never good) ( The price: having to start over and over again until you learn that that you are who you are: Finding a way to like yourself again: and never being able to find those awesome shoes because the store closed and they are not available any more )

Kelly

Ediosa

01-25-2010, 11:36 PM

If I was to replace all the stuff I have, it would be thousands. It will cause a lot. That's why I never purged!!

Elaine Marlowe

01-25-2010, 11:42 PM

I have never purged in the conventional way most do but instead have taken my female items and boxed them up. My logic came from reading about many trans-people purging and then relapsing later on wishing they had not gotten rid of everything. If not for reading about others I would have purged and regretted it.
My 'story' is similar to Karen's - I guess I just knew from other's tales of woe that it would be a waste. (Besides it was not only a lot of $$$ but the time and effort - some of it trial and error - that had gone into finding and acquiring things that I liked). So I just couldn't throw anything out - I just boxed it all up until the urge to purge had passed. What I really regret is purging photos - I would be interested to hear if anyone has done this too? - hundreds if not thousands of pics ... some, ok maybe only a few *lol*! that I thought were actually quite good. Now they are all gonzo ... and that is something that I feel bad about.

Daniela76

01-26-2010, 10:33 AM

Hopefully I will never purge again.

I do have to work on clearing out all my guy clothes & other crap as I am moving soon though.

I'm sure I have purged well over $1K over the years.

The cost: a little bit of my heart each time.

There were a few items I definitely miss the most. Specifically the black 11W knee high boots that fit perfectly. And they were from Wal-Mart and on sale! I don't know if I will ever find ones I like as much as those. But I will keep looking!!

nikki_cd05

01-26-2010, 11:05 AM

The worst thing about purging is not being able to find or replace what you lost. I had this awesoome pair of red lace up panties from la senza. I loved them soo much and do you think I can find them again? I have looked everywhere.
Nikki

Danielle76

01-26-2010, 11:32 AM

The last time I purged, it was a very controlled purge. My stash was starting to take up a lot of room in my closet, and my wife still doesn't know. Fearing discovery, I tossed only what I knew I wouldn't really wear any more, and cut the size of my stash in half. I feel a bit more secure in my ability to properly hide it, now.

Before that, though, I've purged many times. So damn expensive, I really don't want to think about how many dollars I've wasted.... especially hate thinking about the amazing bustier I used to have that isn't made any more. It felt so damn good wearing it, too....

dancer1

01-27-2010, 09:30 PM

I have never purge to the trash, but have donated them to GG that i belive would nice in them.
And self satisfying to see them wear them and remember who gave them to wear.
Size 6
Love Nadeen:heehee:

JenniferR771

01-27-2010, 09:36 PM

The worse loss was a human hair wig, and a few photos--mainly me--wearing the wig after a makeover and style at a generic glamour shots-type shop. I was young then.

Missy

01-27-2010, 09:41 PM

over the years purging and the cost to replace stuff over and over from age 8 to age 48 i could be living in a $250.000 all paid off
man what i waste of good money

transcarrie

01-28-2010, 06:07 PM

My ex-wife did my only and final purge for me. :Angry3: I am still replacing everything. The shoes alone were over $2,000.00. Then they was the make up, all from Sephoria, that I am sure was over $1,000.00 as well. I really don't know how much, but I do know no one will ever pitch my stuff again.

KateSpade83

01-28-2010, 06:20 PM

If I purged everything I owned now it'd cost $20,000+. It would tear me apart too!

transcarrie

01-28-2010, 06:31 PM

If I purged everything I owned now it'd cost $20,000+. It would tear me apart too!

Amen to that! I got something else to put $20,000.00 towards :battingeyelashes:

By the way how is the winter up yonder?

msniki48

01-28-2010, 06:41 PM

HMMMMMM...
just coming off my first purge. I was totally down on myself.... but my therapist said that when you need niki...she will be there....sooo i just put the clothes away. Joining this group has helped me greatly.... i have just put them back in the closet...to wear again.:battingeyelashes:

one problem:

i 've gained weight!!!, and women's clothes are NOT forgiving in the least!...:sad:

So ive got some work to do... or i need some money to spend!...lol

hugs

msniki

lingerieLiz

01-29-2010, 12:11 AM

Never being able to replace that favorite item.

I've only purged one outfit because I didn't know where to store it while in the military.

Had some clothes stollen one time during a trip. That really made me mad, because they got a couple of my favorite things.

Georgia Rose

01-29-2010, 06:04 AM

Hmmm, maybe I'll just give my wife back all the clothes that I've moved from her closet to mine if I get the urge to purge. The skirts and underwear will be the problem though as mine are much more glamorous than hers.

Maybe the solution to purging is to get on this site immediately a have a bit of sense banged into you

lauraabdl

01-29-2010, 08:52 AM

Purgeing in the early years wasn't so bad,(four times). As for now days I just couldn't think of how much it would cost. An the vintage angle, I love some clothes that they just don't make any more an the styles I enjoy are treends that well in actual fact havent come back. These days I have come to the realization that I'm a crossdresser and always will be, its better than purging. My head spins with the thought of trying to replace my wardrobe nowdays. Its gotten way out of control since accepting and embracing my feminity, but whats a girl got to do,( I feel a shopping trip coming on)

renee k

01-29-2010, 09:33 AM