Partial dressup reactions

[lavistaa62]

Getting all glammed up is sometimes (always?) impractical because of time and other constraints. Any experience with "partial dress up" and SOs? Yeah- I'll be sure and talk it over with her but I'd like to wear jeans, female top, forms and underdress but leave off the wig and makeup when we're working on the house. I wouldn't mind the wig but it would be surely ruined and makeup- well, again, it would be ruined the first time I ran my arm across my face to get rid of sawdust.

Anyone else do this?

[EnglishRose]

Sometimes I dress during the day while working from home, in the basement. If my wife needs help with our young son I'll quick-change and go on up.

For that reason I don't go the whole way, just a casual sweater and jeans, with bra etc, a little casual jewellery.

[sherri52]

Most of the time I am home I dress but leave off the makeup. I have shoulder length hair and don't need a wig for here. Still dressed and comfortable and it only takes a few min.

[ReineD]

I quite prefer it when my SO is in between when we're at home alone. It is more natural somehow and as you say, more relaxed, more fluid. It was my SO in the beginning who felt odd having some of his guy self shine through. I see her shining through even without the makeup and the forms.

But you are speaking strictly of doing this in the home? I can't imagine my SO wanting to present such an appearance while going out. The rest of society doesn't know her as I do and also doesn't look at it the same way.

Excellent post! :hugs:

[kimdl93]

I have some relevant experience in "partial dressing". I don't often get fully dressed when my wife is home, simply because its usually evening and we get into comfy/casual for quiet time. And on weekends, I usually have my drabs on for yard work - I'd never imagine risking my good clothes or forms when I'm doing dirty, sweaty work.

I never wear a wig either - but can style my hair from male to androgynous with little effort. My hair is longish for a guy, but not conspicuously so.

So, often in the evening I'll be partially dressed - I've some nice little VS racerback cotton sleep shirts that I'll wear around the house - sometimes with stockings, other times, just with my mod/high heeled sandals. I just recently got a couple of VS cotton henley shirts that are almost the same length as the sleep shirt...as well as some cowl neck shirts. These make great lounge wear as well.

Now, for going out, I sometimes risk just a hint of femme by wearing one of my blouses or the henley's I mentioned...an attentive observer might notice they button up the opposite of a man's, or one of my cowl or turtle neck tops in a somewhat feminine color, such as a robins egg blue or rose. (a GG girlfriend once told me I looked very good in pastels for a guy ;)

And I often wear stockings and mod/high heeled open toe sandals - women's styles, but androgynous enough to be overlooked by casual observers. My toes are usually painted...color varying with my mood.

For example, last Sunday night we went to see a movie. I wore a women's ivory, ribbed turtleneck, khaki slacks, thigh highs, tan moderate heeled sandals, and a jacket (male). I had on just a touch of mascara and some light rose lip color....both enought to be noticed if you looked, but subtle enough to be overlooked by a disinterested observer.

Personally, I think going out half/half is kinda fun.

[kimdl93]

I posted before I read ReineD's comment - but that is consistent with our situation. I can't imagine being all dressed up when my wife is in her lounge wear...

[Karren H]

Full makeup hair jewelry shoes wearing a male business suit and pink scarf with forms using the ladies room and no reaction.... Also male clothes with forms, earrings and fem sun glassses in the mens room and no reaction.

[kimdl93]

Full makeup hair jewelry shoes wearing a male business suit and pink scarf with forms using the ladies room and no reaction.... Also male clothes with forms, earrings and fem sun glassses in the mens room and no reaction.

fascinating! so, the take away might be that a) people aren't very observant or b) you move with ease through gender barriers or c) people are more tolerant than we believe?

[Teri Jean]

Karren, the lights are all off and the guys don't have their miner caps on. That is not playing fair.LOL

Teri

[DonnaT]

I partially dress all the time at home. Makes it a lot easier on my wife, but I don't have the need to wear the wig and makeup anyway.

[KimberlyJo]

Most of my dressing falls into the "in-between" realm. I rarely get to wear makeup, but when I do it is usually very understated. To the point where I usually feel pretty comfortable wearing it out and about in male mode. I'm often in feminine style pants and tops around the house, around my wife and kids.

My hair is getting long and I'll usually throw on a headband or a "hairwrap thingy". Sometimes, if I'm feeling spunky I'll pull it into pigtails...which usually gets laughs from my 6yr old.

I almost never wear forms except late at night when the kids and my wife are in bed and they are promptly removed if any of them happen to wake up in the night.

I haven't worn a skirt since this summer and I don't wear them around the kids, not ready for that line to be crossed just yet.

I guess it's actually pretty rare that I go the full "kit-n-kaboodle" as they say.

[Georgia_Grayce]

fascinating! so, the take away might be that a) people aren't very observant or b) you move with ease through gender barriers or c) people are more tolerant than we believe?

I believe its a combination of all the above. I do what all the above girls do including dress in front of my girls (SO and daughter 5). We tell her its dress up and plan to explain dual sexed roles a bit later when asked. At first she thought it was funny and now it just puts a smile on her face. Yes I wear my forms at home and out although...I have A's and small C's both for different occasions. My SO likes when I dress and has been an inspiration to me (as I have been to her to be more fem.) to get out more. I have only been able this far to go out half dressed but dress in full at home. Unless someone is looking hard they can't really notice when out...even if they do and I notice, nothing is usually said or implied. If they do I just say something like i'm an amatuer actor(makeup), gynemastia(forms), etc.. to devert the question and all is well. At this stage...it is kinda an act or play for me.

[lavistaa62]

This all awesome and fascination- guess it's time to bring up to the SO and see how that goes. It's a really open and interesting discussion of how the gender/dressing line is drawn. Exactly what I hoped might be the case. Karen as always you brought the most amazing story to the table.

Hopefully, time to go onto ebay for some worktops :daydreaming:

[Renee_E]

I do like my SO at home. I dress as femme or drab as i feel at the time. Housework and Glamor is not natural unless you are a TV character.

[ShirleyO]

When I'm home I always slip into a pair of heels. Sometimes, I'll underdress allot, panties and stockings under my drab stuff oh and did I mention my heels.

[Angie G]

When I'm not at work I alway have at least panties on.And some times a cami when out and about.:hugs:
Angie

[linnea]

Panties, sometimes stockings and a cami, under male drab at work every day; at home (I am currently living by myself), I wear femme "whatever-is-comfortable-and-appropriate-to-what-I'm-doing." If I'm working out, it's my pink jogging togs, lipstick, but no wig or jewelry. If I'm fixing dinner, it's often jeans and a T-top, earrings (because I love wearing them), lipstick, my pink apron, and bare feet. If I'm taking out the garbage, I wear a big coat because it's -3 F outside.

[Jason+]

Since as dressed up as I get only covers clothes, lipstick, nail polish and perfume I am sort of always partially dressed by most standards. The dividing line for me is the nail polish and lipstick. If I get home at six and bedtimes at ten I won't usually put it on.

Early on I asked my wife if it would be less confusing or easier for her if I did wear wigs and full makeup and go as far as I could. She thought that it would maybe be less confusing but still wouldn't like it. As for now it's just me dressed although if I have on lipstick I won't get a kiss on the lips.

[Jennifer in CO]

Now-a-days I wear fem jeans and simple tops all the time so the wife is unfazed. WAY back then, I was never a 'glam girl', the extent of my 'dress up' being a nice dress and light makeup with hose and heels. I/we learned early on that that was a 'go-nowhere' outfit. I mean really, other than June Cleaver who would dress like that around the house? So my fem-dress at home was reduced to ladies-casual such that if we needed to go somewhere we just did it and didn't worry about how I was dressed. Like the night we finished supper and decided to go look at a couch Sears had on sale. Grabbed a windbreaker and out the door we went. What was I wearing under the windbreaker? Bra/pantie set, under a baby blue knit peasant blouse, white linen bell bottoms, pantyhose and my tan earth shoes (for those that remember those). Feminine but comfy...so was the couch - we bought it...

Jenn

[sherib]

I'm gonna have to try that and see if my wife will go for it. She wants nothing to do with me dressing, so maybe if I try partially dressing she might go for it. Thanks for the idea.

[Cathytg]

Partial and wife? Oh, my yes.

It took two years for me to let my wife see me in any manner other than complete. I really did not know why I felt that way, but it was pretty strong. Now I can be in any stage of dress - or not - and I feel pretty secure.

I think that my comfort level with being seen semi-dressed has a great deal to do with my own self-image and security.

[Rachel Morley]

I partial dress at home and in public quite often. Before my screen name was Rachel Morley it was Angel Darling and back then (2006) my wife created a thread called: "Something In-between: A GG Perspective on Partial Dressing (http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=20536)" in it she describes what I wear, and how she likes me to dress "in-betweeny" because she thinks it's psychologically healthy to strive for the integration of both genders into one’s identity and that she is able to see, simultaneously, the man within the woman and the woman within the man. She also says it also reminds her that she is am married to a guy who is delightfully different. If you want to read the thread CLICK HERE (http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=20536).

[Loni]

today i was out in sac. lady slacks, and blouse (under a leather mans jacket), and flats.
one man passed by me i did here a snicker...but nothing else all day.:heehee: and i was shopping.

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[Paulacder]

During the day when doing a full change is not possible the following works great. Ladies jeans and knit sweater, very light daytime make up, diamond stud earings, bra with enhancers or even the chic-shaper, panty hose with a pair of low cut flats. Forgot to mention the ladies ball hat pulled down to cover the eye make up when needed. Ben to Lowes in the early morning, Sears and always a stop at Mc d's for a fast coffee, seems like no one notices so why not........

[Michelle 51]

I partial dress around the house all the time when it's just me and the wife.Most often its a skirt'slip'etc sometimes i go all the way with forms etc but i don't have the time to mess with make up.Takes too long to put on and take off if you need to in a hurry plus most women don't wear it when just lounging around i think for those same reasons.

[Sally24]

I partially dress for myself when I don't have the energy to go "whole hog" with makeup. As long as I stay away from mirrors it helps me to attain that calm without spending much time getting ready. This is, of course, for just staying home and working on the computer.

My wife seems to like it all the way girl or boy. In between just seems to leave her uncomfortable. She finds it natural that Sally wears a dress but when S***** does she thinks it looks odd on him.

[AliceJaneInNewcastle]

I only partially dress if I'm trying clothing on that I bought at op shops in boy mode.

[Madilyn A.]

I enjoy being in femme to some degree always. My toes have red nail polish on most days, pantyhose under my jeans, about half the time. I recently went jogging in my neighborhood with full lingerie, forms, pantyhose, ankle braclet, and light make up with a pink lipstick, baseball hat, shorts, and baggy sweatshirt, no socks. I passed a few women and small groups of women, what a rush !! Getting back more to the point, I love to lounge in a silk robe, and 4" strappy sandles, show off my pretty toes, like now !!...Madilyn

[RobynB]

Most of the time I spend at home dressed is without makeup and a wig.

[kimdl93]

I think the consensus is that "partial dressing" is commonly practices and more readily accepted with the SO than full glam. For those of you with SO's that are uncomfortable with full dres, partial may be a nice transitional strategy for helping the SO adjust.

[Loni]

fascinating! so, the take away might be that a) people aren't very observant or b) you move with ease through gender barriers or c) people are more tolerant than we believe?

not to forget, in the real world it is ok for ladys to have mens clothing on.:eek:

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[kimdl93]

true...and the popular culture does seem to be allowing those lines to blur just a bit more. we do our part :)

[5150 Girl]

I hate pants! So somtimes when I get home I swich to a skirt, with the t-shirt and bal cap I had that day. Somtimes I'll even go on a short errond like this

[Maid Mandy]

When at home its rare that I dress fully, as various members have commented its unusual for women to get dolled up to chill out. a skirt, slip n maybe some jewellry most evenings for me.

[lauraabdl]

Im love dressing partially. Most times I go shopping and do get some comments, mostly the women are just interested, got a new shademof lipstick the other day and got an oh my goodness from a cashier when checking out but other than that, I always enjoy going out partially dressed. Lord knows I cant pass even when dressed to the nines!
LOL

[RhondaLynn]

I never fully dress - i would say that i 'stop at the neck' - no makeup, no wig, no jewelry. I start by wearing panties, a short half-slip & thigh-highs to work. After work, i'll drop my slacks & wrap a skirt around my waist. Then the bra & breasts, a camisole & blouse. The wife tolerates this up to a point - she tends to begin getting annoyed when the heels come out - especially if i wear them outside the house. She definitely gets annoyed if i leave the house in a skirt. But she tolerates it. When she's showing signs of having had enough of me for awhile, i'll retreat to my room, and she'll settle down.

I'll usually wear my intimate wear 24/7 for a week or so, changing after work each evening into a skirt & blouse. I like the ease of the transition, and the comfort & sensuality of feminine daywear after a busy day at work. I love the curves and shadows of a full bust under my blouse. After a week or so, i'll stand down for a week or two, back to my male gender, until the call of the lingerie drawer returns.

I like to go for walks & drives in various stages of feminine dress - from heels to a blouse to a skirt, depending on my mood. This satisfies my needs for feminine self-expression, without pushing the envelope too far with my wife or the public.