Time to move on

[Maryanne_sa]

It has now been nearly two months since my wife left me and I have made major strides in my life.

I am now living most of my non work life as the women I was meant to be. I do all my shopping as Maryanne. I travel on public transport as Maryanne, I have even been to my local pub as Maryanne 5 times, and I seem to fit in fine, which I love. I love been called Maam.

I have seen my doctor and am waiting for an appointment to a Gender Clinic.

But, what is missing in my life is a good women friend who knows about me and I can chat to. I have made good friends with a women at work, and we often go to the pub together after work on a Friday, but she does not know about Maryanne. She tells me all her problems of trying to find the right man, and we get on extremely well. First question. Should I tell her? She is also our HR lady, and will be the one I tell when I start to go to work as Maryanne.

On the other hand,my next door neighbour who is widowed, has seen me sitting in my lounge dressed on many occasions and always smiles at me. In fact she came to my door once and asked me if we ( meaning my wife and I) had left and was I the sister. I was so taken aback, that I said yes. She said if I ever need anything just to ask. Everytime she walks past my flat and sees me, I get a big smile. She is much nearer my age that the young lady from work mentioned earlier, who I'm sure if she had a boyfriend would not be going to a pub with me on a Friday night.

So, I am seriously thinking of asking my next door neighbour in for tea and telling her everything. I just feel I have to move on.

For those of you who have been down this road, what do you think? Also, there is the question of friends. They all know about the seperation, but not about the reason. Also, when should I tell my brother, now, or wait until it cannot be hidden any longer. We are close and I don't know how he is going to take it.

Apart from all this, I can't say how happy I am. I am ashamed to say, that although I still love my wife, I am happier since she took the decision to leave.

I hope this isn't too long a post,

Maryanne

[MarciManseau]

I'm glad you're getting on with your life. I hope you'll find a new SO soon too. People are going to be more understanding that you expect, so take a few risks, and have more fun.

Hugs, Marci :hugs:

[carolinoakland]

There are threads about telling family and friends. as for the hr friend I would broach the topic at work, make an official appointment. Then she is bound by labor law to not discuss the matter publicly. Carol

[Brandi Wyne]

When the young woman mentions finding the right man, you should ask what she means. If the answer is very male specific then tell her that you would not be that man. If she asks why, then tell her about Maryanne.

With the neighbor you could invite her to join you somewhere and own up to Maryanne. She likes the "you" she seems to know and smile at, so let her know how much you are needing a GG friend and see where it leads.

Whatever you do, tell them now so you don't have the feelings in the game when whatever happens, happens.

[Carole Cross]

I think you should invite the neighbour round and confess. As for the woman from HR, if you are planning to transition fully then you will need to inform her ats ome point. If all turns out well you could gain two new friends. :)

[Teri Jean]

Maryanne, I would listen to both Mickey and Carole. Life is to short and if you do gain two friends in the process wooo hooo. Don't wait to long though.

Teri

[pamela_a]

:iagree:

If you're going to be transitioning at work then the woman at work will need to know

I also think Maryanne should invite her neighbor for tea and apologize to her for the lie.

[Maryanne_sa]

Well, just over a week ago, I invited my neigbour in for tea and told her about Maryanne, as some of you advised me to do. She was fantastic! Totally understanding and supportive. She is really encouraging me, and has told me to enjoy my femininity.

I have had tea at her house,since then. She has popped in and given me some chocolates and fruit., and has also given me a pair of shoes which are brand new, but too big for her.

She phoned me this morning to see how I was, and we had a lovely chat.

I count myself blessed that it could not have worked out better.


On Monday, I am going to coffee after work with a friend from Venezuela that I met on the train commute to work. We both go to they same stations and eventually after 6 months, got around to talking. I am going to tell her all about Maryanne. I really hope that it goes well.


Maryanne,