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Christina Horton
01-31-2010, 10:43 AM
............Outing yourself as a women or.....outing yourself and being a Ugly Women.

I just have been think since I read a thread "Where are all the Ugly Women" .
I got to thinking Like me I am not pretty Maybe just cute . I am beginning to think I am prettier then I have thought cuz of all the girls here and for the GGs whom have meet Christina out in the world , I have been think I am a little bit less the Ogre and a little bit prettier then first thought.

So my worse enemy (ME) when it comes to my fem-looks is getting better , I was again thinking of that thread and thought ......"hummm what is harder to come out as a women or a ugly one.

I have always told myself I don't care if people think I am a ugly women just as long as they think I AM a women. Then I started to go out dressed and cared less and less if people thought I was a women period.......

My revelation about my shoulders.....
My realisation that I can wear short skirts.....
My makeup skills got better to some women who sell makeup say " you do your makeup better then most of the women I see......

I have gotten to the point where I am thinking "again a big step for me" That I am not a troll like I have thought and might just be pretty after. Granted I still look like a man in a dress but, at least I think a cute man In a dress!!! ;)

So again I am thinking which is harder to go out as a women or to not be pretty just being yourself.

I know some CDs are trying to make herself to be perfect before they go out and that may keep them indoors. BIG MISTAKE.

To be who your are don't worrie if your going to pass 100 % few of us can fool 100 % all the time. We can blend great some better then others. Like me I can blend sometimes as long as people don't look to hard at me , like in passing at the mall. But once they "LOOK" at me they know....most of the time. I have "fooled" some people and I love it when that happens.

So If your waiting to be perfect then I would think your going to be less happy, but if you think of yourself as a work in progress and go out and Learn all you can from each outing you will improve much faster and better.

So I think the hardest thing we can do "if your goal is to go out en-fem" is wait until your perfect.

Or am I wrong???

Ok I was not intending to put pic's but...
The first one is a professional makeup done by M.A.C. in the mall.

The second one was my first attempt to do my own makeup....as you can see wayyyyy to much eye shadow. I did not go out like that. DUH.

The third is my 5th time out, I had two day in a row with M.A.C. makeovers then I after I did my own makeup the second time (by myself) I went out just forgot the camera ;( Ya forgot it LOL.

The forth is Is my latest look and as you can see it's much better.

So it your looking to wait , don't . Unless your a pro makeup artist then I would say "get a full makeover somewhere and get them to teach you the basics and go from there....after all GGs when they first start out rarely get it right the first time eh.

JUST HAVE FUN and play with it .

Christina Horton
02-03-2010, 05:19 PM
Well I guess I will count this as a dead wrong subject. No one wants to talk about it. No problem. See ya all in my next thread.

kimdl93
02-03-2010, 06:15 PM
I'll Bite, Christina. I think we all wish to be feminine and attractive both to ourselves and others, but just like GGs we are working with what God or nature has given us, or what the passage of time has left us. I know I can't be entirely what I would wish to be - slim, pretty with a 20 year old's complexion. but, I can feel nice about being what I am...

Wen4cd
02-03-2010, 06:39 PM
If you hate your face, what's harder: fixing your face, or fixing your hate?

Emma Leigh
02-03-2010, 06:55 PM
I'll Bite, Christina. I think we all wish to be feminine and attractive both to ourselves and others, but just like GGs we are working with what God or nature has given us, or what the passage of time has left us. I know I can't be entirely what I would wish to be - slim, pretty with a 20 year old's complexion. but, I can feel nice about being what I am...


I wanted to answer this post, but I could,nt put what I wanted to say into words, these are close enough!

Karren H
02-03-2010, 06:56 PM
I'm not touching that harder thing ......

And what's with this fixation on ugliness? No one is ugly.. Just different, imho.

SuzanneBender
02-03-2010, 07:06 PM
Christine I love your posts and for the record you are pretty.

I used to be the gal you described. I wanted to look perfect. Hecky darns, I will admit it, I wanted to be the perfect woman. I can't count the nights or days I didn't go out because I didn't think my look was perfectly passable. And then something happened.....

I realized that under all the makeup, corsets, silk and nylon is me and its easier to be me when I am comfortable. Don't get me wrong I have my diva moments. However, I am now happy with a short wig, minimalist makeup, a comfy pair of jeans and a sweater. I feel like more of a woman when I am out and about like that then when I am dressed to the nines. Dressing to the nines is a ball almost as fun as being just another girl in the Borders Books at 7 oclock at night sipping coffee and browsing books. :)

Too me its not about being Miss America (or Miss Canada for you Northern Sisters). Its about being you and being happy with you.

AKAMichelle
02-03-2010, 09:48 PM
I don't think that we really begin to improve our passability until we have been out the door dressed and worked on our look. Until we perfect our look and become comfortable, then we always look like a guy in a dress. Once you become confident and comfortable when out, then you begin to blend in better.

It takes some of us a long time before we are ready to show our pictures to the world. That's ok. We just have to continue making progress and improving everyday. Until one day the flower is there for everyone to see.

BTW, Christina you definitely have progressed where you worked to improve your look until you have found your way. Now the flower shows for everyone to see. I'm still working on my look. Hopefully sometime later this year I will be satisifed with my look enough to post better pictures.

docrobbysherry
02-03-2010, 11:06 PM
I don't date homely women, so why would I allow Sherry to appear as one!?:eek:

See? They TOLD u I was a jerk! Looks like they're RITE!?:brolleyes:

Christina Horton
02-22-2010, 01:00 AM
Now I don't judge people by there looks and I would not want to ever do that. I have in the past but told myself I wound Not do it again. Now I find me judgeing myself that way. At least it's not someone else. Lol. I won't get upset with that. Am I makeing any sence. I was talking to a face book friends on the phone and she said my fem-voice had no demention to it and my male voice did. It did not hurt my feeling but I am going to have to work on that. Lol she love my male voice a lot. I still think being good looking would be great but I am happy with the way I look .... En-fem. How I look in male mode well that another story lol. See ya all later.

docrobbysherry
02-22-2010, 01:28 AM
But, they grow on different trees!

TG/TS folks r oranges, who want and NEED to be out in public dressed. I think it's great that u encourage other oranges to get out in the sun! And, do it yourself!:thumbsup:

But, us CD apples have little, or no desire to go out in public as "men in dresses". Passing is not possible, or so important to some of us!:brolleyes:

PS: I think u look great as a woman!:battingeyelashes:

Karren H
02-22-2010, 01:37 AM
I'd say that loosing to the US 5-3 is harder than both those, Christina!! :D

crusadergirl
02-22-2010, 01:46 AM
christina great thread and just like you i am my worst enemy. I wouldn't say i'm ugly are say that others are thats just not cool. But on the other hand alot of times i don't think i look that good so i don't go out in public anymore. Waiting for perfection is going to be along time waiting for me.

Loni
02-22-2010, 03:01 AM
i do not think the "perfect" woman...just to look like a woman...for now.:daydreaming:

working on makeup is harder than one would think, as i have no so to be a viewer to let me know were i went wrong.
but loni will be out and about by spring.

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boy2girl31
02-22-2010, 03:41 AM
All one has to do is to look at the pictures in my gallery at the skunk. I was not evedn close to passable in the lower pics which were posted 1st but I have been getting better. I work out alot and my body is quite fem looking but i don't think I will ever get my face to look fem without surgery. I do not really like my looks but until i can afford to change them i will be happy in who I am.