I just meet this amazing GG and things are advancing fast

[Tiffanycd]

Hello everyone i just meet this amazing woman and she is everything i have been wanting and i have never been happier and i want to tell her i think she will be ok and i think she may have an idea i crossdress and i have hinted to her and she seams ok with it i just meet her last wednesday and i haven't told her yet have i waited to long to tell her or am i still ok i do not want to hurt her she has been hurt way to much in the past and that is the last thing i want to do to her.
Thank You all



Tiffanycd

[JamieOH]

wednesday? wow.. relax... take a deep breath...... holy moly... you got lots of time to get there..... WEDNESDAY? wow... You should tell her as soon as you feel comfortable, and that you think this relationship is ready for it... if as you say, she's seems supportive to your hints, then do it... but take it slow... relax..... lay off the coffee for a day or year... hahaha.. ;) Good luck!

[Tiffanycd]

Thank you Jamie but sorry i can't lay off the coffee it
s king of like chocolate it's needed lol and thank you for your advice.

Tiffnaycd

[Miranda09]

Like Jamie said Tiffany...take a deep breath, slow down, and take it one step at a time. You just met her and both of you have a lot to learn about each other. When things start looking like they might get serious, then you can bring it up to her. Have fun and don't rush it. :)

[Kimberly Michelle]

I agree, take a bit of time and be sure that the relationship has the possibility of progressing. It would not be right to hide it in the sense of long term, but there could be unpleasant consequences from rushing things. I "outed" myself to my GF after we serious enough for her to move in with me. Secrets are BAD... timing can be EVERYTHING (at least important!)

Kim

[Jamz1b]

Many times the little hints arent a great show of how she will really take things. The two girls I have told I hinted with. The first is very ok with it the second is working on it. But she has taken it hard. She was actualy great with the little hints. but it was only a show of her silly playfull and sarcastic side.

Just do your best to be honest and open. Be very sure she knows how much you care for her, and tell her often. Remind her she is the cute beautiful girly one in the relationship. It seems that one is hard for girls, they want to be the girl and as we know girls are very self contious even though they should be so full of pride for who they are.

As well as let her get her own speed with things, never rush (im having a hard time right now with that one)


GOOD LUCK!! do your part to keep things going with her.

[Sandra]

I agree just slow down a bit. See how thing progress.....but don't leave it to long and by that I mean tell her before things get real serious, don't let it go to far and possibly end up with both of you getting really hurt.

[kay2]

If you do not have a problem with CDing, then you should treat it like any other aspect of your self. Be open about it, don't treat it like a bombshell that must be carefully handled. Talk about it if issues relevant to it arise. Don't preface it with an "I have something important to tell you" attitude. That only gives the signal (and creates in your own mind the perception) that you have a big flaw.

I realize that for some women, it would be perceived as a big flaw. But then, for some women, being a hockey player would be a big flaw. (Sorry KH, I couldn't resist). So, talk about it as the sharing of information that I assume is happening in this early stage of the relationship. This will give both of you the kind of data you need to decide if the relationship is right for each of you.

[SusanCACD]

I really hope it works out for you and her. I am so tired of being alone I could scream. I wish you the best of luck, I really do...

Susan

[Tiffanycd]

I think you all for your time and the reminder and the advice you all are a great help and i think you all.


Tiffanycd
Don't give up Susan

[paulaN]

Trust your heart. I say better tell sooner rather than later. I wish you the very best of luck in your new relationship.

[HappyWife42]

My advice is to talk about it as soon as you feel ready to, and definitely before it becomes too serious - sooner, rather than later. She has to get to know you - all of you. My husband told me before our relationship became serious. Maybe drop a few hints here and there...ask her what her thoughts are on the topic, maybe let her get used to seeing a more feminine side of you. Ask her if she's ready to see you in your clothes, don't just spring it on her all at once. Talk, talk, talk about it. And listen to her feelings too.

I wish you well and I definitely think you are doing the right thing by being up front from the start. :)

[Danielle76]

Hello everyone i just meet this amazing woman and she is everything i have been wanting and i have never been happier and i want to tell her i think she will be ok and i think she may have an idea i crossdress and i have hinted to her and she seams ok with it i just meet her last wednesday and i haven't told her yet have i waited to long to tell her or am i still ok i do not want to hurt her she has been hurt way to much in the past and that is the last thing i want to do to her.
Thank You all



Tiffanycd

Yeah, definitely don't rush into anything. Once you say something, you can never un-say it. Also, some punctuation wouldn't hurt, either...

[kimdl93]

If you do not have a problem with CDing, then you should treat it like any other aspect of your self. Be open about it, don't treat it like a bombshell that must be carefully handled. Talk about it if issues relevant to it arise. Don't preface it with an "I have something important to tell you" attitude. That only gives the signal (and creates in your own mind the perception) that you have a big flaw.

I realize that for some women, it would be perceived as a big flaw. But then, for some women, being a hockey player would be a big flaw. (Sorry KH, I couldn't resist). So, talk about it as the sharing of information that I assume is happening in this early stage of the relationship. This will give both of you the kind of data you need to decide if the relationship is right for each of you.

I agree with Kay on this one - I'd let it into the conversation early...why not soon...and see how she reacts. If its positive, great. If not, then you haven't gotten so deeply involved that both of your might be devastated by a break up.

[Tiffanycd]

Thank you all for your help with this and i agree about moving slowly i am just letting time happen i thank you all.

Tiffanycd

[nodaybuttoday]

Just be honest and when you tell her, don't act like it's something you are ashamed of, but it's a part of who you are. It shouldn't be told in the same way an ex-con would tell someone they were once in prison for murder, you know what I mean? If you're confident about who you are and the CDing part of your life, she'll probably feel more confident with it as well.

[Tiffanycd]

Update: Thank you all for your advice and help i told her and she is ok with it and she told me it's didn't bother her ether way but as fair as the relationship is in general i am not so sure about.

[kimdl93]

well, just keep things in perspective. Sometimes relationships start fast and furious, only to taper off after the thrill is gone.

[Nina (uk)]

I think its best to be upfront. You find yourself in a good situation where you are at the start of a blossoming romance. What better time is there to express yourself to her. If she's cool with it then you are a lucky girl, if she isnt then it wasn't meant to be. You have to respect her feelings and outlook before she becomes too emotionally involved and yourself. You know its the right thing to do deep down.
If i was given your opportunity again it would be one of the 1st things to come out. I hope it really works out for you and your girlfriend.....

Nina.

[tammy]

Iv'e got all my fingers and toes crossed for you,
Good luck, Tiffany
Tammy x

[gabimartini]

Like Jamie said Tiffany...take a deep breath, slow down, and take it one step at a time. You just met her and both of you have a lot to learn about each other. When things start looking like they might get serious, then you can bring it up to her. Have fun and don't rush it. :)

Ditto!

[Atlanta Peach GG]

good luck!!!

[Tiffanycd]

I just wanted to say thank you to everyone for there advice and i apologize for not having much time to be on here.
A bit of a update things a moving along pretty good and she is vary accepting and that is a plus she even went shopping for me (i gave her the money) :-) and i know some have just had this question right or wrong lol there leggings the brand is laurn conrad my point is how did i get lucky and thank you all again and i am sorry for not being on more.

Tiffanycd

[DonniDarkness]

wow tiffany, congrats i believe are in order, sounds like u might fall in love!

[AllThingsPretty]

Your a very lucky girl. Embrace what you have found :)

[Shananigans]

I hate to be the negative one. But, I'll just go for it. I was really accepting right off the bat too, but then I did a 180 and had to go off and think about things for a while. My SO told me he was a CD after 4 months of dating, so I knew I really cared for him. I'm pretty open-minded, so it wasn't too big of a deal to me. About a month later, I started having lingering questions...is he gay?...does he want to be a woman?...am I going to invest all of this time in him and then he will leave me for a man?... And, I feel that these "after shock" realizations are pretty common with us GG's. So, all I can say is that it may be that she's really accepting now, but she may need some time to ponder and have you walk her through things. That doesn't mean that it's all over and done with... I mean, I am still with my SO and find "Hannah" just as beautiful as him in a pair of boxers...but, it does mean that you may need to be doing a lot of explaining in the future to reassure her of things. But, I think you did a good job at being upfront about it. I think early acceptance is the best thing for both parties.

[Tiffanycd]

Thank you Shananigans i have thought about that and we have had that talk and in all honesty it is mostly just clothing preference.
With her she is heteroflexible and maybe this is weird or maybe i am wrong on this more then likely lol but it seams some times she like it when i am dresses more then i do some times lol and i Thank you again for your advice

[Sarah_GG]

I'm really pleased for you!

Just imagine if you'd kept your CDing a secret... you'd be missing out on all the fun you're having together now. That's why it always pays to be upfront and honest!

:love:

[Shananigans]

Thank you Shananigans i have thought about that and we have had that talk and in all honesty it is mostly just clothing preference.
With her she is heteroflexible and maybe this is weird or maybe i am wrong on this more then likely lol but it seams some times she like it when i am dresses more then i do some times lol and i Thank you again for your advice

That really is awesome then. It sounds like you have met someone who knows exactly what she wants...seems like that is working in your favor, if you know what I mean. ;)

[Tiffanycd]

It is and it's hard to believe she is so wonderful.
I want to think you all for you time and advice think you all so much.
And i know we have had a lot of fun :-) maybe i can get some help and post a pic.

Tiffanycd

[Jennifer Marie P.]

Calm down dont rush anything tell her when the time is right.

[Tiffanycd]

She knows all about the other side of me and is totally cool with it in fact some times i think she like it when i wear panties and pantyhose and i think she even likes it more when i shave my legs.

Tiffanycd

[Soriya]

Tiffany, good for you! :)

I wouldn't be suprised if she likes it more when your legs are shaved. Outside of dressing, a lot of women live a smooth body on their man. The first time I ever shaved everything was for a fitness contest I did. Afterward, my ex-wife wanted me to keep it all off :D

[Tiffanycd]

Now that you say that i think it's true i find her always rubbing legs on mine a lot more
:-).

Tiffanycd