Sally2005
02-03-2010, 03:59 PM
Wow, I've been visting this site for 5 years. I have learned a lot from everyone here, I have learned to respect myself and be proud of who I am. I really enjoyed sharing my adventures and reading about everyone else's.
Through the whole process, I have learned who I am. I have done the things I never beleived I could and probably shared some thoughts I shouldn't have...but that's part of learning, right? I think of my childhood, how I did some things then that were part of growing up and I think of my elderly parents who only remember those things...I have grown and changed. The things that were important then are not now and for example, I wish I could make my parents see who I am today. Relating that analogy to the forum, it is possible to leave your virtual past behind and start over. So I just wanted to pass on the advice before you link your real life and virtual one consider the impact.
I have already turned a page in my life where I am more open and accepting and I fear having to revist and explain my private past, like someone said in another post, my diary is shared, but my identity is private. Having said this, it was valuable and a form of therapy to tell someone else about my thoughts.
For everyone struggling with CDing. Face your fears. Be proud of who you are. Don't feel guilty for learnng about yourself (in private if you have to). Protect yourself, don't let the pink fog carry you away and distort your views. Don't call yourself a CDer... instead think of CDing as something you do.
Let your friends and loved ones see you CD sometime at a party, for example, you learn it is not something to shame, it becomes fun and your friends just think it is something cool you do sometimes. Feel free to think female thoughts and forget about denying your feelings (at least to yourself), you will feel better.
For the SOs...it is just clothing (forget about trying to figure out the 'why'). Have fun with it. Just because your partner likes to dress up sometimes doesn't mean the rest of his life is untrue.
Sally version 2005... (is how you can calculate how many years it took to figure myself out after I decided that I needed to face my desire to CD full on.)
I just wanted to share based on some other other discussions I read lately. So am I nuts or what?
Through the whole process, I have learned who I am. I have done the things I never beleived I could and probably shared some thoughts I shouldn't have...but that's part of learning, right? I think of my childhood, how I did some things then that were part of growing up and I think of my elderly parents who only remember those things...I have grown and changed. The things that were important then are not now and for example, I wish I could make my parents see who I am today. Relating that analogy to the forum, it is possible to leave your virtual past behind and start over. So I just wanted to pass on the advice before you link your real life and virtual one consider the impact.
I have already turned a page in my life where I am more open and accepting and I fear having to revist and explain my private past, like someone said in another post, my diary is shared, but my identity is private. Having said this, it was valuable and a form of therapy to tell someone else about my thoughts.
For everyone struggling with CDing. Face your fears. Be proud of who you are. Don't feel guilty for learnng about yourself (in private if you have to). Protect yourself, don't let the pink fog carry you away and distort your views. Don't call yourself a CDer... instead think of CDing as something you do.
Let your friends and loved ones see you CD sometime at a party, for example, you learn it is not something to shame, it becomes fun and your friends just think it is something cool you do sometimes. Feel free to think female thoughts and forget about denying your feelings (at least to yourself), you will feel better.
For the SOs...it is just clothing (forget about trying to figure out the 'why'). Have fun with it. Just because your partner likes to dress up sometimes doesn't mean the rest of his life is untrue.
Sally version 2005... (is how you can calculate how many years it took to figure myself out after I decided that I needed to face my desire to CD full on.)
I just wanted to share based on some other other discussions I read lately. So am I nuts or what?