Whos OPINION matters to you more?

[Kerigirl2009]

the question I am asking is simple, would you rather hear the opinions about how we as crossdressers look and act from Genuine Girls, or from other Crossdressers?
For me, I have a greater joy in the opinions from a GG, because I feel they are more Honest in what they have to say. Not that I don't appreciate all the comments from us CD.
I know I always look for the opinions of GG in any of my posts, especially the ones from my wife. (not that she comments very often, but she has on occassion)
I guess I like constructive critisism ? and I guess hearing from a GG that has a different point of view, really makes me think more than from us CD.
Now that being said I do like to hear from us too.
So whos opinion and comments do you take more to heart? :)


I guess it all goes back to what my wife wants from me- Honesty.

[jenna_woods]

that's easy opinoins from other crossdressers , means the most to me

[kimdl93]

definately from GG's, cause they have been living it a lot longer than I have. My wife is the greatest help - she's there when I need guidance!

I also appreciate constructive criticism from us CD's.

[marykrissmithcd]

I agree, I would rather hear comments from real women that CD's. The other day I went shopping, stopping at my favority shoe store. The lady running the place made a comment how a couple of styles looked really good on me. After selecting a pair, I went to checkout and she told me how good I look. Always "put together" and would like more women to look like I do.

[Angelofsomekind]

I think it depends more on what they say. You can get garbage advice from a GG or a CD, but you can also get the best advice from either.

[sherri52]

Without a doubt, GGs. Other crossdressers may give a less critisizing opinion and I want the truth no matter how it may hurt. I have a better chance of looking good or better when someone tells me what I'm doing wrong.

[Joni Marie Cruz]

For me I guess it would depend on the actual person, some people's opinion's are worth listening to, some aren't, whether they're XX or XY.

Hugs...Joni Mari

[Sweet Jane]

honest peoples opinions matter to me, people who i admire opinions matter to me, strangers opinions of me fly right over my head mostly, as here at least, i've found so many of them to be 'insincere'......false flattery is worse than just staying silent in my opinion...

[EnglishRose]

My wife is a source of help and inspiration to me. She helps me with clothing length, color combinations, and styles. She also hates my turtlenecks but she ain't going to win that battle :)

[Karren H]

I value the opinion of the women on MakeupTalk.. They can be brutally honest.. But still nice. And since its a well known fact that crossdressers are habitual liars, you can't trust anything they say!! Hahaha.

:D

[bobi jean]

Definately GG's. I think that most of us CD's are afraid we will somehow insult one another if we are not totaly honest. A complete stranger GG is the ones I would take more closely to heart, I think.
Yesturday afternoon I went to Wal Mart north of the stadium on 15, stopped by the vision center to get a pair of glasses adjusted (my guy glasses) while I was there, I was looking at some womens frames and the lady suggested I may be more interested in the ones in the mens section. I smiled at her and said, No I already have a couple pair of mens glasses, I am interested in some womens frames. for about 1/10000000000000 of a second she looked at me, then said "what color is your hair when you dress up"? Blond most of the time but I do have a dark brown and a red wig to. We spent the nest 20 or so minutes looking at womens frames but in the long run, we decided it would be best if I come back on Friday, dressed so she could help pick a pair of frames that would look good with the wig style and color I wear most often. that and I will have an eye exam done too. I wear tri focals but want to eliminate the reading part. I don't read very much while I'm dressed, but I do need to be able to see at a distance and mid range for driving. a great experience and her opinion is what i needed. It's hard telling what I would have picked out on my own.

[Lorileah]

CD's tend to be narrow minded in how one should look and act while GG's know that not everyone fits a mold. It is nice to hear what both have to say but GG's carry the weight

[Sarah Doepner]

I only listen to the voices in my head. Everyone else is way too honest and my feelings are easily hurt.

Actually I'm open for any opinion I can get. I just have to run it through the various filters before I take it to heart or spend my money. A GG attempting to sell me something I don't need may be less honest than a CD who sees something she learned and wants to share with me. It's all relative, it just needs to be processed.

[Joanne f]

It would make no difference to me as opinions are just that opinions, it is always good to listen to them but in the end it is only your opinion that counts .

[gabimartini]

I like listening to both GGs and CDers, as each has a slightly different point of view from the other, and hence, you get a more complete assessment.

[JulieK1980]

I enjoy both equally. I base it on the individual than who or what they are. That way their I can ignore the opinions I dislike from either.... lol

[JaytoJillian]

I like hearing from this group as well when out and about.

[minalost]

...on what the question is. If it's about things that GGs deal with every day (makeup and clothing)... then I'd probably put more weight on what they have to say. If it's about issues that apply uniquily to crossdressers than other CDers opinions are going to get the weight.

That being said, I think that some people just give good advice and others are lousy at it, regardless of gender.

Final thought: Sometimes - not too often thank goodness - we tend to sugar coat our opinions to other CDers on this site. But a universal "it's okay we support you" is not always the best answer. Sometimes we (maybe even I :)) need a swift kick in the panties and to be told to do the right thing.
:hugs:

[Nigella]

Only 2 opinions matter to me, Sandra's and Amy's. They are the only two people who have any significant impact on what I do.

People are keen to offer opinions on all sorts of issues, but lets be honest, unless that issue affects you personally, do you really listen to the opinion of others.

Whilst I am happy to take opinions, and advice for that matter, from anyone it is a personal matter whether they are taken on board.

For those that offer an opinion/advice without it being requested are just downright nosy. If I ask for an opinion/advice, I do listen to it, but it is taken in context with the whole picture, which one assumes the person offering such advice/opinion is not aware.

[victoriamwilliams1]

For me both however there is something specail about a GG's comment.

[Engendered]

People who have no reason to lie to you. So, friends and family are out. Anonymous online feedback would work best of all.

[Kerigirl2009]

Wow a lot of varying opinions, I like it. I really liked Sweet Janes comment as well as Bobi Jean. They both stressed Honesty is what counts. as well as others too but these where two that stuck out to me. And as for Karren Hutton she made me laugh because she always has somehting witty to add. Love it. :)

[allisonrn06]

While I do like compliments/from other CD's, I think I'd like them better from GG's, although the only time I've ever got one was the last time I went out dressed for Halloween.

[erika130]

Most definitely opinions from GGs.
It would mean a lot I think, if they give us a positive opinion or what not. Because, after all, aren't we trying to look like girls/women, and be & look as feminine as we can?
Who would know more than girls themselves? We may look OK, but we're still cd's, they are the GGs :o :)

:hugs:
Erika

[Sarah...]

I value any opinion I ask for, whoever the person might be who I ask. I value the opinions I don't receive when I haven't asked for them.

Sarah

[Crissy Kay]

I like to hear from other cds myself. I prefer that they lie to me anyway!!!

[Kerigirl2009]

I like that comment about you prefer to hear the lies from other CDers very funny but sometimes I think so true.
We all want to feel that we are perfect but sadly that is not the case all the time. But as long as we feel good about ourselves, then why does it matter, right?

[Brandi Wyne]

I'm pretty much ok with others' opinions except politicians and clowns; both known for lying.LOL

It's like Rickie Nelson said, "You can't please everyone so ya got to please yourself."

[Samantha_Smile]

Double edged sword that one.
The only person who knows about me (away from here) is my fiance, and so she's the only GG I get advice from.
Now, Emma is more likely to critique how I look, in a clothes and make-up sense, but she is also more likely to shield me from my insecurities on how I look, in a 'you can't change your face' sense.

On here, I sometimes get the impression that there are some people that would tell a goat in a dress...
"Wow, you look great hun! Love that dress, sooo feminine Try shaving some of thhat hair next time though eh?"

Bizzare CD goats aside, I feel the best advice/critique comes from those who know you best.
:2c:

[JustWendy]

I'm pretty much ok with others' opinions except politicians and clowns; both known for lying.LOL

It's like Rickie Nelson said, "You can't please everyone so ya got to please yourself."

Wow, quoting "Garden Party":). Brandi, you made my day. A great line, from a great song, about a true story. And maybe fitting for this site - showing people that you aren't still that person they want you to be.

Wendy

[audreyinalbany]

no question I'd value the opinion of a gg over that of a cd. I think that, as cd's we have a tendency to maybe be overly supportive since we're so used to the preconceived notion that people are not going to accept us. Look at most of the comments on this site..."you look adorable," "you're so cute," there seems to be very few negative comments; "you look like a guy in a dress." I think a gg, with no vested interest in cd ing would be much more likely to tell the truth...

[Elsa von Spielburg]

I think my GF would be quickest to criticize and help and give her opinion on the final product, so her word means a whole bunch to me. Still, other CD-ers have the kind of advice that the genuine ladies simply can't impart, and where I'm at right now, (just really starting off my CD-ing experience), the words of someone who's 'been there' before is incredibly important. So both, in different ways, is my cop-out answer.

[msginaadoll]

I personally like opinions from GG's. The ones I know will give me an honest opinion and not try to snow me. I respect that.

[tamarav]

I guess I would have to go with GGs, although I gotten some brutal remarks form both. The women I work with are way too harsh with one another but wonderful to clients, as they should be.

[Carly D.]

I don't know.. To me, my feelings are all cross dressers have something wrong with them.. Either good or bad I'm not sure.. I can't say it is wrong to dress this way.. I think it is more what you end up doing while dressed this way that might define your umm being(?).. I did put pictures here on this site in different entries or whatever and truth is I got replies back that I wasn't ready for.. I feel like I am really not like every other cross dresser and yet I'm just like everyone else here.. I've said I'm in a lull and have been for quite some time, so when there are cross dressing sisters here that are excited about finding their fem selves and wanting to explode with jubilation, I say go for it.. I would say I am entering into a new phase of my cross dressing but if that is true it must be a dead zone... I can't remember a lull lasting this long before.. and I wasn't on the computer the last time I was in a lull..

[Byanca]

It depends, some GG other places I would not hear a word of what they say, but others mean the most to me. I even may listen to men if it's their territory.TG's are inbetween. Almost all my communication normally is between GG and GM, so naturally I listen to GG, if they want what's best for me, if not they go into the GM group(that get's half an ear). I have too little experience with TG to say something certain. But I'll probably throw them into the two groups as well.

[JiveTurkeyOnRye]

I guess I have to say GGs because, as much as I love a good compliment, I have also had a few CDs criticize how I dress because they don't like that I don't go fully en femme. For me, I've kind of gotten into a mindset that I'm happy with who I am and how I dress so I don't care if every other CD shunned me for it (which they haven't!) but since I still want to pursue romantic relationships with GGs I do care about their opinions of me.

[Prissy Linda]

I've had some very positive comments from straight males, That has to carry some weight also. Of course I like comments from GG's and other CD's as well.

[DAVIDA]

I always like getting comments from my wife!:D She will say things like,
"that looks nice on you", "I've always liked that top", or "that's cute".
But, Jean will also let me know when she doesn't like something. She might say "That just doesn't work".
Either way, I like the feedback!:)

[Miranda09]

I appreciate all opinions and comments...gg, other cders, guys, anyone! I build upon both the postive and negative to refine my look. :)

[AKAMichelle]

I think it would have to depend upon the question. Some questions I would prefere a GG, but others on a CD'er.

[Jocelyn Quivers]

I value all opinions from all groups. However if I had to choose I value the ones from GG's being that is what I am trying to emulate.

[Kate Simmons]

I value everyone's opinions equally Keri. I take it all under advisement but in the final analysis, I always do what works best for myself.:)

[Cheryl T]

I would rather hear comments from my spouse.
She seems to have an unbiased opinion and certainly speaks her mind when it comes to my appearance. Also her thoughts are greatly valued by me as she accompanies me everywhere.

Outside of that it would be GG's first and CD's second. We tend to color our comments at times so that we do not offend...:2c:

[Ashley B]

I think opinions from anyone are good, as long as they are honest. It doesn't help me at all if someone just tells me I look great no matter what, because that obviously isn't true. I agree with the comment about anonymous people on the internet, because they have no reason at all to lie to you, so they'll generally be pretty brutally honest.

Also, they're not really opinions, but I tend to value people's unconscious reactions, provided there isn't a moment of hesitation or a double-take immediately after. Whether they honestly thought I was a woman or were just being polite, things like men holding the door open for you, or having someone address you as "ma'am" or "miss" always put a smile on my face!