Is your partner more out of the closet than you ?

[Sheila]

For those of you WITH ACCEPTING PARTNERS,

1)are they more willing to be open about your transgenderism than you with family, friends & neighbours.

2) If this is the case, how do you manage this in everyday life, does it cause some problems ?

If they decided they wanted to do something to raise awareness of the community, .....................

3) would you worry that people would wonder why ?

4) would you worry that people may make some connection back to you ?

The questions are ONLY for those with accepting partners NOT for those who wish they had ....... I will ask for posts from those with non accepting partners or those without partners or those who's partners were once accepting and are no longer to be removed :straightface:

[DonnaT]

No, my wife's still pretty much in the closet with it. As far as I know she's mentioned it to only three other people. She has my permission to be as open as she wants, however.

So, no, I wouldn't worry about my CDing being known in the community. Not ashamed of it one bit.

[kimdl93]

Thus far, my CDing is confined to our home. My wife hasn't told any of her friends yet, although as DonnaT says, I have given her permission to do so if she wishes.

[ChainedJane]

1)are they more willing to be open about your transgenderism than you with family, friends & neighbours.

I'm sure she would if I let her, but she respects my wishes for this to be our little secret for now.

If they decided they wanted to do something to raise awareness of the community, .....................

3) would you worry that people would wonder why ?

Not really, we have a few CD, trans, and gay friends and she's already active in the drag community.

4) would you worry that people may make some connection back to you ?

A little. One of our friends who is a drag queen knows about me, but I swore him to secrecy. If it got out I don't expect there would be any backlash or anything, I'd just be embarrassed. I do plan on going out as Jane some day, but only to drag events or places that I know would be accepting. But I don't want people finding out before I become more comfortable with who I am, with Jane. I trust my SO to help me and keep my secret as long as I need her to.

I love her with all my heart, and I know that she loves me too. :love:

[Charlena]

1)are they more willing to be open about your transgenderism than you with family, friends & neighbours.
My wife is the main reason I have went out a few times but she does not share with anybody yet because I asked her not too...yet...
2) If this is the case, how do you manage this in everyday life, does it cause some problems ?
When shopping like Joanne said she hold up something and say how about this? Sometimes it bothers me as I am shy and quiet, but then it also makes me feel very loved and accepted.
If they decided they wanted to do something to raise awareness of the community, .....................

3) would you worry that people would wonder why ?
No I dont think so as I we have both stood up for things we believe in at protests, rallys, etc. over the years.

4) would you worry that people may make some connection back to you ?
Actually sometimes anymore at my age I think I might welcome the everything being out in the open.

[SusanMarie]

1. Yes
2. None.
3. No
4. No

My SO loves me. Nothing I can really add to that.