AKAMichelle
02-24-2010, 08:31 PM
I met another crossdresser for lunch the other day and we talked about our journey to understand ourselves. Several things came up in the conversation which got me to thinking later that day.
Many of us who are in the closet or left to hide our crossdressing from our spouse, buy items and store them for later use. Whether is it some lingerie, clothes, makeup or jewelry we spend money without the others knowledge. So it got me thinking about how we handle finances with our SO. A recent article that I read about couple finances talked about how many couples deal with mad money or large purchases. Some couples depending upon their finances would put a $50 limit on a big purchase while others may adjust to $20. The article dealt with the fact that in order to be fair to the other partner in the relationship, each partner adhered to these rules.
So when you go out shopping for female side, do you go over that boundary you agreed to with your SO and just keep quiet or never spend above that level?
This area seems to be a big part of what causes a woman to get upset with us when they finally find out we crossdress. We never told our SO and then to add insult we spent all of this money without their knowledge. We even may have lied about our whereabouts to cover our shopping trips. I easily understand why women are so upset with us.
Many of us who are in the closet or left to hide our crossdressing from our spouse, buy items and store them for later use. Whether is it some lingerie, clothes, makeup or jewelry we spend money without the others knowledge. So it got me thinking about how we handle finances with our SO. A recent article that I read about couple finances talked about how many couples deal with mad money or large purchases. Some couples depending upon their finances would put a $50 limit on a big purchase while others may adjust to $20. The article dealt with the fact that in order to be fair to the other partner in the relationship, each partner adhered to these rules.
So when you go out shopping for female side, do you go over that boundary you agreed to with your SO and just keep quiet or never spend above that level?
This area seems to be a big part of what causes a woman to get upset with us when they finally find out we crossdress. We never told our SO and then to add insult we spent all of this money without their knowledge. We even may have lied about our whereabouts to cover our shopping trips. I easily understand why women are so upset with us.