My 40th high school reunion

[celeste26]

Is this August and I really want to go. It is a long plane trip and probably an over night stay. While I haven't exactly kept in touch with my class mates it was the first graduating class from my high school and I do have many memories of those days.

I would probably be a shock for most of the people there to see me en femme even though I am very much out where I live. But I have been living more and more en femme lately and I really dont have the proper guy clothes to wear to this once in a lifetime event. In fact my appearance is significantly different now than it was back then, so I doubt if anyone would recognize me anyway.

I would probably be given my male name tag to wear and the idea of that makes it seem less than the best idea.

Has anyone else here gone en femme to an old high school reunion? What were their reactions? Still I have until August to decide.

[marlacd]

Well, the chances of you being recognised by an old classmate might be a little slim. But, once they know who you are, I'm sure they will know whats new with you! I'd love to do just that at my HS reunion, but since I live and work in the same town that I graduated, it would be economic suicide for me. But if the circumstances were different, and I did not live near my old high school, I would. Just to raise a stink, 'cause I hated my high school.

[Tranny Tee]

My high school years were not especially happy ones and I have little desire to see many of my classmates. I have had little contact with any of my classmates since graduation and live 650 miles away. My 50th is in 5 years, I doubt I'll attend the class reunion but going en femme sounds better and better all the time.

[msniki48]

Celeste,

If it can't hurt you...and you want to have fun doing it, then do it.

If having these people know about celeste can affect your income or family ties, and you are not in transition to be full time.... i say, those that don't need to know....DON'T need to know. buy a suit.

it is all up to you hun


enjoy seeing old friends either way


hugs:love:

[Christina Horton]

Hi. I went to my 20 th reunion dressed. I wrote all about it. You can go to the link in my singnture and read my reunion updated thread that told the whole story of my wonderfull time there. I also have the before thread and it will tell you all about the prep and bild up to it. If you want your fem-name on you name tag just tell them when you RSVP them. My name tag said Christina Horton and I had so much fun when..... Oh go read it and you will see it's no big deal. Well it is but not in the sence of worieing about it. You can see the dress I had made for it. Wow it's soooooo pretty. Just decide now to go en-fem cuz it might take that long to find the right dress.

[Megan70]

First off I know you have heard from Christina and she linked you to her successful visit to HER High School reunion.
I wrote this back in the spring to her and she respected my objective opinion and thanked me for my honesty. Hope you take it in the same light
What worked for Christina may or MAY NOT work for you

(below is revied post to Christina with your name inserted)

Celeste what I am going to say here will not be an easy pill for you to swallow and I may definetly be in the minority of what the other girls in the ra-ra- section cheering you on are saying to you.

I first saw hte title of your thread last night and spent much of today thinking about how I would respond to you in a delicate but forthright manner, not wishing to hurt your feelings or burst your bubble but to pull you down from that obvious pink fog that you are excitedly into now and up until August for your reuinon.

If there is a sub-title for this thesis it would be " You are totally responsible for your own actions and consequences that may result in those actions"
Going to your 40th high School reunion dressed? Are you freakin' NUTS.:eek: Do you have any idea of the adverse PERMANENT effect it will have of you, your reputation and everlasting bad memories some of your classmates will still have when years from now they open their yearbook and point out to their wife or kids" See the picture of "Joe" there... well he came to our reunion ' dressed as a woaman". Ha,ha. ha. unheard by you hundreds of miles away.
I actually knew someone who went to his 40th reunion dressed as "Teri" with his wife and he told me how great it was and how everone thought it was cool, and coming up to his wife and questioning here and all. Persoanlly I think he told me what he wanted to beleieve and not actually what happened.

Celeste you may at this moment be an excited giggliy little girl with blinders on, sexually stimulated and getting a 4 month woody over this but not realizing that you have other people to consider here. It not all about YOU, its their reunion too, and they may feel greatly imposed on by being in what they thought would be a comfortable social event to all of a sudden feel intruded by you because of your special needs and desires.
Is that fair to them Celeste???.
Many there have never been in the company of a transvestite before in their lives and may as many do mistake it with a gay drag queen. Then the slurs and terms will fly either within earshot or under their breath... " look at the faggot ther". What about people guys and girls who were your clasmates who you knew well and were really close to and have been out of touch with for 20 years. Their first reacquaintence is with a guy in a dress! Are you prepared to be laughed at, shunned, ignored, verballedy abused by a bunch of liquored up ex-jocks would would like to rtovoke you and mock you.?
Did you think about the other iside of the coin Celeste? Well you should, and be prepared for any oth the consequences that evening.

Which bathroom will you you. Can you see walking into the mens room, hiking up your dress to pee. You may not emerge in the same condition you went in. You can't use the ladies room because they will scream and feel thier privacy has been intruded upon.
These are harsh realities that must be considered because its like when you tell somebody about you being a CD you can't take it back. In your case it would be show and tell and I feel it would be terribly embarrasing for you and you would feel humililated.
It would ruin many other peoples evening there too. What table will you decide to sit at, and will those people feel comfortable and welcome you.

Again Celeste,this is my very long two cents and I don't want to hurt you but beat you over the head with tough (sisterly) love.
Think, Think alot between now and that reunion..

Blessings and good Luck ...really:hugs:

Megan
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Just go out there and be the best damn little girl you can be honey... walk proud in those big girl shoes

[Jamie48]

I agree with some of the other girls. Unless you want to out yourself & be the talk of the party, buy a suit.

[sherri]

It could be a lot of fun if you have a thick skin, and there might even be some intrigued/supportive people there. But there would also be some pretty heavy negative reaction once the initial novelty wore off, which should take all of thirty minutes. You would not only be the talk of the party, people will still be talking about you at the next reunion ten years from now. Pulling stunts like this can have a tsunami effect, having consequences both predictable and unexpected. If you're prepared to be fully outed and all that goes with it, then by all means, dive right in and revel in all the short-lived limelight. Otherwise, you need to shake off the pink fog and do a reality check. Just my opinion. :hugs:

[Tranny Tee]

I agree with the advice to buy a suit.
Maybe a nice pink one.
With a skirt that is not too short.

Ask yourself what will happen when you go en femme.
Best case, you will have a fantastic time and that cheerleader who didn't knw yu existed will be very attracted to you.
Worst case, somebody may laugh at you. Big deal.

[docrobbysherry]

It could be a lot of fun if you have a thick skin, and there might even be some intrigued/supportive people there. But there would also be some pretty heavy negative reaction once the initial novelty wore off, which should take all of thirty minutes. You would not only be the talk of the party, people will still be talking about you at the next reunion ten years from now. Pulling stunts like this can have a tsunami effect, having consequences both predictable and unexpected. If you're prepared to be fully outed and all that goes with it, then by all means, dive right in and revel in all the short-lived limelight. Otherwise, you need to shake off the pink fog and do a reality check. Just my opinion. :hugs:

Sherri's rite on! If the point of going to the reunion is to shock everyone there, then go dressed. But, don't expect to chat about the old times, or what everyone's been up to the last 40 years! The entire reunion conversation will be about YOU! Or rather, "Celeste"!:brolleyes:

U can get a suit from Goodwill for about $25!:thumbsup:

[sherri52]

My 40th was last year. I didn't go ,but then again I wasn't at my graduation. I was already in the army

[Kate Simmons]

Honestly, It's beyond me why some folks just HAVE to attend a reunion en femme to show their classmates who they are. Number one, they probably could either care less or will just say yeah I always knew so and so was a little weird. I can understand it if you are in the process of transitioning or have transitioned but otherwise I'm thinking the only reason to do it is because you don't know who you are and want to see how others react. If you know who you are and are confident in that, what difference does it make if you wear guy clothes? Honestly, why alter possibly good memories others may have of you? Just my opinion.

[gabimartini]

Very interesting and relevant replies. I tend to side with the ladies saying you should buy a suit, if you decide to attend.

I mean, just picture the situation. You all dolled up, having to wear your male name on the tag, then having to explain all about it? That scenario doesn't look like much fun in my book.

Oh well, in the end I just hope you will do what's best for you, whatever makes you happy, because reunions are about fun!

[Christina Horton]

Wow de-sha-voo. I can see where this thread is heading. Yes my reunion was a great one my being dressed and all. The girl here that are saying that you should not go dressed they all have a reason why they would never go to there reunion dressed. Now it what you want to do. I don't for-see a prob with you going dressed. Yes some will talk about you but remember they have 40 years to chat about. So your being there dressed will just be one more thing they will chat about. I never got one bad look or remark from any one. When I posted my grad pics on face book lots of people from there said nice things about me. So I would not let the na sayers get the better of you. Leason to there advice and then look into your heart and then do what it said. You'll be just fine. And who know you may not be the only crossdresser there. I was the only CDer there dressed but come one I could not have been the only one who's a CDer in my grad class. Who knows in the 30 th there may be another T girl there that was inspired by my being dressed at the 20 th. YNK.

[Megan70]

I stand by what I say with all good intentions and honesty, NOT because its giving reasons why I would not go,( that would never cross my mind)but why YOU should not go. As I mentioned before what worked for Christina successfully may or MAY NOT work for you. look at differences; older age group by 20 years, different way of thinking values, morales, different city, different people than Christina's reunion.
Sometimes people have to really get out of that pink cloud at 10,000 ft and think before they do something and consequences months after that and face reality. This bleeding heart
" whats good for me" business and "screw everyone else and what they think" only goes so far... there are other people involved here that you would be usurping their fun.
My four cents... they're adding up.
Christina baby you're on, round 3

[Christina Horton]

I stand by what I say with all good intentions and honesty, NOT because its giving reasons why I would not go,( that would never cross my mind)but why YOU should not go. As I mentioned before what worked for Christina successfully may or MAY NOT work for you. look at differences; older age group by 20 years, different way of thinking values, morales, different city, different people than Christina's reunion.
Sometimes people have to really get out of that pink cloud at 10,000 ft and think before they do something and consequences months after that and face reality. This bleeding heart
" whats good for me" business and "screw everyone else and what they think" only goes so far... there are other people involved here that you would be usurping their fun.
My four cents... they're adding up.
Christina baby you're on, round 3


TKO. Ya knocked me out babe. I love your honsest and your way of speeking your mind. We have differince of oppion but I think that's wonderfull. We both want her to leason to us but we also know that's in the end it's up to her and that's just thr way it should be. She will all ways tell you the truth as she see it and so will I.


Ok there taking me out of the ring on a stercher and your the winner. Don't want a rematch. Good luck and I will keep tabs on you and hope you'll go so I can read about how much fun it was for you. I can't wait for my 30 th to come in 2019. Wow that sounds like a long way away. Lol.

What am I going to wear to that one ;)

[AllieSF]

Well, you have gotten a lot of advice hear and it all deserves the time to re-read and then think about the different recommendations and how they affect you. I personally do not see that you will be usurping and spoiling someone else's good time at the reunion if you decide to go. What about the loud mouth, "look where I am now", successful jerk who can definitely be a drag on a good time? If they don't like it, so what? You have as much right to be there as they do, period. This is not a family wedding, it is a reunion with people you may have not seen once in 40 years and probably will not see again unless you go back to another reunion. At their age (I know from personal experience with my 45th reunion this year) they need something interesting to talk and gossip about when they get tired from rehashing 40 year old high school history. They also may need someone to introduce them to another side of real life. I would say that unless you are going back to a christian, bible belt area and school, you have a better chance to have a similar reception as Christina did, than a totally negative experience.

You are going to the reunion for yourself not for someone else. If you want to make a statement, and are ready for possible, not necessarily probable, negative consequences, then by all means go for it. I, personally, would not go to a reunion dressed as a woman.

A few of the reasons given for not going dressed as a woman sound like they could also be used by someone recommending that you do not go out anywhere dressed as a woman, or for what you may like to wear as a woman whenever you go out. Too much conservatism is what keeps others from actually seeing us as real people with different styles and personalities.

You have come this far already. If you are ready, you do not need to stick your head in the sand to hide who you are and want to be. As for being in the pink fog, only you can say if you are or not, at 100 feet or 10,000 feet. Other people's opinions are just that, other people's opinions (including my own), which you have received because you asked for them. Good luck with whatever you decide.

[Andy66]

I think a lot depends on your reasons for wanting to go dressed up, how badly you want it, and how thick your skin is.

Be prepared. Something like that will almost surely be an overnight thing, so book a room well ahead of time. A car too, if you think you'll need one.

If you're worried about your name tag, do like Christina suggested and call ahead. But just in case, carry a waterproof marker in your purse to make adjustments. Or just take the name tag off.

And bring both drab and femme clothes and shoes with you so you're not out of luck if you change your mind.

Good luck!

[eluuzion]

I was shipped off to a military academy for high school. I still had 300 demerits left to walk off when I left. Reunions are like Christmas fruitcakes...I never want to see another one in my lifetime.:)