Does anyone else have this problem

[Mandy]

I am still in the closet:D and when I'm in Drab mode, I feel so stressed out, moody and feel myself moping about, when I know I cannot CD.

I am wondering if anyone else feels like this and how do you over come the issue.:daydreaming:

[KARI AN]

Hi Mandy, I know the feeling love to dress but feel down when in drab. I now dress everyday around the house love the look and feel great. good luck love.

[RADER]

mandy:
Yes, I also love to Dress, however, I find that underdressing works well to
releave the feeling of not dressing. Look around you today. Most GG's
are wearing pants and a top. Some are wearing men's pants. So if I go
about with a Bra and panties, jeans and a pullover top; well I am dressed
like most of the GG's out thier. Rader:)

[JustWendy]

I think most of us who aren't able to dress every day start to feel like this when we go too long in drab. this is not a hobby we indulge in when we have some free time. It's a part of us. We prefer women's clothes, we enjoy feeling feminine, and we like to look pretty. When we're in drab, we're shutting off a part of ourselves. When we're dressed we feel complete and we're happier. Because of work, kids, and other things, I haven't dressed in over a week and probably won't be able to for at least another week. I can feel the difference, especially when it comes to patience.

Wendy

[Kelly DeWinter]

Take two cute outfits to wear twice a day.
Increase your daily appication of:
. eyeshadow
. foundation
. lipstick
. eyeliner

Seriously, try to make time for regular dressing, and have fun !

[Bunny Girl Zoe]

I'm just the same when unable to dress and get very snappy and moody and sad, best thing I do to cope a little of not being able to dress is I allways wear panties and pantyhose/thights and bra under my drab without it I be so depressed.

[Sandygal]

Hi Mandy. I'm sorta in the same boat as you. My family knows, but I never dress in front of them. When I can't dress over a period of time, I start to get very crabby and short with everyone. Today is the first time in 2 weeks that I'm able to dress for an hour. I feel great and then the cycle starts all over again.......Have a good day...Sandygal

[WandaRae2009]

My son moved back home, so the opportunities to dress are few and far between. My only chances are when I travel on business, which is only a few times a year. I underdress some, it helps, but it is not the same.

I am so stressed right now with everything going on in my life both work and home. A full dressing session would really help. Ican't wait for my next trip.

[Diane Elizabeth]

I am in the closet mostly. I do dress and go out to meet other TG/CDs for coffee. I usually only get to dress one day a week and if I can't due to work or errands I have to do in drab, then I get "cranky". So, yes. I know what you mean. underdressing doesn't solve the problem for me.

[Tina B.]

I am still in the closet:D and when I'm in Drab mode, I feel so stressed out, moody and feel myself moping about, when I know I cannot CD.

I am wondering if anyone else feels like this and how do you over come the issue.:daydreaming:

Well I guess dressing is more than just a hobby for you! I think that feeling of stress and moods, is just another proof we are truly transgendered. In the past I have tried strong drink, and mild drugs, neither one seemed to help much and caused problems of their own. For some under dressing seems to help, for me that just wets my appetite to dress. I find the only thing that really helps me, is to find time and dress. I need the whole thing to feel good, clothes, hair, and makeup and time to stay that way for a while.
But then thats just me.
Tina

[Susie Mae]

I am a lifelong cross dresser, but after I was 30 and had picked up some weight, I could never pass outside, so I had to go drab. Life lost so much of it's kick. But then I found that as long as my body was constrained by a very tight bra and a full length girdle, I could be happy no matter what drab clothes I had to wear when going on the street. I do miss spike heels, but there is no way I can totter on them without attracting too much attention. A little attention, a touch of lipstick and flats, are just right.

[mklinden2010]

Anybody is a bit out of sorts when they can't do what they want to do.

I used to feel the way you do at times until I really looked at what was bothering me. What was bothering me was that I couldn't do what the ***l I wanted, when I wanted.

Pretty normal, really. The activity varies, but the basic behaviors of all of us are about the same.

And, the "cure" is to look at what you want and what you need and to take some steps to get it. People need "something to do", people need "relief from stress", people need to "express themselves (their feminine side, creative side?), people need to find a way to "get happy", if only for a little while.

Fine.

Get on with whatever makes you happy. If you can't dress today, mail order something, run by the mall for a walk and do some window shopping, set a date to dress or go out and make it a goal to "do or die." Do something to move towards what you want, even if only in your mind.

Make your own luck.

[Cassandra Lynn]

Not to make anyone uncomfortable, but i need to say this. As a person in recovery from alcoholism i'm able to look back and see that trying to shove my "other self" in a deep dark closet was a trigger for me. One of many, so don't take this as the primary cause. Today i embrace my feminine self and while not fully out, i'm very close. I just want to say that any of you who are struggling with this life of ours and you enjoy drinking, to be totally honest with yourself and look at your drinking habits to make sure you are OK. It is a long and slippery slope with a terrible landing and the mind is very adept at denial. Once again sorry for sounding so morose and it was not my intention to point fingers at any of your posts. Have a fabulous day Ladies. :love: mj

[Rachel05]

Oh I find underdressing helps me with that feel tremendously, nothing like having sexy things under my drab clothes, not quite the same as the full dress but not bad for me

[laura80]

I had a period when I threw all my clothes away and tried going "straight." after a few months It was just doing my head in and driving me nuts, along with the other stuff happening in my life at the time. I went to doctors and he told me that if he could write a prescription for clothes he would have done. :)
So I went on-line shopping and restocked. been much more relaxed lately, even though the other problems are still there.

[jenna_woods]

yes I have sxperanced the same thing, but now I am able to dress most days, even if its just around the house and I am cherefull and happey now

[Sabrina Flowers]

Hi Mandy,
I know what you mean about being "stressed" out when not being able to dress, I do not have many times when I can get all dressed up fully, :sad: but it is something I look forward too.
But being in the closet and keeping it bottled up does not help with the depression and after being able to dress, it is always a sad time for a while and waiting for the next time. Sometimes it is just enough to be able to put on a fancy jumper and a skirt with a pair of heels which lifts my mood a little.

[Madilyn A.]

I find when I don't let Madilyn out to play she get bitchy......me and those around me suffer. One of the downsides of CDing, the bitchiness. So the moral is when the girl wants to get dressed and play, don't stop her !!

[Crissy Kay]

Even though I "m a part timer, I sort of get a downer if I can not dress up for a while.

[jenifer m.]

mandy just try under dressing.it solved my feelings of male drab depression.i hate mens clothes.but have to wear them most of the time.so i wear as much feminine attire as i can get away with each day under or in place of my man clothes,and it really works.try it you wont be sorry.

[Frédérique]

I am still in the closet and when I'm in Drab mode, I feel so stressed out, moody and feel myself moping about, when I know I cannot CD.
I am wondering if anyone else feels like this and how do you over come the issue.

I don’t get as stressed out as I used to be in drab – I’ve learned to compartmentalize my time and look forward to the next opportunity for dressing. This is the world of the MtF crossdresser: on/off/on. I accept the fact that I can’t crossdress all the time, but I keep it like that for reasons of privacy and pleasure. I just like being in my own little world, rather than inserting myself in the outside world for one reason or another. Being older, I’ve managed to keep my crossdressing fresh and fun by simply limiting this cherished activity, but, at the beginning, I was somewhat frustrated with my lack of opportunity. I would just say be patient and wait a while – your feelings, and your feelings about your feelings, will change over time…

[charlie]

Hello Mandy!
I used to have that problem. Then I decided to dress and go out so I would feel free. I found places where I could go and be accepted while dressed on the internet (gay bars with drag queen shows or transvestite bars). Going to these places gave me confidence and I met people who could help me with my makeup, dressing and walk. I then had the courage to go out to stores, movies and the mall. My wife knows about my dressing (hates it), but few others do. People that see me dressed do not know it is me either. I spent 2hours with a couple one night dressed, and when I saw them the very next day in drab did not know who I was. They asked if they knew me from somewhere. I reccommend to go out and feel free. Not dressing is hurting you.

[LaceyNicole]

I too get cranky & stressed when I don't have a chance to dress. As others have said underdressing can help though.

[kimdl93]

I am not in the closet, but on occassion (when working away from home, family events...other circumstances) I am not able to dress. I do find that I'm somewhat uncomfortable, irritable even, when I have to wear drabs. All I can suggest is to enjoy the time you have to dress, and look forward to it when you can't.

[silentone]

Yup - few years back I used to get kinda angry and grumpy with people, although they just blamed it on the fact that I'd always unsociable and angry anyway. Felt kinda bad because I took it out on others quite a bit, when really it was my own fault for not telling anyone - whether or not that would've been difficult is besides the point of course.

Hope you can resolve issue soon, to be honest I think most people on here seem to be on the issue about it - wear underneath, subtle but still effective I'm guessing!