Going out Xdresses

[prene]

How do you get out or do you?

I use to only dress at home in the closet.

I have been moving to wearing mostly feminine close under my male clothes and sometime even wearing a bra with forms under a big shirt or jacket.

I think I did that for the thrill now I do it just because it feels feminine.

Two other external excursions have come about.
1) I go out to a small food place (out of town or the other side) dressed. I have been getting not to harsh treatment but I am careful. What I noticed is GG's are usually very accepting.
2) A small group of freinds and I will go out (some xdress, some not and a gal or two) for fun. We usually met a someones house the GG's will help or give is help looking/acting/being feminine. They even help with the make-up. I have done this 3-4 times.

What do you do?
Is it fun/scary/safe?

[Stina84]

I've never been out while dressed and don't think I'll ever dare to do so.

I would however like to have some other CD'ers to meet with in private for a girl's night in.:)

[Alice B]

Sounds like you have a good group of friends.

[Frédérique]

How do you get out or do you?

I take a drive now and then purely for the joy of getting out dressed. The trip may or may not have meaning, but I don’t care – it’s just fun to be outside, with or without the sun shining on me. :battingeyelashes: I get a big kick out of my skirt or dress blowing around, and I have places where I go expressly to get that thrill – here in Kansas it’s not too difficult! I do most of my shopping online, but now and then I visit a store and look for new things – it all depends what my level of confidence is, but mainly I like to be in my personal space that I can control and predict any unwanted intrusions. Since I crossdress purely for my own enjoyment, any dressing I do must have pleasure in mind – this just reinforces the need to do it again, and again, and again…

[skirtsuit]

Hi Prene,
Sounds like you're having fun, which is the most important thing.

I went out fully dressed for the first time last Oct. It's great fun and it just seemed like the right time last autumn. We're finally having some nice weather here in Philly, so I'm going to do some en femme shopping tomorrow. I saw some really nice spring dresses at Jones New York today, so I'm off to Walnut st. in a dress to try some on in the store only for the second time.

I have found that constantly pushing boundries and trying new things is were the thrill in CDing really lies. The downside is where is the end? Is a 46YO guy in a flower print dress on a bike an obscentity? I don't know & I don't care.

Have fun!

Ann / SS

PS - BTW, there are many supportive women out there - one of the big reasons I keep going out is the enthusiastic women I meet when out dressed. I don't care if that SA who always spends the time to chat is just doing her job or not - it feels great no matter!

[AllieSF]

I started dressing a little over 3 years ago and went out about 3 months after starting. I went with two people from this site, one of whom I continue to see at least once a month if not more sometimes. Yes, it was scary the first time and exhilarating at the same time with that element of risk that gets the adrenaline going. My first goal in going out was to a decent place to eat and then something afterwords, like a bar or club. I have been doing that ever since. I have added shopping, though I normally do that in drab mode close to home, museums, plays (going this week), dancing, and just being out in public during the day and evening. I created my "bucket list" and keep checking things off and adding new things to it.

You need to start at your own speed and comfort level and just keep pushing that envelope and develop those things that you like to do. I generally do not like to go out by myself, so I have tried and been successful in meeting some great friends from this site and now from some of the places I frequent. I feel comfortable out with someone else who in a way covers my back from a mental point of view. As everyone says look for local support groups in a city or even a local college. You would be surprised how many people are always looking for more friends to share this side of their lives with. Good luck and get out there and enjoy your life.

[Carol A]

I am sorry for everyone who has a problem. I have been going out since I was 14 and to this date as old as I am I still have no problems. Tomorrow the wife and I are going to the out let mall for her some things and me a new dress from the dance barn. Go for it girls you only live once and it's easyer then you think :hugs:

[Kathi Lake]

Is it fun/scary/safe?Yup! Sure is! All of it.

Prene, I go out to eat, I go out to shop, I go out to walk, I go out to be me. Is it more fun with others? Sure! And yet, I still manage to have a good time by myself as well.

Kathi

[AriannaVillota]

I have a bunch of very supportive GG's (and a few guys :) ) who are more than happy to accompany me when I hit the town. I've only taken the opportunity a few times, I just recently started heading outside dressed, but they've always been very supportive!

[jillleanne]

Hi Prene,
Well I've been going out now for some years whenever I feel like it. It becomes routine at some point. Oh btw, congrats on having supportive people around upi; it's helps immensely.
I enjoy my time out both by myself, and with friends and have enjoy oth equally. I love grocery shopping especially!! I get lots of nice smiles from women regularly and double takes from lots of men(giggles).

[Tasha McIntyre]

How do you get out or do you?

What do you do?
Is it fun/scary/safe?

Hi Prene,

I have been getting out and about for several months now, almost always during the day at a large shopping mall about 20 minutes drive away (wifes rules = not too close to home).

Fun? OMG yes
Scary? OMG yes
Safe? Never had a problem........in fact I have had many SA's falling over themselves finding things for me to try on :daydreaming:

Just a couple of weeks ago I was out and about at the mall and ran into another member of this forum, who was in guy mode. Got a few :eek: looks from passers by as we chatted lol.

Wednesday night I am out to a cafe where a few of us meet for coffee and a chat.

Cheers

Tash :)

[Gillian]

Hi Prene,

I have only ever gone out once, back in 1988, yes that long! it was when we lived in a flat and my wife first found out after I told her, and she was at the time "a little" accepting, so I dressed fully and foundation make up applied and got in the car and drove into the city to meet her one lunch time, I did get out and walk to her office before I chickened out (thankfully it would have been hell if she had seen me as she would have been with work collegues and I didn;t think it through.

Now however I could not get out the door without at least five neighbours seeing me so I am effectively trapped from home and have not got enough time or resources to leave then dress elsewhere but, I do have the house and access to my rear private enclosed gardens where I do often wander about happily.

In my new found acceptance, I would adore the chance to be made up convincingly enough to actually go out have a coffee shop and be Gillian for a day, but now personal circumstances and life are going to perhaps put Gillian away for a while so I am making the most of each moment I have left until the life thing sorts itself out for the future.

[Sandra65]

I have internal access to my garage and a remote door, so it has been quite easy to go out for a drive. I've never worn a wig and don't know how to do make up, so I've never go anywhere public. There are a few secluded roads in my neighbourhood and it is such an exciting thrill to be able to have the sun warm your stocking legs or walk in heels on a sealed road. It's also exciting driving around with an obviously female top and breasts, paired with a male head, as other cars pass by. You wonder if they notice but when you try to focus on them, you realise how fleeting a glance it is.

I've worn underwear and hosiery to work many times which creates a nervous fear of being sprung, mixed with an excitement of no one has a clue what I'm wearing.

[Katie Sophie]

I posted in another thread that I drive around dressed and sometimes go for a walk in the park dressed, usually in the early morning (my favorite time anyway - when it's just starting to get light!). I live in a really safe area, but it's so nice to get out and walk around looking all cute. The few times people are in the park, they usually tend to keep a distance seeing - I've found that true no matter what because that early, most people just like to be alone and collect their thoughts. The even fewer times people have walked close, they just say good morning. You get a little nervous and excited as they approach, but once they pass, they don't look back, and you realize it's really not that big of a deal!

[Angie G]

When the weather is warmer I park in a dark place get my girl outfit on and drive home. A trip on 25 miles This is @ 11 pm. And I must drive through two small towns.I love it.:hugs:
Angie

[Mandy]

I would however like to have some other CD'ers to meet with in private for a girl's night in.:)

I would actually participate in something like this, if there were such a thing in my area :daydreaming:

[jenifer m.]

prene sounds like you have some very cool friends. and it sounds like you are enjoying life you keep it up girl!

[kimdl93]

I don't go out en femme. At the most, I'll include little hints - women's sandals, stockings under my slacks, and a fairly androgynous women's top. I'll also wear just a hint of mascara and lip color. I suppose if someone looked closely they might notice, but most people seem to be focused on their own lives to notice how one guy happens to be dressed.

[Katie Sophie]

I would actually participate in something like this, if there were such a thing in my area :daydreaming:

Me too :)

[docrobbysherry]

I would actually participate in something like this, if there were such a thing in my area :daydreaming:

It DOES sound like fun, doesn't it?:)

[SANDRA MICHELLE]

I have gone out a lot of times, mostly I dress away from home. I ussually get my wifes help with my make-up and then I go get dressed at a toll plaza or some other place that has "privacy" bathrooms. I always under dress any way so the rest is pretty easy to just slip on a skirt and top or dress.
I have dressed in the car so many times I can't count the times. Never been indecent though, so I could never get in any legal problems. I did go out several times right from the house but my wife does not like that so I avoid it for her sake. Whenever I have a long drive ahead of me I always get fully dressed, it is a kick to stop for gas or lunch dressed en fem. Also driving in heels is the best.

[Lynn Marie]

How very fortunate you are to have CD friends to share with. I'm working on gathering a few myself.

[t-girlxsophie]

First time I ventured out dressed was full of Different emotions Fear,exhilaration,nervousness and excitement.And am sure that was the same for everyone that first time "out",I was so lucky,that I made a very good friend,who made me feel very much at ease when out,what with her being a veteran of 3 years,Am glad I did it that first time,.

On the subject of safety its a lot to do with common sense,you instinctively know where,and where not to go etc.I enjoy going out shopping etc esp now that my wife accompanies me,even spending a weekend away together.All I can say to anyone thinking of going out,make sure what you are 100% sure it is what you want,and go for it.

[msginaadoll]

I have been going out off and on for about 10 yrs. Mostly off. In the past year and a half I met a friend who has a place where I can dress at and leave comfortably. This has given me opportunity to push myself. I go shopping at the mall a few times a month. Have gone to the grocery store shopping, the drug store. Went to a bowling alley a couple of times for parties. Went to the Detroit Institute of Arts with someone from this site. Attended this years Pridefest with some friends. My biggest regret is that I tend to go by myself almost all the time. Would love a shopping/ going out companion. And in this time have only had positive experiences.

[Christina Horton]

If you want to know of my first time out I have wrote all about it here's the link http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=91079

I was not scared but almost chicken out after M.A.C. makeup girl did my makeup. I was a little scary to stop out of the back room into where all the ggs were shopping and then to go shopping in the mall in mid summer with all the teen out to shop. But it's waaaaaayyyyyyy to much fun to go out that ya have to go out more and more. Gotta love it.

[sherri52]

Prene: My first time out was back in 74 and for years only went out a few times. Was it fun, Yes. Was it scary, your darn tooting. Is it safe, Is it safe to cross the street. The excitement and the thrill combined with the fear of being caught make for an evening that you will never forget and keep you loking for the next time you can do it.

[harmony]

dear prene!
my first outing is now some 45 years ago.
the most important thing for me was that after having accepted myself and having come to grips with my"affliction"i needed
validation from society at large.dressing for the public became an artistic way to express myself.what fun it was over the years.i am retired now-been there done that -all of it-the bucket list is done.people around in my small town still ocasionally ask where harmony is but the urges have gone.i am one again and at peace and in harmony!