Kaitlyn Michele
03-11-2010, 09:46 AM
I just felt like sharing...:heehee:
I have my new drivers license...Kaitlyn Michele is the name..and because of the very progressive diversity laws in NJ (which is otherwise the worst state in the world) allow me to get an F on my license as well.. very nice...
My oldest daughter is 16 next week..i have found that my children have continued to thrive...my 13 year old has gotten over her initial bout of suffering...in fact, when she is at her mom's and has a teenager crying jag...my ex always tells me and says she is still struggling with me...but when i talk to her my daughter always tells me what its about , and its never about me...hmmmm...
Both kids are very accepting, and the love in our family is totally unchanged...we started this out with great closeness, and we did not lose it...one by one, they are letting their friends know and so far, so good....i even have been taking them to dr's appts and to restaraunts so its gonna be fine..this is very rewarding to me because i was told by basically everybody that "you can't do this to your daughters" ...."teenagers are the worst"...well that isnt my experience...have they suffered? of course, but we are all much better off with dad living a "real" life and as far as i can tell, we are moved on to just being a family with a unique dad
my work situation is that i lost my job, and i'm looking around..i had a high stress corporate job, and i have no appetite for another....but i've started to realize i have littel choice but to go back...i've put so much of my energy into transition i've lost my will to work, but i know that can't stay that way....so far i've met about a dozen of my ex-colleagues and they are all supportive and friendly....i am told by other transwomen that it's likely that "behind my back" its not so rosy...but to me that's a **** it..i can't do anything about it..
my physical stuff is moving ahead...i am interviewing srs surgeons, and trying to decide whether i should get breast work done...
mentally, i think my biggest issue is to start to really work on my ingrained learned maleness...i am so socially trained as a male...its interesting to me because the more i think abou tit, the more i remember how deeply uncomfortable i was about my male social life...but i'm a good learner and i learned "being male" quite well....unlearning is just not going the way i thought and i'm trying to be patient...an example is when i am talking to someone and i get really interested and excited i immediately start raising my voice and getting aggressive...i guess what i'm saying is that i am only slowly letting myself truly let go .
i am doing some limited public speaking at local colleges, i have one coming up first week of may that i'm excited about...
one thing that is lacking is relationships...i have no idea wtf i am gonna do....sexually i know what i want and that's a man...my sexuality is clearly female and its been a relief to finally accept that...but i just don't see how i could be a good "girlfriend" socially...i have no experience and no feeling of what it would be like and i've been alone so long, i'm pretty set in my ways... i'm not exactly worried about this..but i am thinking that i will be on my own and that's just the way it is..
all things considered, my quality of life is excellent.. i am thankful and gratified with the support i've received and to cut through everything , all the naysayers are just plain old wrong...a woman said to me once...
"no matter what they say to you....you have to assume that most everybody is against you..sometimes its very subtle, sometimes not.....so you have to just keep your head down and do what you KNOW is the RIGHT THING FOR YOU...and let the rest come to you..."
So that's my update....hope it helps someone
Kaitlyn Michele "F"
oops forgot the the most important thing of all!
Phillies are looking real good and it would be a dream come true for them to be in another World Series....right Sharon?!
I have my new drivers license...Kaitlyn Michele is the name..and because of the very progressive diversity laws in NJ (which is otherwise the worst state in the world) allow me to get an F on my license as well.. very nice...
My oldest daughter is 16 next week..i have found that my children have continued to thrive...my 13 year old has gotten over her initial bout of suffering...in fact, when she is at her mom's and has a teenager crying jag...my ex always tells me and says she is still struggling with me...but when i talk to her my daughter always tells me what its about , and its never about me...hmmmm...
Both kids are very accepting, and the love in our family is totally unchanged...we started this out with great closeness, and we did not lose it...one by one, they are letting their friends know and so far, so good....i even have been taking them to dr's appts and to restaraunts so its gonna be fine..this is very rewarding to me because i was told by basically everybody that "you can't do this to your daughters" ...."teenagers are the worst"...well that isnt my experience...have they suffered? of course, but we are all much better off with dad living a "real" life and as far as i can tell, we are moved on to just being a family with a unique dad
my work situation is that i lost my job, and i'm looking around..i had a high stress corporate job, and i have no appetite for another....but i've started to realize i have littel choice but to go back...i've put so much of my energy into transition i've lost my will to work, but i know that can't stay that way....so far i've met about a dozen of my ex-colleagues and they are all supportive and friendly....i am told by other transwomen that it's likely that "behind my back" its not so rosy...but to me that's a **** it..i can't do anything about it..
my physical stuff is moving ahead...i am interviewing srs surgeons, and trying to decide whether i should get breast work done...
mentally, i think my biggest issue is to start to really work on my ingrained learned maleness...i am so socially trained as a male...its interesting to me because the more i think abou tit, the more i remember how deeply uncomfortable i was about my male social life...but i'm a good learner and i learned "being male" quite well....unlearning is just not going the way i thought and i'm trying to be patient...an example is when i am talking to someone and i get really interested and excited i immediately start raising my voice and getting aggressive...i guess what i'm saying is that i am only slowly letting myself truly let go .
i am doing some limited public speaking at local colleges, i have one coming up first week of may that i'm excited about...
one thing that is lacking is relationships...i have no idea wtf i am gonna do....sexually i know what i want and that's a man...my sexuality is clearly female and its been a relief to finally accept that...but i just don't see how i could be a good "girlfriend" socially...i have no experience and no feeling of what it would be like and i've been alone so long, i'm pretty set in my ways... i'm not exactly worried about this..but i am thinking that i will be on my own and that's just the way it is..
all things considered, my quality of life is excellent.. i am thankful and gratified with the support i've received and to cut through everything , all the naysayers are just plain old wrong...a woman said to me once...
"no matter what they say to you....you have to assume that most everybody is against you..sometimes its very subtle, sometimes not.....so you have to just keep your head down and do what you KNOW is the RIGHT THING FOR YOU...and let the rest come to you..."
So that's my update....hope it helps someone
Kaitlyn Michele "F"
oops forgot the the most important thing of all!
Phillies are looking real good and it would be a dream come true for them to be in another World Series....right Sharon?!