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Chloe Renee
03-16-2010, 09:41 AM
So today I have an awards ceremony luncheon, it is a semi formal event. I didn't realize that when I signed up to go on Friday. I haven't a thing to wear, I haven't owned a suit in years.. What dress shirts I have don't have coordinating ties.
I'm in the mirror looking at my hairline that is making a fast retreat thinking I have wigs that look better than this. And I keep having this urge to grab the eyeliner.

I find it funny that I could pull the look off better than drag than drab right now I have more girl clothes that are business dress. However I don't think my coworkers/boss would appreciate it.

Well I gotta run the dryer is done, Time to get ready for the show. (Whistling theme to the Muppets)

Jenny Beth
03-16-2010, 09:48 AM
I hear ya, I don't own a suit or even a tie for that matter. And the truth is if I had to dress in something reasonably formal it would have to be a skirt and blouse. My only dilemma would be should I wear heels or flats. :heehee:

joank
03-16-2010, 10:04 AM
After I retired the Salvation Army received all my suits, coats, dress slacks and ties, save two outfits. I have much more woman's clothes and, of course, prefer wearing them. So, go casual or rent something (tux) and just do it. If your job is in jepardy or you must remain 'in the closet' tough it out the best you can.

tamarav
03-16-2010, 10:27 AM
You poor thing!

I have experienced the same thing when my wife was invited to a thing and I was going to go with her. I had some jeans and t-shirts, nothing at all formal. Not really sure where all the suits and ties ever went...

Tracey Corset
03-16-2010, 10:36 AM
i can totally relate to this, i don't own a suit either, not a male one anyway, we are going to a family wedding in August so i am going to have to buy one ( i really begrudge this), however my wife did mention renting one, but i should have at least one male suit anyway shouldn't i !!

StaceyJane
03-16-2010, 10:39 AM
I know what you mean, I had to buy dress socks last year just to go to my daughters wedding and it was at the Justice of the Peace office.

suchacutie
03-16-2010, 11:45 AM
Years ago I wore only white shirts with suits every day.

Now I've let Tina invade my male wardrobe and the only white shirt I have goes with my tuxedo! I have so much fun making my male side more colorful, and bolder! Not only that, but I get many more compliments now and I see no reason to turn back! Why be drab while in drab? :)

tina

jenna_woods
03-16-2010, 11:53 AM
i here you girl. i have the same problem, i have many skirts and dresses hanging up and one pair of jeans(womens) to wear wen in man mode, oh my

Ashley Allen
03-16-2010, 12:02 PM
Spend some money on your male ego also, why not, it's an important part of you.

I have been wishing recently I could just go to work dressed up. I do work form home alot and am wearing a dress half the time I'm on a con call already, if they only knew. giggle

On the flip side, I bought a suit last week for my self. I wanted to have that great feeling I get when I buy something off the womens racks. Didn't quite work that way. Don't get me wrong I looked good in the suit and my SO was quiet pleased, but it wasn't the same. Still I am glad I bought it and plan to find excuses to wear it.

Lynn Marie
03-16-2010, 12:21 PM
There are two sides of me, and I aim to keep both of them looking good. I always feel quite confident in my apparel and like the way I look. If anything, I'd rather be overdressed than the other alternative. If I'm dressed differently than the crowd, I just feel I'm setting style.

The problem I have is too tall and very long arms. It really puts constraints on what will fit me properly and will I be able to alter it or get it professionally altered. All my suit coats have had the sleeves lengthened. I need a dressmaker!

Chloe Renee
03-16-2010, 03:18 PM
I made it through a little over dressed.
My we are a serious bunch:tongueout: I'm glad that is over the food was good.

I find the situation funny over all. After I lost my last job, economic downsizing, I went through my dress shirts and gotten rid of anything with stains. There were very few ties Do to machinery and self preservation I didn't wear them often. I also have changed size a bit since then, I used to be able to go a month without wearing the same shirt twice. All different colors and cuts.
I just don't need to get dressed up for work anymore so as clothes got worn out I never replaced them.

I'm told I clean up well in drab, I don't think so, but that is what I hear. It just seems that when I dress up I typically "dress up" and play up my good features ,:battingeyelashes:, with a little color.
I could probably come out at work being I am a 1099 employee I wouldn't stand to loose to much. I just choose to not do so, to prevent rumors. Sales are cut throat right now... Well in general they are.

jenifer m.
03-16-2010, 03:46 PM
oh god yes! i still have to wear the dredded suit every week to church.i hate it so much,and wearing a tie is torture.the only saving grace is i get to wear my bra,pantys,and pantyhose under it all.i get so envious when i look around at church and see all the comfey,and silky things all the ggs are wearing.oh how i wish i could be as comfortable as them.

skirtsuit
03-16-2010, 03:54 PM
Buy A Kilt!

If you wear a kilt, proper kilt socks(hose), a collared shirt and sport jacket you will be big hit with the ladies while maintaining your male bona fides. I've got one that I bought at a Scotch Plaid store in London that I can't wait to wear to a friends wedding this summer.

All the Best,

Ann / SS

charlie
03-16-2010, 05:24 PM
Well stated Victoria! Our girl clothes are far better looking then our drab clothes. The end result has hair, makeup, sexy legs, jewelry and great shoes too!

Frédérique
03-16-2010, 08:47 PM
So today I have an awards ceremony luncheon, it is a semi formal event. I didn't realize that when I signed up to go on Friday. I haven't a thing to wear, I haven't owned a suit in years.. I find it funny that I could pull the look off better than drag than drab right now I have more girl clothes that are business dress. However I don't think my coworkers/boss would appreciate it.

I have a lot of suits, dress shirts, ties, and shoes left over from a period of dating about eight years ago. I’ve packed most of that failed experiment away, physically and mentally -- I get a chuckle when I see the "uniforms” I used to wear. These days my closet is full of dresses, skirts, blouses, femme shoes and accessories, so I’m happy (again)…:)

I’d love to go to an awards ceremony (I do this, because I’m an exhibiting artist) dressed the way I like, but people out here just wouldn’t appreciate such a gesture, would they? The locals barely know art when they trip over it, so they certainly wouldn’t know what to do if a living, breathing work of art homed into view. Unlike you, I have nothing to lose, except my privacy, of course…:eek:

RhondaLynn
03-17-2010, 04:35 AM
Congratulations Victoria in working your way through it. Good points made by everyone in this thread on the various aspects of wardrobe choices - most of us seem to have more female clothing than male. I too have a limited male wardrobe - a few pair of jeans, a couple pair of dress slacks, and about a dozen business/casual shirts that i use for all occasions.

I retired all my upper-level business attire years ago when i moved from management to a consultant and 'closer' position. My work has shifted mostly to telecommuting in recent years, with much of it done as Rhonda. What time i spend in the office during Rhonda-Time is usually with Rhonda is 'just underneath the surface (wink, wink).

I've worn a skirt, hose & heels at work before, at times when no one else was there. I found working at my desk and about the office in a skirt & hose was more pleasant that i had expected, and it gave me insight into why the office ladies pefer such attire - skirts & hose limit the activities one can engage in, but desk and office work is actually suited to it, making the work more pleasant & enjoyable.

My clothing collection is extensive, and i've often thought that I'd rather wear a skirt & hose to work than the same old tired combo of jeans & 5 or 6 shirts, when the issues at hand would permit (no physical work, interaction w/ external customers, etc.). But as we know, these options are not available to us in current society's view, with clothing being directly related to gender.

A main issue here is that a skirt accentuates a woman's legs, a major feature of her sexuality. Hosiery & heels enhance this further, and since men aren't expected to have, want to have, or have a desire or need to display such distinctive indications of femininity & female sexuality, it's not considered an option or acceptable behavior. Even if skirts could somehow be accepted in society's view, i would not wear one without said hose & heels, and there are no masculine equivalents for them. Blocked again by society's gender barrier.

On a sidebar, I know several lesbians who desire to present themselves as masculine, and freely do this in both personal and business life, without issues. It's puzzling that they can express alternate gender identities without question, prejudice, or repercussion, but men cannot. Why does society allow women more freedom than men in the areas of expression of sexuality, sexual preference, and gender roles and identities?

Well, I'm about to goto WalMart - the time's about right, and when I drove by around 1am, the lot was almost empty. I'm not sure what i'm looking for, but I'll find something. I should change out these 40Cs for something more discreet, like an A or B, so they won't be so obvious.

sherri52
03-17-2010, 10:53 AM
I own a suit. It is in one of my many suitcases in the garage. i'm not sure which suitcase or even if it fits

Carly D.
03-17-2010, 07:59 PM
I as well don't have male dress clothes.. And I'd rather slip on a skirt and heels and hose and.. Well my outfit and go that way.. I feel better dressed as my fem self than any male dress up clothes..

erickka
03-18-2010, 06:15 AM
Although I have 80% women's clothing making up my wardrobe, I still have a couple of nice suits, just in case of a scenario like this erupts.

ReneeT
03-18-2010, 01:32 PM
You all very well highlight the dilemma that us who live in both worlds face - male business/dress attire is soooooooo boring! white shirt - blue suitt - white shirt - grey suit - white shirt - brown suit - white shirt . . .. . If we are feeling frisky, make it a blue shirt! The there is the tie. . . ...

Female clothes are fun, exciting, and really allow your personality to shine thru. After spending all day yesterday in flare dress slacks, tight sweater and pumps, today (yellow shirt - khakis) is just plain dull!

victoriamwilliams1
03-18-2010, 02:35 PM
I know that feeling all too well! I have more girl clothes than boy.