Do you enjoy being male (as well as female)?

[Josie Angel]

I do! In fact, I use the word bi-gender to describe myself because I embody both male and female. And I know my soulmate will love both my masculine and feminine energy. I could never choose between them. Choosing one 100% of the time over the other would feel like a denial of my true self. As much as I would love to have a real female body or live as female part time, I would never want to stop being male, to close that door. I do mourn the fact that I will never have real breasts, or a vagina, or experience childbirth. But I cherish all the experiences of being a woman that I am able to have.

I am working with a life coach and part of my homework is learning about and connecting with others who are bi-gender. I would love to hear your stories, the joys and sorrows of being torn between (and embraced by) two genders. This will be validating for me (and hopefully for you too). I am moving towards self-acceptance. So talking with others who are like me and having it reinforced that this is normal and okay (and even beautiful and wonderful) will be a healing experience for me.

[Veronica Nowakowski]

I used that exact term for months. However, I'm feeling more and more transgendered as time goes on. I was excited about having balanced energy, and then I went past the balance and I'm feeling fine with it.

For me, I think it was a stage.

[Sweeterica]

I feel very happy being male as well as female, i would love however to have real breasts, that for me would be so lovely,no more than that. Im happy being born a man just love being able to escape into that femine side oh bliss.

[brittany michelle]

We are verry happy to co-exist:2c:

[sherri52]

I follow the path of both genders. I prefer to wear womens clothing but at the same time I want to be with a woman. I like to play ball and watch war movies, yet I also collect jewelry and have a collection of porcelon dolls (no I don't play with them). I spend most of my time with GG's either in drab or dressed. Like most men I hate to shave, yet every part of my body is free of hair less one. If this is what you call bi-gender then I'm with you.

[jenifer m.]

of course i was born a male,and have always done male things,but ive always known that there was more to myself that i couldent identify.it took years to finally come to terms with the fact that im different than other guys,and that i had a very pronounced female side that wanted to come out,but i suppressed her for most of my life.i would say that within about the last 8 years ive really accepted the fact that im a crossdresser or transvestite.i still very much love all the male things i do,and would not change them for any thing but im also embracing my feminine side more,and more every day.ive truly found that as i have intertwined both of my sides i really feel more relaxed,more complete,more focused,and in general have less of a chip on my shoulder with the world,and im finding im calmer,and way more understanding of others.so without jenifer im not a whole being.im glad shes part of who i am now,and wouldent do away with her for anything....those are just my ramblings.

[Veronica Nowakowski]

I follow the path of both genders. I prefer to wear womens clothing but at the same time I want to be with a woman. I like to play ball and watch war movies, yet I also collect jewelry and have a collection of porcelon dolls (no I don't play with them). I spend most of my time with GG's either in drab or dressed. Like most men I hate to shave, yet every part of my body is free of hair less one. If this is what you call bi-gender then I'm with you.

Jewelry and porcelain dolls are feminine by society, not nature. Ball and war movies are the same. It's an energy that is masculine or feminine, a way of looking at the world and reacting to it.

[Kerigirl2009]

I do enjoy being male because it makes me, me. My male side has found the love of my life and given me four beautiful children that I can be a father to.

I do prefer to be around women though as I enjoy the conversation so much more as I feel I relate more personally to what they have to say. Now I do have male friends that I enjoy talking with, however I usually do not have the same drive as they do when it comes to hanging out and say working on a car. YUCK. Now if you could put them in a room with a deck of cards, AWESOME!!!

But my best friend is also my wife, so I am very happy to hang out with her as much as possible.

If I could without fear of alienation, I would love to have those same conversations with both the men and the women dressed in normal everyday womens clothing or as I like to say where my clothing that makes me feel comfortable. This would make me happier then hiding a part of me that makes me, me.

[Cassandra Lynn]

While i agree with you on most of your self description, i have never had any feelings of wishing i had female body parts or of giving birth. In those regards i'm perfectly happy with my male body and the male way of life, and it is only in this past year that i have truly allowed my full femme side to bloom. I also find myself wanting to and striving to spend time with GG friends and acquaintances, and feeling more at peace when i can be with them. This next year i hope to more fully evolve Cassie and get to know her. mj (Cassie)

[gabimartini]

Yep, I enjoy both ends of my psyche, female and male. Don't think I'd be able to choose either one. Sometimes I'm male, sometimes I'm female, and I'm learning to be ok with that!

[Ashley Allen]

I embody both male and female. And I know my soulmate will love both my masculine and feminine energy. I could never choose between them. Choosing one 100% of the time over the other would feel like a denial of my true self.

I'm still new to accepting this and right now my urges are to go way over bored and I spend a lot of time wishing I had a female body; however, I think the newness of this will fade a bit and I will find a balance. My unhappiness in life has been because of supressing part of myself, not from being a male. If I were to go to the other extreme I think I would be just as unhappy.

I like the references to the energy, and recognize my SO positive energy feedback from my feminine energy, and her negative feedback from my masculine energy... just wish she could admit the same... then perhaps I could enjoy shopping for her outfits and spoil her rather than myself. For now I prefer to be selfish. :battingeyelashes:

[SusanLCD]

I definitely feel more male, but, like many of you, have always felt that I was different from my other male friends. I'm glad to go about my typical day in male mode and to be accepted as such. I guess I'm comfortable with it.

I only need to let Susan out periodically; no need to be Susan 24/7. Yet, if I ignore her for too long, she comes roaring out and reminds me that she's still there and that I need to pay attention to her. After all these years, it's still a surprise to me. (You'd think I'd learn, but, apparently, not. :o)

[Sarah Doepner]

I'm a transvestite and enjoy preparing and presenting myself to look as much like a woman as I can. The results are mixed, but I feel very comfortable and wouldn't want to lose that option. I've never wanted to go through any of the iconic physical female experiences and I find my male body to be complicated and challenging enough to manage. I enjoy doing things that are typically associated with men, but know of many women who participate in the same activities. The physical isn't the critical measurement here.

The real challenge is sorting out the psychological and emotional differences between genders. I still can't wrap my mind around much of how my wife or most other women view the world and their place in that world. I hate to use stereotypes, but that's all I have because I can't get hold of reality. I'm concerned for family and want to help them all I can, but unlike many women I know, I have to keep my own needs in the equation from the start, not after I've compromised my health or security. I have yet to melt over any infant not my own, and baby animals on TV don't bring out my maternal instinct.

I don't believe that wanting to be "pretty" or feeling happy at the touch of soft, smooth fabrics and enjoying delicate floral scents is expressly female. Nor are most typically male activities exclusively male. There is a set of differences between Male and Female and it seems we are trying to find it. Dressing and presenting and interacting as much like a woman may be a good first step, but we won't find it in the makeup section, it's somewhere else.

[Bobbie Bee]

Strange, I was thinking about this notion just yesterday. I had the house to myself and so I dressed femm for most of the day. I took a lot of pix and although I thought I look "okay" dressed in femm, I was still a male. In fact, the longer I stay dressed, the more I desire to come out to my wife. But, I'm too scared, at the moment, to go there right now. The conflict is driving me crazy, but I'm still a male and don't want to be female 24/7.

[victoriamwilliams1]

For me I feel transgender and I have the odd thing where I actually adopt a total feminine outlook when dressed. As a guy I am 100% guy and as a woman I am 100% woman in how I feel.

I think that each of us have so many varants in how we are I know I have found a few who are like me and my favorite change is when online commuicating with men I use different words with them and do not have a problem calling a guy handsome when in girl mode responding, now in guy mode I will not do that.

I also enjoy my guy side becuase he is around 98% of the time:)

[Jessy]

I haven't had the luckiest life so far, I've known much misfortune with career, relationships, friends, and more. Always was I looking to find social contacts, make friends, and being accepted. Since this is often a matter of social standards, I never let Jessy out in front of anyone but myself.
But I can't help wondering sometimes, if my life would have been different if I was born a GG. I always was more comfortable with the female side, and around female friends. I still haven't found my balance, and only time will tell. Fact is that my life as a male, trying to work up, trying to find friends, going out, is often much harder and still more boring than the few times a week seeing Jessy at home.

[Josie Angel]

Wow. Thanks for all the great replies, everyone. Lots of good stuff here. I plan to come back later and write out more detailed responses to everyone. This is definitely validating.

[ellenwannabe]

Actually the only time I'm gald I'm a guy is when I go to the restroom and see the very long line at the ladies room - Ellen

[frisbee_girl]

A slightly different perspective, but hopefully just as validating. I would not consider myself to be bi-gendered. I truly enjoy, and am a bit vain, about my maleness. I don't say that I dress in 'drab' or call myself a gyrl when I do dress up. It feels a bit forced for me.

That being said, I truly enjoy dressing. It does feel good, but I've yet to determine whether that good feeling is Kayleigh being fulfilled or if it's just the thought of Kayleigh.

I don't know... I'm new to this discovery process myself. This is a great place to air out your thoughts. I've found that there is a continuum and there are people on here at every stage. Right now I resonate the most with being a guy all the time but enjoys dressing and pretending to be female from time to time and LOVE underdressing (I've got thigh highs and a really sexy bra and thong set on right now at work). This is in opposition to feeling like Kayleigh is some visceral part of me. Feels more like a fun fetish right now. But I'm committed to the discovery process and if Kayleigh gets more of a voice, then I suppose I'll have to listen. :2c:

[boy2girl31]

Guess I am the odd one to post here but I thought it would be nice to have someone who does not feel as you do. The question was do you like both sides of yourself. I for one do not like my male side and wish it could be cut from me like the cancer I feel it is. I do see your point and understand i only wish I were able to accept my male side but I hate it too much.

[minalost]

Yep, I enjoy both ends of my psyche, female and male. Don't think I'd be able to choose either one. Sometimes I'm male, sometimes I'm female, and I'm learning to be ok with that!


For me I feel transgender and I have the odd thing where I actually adopt a total feminine outlook when dressed. As a guy I am 100% guy and as a woman I am 100% woman in how I feel.

I think Gabi and Victoria have the right idea. I don't have any choice but to like both sides of my nature. I'm not interested in going femme full time - my wife would NOT go for thay anyway - and there are some things I can do in male mode that I can't in female mode.
:hugs:

[Sewing_Sophie]

I try to avoid thinking too hard about what I really am... however, there's definitely a feeling, a mood, that comes and goes, and when I don't have it crossdressing just feels stupid, and I can't do it. It's sometimes annoying, as one part of me wants to feel all the good feelings that come from crossdressing, but if that... feminine mood? (that's how I like to think of it) isn't there then I can't get anything out of it. This limits me to dressing once or twice a week (not counting bedtime where I wear a pink nightdress more often than not), even though there's room in my life for more of it than that.

Being male... is kinda handy in a practical sense, less problems with sexism and all that. When I'm in the right mood there are some awesome bits of menswear that give the masculine equivalent of the femme feeling I get from crossdressing, shame the occasion for wearing them doesn't come up so often.

Right now, I've been buying a lot of treats for my feminine side, and been getting a lot of acceptance and validation from the people I've come out to (and compliments on my skirts and dresses), whereas the male me is feeling distinctly invalidated by still being single and having to push himself through the hell that is online dating. But he's definitely there, that can't be denied.

[Jessy]

Just a little addition, after I reread Victoria's quote.
My feminine side is still the same me, I have accepted that. When dressed up, I can't say I feel being 100% feminine, I'm just myself with both the female and male parts of me. When being male it's different, because I suppress the feminine side from showing.
And that's why I feel so much better as Jessy. Because I'm just me.

[TNRobin]

I enjoy both sides of myself, both Robert and Helen. My chosen profession that I'm getting into would be a bit more difficult as a woman, but almost impossible as a transvestite. My past job in the military was only open to men, so being a woman would have been out of the question. I enjoy guy things; Jeeps, guns, hunting, that sort of thing and while I know that women can do those things too that's the part of me that I reserve for Robert.

Helen is the side of me that I just plain enjoy at other times. Sometimes I could go days as Helen, but it would create problems being out locally. I really enjoy the freedom of expression in fashion, the clothes, the shoes, the make-up and the night wear. After all, if you ever have a man's suit made they'll show you books of fabrics that literally contain hundreds of shades of gray, black and dark blues. How boring!

Since it's impossible to become a changeling like you see in some science fiction movies then what I would really like is the following. That makes the assumption that society would accept it. I'd like to be completely hairless, minus the top of my head of course, and I'm working on that at the moment with laser hair removal. I'd like to have the build of a female, the hips, the breasts, the waist, the whole shape and I'd like to dress as a female (skirts or dresses) almost all of the time, but at the same time I'd like to be a guy just on occasion.

Yeah, I know, sounds really mixed up, and maybe I am, but for now I'm just taking the ride and seeing where it takes me. Afterall, the journey is the real adventure, the destination is just a place.

[sissystephanie]

Yes, I do enjoy being a male. Which is good, since I am one! Although I have been a CD for most of my 70 plus years, I have never had the desire to actually be a woman. When my late wife did my makeup and fixed my wig, I was quite passable. But I rarely, even then, hid the fact that I was a man. Now that she is gone, I still dress as Stephanie and go out, but presenting as a man in a dress or skirt! I am a CD who loves wearing feminine clothing, and I do have natural 40 B breasts. But underneath I am still a MAN!!:)

[countrygirl]

For me I say I think I have balance right now of both, would like to have more time for Amanda come to play. But right now I am happy with the balance.

[msniki48]

Things that make you go HMMMMM!
I have reached a place, where i find that the only way i can do a convincing male me...is to almost turn off half of my personality. I find vince to be disengaged, so to speak, yet i must be him for work and typical activities, especially with family. I find niki to be animated and full of life. Social when with others, with plenty to talk about. i think i am liking being niki much more, than being vince.:straightface:

:hugs:

[NathalieX66]

For myself, I cannot give up my male self that I have built up over the years. it's been nothing but a hoot.:jumping:....love every bit of it, would miss it if I ever gave it up. The way things happened, circumstances just kind of led up to it.
Ten or so years ago, and earlier, I had less of a sense of myself. I felt I identified as female. I took an interest in crossdressing somewhere between ages 6-9.....loved how my female cousins absorbed and bragged & flaunted all the feminine fashions with such reckless abandon. That burned into my brain forever.
I never saw myself as a gender, I just felt comforable wherever I did. It was society that detemined hair legnth, which ears to pierce, dresses/skirts vs. pants.
I am both sexes, and I am neither.........that's a pretty annoying & corny statement, eh?
In the endgame, I'd rather spend a Saturday night looking pretty in a cocktail dress at a club or restaurant, or wherever, then go back to my male self.

Just is.

[Barbara Dugan]

Very interesting point Josie..I used to think I was male but different I used to think I was just being myself I always thought something was missing I never feel complete ,I was completly Asexual its hard to explain like you are being told you are male but you dont feel like one but at the same time you dont feel like a woman trapped on a mans body.
Since I started dressing things look and feel diferent like life has more sense to me I feel comfortable and happy when I dress I even embrace sexuality when I dress but still for some reason I know I have to return to be a male.
Then even I dont enjoy very much being a male I dont hate it much either

[Lynn Marie]

I like both of us. He's better than he used to be now that he can appreciate the feminine outlook. Also she's doing much better since she's accepted herself fully. Now she's starting to show a little style.

[SuzanneBender]

This is the hardest question that ladies post on this site.

I want to be a woman with all of my being. However, the dealer of life delt me a king instead of a queen (well maybe a queen:daydreaming:)and after living 44 years as a man there are a lot of things about it that I love. First on that list is my wife and my family. I also could not picture essentially starting life over at my age.

Both Suzanne and my male self have wonderful aspects to them. If am working to find a way to enjoy and share both with the world. Both sides are one dimensional without the other.

[Ediosa]

Yup!!!:D
:love:

me

[bron]

I am in the uneneviable position of having to be both man and woman. I have a wonderful partner who doesn't want anything to do with my fem side. So i am the man with her. When i am home [we don't live together] i am Bron and i love that side of my life as well. I also have a very male orientated job so i must play the guy there too. I do wish i could be Bron much more than i am now. It's quite stressful catering to others just to keep the peace. Bron

[kathie225]

my male side. Given my needs and situation, nothing would be gained by negating my male persona. For sure, my playing partners wouldn't let me hit from the red tees.

See ya Kathie

[Jocelyn Quivers]

I love and need both my male and fem sides. They make me who I am.

[Rachel2000]

of course i was born a male,and have always done male things,but ive always known that there was more to myself that i couldent identify.it took years to finally come to terms with the fact that im different than other guys,and that i had a very pronounced female side that wanted to come out,but i suppressed her for most of my life.i would say that within about the last 8 years ive really accepted the fact that im a crossdresser or transvestite.i still very much love all the male things i do,and would not change them for any thing but im also embracing my feminine side more,and more every day.ive truly found that as i have intertwined both of my sides i really feel more relaxed,more complete,more focused,and in general have less of a chip on my shoulder with the world,and im finding im calmer,and way more understanding of others.so without jenifer im not a whole being.im glad shes part of who i am now,and wouldent do away with her for anything....those are just my ramblings.

My thoughts exactly. Crossdressing is not something that we just woke up to one day, it is one of the cards we were dealt in life. Having said that, I'm not really sure that this is a fair question because I've always been a guy who loves doing guy things and can do them freely. On the other hand, being a CD, you are very restricted from doing girly things with the same freedom as a GG. I suppose what I am really trying to say is that it is really difficult to make a valid comparison on a playing field that isn't level.

Just my 2 cents worth....

Rachel

[BRANDYJ]

I am happy being both male and female. I truly believe that my female half is what makes me a better male. I have a deeper respect and understanding of women because part of my mind is female. Mt body is definitely male, but I do the best I can with what I got. I often wonder if life might be boring if I had to be one or the other all the time.

[immike]

I do! In fact, I use the word bi-gender to describe myself because I embody both male and female. And I know my soulmate will love both my masculine and feminine energy. I could never choose between them. Choosing one 100% of the time over the other would feel like a denial of my true self. As much as I would love to have a real female body or live as female part time, I would never want to stop being male, to close that door. I do mourn the fact that I will never have real breasts, or a vagina, or experience childbirth. But I cherish all the experiences of being a woman that I am able to have.

I am working with a life coach and part of my homework is learning about and connecting with others who are bi-gender. I would love to hear your stories, the joys and sorrows of being torn between (and embraced by) two genders. This will be validating for me (and hopefully for you too). I am moving towards self-acceptance. So talking with others who are like me and having it reinforced that this is normal and okay (and even beautiful and wonderful) will be a healing experience for me.
I very much enjoy dressing in womens clothes,I am a closet crossdresser.I love to wear
mothers clothes,when she is away

[Audrey34]

I have to admit I love my male side and my female side with equal pleasure. Funny thing is, the more I dress and explore my fem side I've finally begun to take better care of my male side. I have actually gotten compliments from gg's when I'm in drab. Gotten compliments from gg's and cd's while enfemme and I'm loving it!
-Audrey

[Bowmanls2]

I like both sides of me!

[Vieja]

I don 't think of myself as female. I am just a strange person who likes to wear feminine clothing.

Vieja

[ChloeR]

I try to avoid thinking too hard about what I really am... however, there's definitely a feeling, a mood, that comes and goes, and when I don't have it crossdressing just feels stupid, and I can't do it.
I'm the same way. If I'm not in a certain mood and I think about dressing I feel stupid and question why I even do it. When I am in that mood however I really enjoy it. I've only been dressing for a few weeks so I'm most comfortable with my male side but I'm becoming more and more comfortable with it and enjoy trying to look and feel as female as possible...

[TxKimberly]

Honestly - no, not really.

[t-girlxsophie]

I cant say I hate being a man,that would lead to a whole new set of issues lol

Couldn't let my male side go,much still to enjoy there,footy,action films,and spending time with my son,which couldnt ever do dressed,My wife still liikes the odd day with male me.

But overall i LOVE being fem not just the Dressing but every aspect of being a girl,I feel that Sophie is much more pleasant person as a whole too,If I couldn't be Sophie I wouldn't be in the happy position I find myself

[cindychan]

There are positives and negatives to both. I like male coats,shoes, pajamas and phyiscal strength but really dislike my height, shaving my face, also my top hair is thining and looks butt-ugly. Female is for me. I just like to look pretty and life seems more balanced and peaceful while in Femme.

[Jessatheone]

At least five days out of the week I have to be male and it doesnt bother me one bit.

[Bree-asaurus]

I've been doing a lot of back-and-forth lately so I can't really be sure of how I feel... but sometimes I wonder if I am comfortable with being male because I'm used to it and have been doing it for 26 years... or if I genuinely like being male sometimes and female sometimes.

[lil red]

I love being my male self. I love to be my female self almost as much. I enjoy being one of the guys at work. I like being Mr. Fix It around my house. I like being Mrs. June Cleaver around the house, and I would love to venture outside but I can't. I agree with the term Bi-Gender. I love to be in dresses and skirts and heels as much as my dickie work pants a =n old T-shirt and my work boots. One of my fantasies is to be able to be the "secretary" on a part time basis in the evening hours while still being the mechanic/fabricator/farm hand that I am in my daily work routine. For some of us it is enough to be both genders equally. I envy those of you who get to be more female than male sometimes and yet there are days I don't even realize I am a girl at heart as well. :o

[Picklebob]

I tend to use the term transgender to describe myself because I feel like a combination of male and female, but I know the feeling of being unable to give up either side.

[Bunny Girl Zoe]

Like being female a heck of a lot more than male.

[Samantha43]

I like being a male.......I just have an unusual hobby! :D

[Sherry-Stephanie]

I also consider myself as Bi gender...have the female and male mojo going...only way i'd want it...best of both worlds!!!! JMHO...

[Lauren B]

Honestly - no, not really.

:iagree:

[lacie]

I definitely enjoy my male side and guy activities. I love watching and playing rough and extreme sports, playing violent gory video games, and being a big car enthusiast. I enjoy being able to quickly throw some jeans, t-shirt, and a ball cap on without taking 30 minutes to prep. But my girly side also loves being a girl. So I'd have to say that I'm pretty much divided:daydreaming:

[FeliciaRivers]

To be honest, I prefer being male over female. I just enjoy being female from time to time.

The way I see it, I have a physically stronger body than I would if I had been born a girl not to mention I don't have to go through some of the things that a girl would typically have to deal with. I can get ready in the morning in under five minutes and it takes less care for my body to look good.

However, I do get depressed at the thought that I can't do the fun things girls do either, like prom dress shopping. I guess stuff like that is the trade-off.

I know I am a rather lucky guy in the sense that I am not very large, thus I have the ability to switch gender when I desire. But all said, I am happy to have been born male.

[Crissy Kay]

A yes for me. I spend most of my time as a male, and for the most part I am happy with it. As long as I get some "Crissy" time in, mostly on the weekends, I am happy!!!

[charlytuna]

my wife ask me that question a few times before and I always tell her that I am happy just the way I am the best of both worlds when I want to

[beam47]

Josie, the thoughts you just put on line , is exactly the way i think about it

[Miranda09]

Hi Josie...I would say I love being male as much as I love being female. I have gotten to the point of balancing both personas, tho the feminine side can get rather insistant!! Like you, there are times I wish I could experience the everything female, but at the same time, I don't want to lose my male self. It can get to be a real roller coaster ride at times, but it's a fun one, and not one that causes any internal conflict, and not one that I wish to turn off. Yeaa for both genders. I love it. :)

[Lyric]

For years I used the term "bi-gendered" in reference to myself, but I've come to decide that's not the most accurate description. I don't really feel I have dual identities even though I appear publicly looking more like a man some of the time and a woman at other times. To me, I'm just me. Perhaps I think of myself as a gender of my own. What I wear suits the occasion or my inclination at the time. Sometimes it's womenswear and sometimes it's men's. As far as fashion is concerned, I love most aspects of women's fashions and at best tolerate men's fashions. But I've reconciled with the fact that I am male in the most basic of ways and do enjoy some of those ways. I just do not really identify with the male image and I do tend to identify with the female image. Thus, presenting myself as a woman gives people a more honest view of my soul, though to do so I must disguise an important fact about myself.

In our society, it's not considered at all appealing to mix too many masculine and feminine traits, so I feel pretty obligated to present myself as one or the other, though I often go a bit on the andro side.

Lyric

[Tina P Hose]

I am a guy and being a guy is cool. If I had a magic button to push, I would be a guy half the time and the rest of the time be a girl. What the HELL did I do with my magic button ??

[BeckiB]

I love both sides of me. Niether would be complete without the other. My only real wish is that the world would except us for who we are.

It always amazes me that when I tell people of the manly stuff I have done throughtout my life that the first questions is "do you think you did that to over compensate for crossdressing?" of course the answer for me is "NO..I did it because it was fun". Why does the question "do you crossdress to repress those manly neanderthal tendencies?" never come up? LOL

[UASIANGAL]

Absolutely enjoy being a male which allows me to appreciate the beauty of a female.

[EnglishRose]

Insofar as I married my soulmate, and had a wonderful son, yes. However I think that's about as far as it goes.

[stephanie100]

i hate being male I dislike all things male only my fem side make me happy
:love:

[Myopedee]

As a girl I wear glasses ALL the time. As a guy, I almost always wear a girdle and stockings under my clothes along with a camosole. Clogs seem to be unisex now but I am always clogs as a guy unless I'm at work. If I have a coat on I wear woman's pants or jeans that sit at the waist. If no coat I wear a shirt untucked. Bottom line is I have way more girly chothes than guys!

[Lynneth Lee]

I too like being a male and doing guy things. I used to build and race stock cars. I like to do woodworking and refinishing furniture. I play the organ and at present am restoring a 1920's grand piano. ON THE OTHER HAND - When I was young, I wanted a girls body with all the trimmings, but as I grew older, I realised that I would not really want that. Now I would like to have breasts and no facial hair. Best of all, I feel there is two of me and I love both, and I love CROSSDRESSING!

NANETTE FAYE :love:

[Madilyn A.]

For me, I enjoy being male maybe 10% of the time. That number also seems to be declining as I age.

[Michaella]

This is a very difficult question for me to answer, which is what makes it so interesting. I cannot honestly say I enjoy being male, but that may be just a matter of general dissatisfaction with life. It may also be a matter of not understanding well what "being a male" means. There are the socially-prescribed "macho" norms--"toughness," competitiveness, perhaps roughness and lack of sensitivity, that sort of thing--that I have never been at all comfortable with or good at. But are they inherently male, or just what society expects? My working hypothesis is that they are not masculine, becuase I am male and do not exhibit these characteristics. Ergo there is no necessay linkage.

Having not had any experience as a female I can hardly say I'd enjoy being a woman more. I suspect it is a lot more complicated than most males, this one at least, would imagine! What I don't like is being "masculine" as opposed to "feminine" in style. I think, given my choice and total freedom, I would be very feminine. But, as I have stated here before, I don't see that as necessarily a male/female distinction, but rather on a different axis. Language confuses and conflates these things, but if one replaces male/female with penile/vaginal, so as to refer to actual physicality, and masculine/feminine with say orange/green (avoiding the obvious blue/pink) and then sexual orientation with simply attracted to males/attracted to females/attracted to both then we see these as 3 very different aspects of ourselves, that may line up in different ways.

Do I like being male in the sense of having a male body? Well, not really. I find female bodies much more attractive, and naturally I want to be attractive. But I've never felt like I was "born in the wrong body." I am not disputing the validity of those that feel that way. I don't understand it, but that is only because I simply do not have that experience. Would I do anything to alter my body to make it female? No, I've never thought seriously about it. Fantasized yes, I admit. But the idea of surgery and hormones and such is frankly rather scary to me. So I guess I have accomodated to my male body.

So, in the end, I guess I don't enjoy being male, but accept it, and enjoy being feminine more that being masculine, but am frustrated by that.

Does that make any sense?

Michaella

[Bernadina]

We are very happy to co-exist:2c:

Ditto.

[Stina84]

While I really enjoy being female I would not want to live without being male. I find being male harder and more competitive than being female but I still like it. When I'm in drab I love to do typical male stuff like using power tools, or talking about cars although I don't know much about neither cars nor handiwork. I like that part of myself too.

I feel privileged in the way that I am able to try both the male and the feminine view on life.

[NathalieX66]

Sometimes I feel like an enigma. I love both.
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[Missy Tanya]

Why argue, I have the best of both worlds. And besides, the male side of me is the bread winner, and Tanya is an expensive date. So I work, She plays!!!

Tanya

[dawnforever]

I try to avoid thinking too hard about what I really am... however, there's definitely a feeling, a mood, that comes and goes, and when I don't have it crossdressing just feels stupid, and I can't do it. It's sometimes annoying, as one part of me wants to feel all the good feelings that come from crossdressing, but if that... feminine mood?
You are so right. Most of the time I feel like being completely male, but every so often I get a hankering (or itch) to dress. Otherwise it doesn't feel fun/right/me. When I am in the mood though, I always feel like I want to take it as far as I possibly can at that particular time... then I feel like I know when I need to stop. I guess this is just something I've accepted as "normal" me.

[ArleneRaquel]

My femme side has completly taken over. :battingeyelashes:

[echo]

Oh I dig being who I am. When I read the term "drab" to describe the male form...makes me think that they ain't trying hard enough. The new chick thing for me is a blast indeed. But, I am just used to being really socially dominant in my natural state....you know, dookie braids, silk shirt n tie with cut off BDU's and combat boots. I suppose I might think differently if I could actually pass for a female but, just my height eliminates that for me right off the bat.

[lee in a skirt]

Personaly I feel that I am just male. On top of this I have two sides to being male one is a very macho side which I normally show and the other is a very feminine side e.g dressed. Even though i can be very feminine at times I always class myself as a male.

[tricia_uktv]

Yes I do quite like being male. But I far, far prefer being a girl. I am much more open and happier as Trish. But then she hasn't got the baggage which comes with being brought up as a guy!

[Dee2U]

I accept my biology in a practical sense but don't like my male organ and often wish I were a woman. I always wish I did not have to fulfill the traditional male role of "make it and fix it". My pastimes (with the exception of football) are either not associated with a gender or feminine. Socially I am much more comfortable with women.

Sometimes these wishes make me sad but most of the time I accept my biological reality. I am not interested in gender reassignment....Dee

[eileendover]

I like being a male.......I just have an unusual hobby! :D
:iagree: Being a male is much simpler. I like expending the effort to appear feminine for "special occasions".

[sherib]

I enjoy being a male crossdresser. But sometimes I wish I could be feminine from the waist up and a male in the middle. Female face and upper body with a nice breast but with a penis. I love womens so I guess I would be considererd being a lesbian?

[Amymonroe]

my wife has noticed a trend in my life and that is i have more girl friends than i do male friends. i prefer to be with females. i don't know why maybe it is linked to my dressing, who knows. all i know is some times i lay in bed wishing i was born a girl, and at the same time praying that i would wake up a woman. am i alone? i have to wonder.

amy