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Jamie48

03-31-2010, 06:05 PM

I was just wondering how many of you Girls/Guys are OK with being Male? As for myself I am proud to be male & lucky to have my female side also. I don't have to spend thousands of dollars on therapy to try & figure out why I am the way I am. There is really not any answer to why we do what we do. I can live with that & have for all my life. I am comfortable with who I am. I am glad to be male & I am blessed to have my female side also. I enjoy doing all the male stuff & also enjoy doing my female thing. I wouldn't give up either for all the panty hose in China. What about You?

Luv,

Jamie

NV Susan

03-31-2010, 06:18 PM

Jamie, I'll tell you the truth...I wish I was a GG. I also don't know why I was born a cross dresser but I much more enjoy my female side than my male side. If given the chance I would loose my male self in a heartbeat.

sherri52

03-31-2010, 06:22 PM

I like my male side and don't want to lose it, however my female side takes up most of my thinking. I'm always half female even in male mode

Danielle Gee

03-31-2010, 06:37 PM

ArleneRaquel

03-31-2010, 06:37 PM

For six years I have k\lived as a woman 24/7, or at least tried to. I dislike my male side, but I can tolerate it. :battingeyelashes:

Kristy 56

03-31-2010, 06:38 PM

I like my male side & love my female side. But as others have said, I consider myself gender gifted.

Lexine

03-31-2010, 06:45 PM

I personally think that being in tune with both my male and female side is something that I value the most more so than my gender, though if someone asked me what my sexual orientation is it'd definitely be a straight male. I can be firm or be as caring as I can be without compromising who I am as a person. I think really the most important thing for me is that people don't immediately label me as a male or female, then impose some sort of predefined stereotype based off how one looks or otherwise. Admittedly, I fall prey for this thinking as well when treating other people.

With that said, I think my attitude was predicated by the idea that I was born a Gemini and that kind of zodiac ideology stuck around for quite a long time until I decided to finally let out my femme side.

In short: You're not alone ;)

deniseh

03-31-2010, 06:49 PM

I deal with my Male side just fine...He works for wages, mows the grass,lifts heavy stuff, and is really a nice guy.

My female side is sweet and shy and very lovable. The kind of girl who do anything for ya!

Put both side togather abd you have....... well me!

well said darling, I couldn't agree more. Bottom line you have to love yourself first before you can truly give and receive love. There were times in my life when I wished I was real girl, and for 24 hours, a week, or a month I could have one hellva a girl party. In the end though at age 50 I enjoy who I am, where I have been, and look forward to where I am going.

missjulie

03-31-2010, 07:01 PM

oh deer susan iam so like you loose the ugly and get soom pretty fast love julie

Jamie48

03-31-2010, 07:13 PM

Thank You Danielle, You hit the nail on the head. I like just being me.

shannonFL

03-31-2010, 07:23 PM

Jamie, I think I know what you are saying, I can only add, when lifes' demands require a lot of the male, I become edgy, and envy the living in the moment as Shannon, and the contrast between the two of us is still an intoxication.

hotskirt

03-31-2010, 07:35 PM

I like both sides of me. Were else can you get the best of 2 worlds.

RADER

03-31-2010, 08:05 PM

There is many doors that would be closed to a female that a male can walk
through; That said, Yes I like my male side, Yet yearn for my female side.
A lot of my wifes friends tell her that she is lucky to have me because of
my mannerisms. I treat ladies like ladies, like I would like to be treated if I
were 100% female. Now I love my wife, and she loves me, And yes she knows
about the CDing, and is OK with it. We have a few limits, Like I will never
pass, so I do not go out of the house. Ever see a 6'3" 300# Harrie lady
walking down the street? You get my point. I hope this answers the question,
I can get windy some times. Rader :)

gabimartini

03-31-2010, 08:05 PM

I like my male side enough not to want to get rid of it via HRT and SRS. Though if given choice, I'd prefer to have been born a GG.

Sporco

03-31-2010, 08:31 PM

Soriya

03-31-2010, 08:35 PM

I currently think like you Jamie, I like my male side and in ways, I am learning new things there too. I have chosen to explore crossdressing again to connect with my female side. I don't know where it will take me but even with not knowing, I am happy to explore and see.

Loni

03-31-2010, 08:36 PM

i would have loved being born a gg, but as i was not, i will not have my extra bit and parts removed, but would love to live the remander of my life as only Loni. :daydreaming:
but i have a hard time keeping him around, he brings the money...so nuf said. :eek:

i am gendered gifted, and loving it.

so many dresses....so little time.

Loni

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Lynn Marie

03-31-2010, 08:36 PM

Jocelyn Quivers

03-31-2010, 10:12 PM

In the past I have wanted to be rid of my male side. For the past couple of years I've learned to appreciate it as it is what makes me. Me.

Andy66

03-31-2010, 10:30 PM

GGs can have two sides too... and I like both sides of me. :)

CamilleLeon

03-31-2010, 11:03 PM

I like my male self...which is good considering I'm him most of the time. Given the choice of how I'd spend the majority of the day, well that changes. But ultimately I fully enjoy both sides of me

AmberLynn

03-31-2010, 11:19 PM

This take's a bit of thought for me. I feel there is a war going on inside me on a daily basis and at time's i want the fighting to stop and one side or the other be banished but then i get to thinking.... If I were to banish my total male self,completely go to living as amber would that change amber. would amber still be my loving female inner or would she become something new entirely. Same for my fem self,if i banish amber "and i know that's not possible" would shaun become someone different that i would come to despise. I know the question was I was how many of you Girls/Guys are OK with being Male. Im fine being with being male for now,but eventually it seems we all come to a fork where we seem to pick a single self and thus lose a part of are self's. I remember making a decession a long time ago that if i could not find contentment with my male self by my 30th b-day i would give living as a girl a run for it's money as at the time it was a long time off,that was 22 years ago this year.

sorry if i have gone off topic and rambled,being 21 days form the deadline has me nerves and excited all at once

lori m crawford

03-31-2010, 11:21 PM

why wood you spend xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx dolers on who you are or wont to be if you know in side you are you know no body can tell is right an rong about you no body can do that for you haft to make it work for you not some dr it is up to youto live your life as you not wont ever body wonts you to be

suchacutie

03-31-2010, 11:27 PM

I too and one who has a masculinity and a femininity rolled into that quantity called me. Maybe I'm just selfish, but I like and want both to be able to come to the surface in order to see each part of me as an individual, but I also like it when they combine into that entity I was for so long in life before I understood this duality I have.

This is why my immediate goal is to be able to slide, seamlessly, back and forth between masculine and feminine (with all the trappings of each gender) at a moment's notice; and be able to stay in whichever gender for as long as I want or as long as life permits!

Such a complicated and wonderful life we lead!

NathalieX66

03-31-2010, 11:30 PM

Just get on your bike, and ride. :g1:

If you are like me, then don't bother reading the instruction manual to life.

Cassandra Lynn

03-31-2010, 11:34 PM

I am a male and i like that just fine, but i like my second self just as much.
I wouldn't trade that for anything, well maybe i would go back and do a few things differently. I am a son and younger brother to my 3 older brothers and i wouldn't have it any other way, but i desperately want to bring my femme self more to life!!! mj (Cassie)

docrobbysherry

03-31-2010, 11:46 PM

I never questioned why I was born male, or ever wondered what being a female was like.:brolleyes:

And then, I started dressing!:eek: Suddenly, I wondered what having female parts and living fem would be like?

Those thots r gone now. Even tho my dressing has moved up to hyperspeed!

Trying to live my life as a female now? I mite as well try to live it as a golder retriever!:doh:
Actually, I think being a puppy mite be EASIER!:devil:

Raychel

04-01-2010, 12:08 AM

I was born male, and I am OK with that. I can't say that I always enjoy the male side of life. And I am ALOT more comfortable in womens clothes. But that is as far as it goes. I am just happy being a crossdresser.

Dee2U

04-01-2010, 12:58 AM

I don't like my male side at all. I don't enjoy being stuck in a guy's body nor any of the stuff that comes with it. I guess that makes me TG. I love my wife and family too much to do anything about it so I do my best to get by. If I had my choice though I'd start life over as a female.

I'm with Sporco...I am biologically a male but dont like my male parts or the roles it makes me play. I do love my family and I cannot start life over. I am not certain from a karmic perspective what the next life will bring me but I hope i may be human and a woman....Dee

Tranny Tee

04-01-2010, 02:12 AM

Ever see a 6'3" 300# Harrie lady walking down the street? You get my point.
Rader :)
Yes I have. In the reflections in windows as I walk past. I know I do not pass but still very much enjoy going out.

I enjoy my male and female sides and would not give up either one.

Sandra65

04-01-2010, 03:21 AM

I like being male and all that goes with it like being a son, a brother, a husband and a father. I have no interest in gender reassignment or living as a female. Personally, I would be satisfied if the world would just let me wear skirts, tights and heels.

Sweeterica

04-01-2010, 05:42 AM

Im happy as a male,i have no wish to be fulltime female, i just enjoy the female dressing side,its a release from male life thats all for me, i like being able to switch between both.

siantv2003

04-01-2010, 06:05 AM

I deal with my Male side just fine...He works for wages, mows the grass,lifts heavy stuff, and is really a nice guy.

My female side is sweet and shy and very lovable. The kind of girl who do anything for ya!

Put both side togather abd you have....... well me!

I'm with you there. I'm very happy with my male side and have no desire to switch over permanently. I like being a man but embrace my softer side.

That said, it took me along time to get to this point. I dont claim to fully understand it but am very comfortable with it. Places like this website were a large part of that finding 'peace':battingeyelashes:

Now if only i can get others in my life to think the same way :daydreaming:

erickka

04-01-2010, 06:11 AM

I'm like a lot of others here. Since coming to terms with myself and accepting the fact that I love skirts and high heels and everything that goes with them, I have a balance of both male and female. I enjoy both parts and give them equal thought and time. I feel that I'm blessed with the best of both worlds.

jenifer m.

04-01-2010, 09:09 AM

jamie im right there with you.i feel exactly the same way as you do.i enjoy both sides of me.im masculin,and feminine.

Samantha_Smile

04-01-2010, 10:42 AM

I enjoy having both sides of my personality.
My blokey side gets maintainance done on the car (saves many many moneys :D), fixes the PC, can lift 3 Asda bags in each hand, gets on great with every one and in general is just an alright guy.
My girly me is softer, quieter and IMO sexier than the male me.
It allows me to relax and not purposefully keep my wrists rigid (as theyre quite limp if truth be known) and my other femme traits are more easily shown without me having to think about not letting them show.

Give up either? Never. I see benefits and flaws in both, but to be honest, I couldn't just up-sticks and leave one of them behind. There's good and bad in everything, but if the good outweighs the bad, then keep at it, IMO. :battingeyelashes:

Jilmac

04-01-2010, 10:59 AM

Jamie, I'm with you girl. I used to have doubts about my femme side as being " perverted" but after some very intense soul searching, I figured out that my femme side is just as much a part of me as my male side. I enjoy both and can be just as comfortable in any setting in either mode. I'm at the point in life now where it really doesn't matter what others think or say, I'm being the person who was born into this world with a double personality and loving every minute of it. :love:

Cassandra Lynn

04-01-2010, 11:05 AM

Karen564

04-01-2010, 11:21 AM

Hmmm, interesting replies...

For myself, I was born a male on the outside, but I've never thought of myself as a male on the inside, it was only others that constantly reminded me what I was by only seeing my shell..and by which they coldly neglected or refused to see my soul as it truly was & just passed it off as me just being a sweet & sensitive kid....nothing more..

So never really knowing what it felt like to be a true male was very hard on me, because I really did want to know what it felt like to be a man....but all I can relate to is, that I lived as a male once upon a time...but all that was just a very good acting job on my part..and think I should get an Oscar Award for my performance.....:tongueout

Hugs to all :hugs:

BRANDYJ

04-01-2010, 11:36 AM

GGs can have two sides too... and I like both sides of me. :)

Hi Anne, Your answer made me think... It has to be easier for a GG to be both masculine and feminine in some regards. You can wear male clothes in public and no one would think bad of you. You can wear your hair long or short, you can wear make up or not wear make up and no one would think bad of you, or think you are gay.
Let a CD do that and he will be ridiculed, laughed at and maybe even be beaten, or told to leave a given public place. I like the fact that you can have both sides with little problem form society. Damn! One more thing to envy about women!

As for me, I would not change a thing. I like both my male and female sides. Those two sides make me who I am. Frankly, it's my fem side that I think makes me a better man.

Jamie, Good topic! I think we see it about the same way.

joandher

04-01-2010, 03:50 PM

Jamie
I couldn't agree more, we are unique we have the best of both worlds,my only wish would have been that the internet was like it is now 50 yrs ago

:hugs:

J-JAY

brassieres

04-01-2010, 03:55 PM

While I enjoy being a guy, sometimes I wish I was born a girl. I never was into "guy" things and even at 8 years old I wanted to do something as ballet.

suzy1

04-01-2010, 03:59 PM

Exactly the same as I feel. Two wonderful lives for the price of one. Are we lucky or what!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

minalost

04-01-2010, 05:06 PM

Jonianne

04-01-2010, 05:47 PM

I would have liked to have been born female, but I was born with a male mind and male body and that is what I am in this life. Emotionaly I feel closer to females. That's why I identify "with" females, but not "as" a female.

Marcia Blue

04-01-2010, 06:43 PM

I like my male side and would never want to give it up. I also like my female side and never want to have to put it under a rock and leave it. I try to balance my life with all of its facets, and keep on going to beat of the different drummer, I have listened to for most of my life.

Sandy Banks

04-01-2010, 06:55 PM

:iagree::iagree:Just like you said Jamie!:thumbsup:

FireFoxAngel

04-01-2010, 08:53 PM

I wish I could go back and forth....like every other day. Lots of wonderful reasons to enjoy being a man, lots of wonderful reason to be a woman! It's a happy medium that keeps the stress and drama out of my life fortunately.

prene

04-02-2010, 03:26 AM

When I dress and go out with friends I get consumed being female.
I was dancing out with a few of my GG friends and they looked very feminine I wanted to be feminine.

I scared myself noticed one of the guys who came here with us was looking at me with a WOW look at me and I looked at him. I loved that I looked feminine and fun. It scared me what am I doing. I love the feminine feeling.

When I am not dressed usually I am very content.

Veronica Lacey

04-02-2010, 06:29 AM

I believe that I could second this notion...

I personally think that being in tune with both my male and female side is something that I value the most more so than my gender, though if someone asked me what my sexual orientation is it'd definitely be a straight male. I can be firm or be as caring as I can be without compromising who I am as a person.

....................

With that said, I think my attitude was predicated by the idea that I was born a Gemini and that kind of zodiac ideology stuck around for quite a long time until I decided to finally let out my femme side.

EnglishRose

04-02-2010, 09:30 AM

Try as I might, I can't get it. I've lived up to society's expectations of me when I was socialized as the male I was born; I'm married, I have a child, I bought a house. And yet I still don't understand what enjoying being male is. Maybe it's the lack of glass ceiling, and that society may view one as being part of the Old Boys' Club, simply by being sexed one way and not the other?

Jhenna

04-02-2010, 09:45 AM

I like who I am. My female half, however, is easier and more comfortable to be. My male half is ruthless, and way too uptight.

Ria

04-02-2010, 09:58 AM

Hunting, Flirting with a pretty lady, Guys night out, washing my truck.

VS

Freshly shaved legs, pantyhose, new platform pumps.

I have the best of both worlds! Being a guy is awesome! The crossdresser in the closet is also awesome!

I like variety, it's the spice of life for me.

carolinoakland

04-02-2010, 10:21 AM

You are perfectly happy with who you are, and that is the perfect example of a crossdresser. The ability to be male, and be comfortable with that, and no guilt about the other side. And knowing where the line between them is... Me, after my first CD convention ( I identified as a male hetero cd at the time...), the saddest part was going home, I didn't want to go back. And that was a huge revelation to me. I think that the hardest part of all this is wether you are cd,ts, or intersexed is learning to be honest with yourself about what makes you happy and to give yourself permission to be happy. Carol

pamela_a

04-02-2010, 10:43 AM

Being male was a part I played because that's what society expected of me based on the body I was born into. While I can't imagine what my life would have been were I born "correctly" I could not now imagine life without my wonderful children, the only thing I take from my life as a male.

Living now as a woman is where I belong. There is no way I could return to living as a male.

~Michelle~

04-16-2010, 11:37 PM

I never liked my male side, I just cope with it. It's like someone gave me a plane without telling me how to fly it.

noeleena

04-17-2010, 05:08 AM

Hi.

Some neat back ground there from you all ,

I knew i was a mix of both . yet had to live as a male never really was a part of the male side of things , & just could not relate to males ,
i spos i tryed thier way just did not work , when your mind is wired both ways . you see your self as different .

So to change over if you like was easy & really it was right .

As a woman theres no having to act if you like, no having to fit in no am i really this way or other ? s that do come up ,

Its really being free, like i climbed over the fence at the assyum & ran as far away as i could & knowing ill never go back ,

There were & are things i do if you like as a male & really is that only just for males to do , no, woman can do a lot that men do . really if we complement each other we have it both ways , for me i enjoyed many things if you like male, yet that women part of me was a part of it as well ,

The male role i fullfilled my part , having chilldren . or i helped Jos in having them , she gave birth , her role ,
That of cause i would dearlly love to have had , thats what hurts the most not being able to ,
Other than that im happy being in the middle & now living as a woman ,

I wont say i hated being male in part , just hated the clothes , Had a few spare parts ,other than that was okay, Relating to men was the hardest of all & is ,

...noeleena...

t-girlxsophie

04-17-2010, 05:10 AM

Of course I enjoy aspects of being a guy,watching Football(soccer),like spending time with my son,being a strong husband for my wife when needed,But since Sophie has come to the fore I find I enjoy my Femininity so much more,and its made all the more special by the love and support of my Wife,she loves the woman in her life too,and we share some great times together,so its nice being the guy but so much nicer being a woman

BRANDYJ

04-17-2010, 05:22 AM

I like me just the way I am. It's the femaleness in me that makes me a better man. To be able to present myself in either male or female mode to suit whatever I'm doing is a pleasure. I have so many very male interests that I'd miss them if I was 100% female. I sincerely love being the gentleman to the ladies; Especially the one that loves me and I love very deeply. Would not want to change that.

Freddy12

04-17-2010, 05:44 AM

I like both parts of me. I am more used to the male part, and I really like the female part of me, but I am not ready to give up the male part. I'm certainly not to a point of being able to pass, and may never be there, but I so very much enjoy being Freddy.

AKAMichelle

04-17-2010, 08:34 AM

We definitely seem to have the best of both worlds to some degree. We get to be very aggressive and goal driven in our work and then flip a switch and find the softer side of life.

Frédérique

04-17-2010, 04:23 PM

I was just wondering how many of you Girls/Guys are OK with being Male?

Oh, I’m thrilled with being male, which may explain why I crossdress in the first place…:doh:

Actually, I’m OK with the hand I was dealt – no matter what the circumstances are, you can bend gender expectations to make yourself more comfortable. I know who I am, so I try everything a boy is not supposed to do, with some ulterior motive in mind for mental stability. I’ve been very sensitive since birth (and maybe before that), so I just adjust myself accordingly as I go along. I happen to be a male, but it’s a different kind of male than people are used to – they notice the difference, since I present myself a certain way. You have to find another you…:battingeyelashes:

Alone, at night, I can be rather male at times. However, I always look forward to escaping into my femme persona, and I do it as often as I can, if only to distance myself from myself. What was the question? :idontknow:

zoe m

04-17-2010, 08:38 PM

I´m ok being a man, though I´m probably more androgenous than a lot of men. I´ve never really wanted to be a woman, what I´ve wanted is to be able to go back and forth, to cross genders constantly and to play with gender was something that always came naturally to me, almost like an instinct. I admire TSs a lot for the courage they have to transition, though I can´t say I am one of them, I´m just a CD.

sissystephanie

04-17-2010, 09:57 PM

I was born a male, and have been one for the 70+ years that I have been around. I have also been a CD for a good part of that 70+ years, but do not have now or ever had any desire to be a woman! I just like to wear feminine clothing!!

eluuzion

04-18-2010, 01:50 AM

Simple answer...I am always fine with who I am.

Here is further detail if you need clarification...
I like her and him equally well. I just don't like to see her fight with him over something they thought I said about him or her when I was not her or him. When I am her, I am ok not being him and he is ok when he is not me, just as she is ok not being me when I am him. She, he, and me, myself and I have a very good relationship where everyone is courteous and respectful of each others space and needs. My only complaint is that I am the only one paying rent. Does not seem fair, but I live with it.

There, now I feel much more like I do now than I did a little while ago. I hope my talking in the third person does not confuse anyone....it was my first try at doing it...wadda ya' think? :battingeyelashes::eek::battingeyelashes:

:love:

lee in a skirt

04-19-2010, 03:24 AM

I love being male

sometimes_miss

04-19-2010, 05:42 AM

I'm o.k. with being a male, but probably would have been better off if at puberty I had become the girl I thought I was supposed to be. Much of my psychological make up is geared to feel and behave as a female, and a lot of my behavior in daily living is just an act to allow the rest of the world to believe that I'm a normal male. While I do the best I can, intimately and sexually I have difficulty being male, because acting as one and just naturally being one are two different things.