Angel.Marie76
04-02-2010, 11:43 AM
..occurred last night, and went rather well I'd say.
Preface the meeting with a trip to the electrologist to have a 30 minute treatment on part of my jawline.
So, I had scheduled a special meeting with my department manager to talk about my transition, at the end of the work day and all, to make sure that it wasn't going to interrupt anything with a braincramp of sorts. My boss had just come back from PT on his knee, and I was sitting there in the meeting with an icepack on my face. We were a winning pair. He he..
So, I had been dropping hints to him over the past weeks and maybe a month or two, about how my life would be changing quite a bit in the future. I was trying to be clear with him though that it would/should not impact my ability to do my job on a daily basis, but just change ME. So, with HR already taken care of months ago, I set into motion evolving at work.. from changing my hair, having my nails done and longer daily (albeit in nude and skintone colors, etc), eyebrows, laser and electro, light foundation, women's slacks and shoes, etc and so on. Of course, also, both ears are pierced and have studs daily.
Well, he apparently 'got the hint' and starting putting things together. When I sat down and talked to him about everything, I was in pain, but as confident and focused with him as possible. I would even say moreso than I have ever been talking about my transition with anyone in a position of power like that. I told him what was happening, and he understood. Come to find out some popular nighttime news special recently did a indepth story on Transitioned Sports folks, and talked about the famous Tennis player that transitioned so many years ago, but then came forward to the folks of today, good and bad, including the sad story of the Sports writer that took his life after DE-transitioning.
Anyway, the nutshell was that he's supportive, that he hopes everything will continue to go well for myself (and my family), and that he will work with everyone to 'get them on board' the boat with me along with HR. We already talked about 'the long vacation of no return' where 'he' will go away, and I would appear, a new employee resuming the previous duties of 'the man that once was', and so on... and just how, even HE believes the reality that we're born this way (same as the rest of the GLBT community's beliefs on all our feelings and lives).
I left that meeting and was nearly in tears with happiness. Today I walked into my HR dept. and was talking with the assistant there who knows everything already about the meeting. She just smiled, apparently she had faith that it would go well. I was then informed that HR has already begun working out the intricate details of my transition in realtime and everything that is involved inhouse. They're ramping up right beside me for the next phase in my journey, and I couldn't be any happier about it!
F/T is on it's way to becoming truth of my existence, I need only to continue tying up the loose ends with the rest of family, friends, vendors, etc. and hang on for the ride! ;-)
Preface the meeting with a trip to the electrologist to have a 30 minute treatment on part of my jawline.
So, I had scheduled a special meeting with my department manager to talk about my transition, at the end of the work day and all, to make sure that it wasn't going to interrupt anything with a braincramp of sorts. My boss had just come back from PT on his knee, and I was sitting there in the meeting with an icepack on my face. We were a winning pair. He he..
So, I had been dropping hints to him over the past weeks and maybe a month or two, about how my life would be changing quite a bit in the future. I was trying to be clear with him though that it would/should not impact my ability to do my job on a daily basis, but just change ME. So, with HR already taken care of months ago, I set into motion evolving at work.. from changing my hair, having my nails done and longer daily (albeit in nude and skintone colors, etc), eyebrows, laser and electro, light foundation, women's slacks and shoes, etc and so on. Of course, also, both ears are pierced and have studs daily.
Well, he apparently 'got the hint' and starting putting things together. When I sat down and talked to him about everything, I was in pain, but as confident and focused with him as possible. I would even say moreso than I have ever been talking about my transition with anyone in a position of power like that. I told him what was happening, and he understood. Come to find out some popular nighttime news special recently did a indepth story on Transitioned Sports folks, and talked about the famous Tennis player that transitioned so many years ago, but then came forward to the folks of today, good and bad, including the sad story of the Sports writer that took his life after DE-transitioning.
Anyway, the nutshell was that he's supportive, that he hopes everything will continue to go well for myself (and my family), and that he will work with everyone to 'get them on board' the boat with me along with HR. We already talked about 'the long vacation of no return' where 'he' will go away, and I would appear, a new employee resuming the previous duties of 'the man that once was', and so on... and just how, even HE believes the reality that we're born this way (same as the rest of the GLBT community's beliefs on all our feelings and lives).
I left that meeting and was nearly in tears with happiness. Today I walked into my HR dept. and was talking with the assistant there who knows everything already about the meeting. She just smiled, apparently she had faith that it would go well. I was then informed that HR has already begun working out the intricate details of my transition in realtime and everything that is involved inhouse. They're ramping up right beside me for the next phase in my journey, and I couldn't be any happier about it!
F/T is on it's way to becoming truth of my existence, I need only to continue tying up the loose ends with the rest of family, friends, vendors, etc. and hang on for the ride! ;-)