Gay or straight TRANSMEN ONLY!!!

[karen68]

Hi.
This is a question to transmen, I would like to know how many of you would class yourselves as gay, as many transsexual women regard themselves as lesbians. Or are you hetrosexual, i.e do you prefer sex with men or women. I hope I don't offend anybody but just interested if it is the same for you.

[Ze]

Hi Karen, thanks for the question! I think most of us would agree that we consider ourselves as men, and therefore "hetero" means we like girls and "gay" means we like boys. :) Personally, I'm a horndog for the ladies. But you didn't hear it from me!

[karen68]

Hi Karen, thanks for the question! I think most of us would agree that we consider ourselves as men, and therefore "hetero" means we like girls and "gay" means we like boys. :) Personally, I'm a horndog for the ladies. But you didn't hear it from me!

Hi Ze it deffinately sounds like you are hetro:) thanx for your answer.

[Thornton]

straight.

[Kieron Andrew]

Het male here :)

[4serrus]

I'm bi.

[brylram]

Straight.

[NiCo]

Gay. Giving up men is more difficult than giving up cigarettes. I just can't do it.

[Kieron Andrew]

Gay. Giving up men is more difficult than giving up cigarettes. I just can't do it.
I feel the same about girls and booze lol

[Abraxas]

Definitely gay, although my boyfriend may've influenced me in becoming a teeeeeeeeensy bit bi (in that I'm not quite so actively repulsed by/frightened of girl bits as I used to be, haha)

[DanielMacBride]

Pansexual.

[SirTrey]

Straight guy here....:)

[JesseThirteen]

Hetero as well. :]

[sparro]

...Well I know that title list excludes me but I will answer anyway.

When I was young and first came out, I was still a "female", thus a lesbian, because I only seemed to like girls. Then I started making the transition, which was just pretty much referring to myself as male and with a male name. No surgery or hormones. I had a girlfriend, and I called myself straight, being a boy who likes girls.

However, after my transition (note above), I began having pretty powerful attractions to some men (a few times which I acted upon). I've heard many transmen who have gone through this before, but usually they blame the T for making their sex drive.. stronger. If nothing else this is proof to me that the brain really is the biggest sexual organ. Either that or as a female my sexuality was being greatly limited by some sort of mental block.

Long story short I am a practicing bisexual...

[Felix]

Oooooh glad this is here as I was just gonna post about how I've transitioned in this very interesting area so thanx :)

Before I stated transition I can look back and say I definitely hid as a butch lesbian in the lesbian community :) this was when I was in massive denial of who I was. Prior to that I had been married for thirteen years. Now here's where its complicated I suppose I had a womans body but felt male I was with a male but fancied women two so no not complicated I was bi sexual which was what I told him so the truth I never lied to him. When I came out the first time I knew really deep down my preference was women coz I never really wanted sex with a man the way gay men would. So I hid in the LGB community and felt safe.

When I came out the second time I said I was a lesbian trans man initially coz no hormones no surgery and I still was crazy about women. Then at Xmas 2007 I suddenly realized I find gay men attractive as I did trans men but knew I didn't want sex with them. So confusion over I new a woman was what I wanted:) still wasn't ready to admit I was Hetro!!! I realized this whole sexuality thing was gonna be a night mare:( I still had this attraction for trans men and gay men but knew sex was out so very frustrating and confusing at times. Something else that entered the equation Trans Women :) now previously I hadn't been interested but suddenly I was becoming attracted to them, here we go again ;) So I was back to the realisation that my preference was most definitely women:)

Bring on the testosterone December 2008 :) Jez when that hit it messed with me again and I felt like I'd gone back to square one as it started building up and messing with my psychology!!! I began to call myself Queer because I felt in terms of my sexualty ambiguous although I knew I still didn't want sex with men most definitely. I was discovering things I thought I would never like. But in reflection its things anyone who enjoys sex and pleasuring themselves could like if people could only get rid of the lables :) they definitely as far as I'm concerned doesn't make me gay.

So 15 months into transition and I have realized and accepting the fact I am a Hetro male in a Hetro relationship and it feels good and ok to be this :) xx Felix

[karen68]

Thanks guys.
It seems that so far it is hetro, so there is a difference there between trans men and trans women, being that majority ftm's like the same birth sex and majority mtf's like the opposite. A very interesting survey so far.
Felix, Thankyou for being so open and letting us know your history, as regards being attracted to trans men, it is strange that there are so many mtf's out there that are straight but find transwomen and "********" sexy, and some would even have sexual liasons with them.
And the hormone thing hits all of us albeit mtf or ftm.
Well please keep the answers coming and once again. Thanks.

[Shawn]

I consider myself a heterosexual male.

[DanteDonovan]

Sooo gay all the way. Boys are my Man Muffins:o

All my life I had always been attracted to guys. I can still look at a lady and go "damn, she really looks good." Not that I'm turned on, just appreciate what is around me.

Since I wasn't repulsed by women, (a.i. the thought of perhaps being with one), I did give it a go. We got along great, but then it started slipping away. My attraction to her started dropping, and soon seemed like I was uninterested.

That's when I found I am ultimately gay. I was, at the time, in a wonderful relationship-nothing more to ask for (she turned into a lying $%^& eventually, but I recognize the difference of non-attraction between emotions or gender). Yet, my attention and thoughts of attraction would more and more go to the men.

I did the "don't knock it 'til you try it", for being with a woman, and it turned it just wasn't a part of my deck.

[TurkishDelight]

I consider myself a gay man.
I experimented with girls when I was younger, but nothing ever came out of it.

[xTwo_Of_Heartsx]

Mine is complicated.
I call myself "gay with pansexual tendencies", because I am primarily attracted to guys.. but it doesn't matter to me what's between their legs.. penis, vagina, whatever. As long as they identify as male.
I'm about 90% gay.. and about 10% straight..
I am sexually attracted to *some* women.. but it's purely sexual.. and I'm very selective. I could sleep with a girl, but I couldn't have a relationship with one. I tend to be the "woman" in the relationship, or the "needy one", so I need someone who is more dominant and masculine, so both of us are getting what we need.
The problem with dating girls is that most of the ones I've dated have been exactly like me in that respect.. they need to be coddled and doted on.. and I just couldn't do it, and I felt deprived of that..
And I also found it very difficult to feel anything at all for them emotionally.
Guys, I can be emotionally and sexually attracted to.
So yeah.. complicated.. hah.. but if I must be labeled.. call me pansexual leaning more towards gay.

[Bif]

I have to say that prior to transitioning I was a reluctant straight female. I then came out as a lesbian.

However at this time during transition I find myself thinking about everyone in a sexual way!!!

I really don't know which way I will go or if I will be bisexual. I am not really that bothered as time will tell and I am not going to force something that I did force for 22 years.

[Leo Lane]

I'm bi, but leaning towards gay -- I prefer guys usually.

[metalguy639]

Gay always have liked guys.

[\/incent]

Genderblind. I fall in love with people. Not whats between their legs.
Either sex can make me drool for their own specific reasons..
Granted in m/m, im a bottom *>.>*... If that counts for anything hehehe

[alpha12]

I haven't had sex with many people, so it is hard to state a rule, but I am most attracted to women. In the past, however, I have found that my anatomy renders sex with women supremely unsatisfying.

[Bones]

I identify as pansexual. Genitals and gender are irrelevant.

HOWEVER.
I have a lot more luck with girls. Gay cisgender men very rarely take my seriously because of my genitals (that is my experience, I'm not sayin' it's true across the board or anything). My ex is a MtF. When we first started dating, I knew her "as a man." She did come out to me fairly soon after we started dating, and then started her transition (socially; she wasn't on hormones or anything yet). But somehow she always had that feel of a woman. She was incredibly gentle "for a man." Now I know gender roles are a load of hooey, but something about her was just feminine in a way that it was no surprise when she told me she was female-identified...

So. -I- don't have a preference when it comes to genitals/gender, but other people do. I have much more luck with women. Even straight women seem to be much more okay with my body than gay men. Because of my bad experiences with bisexual and homosexual men, I have a hard time trusting them. I've actually gained trust issues with men. I've had even trans men tell me I wasn't good enough for them because I don't have a penis. That right there has messed me up in the head.

[NiCo]

I identify as pansexual. Genitals and gender are irrelevant.

HOWEVER.
I have a lot more luck with girls. Gay cisgender men very rarely take my seriously because of my genitals (that is my experience, I'm not sayin' it's true across the board or anything).

I have much more luck with women. Even straight women seem to be much more okay with my body than gay men. Because of my bad experiences with bisexual and homosexual men, I have a hard time trusting them. I've actually gained trust issues with men. I've had even trans men tell me I wasn't good enough for them because I don't have a penis. That right there has messed me up in the head.

Thank god I’m not the only one who has found this out through painful experience.

[Bones]

Thank god I’m not the only one who has found this out through painful experience.Yeah. Trust me, you're not alone. I've met trans guys who say, "Oh I date gay men all the time they don't have a problem with my VAGOO," and I get SO MAD. It's like, okay, what am I doing wrong, then? I'm handsome, smart, funny, friendly... at least this is what other people tell me. I can't imagine they're all lying to an ugly, dumb, humorless jerk just to make me feel better... :doh:

[NiCo]

Yeah. Trust me, you're not alone. I've met trans guys who say, "Oh I date gay men all the time they don't have a problem with my VAGOO," and I get SO MAD. It's like, okay, what am I doing wrong, then? I'm handsome, smart, funny, friendly... at least this is what other people tell me. I can't imagine they're all lying to an ugly, dumb, humorless jerk just to make me feel better... :doh:

Dude...I wonder what I do wrong all the time :heehee: maybe if I liked my anatomy more [no chance] I might be taken seriously by gay men, seeing as it seems to be the guys...as you said "Oh I date gay men all the time they don't have a problem with my VAGOO” that land gay men. Tis not fair. :p

[Bones]

Dude...I wonder what I do wrong all the time :heehee: maybe if I liked my anatomy more [no chance] I might be taken seriously by gay men, seeing as it seems to be the guys...as you said "Oh I date gay men all the time they don't have a problem with my VAGOO” that land gay men. Tis not fair. :pFor me, it's always gay men shrieking and practically jumping up on a chair when they find out I don't have a penis, but have a vile vagina instead. It's just... Good God, man; could you get any less mature?

I just don't get how trans men bypass this vagina-phobia that a lot of gay men seem to have. My BUTTHOLE is just as manly as the next one. I'm not asking them to acknowledge my "oh-so-horrible" vag in any way...

Yeah, I'm pretty frustrated by this whole thing.

Edit: Huzzah! My signature works. :happy:

[NiCo]

I agree man, they make such a massive deal about it, like we enjoy it or something. After my hysto I hoped for prolapse just so they would have to sew me up [I’d rather look like an action-man from the front than what I have now]. Or that’s what I was hoping for lol. TMI maybe, but oh well, we all must have these thoughts from time to time? No? Hahaa… :heehee:

Sorry for taking this off topic :p

[Bones]

No, I agree. I will be having it sealed off and I hope they can surgically construct it into a normal-looking male perenium... Then no one can say "EWW VAGINA" anymore...
Yeah this is a bit off topic but I think it does apply to our sexuality. Some people base their sexuality on their perceived limitations in dating.

[\/incent]

Ughhh don't get me started on the EWWWWWWWW VAGOO!!!! thing with gay men.. I've run into it far far too often. IMOE women seam to be more accepting of whats going on inside and out than some men (gay or straight) because they were born right AKA born WITH a penis. My best friend ehre says she loves hanging out with me because im so male and its like hangin out with a guy, and my best friend far far away whos a gay male just kinda clams up when I talk to him about trans stuff and mostly figures I'd never go through with it.

But anyways, guess what boys? I get to custom order MY bits :P I want it long I'll have it long, I want it thick guess what Im getting a chubby! and if Im only/still packing I can even choose the colour and texture so NYAHHH!!! :tongueout

You customize your car or computer, Im customizing my wang ;) (racing stripes anyone? XD)

Granted Im still just looking/waiting for someone to accept me and love me for who I am, not whats goin' on in my pants :\ Male or female...

Mergh... Im rambling again...
I'll shoosh and go back to lurking >.>

[Bones]

Haha. I actually chose the smallest packer, a three-inch "packy." And for a strap-on my favorite was also the smallest they had where I got it... The bigger ones are just rigid and strange. I mean, yes, an erection is hard but not usually that hard. It's still flesh. Anyway...

It seems women are more open to loving someone regardless of their genitals. And to my disappointment, it seems like a lot of men simply don't know what love is.

[4serrus]

I don't know what I am anymore. I thought I was bi, but I realized recently that I'm only really attracted to lesbians or potential lesbians....because they're lesbians. Maybe I just like messing with lesbians? :doh: Like, if I was going to be with a girl, I wouldn't want a straight guy-girl relationship, I'd be "butch" I guess? I, um, err...

I think I'm just turned off by heteronormative...ity?

I know I'm gay though. I mean, I know I like guys, but again... I don't want to be a 'girl' in that relationship. I'm not really sure how that's suppossed to work if I'm not transitioned or even passing.

[karen68]

Nico not a problem you boys going of topic. I really feel for you guys. It is so much different for us gurls we can get a vag and todays surgeons can make them so much like the real thing.
But unfortuneately you guys cant get the same satisfation of getting rid of you vag and getting a ****. Karen xx

[Ze]

Nico not a problem you boys going of topic. I really feel for you guys. It is so much different for us gurls we can get a vag and todays surgeons can make them so much like the real thing.
But unfortuneately you guys cant get the same satisfation of getting rid of you vag and getting a ****. Karen xx

I love it when people understand. :hugs:

[Lonely_Lion]

I'm mostly attracted to girls, but i do find guys attractive...somewhat. however i do like the ladies a lot more than the guys. i could not have a relation ship with a guy...only girls. so... straight? i think...

[AnonyMouse]

I'm gay*.


Gay. Giving up men is more difficult than giving up cigarettes. I just can't do it.

This. Only for me it'd be coffee. A joe in the bed is worth two in the cup, or something like that.

*Strictly speaking, I'm bisexual. However, I'm more strongly attracted to men and attracted to more men on average. Plus I ADORE the cultural and relationship dynamics that frequently occur among gay men. Get carried away and I start to see females as a blight on perfect male sexuality, even though I know that's hogwash.

You could also call me "trysexual;" I'm always willing to experiment outside the binary.

[Mouse]

I'm definitely bisexual; I love both the boobs and the penis. If there was a classification for being immensely attracted to ladyboys/transexual MtF, then that's what I'd be. My Nikki is a ladyboy, and I must say, if, on the off chance that she and I would break up, there's no way I'd be able to settle for just one or the other... both, thank you please<3

[kyril]

I'm as gay as gay can be.

[AnonyMouse]

I'm as gay as gay can be.

But are you as faaaaabulous as me? :heehee:

[barbecue7]

@nico and bones, I am a gay man and I don't shriek or scream if a guy tells me they have a "vagoo" instead of a penis, if a guy is hot then they are hot for me and I think there are alot of hot ftm men out there :)

[Kaden]

I consider myself queer. I'm attracted to men with XY chromosomes and men with XX chromosomes, I wouldn't say I'm not attracted to women but I can't see myself in a relationship with one.

[Ryan]

Hovis here....'best of both' or Bi for those who dont know wtf Hovis is, lmao.

[Angel21]

Am BI but am married to a man so that makes me gay