Still in the closet, but...

[Diane Douglas]

Today I was thinking that even though I am entirely in the closet at my wife's "request". At times, I wouldn't mind being outed. Does anyone else feel this way?

[Karren H]

Yeah.... kind of. But then reality kickes in..

[Melissa M]

I feel the same. As per my previous posts, I would love a way out. I am at a point that i want poeple to find out about me just so I can get it over with. Posting pictures all over this forum is a big step for me. At least now I am sharing. The problem I am having is not deciding if I should come out the closet, more like if I belong in the closet in the first place. But I am in it, and its closing in on me. I hope my view point help a bit.

Pm me if you feel like chatting.

xxMelissaxx

[sherri52]

I was like that then I started wearing more girlish clothes while in drab, nail polish 24/7, mascara and sometimes heavy so people would notice. My arms and legs are shaven but no one ever seems to notice them or say anything about it.

[Stacy L]

I was like that then I started wearing more girlish clothes while in drab, nail polish 24/7, mascara and sometimes heavy so people would notice. My arms and legs are shaven but no one ever seems to notice them or say anything about it.


Yeah, But you should hear what they say when you are not around! :)


Just Kidding! :hugs:



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[crystalann]

For me and I only speak for myself, once I came out that I was transgender and was going to live full time as "me" female. The weight of the world was lifted off of me. You have to live your life and if you feel others knowing about you, and OK with it then do so, if not then don't. Just do what you feel is right for you. Best of luck:)

[StaceyJane]

I hid in the closet for a long time and was outed when my wife accidently saw a picture of me.
It was rough for a while but being out has really been a great thing for me.

[5150 Girl]

Comming out really does take a load off your mind. Yes, it may cost a few freinds and family, but the long term gains are fenominal. Besides, if they're not understanding, were they really that good of freinds to start with?

[Dixie]

Few people outside of my ex knew about me, but they were all positive and thought that it was great. If I thought everyone would have that reaction it might just kill the thrill for me, but it would sure be nice to be accepted EVERYWHERE sometimes.:daydreaming:

[Tranny Tee]

I am still mostly in the closet, I rarely leave the house dressed in my little town and when I do it is to drive to the city. As time goes by I care less and less about hiding, and can think of fewer reasons to hide.

[Sarah Doepner]

There is a huge attraction to being free to dress as you wish, when and where you want to. We wouldn't be normal if we didn't want to enjoy ourselves like that. It may be time to plan a trip well away from home where you can have a chance to go out in a safe environment and see how you like it. If you can share that kind of positive experience with your wife, you may find a little bit of flexibility that doesn't exist now. Being suddenly outted may or may not get you what you want from your wife. It sounds like she has some issues to resolve and you might want to try and resolve those before getting some fresh air under your skirt. If she isn't as ready for it as you are, the embarrassment or resentment she might be feeling could be aggravated.

I'm a firm believer in "The Law of Unintended Consequences" so be careful what you wish for, you might get it.

[Frédérique]

At times, I wouldn't mind being outed. Does anyone else feel this way?

I wouldn’t like to be outed, but I really wouldn’t mind, since I think crossdressing is a very special and unique thing to do. I don’t expect anyone to understand it; in fact I’d expect people to regard my “outing” as a hallucination of some sort or another. I’d be somewhat amused, after the fact, about being exposed in this way, but I make light of most things. I worry about everything, but I’ve never worried about being outed, or what the consequences would ultimately be – go figure. :thinking: I guess I’m at peace with what I do, so it really doesn’t matter if I’m “in” or “out,” as long as I can keep doing what makes me happy. I would be remorseful if I lost the magic of crossdressing, however, since this requires being closeted and out of harm’s way (in my case). There is a state of innocence I try to maintain at all costs – so far, so good…:battingeyelashes:

[Mistybtm]

Yes at times I will walk out of my apt. during the day fully dressed but would never go past the covered walk at knight i would walk over to the office were the mail boxes are and back around 2 am when there are very few people out if any at all.:o:o:battingeyelashes:

[Jason+]

Today I was thinking that even though I am entirely in the closet at my wife's "request". At times, I wouldn't mind being outed. Does anyone else feel this way?

Sometimes it feels as if it would be so much easier to deal with actual reactions to who and what I am rather than the endless possibilities I can invent on my own just wondering.

[Emma Jean]

I am completely in the closet and do not anticipate coming out any time soon. I think that my wife suspects, but the old don't ask don't tell seems to be firmly in place. While I'm home alone I usually dress completely, but don't venture out. I do underdress every day in varying degrees. Minimum of panties and quite often bra and cami. Lately I have begun to wear ladies Levis jeans at times.

I also have a small part of me that would like to be outed, but I worry about the consequences. It is encouraging to listen to others who have had the courage to come out and deal with everything.

Thanks

[Ruth]

Well yes in theory it would be nice if everybody just knew about Ruth and accepted her.
Notice the two parts to the statement.
This is why in deference to my wife's wishes I keep Ruth under wraps. She believes it would upset a lot of people both family and friends if I came out. I'm not sure it's true but there's only one way to test that and I'm not about to do it.

[Vivian Best]

In the past I worried a lot about being outed. I came out to my wife many years ago and you would think her world came crashing down on her but she has come to a indifferent acceptance of Vivian. Now she worries more about me being outed than I do. So to try to keep a little peace between us on my dressing I do not do much overt dressing or going outside. I really want to go out more but sometimes you have to take what you can get.

[smoothline]

I am completely in the closet and do not anticipate coming out any time soon. I think that my wife suspects, but the old don't ask don't tell seems to be firmly in place. While I'm home alone I usually dress completely, but don't venture out. I do underdress every day in varying degrees. Minimum of panties and quite often bra and cami.
I also have a small part of me that would like to be outed, but I worry about the consequences. It is encouraging to listen to others who have had the courage to come out and deal with everything.

Thanks

Pretty much exactly my situation. I also have a part of me that wants me to get caught! And, yes, I too worry about the reaction!

[Peri Bender]

Coming out does not make everything better, right, or easy. We have worked through a lot of issues. Many stemed from dressing and having to hide it for so long. New issues have come up as well. I am SO glad I know. I am still learning and understanding. I have my good days and bad as does everyone.

Everyday is an adventure for all three of us :heehee: