the pros of transitioning at work (4 month update)

[Felicity71]

Helllo everyone, Its now been 4 and a half months since i started transitioning at my workplace gas station.

Im now seeing the positive effects of staying at my job that works with the general public. Voice practice every day. Im constantly refining my voice and listening to female customers as they speak back to me. Support from many customers who realize im transitioning. A good number are inquisitive about the changes they see in me. Its good to know most people accept me for who i really am now. Every now and then I will get someone who will ask did i have a brother working here called Allan. :)

Observations ive noticed. Children who come in aged between 5 and 12 have a habit of staring intently. A small number of males usually aged between 25 and 45 seem to be the most intolerent. Women and older males are the most accepting. I know alot of men dont mind now, and there are quite a few that will use the terms luv and dear, when i serve them.

Overall im now glad i stuck it out and look forward to eventually moving on to a better job when im ready. The CEO of the company is visiting next week and im looking forward to saying hello to him.


the old thread -
http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=124075

[TxKimberly]

Good for you and I am happy to see that you are pleased with the way things have worked out. That's about all you can really ask for out of life aint it - to be reasonably happy?

[morgan51]

Good to hear all is going well for you. Congratulations!

[Faith_G]

That's so great to hear. :) It gives me a lot of hope as I prepare to ask if I can transition at my current job.

[pamela_a]

Congratulations. I'm glad to hear things are going well and you've discovered most people really don't care.

[Chari]

So wonderful to hear you are becoming more comfortable and confident in who you are! Thanx for sharing this part of your life.

[TerryTerri]

Thanks for sharing your experience with us. It helps those of us who haven't reached as far as you are (in RLE) get a glimpse of what may befall us.
And, I'm glad your experience is mostly positive. I have worked convenience store / gas station jobs a lot in my past and I always enjoyed the customer contact. A few bozos but many really nice folk you get to meet that you never would have otherwise.

[Traci Elizabeth]

That's really wonderful news. Are you in Fem clothes or a uniform of sorts?

[Teri Jean]

Allana it is good to hear things are going so well for you. Take care.

Teri

[Veronica_Jean]

Allana,

It is wonderful that you shared your experience with us.

I am about 6 weeks away from going full time and I hope it goes as well as yours is.

Veronica

[boardpuppy]

It sounds as if things are working out great for you. Keep up the good work and pls keeep us posted on all the new developments.

Hugs,
Alice

[Daniela76]

Observations ive noticed. Children who come in aged between 5 and 12 have a habit of staring intently. A small number of males usually aged between 25 and 45 seem to be the most intolerent. Women and older males are the most accepting. I know alot of men dont mind now, and there are quite a few that will use the terms luv and dear, when i serve them.

Here in America I've noticed similar things.
I work in a pharmacy & have been public since January.

Most people don't seem to mind. They are generally too absorbed in their own lives to mind.

Kids are funny. Some look very intently. I just smile at them unless they seem to be rude. Then I give them a glaring & annoyed look.
Teenagers are terrible though. But they're rude to everyone.

Women are definitely the nicest. Most men are pretty decent too.
Every country is different, but there are certain men who are more "freaked out" by me than others. Here it seems to be young black males. This might seem racist, but I don't mean it as so. They look the hardest at me, maybe because I am so comfortable & pass reasonably well. Then they get pretty weird when they think they figured it out, then worse when they really do. I guess I must be cute enough to get a second glance, and a third sometimes, just to make sure. Hee-hee!!

[Felicity71]

That's really wonderful news. Are you in Fem clothes or a uniform of sorts?

We have 2 different types of shirts, unisex polo shirts which i used to wear mostly, and the blue shirts that come in either female cut or the male cut. Ive been allowed 2 female shirts about 2 months ago. They are distintive enough to be seen as female only. I use earings and necklace to help.

[Kimberly Marie Kelly]

I've been transitioned at work now for a about 4 1/2 months and like you I have had nothing but positive feedback from people. I've noticed that women and older men are the most accepting as well. Right now I feel good about work. Unlike you I can get away with a skirt and nice blouse, do have to wear stockings though, part of the dress code. But having no regrets at all.

it is so nice to hear someone else having a good experience too, continued good luck and hope you find a better job or promotion. Kimberly Marie Kelly :battingeyelashes:

[Melissa A.]

Allana, and kimberly as well, you both are stong and determined women, with courage to spare. I wish you nothing but good things as you move forward. congratulations!

hugs,

Melissa:)

[Felicity71]

Here in America I've noticed similar things.
I work in a pharmacy & have been public since January.

Most people don't seem to mind. They are generally too absorbed in their own lives to mind.

Kids are funny. Some look very intently. I just smile at them unless they seem to be rude. Then I give them a glaring & annoyed look.
Teenagers are terrible though. But they're rude to everyone.

Women are definitely the nicest. Most men are pretty decent too.
Every country is different, but there are certain men who are more "freaked out" by me than others. Here it seems to be young black males. This might seem racist, but I don't mean it as so. They look the hardest at me, maybe because I am so comfortable & pass reasonably well. Then they get pretty weird when they think they figured it out, then worse when they really do. I guess I must be cute enough to get a second glance, and a third sometimes, just to make sure. Hee-hee!!

Women are the nicest - they can be inquisitive and be tactful in asking questions, SOMETIMES -
1. hello, you look familiar. Please dont be offended but was your name Allan.
2. hi, omg, is that really you?
3. Ohh your transitioning, thats so sweet, my son has a friend whos gay. (LOL.)
4. Whatever makes you happy.
5. Hello, ive got to ask, are you an entertainer? (i look confused) I notice your pink fingernails. Do you work nights as a dragqueen. (i started to laugh)
6. Hi can i ask you a personal question, ive seen you change alot. Have you had a sex change? (crikey!)

Men from other cultures can be be odd about it all. I do remember someone from Lebanon giving me the most shocked look as he walked out the door. But of course white males will occasionally not like it. I notice those that are tradesmen can be very "blokey" ubermasculine almost laugh. The trick is not to care what others think, and stay focused on good customer service, unless they become offensive. Thankfully has not happened to me.

One thing that has helped me a great deal is that the company is very strong on anti-discrimination. Its a large company, so its got a reputation to keep. I can only imagine the difficulty of others working in businesses that dont observe that.