Lack of Feminity around me

[celeste26]

Of all the GG's in my life not a single one has high heels, most very rarely wear dresses and all have short hair. Both in my own family (siblings) and my sister's family and my wife's family all are wearing the pants and low heels and short hair.

I on the other hand have longer hair than any of them, have three pairs of high heels and probably more dresses than the whole lot of them.

What does this tell you about my family if anything?
Anyone else have similar situation?

[Kathi Lake]

Well, women don't need all the trappings of femininity to be and feel feminine - it's innate. We, however, seem to feel the need to glam ourselves up as much as possible to counteract our masculinity, perhaps.

Kathi

[Karren H]

Ohh yeah.. My wife has no dresses. One skirt she doesn't wear (too big for me! Ha!). Just bought a pair of one inch heels. Thought she was going to fall over when she wore them.. (Too small for me! Lol). My daughter does have some dresses and skirts but rarely wears them at all.. Jeans jeans jeans. Its all I ever see and you wonder why I hate womens jeans so much??

[Sally24]

I feel lucky in that my daughter (30 yrs old) loves skirts and dresses and some heels. My wife loves the dresses and skirts but rarely wears anything but low heels. I on the other hand only occasionally wear jeans, mostly I wear dresses. A dress is just so quintessentially feminine!!

[Jessy]

What does this tell you about my family if anything?
It might tell they have a different style they feel comfortable wearing. Different people have different taste. I think it's absolutely nothing to worry about, just stick to what feels right for you.

[Mackenzie]

I think Kathi said it well. We have three daughters. They are all very feminine and beautiful, but on any given day you will find them in jeans, flats and very casual attire. My wife prefers tennis shoes. But at the same time, wow can she doll up! She is so cute in her heels and dresses or coordinates.

My wife enjoys being comfortable as she home-schools and is very busy about the home during the day. My mom used to say of my wife, "She is beautiful in a potato sack!"

Even en femme, I feel very comfortable in femme jeans, a tunic or casual top, and the rest of the "trappings". So again, I agree with Kathi. We sometimes feel that we need the heels, the dresses, the jewelry to "feel feminine" because in reality we are masculine.

Mackenzie

[RADER]

I agree; went to the grocery store the other day, Not one dress or skirt.
Anywhere you go, it is about 1 in 50 that wares a skirt or dress.
In those good old days, as a kid in school, 95% of women wore a dress
or a skirt. :sad: Rader

[GingerLeigh]

Oh, my wife absolutely hates nylons, she only wears them to "special" functions. She says they're like being stuffed into a sausage, or something like that. (She knows I love seeing her in them though, and it creeps her out)

Makeup is minimalistic, almost non-existant. I watch her do it to learn on the sly, but I think I know more about it than she does?! That's pretty funny.

Dresses? She admits that she doesn't own or wear enough of them. Most of the time its slacks, sweaters, tees. Blandsville.

At least she has long thick luxurious hair, and feminine in every other way that matters. Regardless, I still think she's hot any way she dresses.

My daughter cries when she isn't wearing a dress. I think she's a real girly girl.

Ginger

[Jenny Beth]

I'm going to put the shoe on the other foot. I don't wear or even own suits, ties and dress shoes. As much as my wife says she'd like me to wear things like that every once in a while she knows I'm not comfortable in them. We both wear what we are comfortable in and for her that's not dresses, high heels and make up and I am very okay with that. She's the woman in our relationship no matter how she dresses and for me that's feminine enough.

[Staci G]

Jeans jeans jeans. Its all I ever see and you wonder why I hate womens jeans so much??

Karren I have never wondered why I know why. I had an SA try to tell me I need a pair of girly jeans, I said No I really dont I have to wear them all the time why onn earth would I spend good money on jeans when I dont like the ones I have now. SO I stand with you on the anti jean front.

[Jaydee]

When she was younger, my wife used to wear skirts and dresses all the time. She is now in her 50s and only rarely at special occassions will she wear a dress. If she wears pantyhose she whines about how they are SO uncomfortable. If she wears 1" heels, she complains all day about it. Her normal clothing of choice is jeans, hiking boots, and either a t-shirt or sweatshirt.

But then on the other hand I hate ties and only rarely wear suits, so I guess I can't complain too much.

Jaydee

[JulieC]

Jeans jeans jeans. Its all I ever see and you wonder why I hate womens jeans so much??

Because you can't play hockey very well in them? :lol:

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More seriously...

Women hating pantyhose: I've written about this before, but a lot of hatred can be traced to ill fitting, badly selected, poorly spent on, unresearched pantyhose. Pantyhose aren't socks, but they are treated and evaluated as that. Pantyhose can be very comfortable.

Women hating heels: Buy cheap shoes, get cheap results. Don't shop for properly fitting/wearing shoes, get improperly fitting/wearing shoes. 3 inch plus heels CAN be very comfortable. If you buy the wrong shoes, they can kill your feet in minutes.

Heels and pantyhose are often lumped together as evil. But, much of the dissatisfaction with them is created by this idea that all pantyhose and heels are more or less alike. This is completely false. It is just as invalid as me saying "all pantyhose are comfortable" because I know what pantyhose work for me and what to wear. I have heels that hurt my feet after an hour or so. I have heels I could wear for a week straight and be happy as a clam in mud. Not all heels are great, not all heels are bad.

My wife owns more than 20 dresses, and wears them frequently. Lots of skirts too. She has about 30 pairs of shoes now. About 20 have a heel of some kind. it is very, very rare to find my wife not wearing pantyhose with a dress or skirt. She also says (and I agree) that many heels (especially pumps) are a LOT more comfortable if you're wearing pantyhose.

As to the general public; spring has sprung where I am, and in driving about town I've been on the lookout for women wearing dresses. I've seen hundreds in the last few weeks. It's not a majority, or even 20%. But, plenty of women are wearing dresses.

Each to their own.

[kellycan27]

It's not always convenient to "dress up" to run errands or do housework. I have been living f/t now for the past 6 years, and the novelty wears off after a while. I have a full time job, a household to run, and a host of activities that keep me busy... The army says.. it's not just a job, it's an adventure. I say..It's not just an adventure it's a job.... The 50's were a different era ( so I am told):heehee: The pace was a lot slower, and gg's had more time on their hands. Today well.......... I am sure you know.

Kel

[NathalieX66]

I'm beginning to think that wearing dresses & skirts is almost entirely a crossdresser thing.

[NikkiSoCal]

I'm beginning to think that wearing dresses & skirts is almost entirely a crossdresser thing.


Who was it that said crossdressers are the last real women? I think that means anything since the 1960s is out. Nikki from the 50s,

[kellycan27]

Probably............ a crossdresser :heehee:

[Jenny Beth]

Who was it that said crossdressers are the last real women? ,

If it was anybody here they better go hide. :straightface:

[Freddy12]

OK, for my :2c:

My observation is that young women are more often wearing casual short skirts. I think it's a trend, and I must say that I approve. That trend has not been adopted by middle-aged women, and I imagine it won't be.

Wearing a dress is for cd's the ultimate statement about who they are. If one wears panties, no one will know. If one wears a bra under a thick shirt, while it may be noticed, it probably will not be noticed. There is no way a skirt won't be noticed. It is a statement. It says that the wearer wants to be feminine.

I am not to the point of wearing a dress in public. I hope that moment comes soon.

[kimdl93]

My wife requires that she dress in suitable business attiire. she always wears suits, dresses or skirt/jackets. at home she's more casual, but still together. My eldest daughter (mid 20's) always seems to be wearing cut skirts/dresses and heels that even I think might be a bit extreme! So, I'm in good company!

[Tina B.]

It's the way of the new world. I've been doing a lot of shopping the last 2 months, in a small city, and have found it impossible to find a dress, and hard to find skirts in plus sizes. Tops and pants fill the racks. In the smaller sizes there are some dresses, and really cute skirts, but they seem to think large women don't wear anything but pants.
But under a size 18 there seems to be plenty to pick from, and someone is buying them, so I assume they are wearing them someplace. I just don't believe Sears, Kohl's and Target are stocking all of those just for the male customers, and if they are they should let us know so we would be even more comfortable shopping in their stores.
Tina B.

Helping the economy one blouse at a time!

[JustWendy]

I have three pairs of high heels. What does this tell you about my family if anything?

You only have 3 pairs of heels? :eek: Tells me your family should take you shopping :D

[Barbara_MacKenzie]

I'm fortunate, my wife wears skirts to work; she has to shave/defoliate her legs and, because pantyhose aren't comfortable for her (don't let yout legs breath, etc), she has to put colour on to her legs. To be honest, most GG's can't be bothered any more, far easier just to wear pants/trousers,

My observations, on walking through my local supermarket is that most, though not all, females are dressed either like men or like something you would through into the trash - sad but true.

Disagree? Go walk through your local store.

Barbara

[Lynn Marie]

It really is amazing that so many women refuse to take advantage of the shoes and lingerie and clothes available to them. Hell, they remind me of men! Then again, in some ways, so do I!

IMHO A big part of the CD experience is the way women's clothing feels on us. Not as much about the look, although the look is important and becomes more important as we get out the door and interact with the rest of the world around us. The feel is the erotic part to me. Maybe that's the reason that so many CD's dress way more provocitively than you would expect. Who wants to be middle-aged and average?

I get the feeling that some women are afraid of the "feel" of heels and skirts and lingerie. Maybe it's the "I am not a ****" look. Also, mothers tend to dress down and way more conservatively than those pretty young things we married.

[Teri Jean]

As you all have heard before, I work at a University. Any how yesterday as I was getting into my vehicle I spotted a young lady in a skirt(denim) but a skirt non-the-less. First off for her to wear a skirt took some real fortitude but the fact she had it at a 45 degree turn and the pocket that should have been over her left cheek was dead center. Now being a trans girl I should have talk to her but then it was a start as most women here, including the faculty do not dress for work. Yep, the dress code is sweats, pjs, and what ever was lieing under the bed or in the hamper. You see a suit(male or female) it is probably on the administrative employees. What is a girl to do? Teri

[Hope]

I think this has to do with 2 things - first, fashion (and not just in clothing, all of American culture) has been stagnant since, well, the second half of the 1990's. I think that itself has to do with 2 things First, real wages have been declining since then, which is depressing which leads people to care less about appearance. Second, with real wages declining, and cost of living increasing, people have to work harder to simply maintain their standard of living, much less get ahead. People who have to work harder have less energy left over to be involved in any sort of cultural activities... including fashion. When one is struggling to survive, art and culture are not primary concerns. I know there is a significant war weariness going on with the constant fighting and everything under the sun being labeled a "war." Tired people just want to rest and rejuvenate. Looking good is not a priority. Lets also talk about obesity, we have become a nation of chunky monkeys, and while there are those who are "fat and proud" most folks who are significantly over weight are ashamed of their physical appearance and dress in order to draw less attention to themselves. That means looking as bland as possible. And bland means pants. Ok, that is more than 2 reasons.

I also think the political climate for the past decade has been depressing - no matter which side one is on, the divisiveness and reduction of political debate to talking points and cheep jabs is depressing.

Finally, the recession is playing a part too. High unemployment, leads to fear and anxiety. I have heard women suggest that they feel the need to compete with men for their jobs, and that they want to compete on every level. For some reason that seems to mean fashion as well. So until me start showing up in the office in heels and skirts, women will be tending towards pants... at least until some of the fear and anxiety surrounding employment tapers off.

Thankfully, the indicators seem to imply that the economy is in recovery, some of our "wars" seem to be winding down, and the new administration is constantly trying to broker peace, in contrast with the previous administration that made a LOT of political capitol on polarizing the nation. So it seems that things are back on track, in at least a few ways, and I expect to see a huge explosion of pretty and glam in the next 18-24 months as people finally get to take a breath of fresh air.

But I have been wrong before.

[Slim Jim]

What does this tell you about my family if anything?

It tells me they're among the (at least) 90% of normal females in society today. Real women don't often wear dresses and heels.

[Bev06 GG]

I'm beginning to think that wearing dresses & skirts is almost entirely a crossdresser thing.

LOl, well Nathallie, you probably just hit on why a lot of you get read when your out and about then.
Joking apart I guess women dont wear dresses or skirts as much as they used to do. I know that there was a time when I'd never have worn trousers but now wear them the majority of the time.

That said my partner never wears a suit and tie which for me is somewhat of a disappointment because I love to see guys dressed up. I'd never criticise him though because like you say, people wear what they feel comfortable in.
bev

[JulieC]

It tells me they're among the (at least) 90% of normal females in society today. Real women don't often wear dresses and heels.

Wow! I never knew. I better turn my fake-woman wife in for a real woman! :lol: (just joking on the square here SlimJim!)

More seriously...

It depends on setting. If you go into a grocery store on a Saturday morning, your chances of finding a woman in a dress or heels is pretty low.

If you go into a courthouse, with lots of lawyers around, many of the female lawyers will be wearing heels. In a business district, you're likely to find many women wearing skirts and heels. Etc...etc...

It's all about setting.

My personal observations are that the frequency of women wearing dresses (and yes, even young women) is on the rise.

[Karen564]

My daughter does have some dresses and skirts but rarely wears them at all.. Jeans jeans jeans. Its all I ever see and you wonder why I hate womens jeans so much??

Umm, Ma,:heehee: Haven't we had discussion before?

You know I Love my Jeans!!! :battingeyelashes:

[mklinden2010]

No lack of dressed-up ladies in my circles - so long as you assume running chores is work and going to movies is just inviting wasting good clothes on sticky seats. Other activities, lots of pleasant surprises.

And, if anything, the younger ladies seem to be rediscovering Spring skirts, hose, heels, etc. I see the affect it has on the males and, I gotta say, it gives new meaning to the word attractive... At any rate, I never expected to see tatoo-ed girls wearing gowns, etc... I will, however, learn to get used to it.

My SOs have always loved clothes and being dressed. They can be mistaken for men with the yard work and yard clothes, but give them a shot at dinner out or a dance and prepare for a long wait while they work up a good "dazzle" for the event.

Everyday stuff, yeah, blah. But, professional work and cocktail parties, I see 'em "putting on the doo" like the 50s and 60s were actually like the movies...

Nothing wrong with that. And, this time everything is air-conditioned!

[Katt GG]

Of all the GG's in my life not a single one has high heels, most very rarely wear dresses and all have short hair. Both in my own family (siblings) and my sister's family and my wife's family all are wearing the pants and low heels and short hair.

I on the other hand have longer hair than any of them, have three pairs of high heels and probably more dresses than the whole lot of them.

What does this tell you about my family if anything?
Anyone else have similar situation?


It's sad but true, us GG's don't wear dresses or heels like we used to.
Most work places allow woman to wear jeans or at least pants and if your over weight at all wearing heels hurt your feet. Even churches are progressive enough that you don't have to wear dresses.
Sad isn't it.:sad:
You've made me think about how little I dress like a woman.
Wow.
Thank You,
Katt:o

[Michelle-Leigh]

Why would anyone think pants more comfortable than skirts or dresses, especially in warm weather ? If I were to go 24/7, I would throw out all but one pair of pants (for crawling under the car, etc).....