Inquiring Minds Want To Know - Week 1

[Di]

The GGs have some questions they'd like to ask so as to better understand the CDs. We've put the questions together and will be posting them in sets of three every week. Please feel free to answer any number of them. We appreciate your input!


1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

[Sarah811]

1. I don't really know, some years ago it was sexual, now I find it relaxing, calming and stress releiving!
2. I am afraid not! I have a wonderful wife who only has one real failing, she cannot accept another lifestyle or viewpoint other than the one she was traditionally brought up with. To tell her would end our marriage, would leave me with no where to live and possibly having to fight to see our children. It does mean I get moody and stressed out sometimes for what she sees as no real reason. If I were able to dress once in a while or even talk clothes, hair and make up with her it woule mean a lot.
3. I am attracted to my wife enough to supress my girl side for weeks or even months at a time, and I would always try to put her first. However I know I can't stop so even though I am devoted to her I could never chose her over Sarah.

[Carroll]

1) Because I like to

2) Yes, and she loves it

3) yep!

[MiraM]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

I wear them for several reasons. They are comfortable for one, and I like the way they look. Also, there is a female part of myself that needs to be expressed. I believe that I am neither wholly male or female, but somewhere in the middle of the gender spectrum. Wearing female clothes is a way that I can present all aspects of myself as the necessity arises, without permanent changes to my body (although if financially able to do so, I would make some changes).

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

My husband is a FtM TS, and I am fully open with him about my gender status and dressing. I was not open with my first wife, but I am not sure if that had anything to do with our divorce as she has seen me dressed since we split and has had no problem. I think the divorce was more because she was sleeping with everyone in town but me.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

My husband does it for me way more than my female side could ever hope to do.:o:D

[Lorileah]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

I look good in them, I have the legs to show and I like how they feel


2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

Tough one. Well yes mostly I was for as long as the relationship lasted. 35 years. Totally honest? 95% of the time. All aspects were discussed at one point or another. I doubt I have ever totally honest with anyone.

Current relationship and future as far as partners, I tell everyone up front and so far, nothing is changed.


3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

I don't think I understand this. Am I a narcissist? Absolutely. If I didn't like how I looked I wouldn't do it. Am I always in love with myself? No, I have left me on occasion and then got back together again, I work it out. But it is different than with SO's. I have strange ideas about that. I am not one to "worship" but I am one to make them a best friend and partner. Like I said I don't think I understand that question totally and if the GG's expect 100% total loyalty and a fairytale life, they are going to find failure far more than success. But if they are looking for someone to be their equal and best friend. better success. Works the other way around and maybe even more so. Any TG who expects total and complete understanding and acceptance is going to be lonely very soon.

[susiegrl19]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

It's who Iam and it makes me feel good about myself.



2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

Yes and she supports me 100%


3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side

Yes

[joandher]

HI All

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

I don't honestly know, I started 58 yrs ago, at first I thought I was some kind of freak ,as you couldn't tell anybody or you would have been put in an institute ,but then came the internet and it was all a different ball game

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

She knows and doesn't mind me under dressing, but doesn't know that I go a lot further,and it really hurts me,and makes me feel bad, but is it worth destroying 2 lives if she took it badly at our time of life

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side

I am attracted to my wife even more ,she is my partner, lover, and best friend and hopefully will be forever,


HOPE THIS HELPS

:hugs: J-JAY

[wishing2bali]

1) I have always felt more comfortable, and relaxed while wearing anything feminine. It's a sense of peace for me.

2) I am not out to her. I didn't dress, nor think about it the first year and a half we were together, but the urge is stronger than ever, which makes it difficult for me, in that I can get upset easily at things that usually would not bother me. If I did tell her, she would leave me, no questions asked. I couldn't live with that decision.

3)I am much more attracted to my SO, than my girl-side. If I wasn't I would not have moved 150+ miles away from my family to be with her.

[StaceyJane]

1, I dress because I want to be a woman.

2. Mostly. She knows about Stacey but relly doesn't want to discuss it. I tell her when I go out as Stacey but she has never wanted to talk with me about the deeper female feelings I have.

3. yes, I am more attracted to her than I am my girl side.

[Deborah Jane]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

I have no idea, it seems to be something I need to do and has been for quite sometime.


2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

Yes, she has known from the very beginning [we met on here]


3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

I'm not attracted to my girl side at all!

My partner is the love of my life, she is my soul mate, my best friend and my lover.

[Phyliss]

1. In a nut shell, my therapist said “It’s a MOM thing” My mother passed away when I was 9 and not having the influence of an adult female in my life, I borrowed those clothes of hers that my Dad saved. When I got married it stopped until my wife took sick and the old feelings returned. Now that she’s passed, I’m becoming more than just a simple CD, getting kinda serious about this.

2. At first I was secretive about it but decided it was too much work hiding everything, and came clean. She wasn’t happy about it.

3. I was more attracted to her than my girl side, however that kinda changed once I let that side out of the proverbial bottle.

[Mirani]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
It is all I have in my wardrobe now :) - and that's because I feel real now - presenting to the world as I want to. Knowing I am not a woman, but wishing I was and relating as one.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?
My SO is a significant partner to my dressing. My guide, protector and encourager. She knew I was a crossdresser before we became partners (recognised me when I was out one night - we are work partners. I didn't know she had seen me . . . I didn't see her).

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
Not sure I fully understand the question . . . I am not attracted to me.

I was a part-time CD. Am now 24/7 CD, not intending to do SRS.

[dilane]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

For me it's not about the clothing per se; it's about presenting as a woman. I like to go out and about en femme, and clothing is a great help in that regard :). But so is hair, makeup, deportment, voice, etc, etc ...

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

Yes. Told her before we got married (many years ago!), after we'd been going together several months. So I did hide it at first.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

Yes.

[charlie]

Hello Di!
The main reason that I wear female clothing is that I feel relaxed, feminine, and not a pushy boss anymore. I love women and love feeling like one.

I am now open and honest with my SO. There was a long time that I did not tell her about my dressing; I was afraid that she would leave me if she found out. She hates it, but she is still here! I tell her anything she wants to know.

I love woman and adore my wife. She is more important then my feminine self. If she was to say she was leaving me if I did not stop I would try. I'm not sure that I could and remain sane, but I would try for her.

[Jessy]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

My feminine side is a strong part of me that I need to express, and I love the clothing way more than guy clothing. As a guy I feel limited and suppress parts of me that only seem to come out as a girl, without any boundries.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

I don't have a SO at the moment, but I pray that I find a SO that I can be open and honest with about everything.
Reality is a lot tougher however... I've never really had any luck with girls and I'm not so sure that if I find a SO, I have the courage to risk the whole relationship by the CDing...

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

I find this an odd comparison. If I have a partner, I'd be attracted to her most. My girl-side isn't a matter of attraction, it is a part of me.

[Cor]

1. I dress because I sometimes feel far more comfortable in my female side, and because I love how I look in my female clothes.

2. I am open with my SO about it. It's a turn-off for her, though, so I still keep the actual dressing to what little private me-time I can manage.

3. Absolutely, she'll always be my #1 lady :)

[minalost]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

I'm compeled to do so. I enjoy it. It's fun and relaxing. I like the look and the sensious feel of the clothing. But mostly because I'm compeled to do so and have been all my life.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

Moslty... My wife knows about my cding but not the day to day details. I sometimes feel like a sneak, and she sometimes feels left out of part of my life. I am trying to change these things, but it's hard...

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

I love my wife MORE than my crossdressing (I think this is what you are asking...). That being said I've admitted to myself that this is a part of me that won't go away. I like to think I could give it up for my wife (I did for almost 7 years...), but the compultion just gets worse the more I deny it.

Hope this wasn't "too much information."
:hugs:

[Ruth]

1) Because I like it.
2) Yes.
3) Question doesn't make sense.

[Jonianne]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

I want to identify "with" females, even though I don't identify "as" a female. There is a deep setteled spirit inside, knowing it's OK for me -a guy!- to identify with females in some ways.



2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

Yes, I have learned to be completly open and honest, but that came the hard way from my first marriage.

I told my wife now, Angel, as soon as she said she was interested in me, years before we married. She went to triess meetings with me to see what it was about and took me out for my first outing before we married. Honesty is so much better! Even the couple times when we hit a bumpy road concerning the CD'ing, she would say: "Well, it's not like you didn't tell me from the begining!"



3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

I love my wife with all my heart and always put her first before the dressing. I am more than willing to live by the boundries and groundrules we worked out and there have been plenty of times it was necessary to put the cd'ing completly on the backburner. But, she also knows my femme side is an intergal part of who I am and she has given to me more in that area than I ever dreamed of.

[sissystephanie]

DI,

1. I dress simply because I love the feel, fit, and look of nice feminine clothes. I have been doing it for over 60 years!

2. My late wife knew before we married, and totally supported me for the almost 50 years we were married!

3. I was always her man, no matter what I wore! She has been gone for 5 years now, but I still love and miss her and always will!

[bredalee25]

answer for #1
Because it feels natural to dress in womens clothes.

answer for #2
My wife knows and has no problem with me dressing as long as it's only around our home.

As for #3
My wife loves me for me not for the way I dress

[Renee_E]

Mostly I wear feminine clothes because they are comfortable and I find they fit me better than most men's clothes. Somethings are just down right cute and i love the way they look.

My wife is well aware of my desire to wear things that are not gender appropriate. Some times we even go out shopping when I am dressed in clothes that are more feminine than masculine. We both know that I would never pass as a female.

My wife is always first. I don't ever want to hurt or embarrass her with my crossdressing.

[Di]

Thank you so much ladies:hugs:

About the question 3 that some did not understand I think it came from a post here in m2f section that so many seemed to say in it that they were sexually excited by their girl side and not so much their partners. It was as if they saying the wife did not measure up to their ideal woman they created.BUT all your answers seem to say the opposite and that is a relief.
Thanks everyone for your input.

[Kathi Lake]

#1 - I wear what are considered women's clothes because I like them. They're pretty in ways that men's clothes will never be - the colors, the fabrics, the cut. Also, I like the way I look in them. Do I look like a total woman? Not necessarily, but it just looks "right"

#2 - I am open and honest with my spouse as much as she wants me to be. She told me years ago, and still maintains that she doesn't want to see, doesn't want to participate, and doesn't want to know. I respect that, although often feel that I am "lying by omission" by not telling her. Odd, eh?

#3 - I am only sexually attracted to my wife. Seeing myself dressed up does not excite me - most likely because guys are visual and I am one uuuugly woman! :)

Kathi

[suchacutie]

1) I wear feminine clothing because that's what Tina wears. Tina is a part of my being that we (my wife and I) discovered 5 years ago. Once identified, the only way to find out who she is was to let her experiment and explore. Tina likes to be her own person and is developing everything from a voice to a personality to a sense of presentation, including clothes, shoes, makeup, hair, and accessories. She's already made mistakes with clothes and they have gone to charity. Clothes are only one part of who she is, but her sense of style is definitely maturing.

2) My wife and I discovered Tina together and we continue to experience this exploration of Tina together.

3) Not sure how to answer this as the question is actually ambiguous, but let me try. No one can replace my wife. My attraction to her is based on love and respect. There is no comparison to anyone else! Tina is a part of my existence. Tina is my wife's girlfriend. Since Tina is clearly a part of me, she is important, but there is nothing more important than my wife.

[Fab Karen]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
1) god told me to.
2) nope, because I don't have one of those.If I did I would from the start.
3) see #2. And weird question- I like the way I look en femme but I don't get sexual excitement from it.

[Mary Jane]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing? I can not explain, it is just something I need to do from time to time. For many years I had an 'itch' that wasn't getting scratched. When I started dressing fully that 'itch' went away.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship? Yes, my wife knows and tolerates it since she knows of my need. I dress only when she is away from home.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side? Well, my wife is my number one love and I have never thought about really loving my fem side. I just enjoy the dressing.

Unlike many girls, my dressing is more like a hobby.

[Laura Evans]

#1. It expresses the feminine side of my personality. I love the variety of styles and colors that feminine clothing offers. Mens clothing is so dull.

#2. My current SO has been told early in our relationship and has been supporting me 100%, it has now been 4 1/2 years. I am the same person whether in male or female clothing and she knows that and has said she appreciates my having and expressing that feminine side. In previous relationships and marriage I kept that a secret and always felt bad about doing that. Before my current relationship I had decided that I would no longer do that and felt it was worth taking the risk of loosing her in order to have a fully honest relationship and one that would allow me to express my feminine side openly. I have not been disapointed.

#3. Not quite sure what you are asking in this question but I would say yes. I am more attracted to my SO then to myself, she is #1 in my life.

[SherriePall]

Gosh, Di, you really know how to ask the tough questions.
Here goes.
1. The number one reason I wear feminine clothing? I don't know. Since I was little I have been attracted to women's clothing. Wearing them and make-up and all the other little things that change my outer presence to match my inner makes me feel right.

2. Am I open and honest with my wife? For the most part I am. She knows about my dressing ever since I told her some 10 years ago nearly 25 years into our marriage. She assumes that I dress when she goes out (and she is usually right) and she know that I purchase clothing and make-up without telling her.
Actually, there is a lot of don't ask, don't tell here. But she does speak her mind when she wants to.

3. Am I attracted to my wife as much as I am my femme side? More so. I married a beautiful girl and am still married to a beautiful woman (both on the outside and inside).
My femme side is a poor second to her. And while my wife often believes she is not as attractive as she once was, she is very wrong.

There's my answers.

[flatlander_48]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
While I have feminine clothing, I don't wear it very often. In warmer weather, people drop in, windows are open, etc. I underdress about 80% of the time. It just feels good and I like the squeeze (to say nothing of the Na-Na-Na-Na-Na Factor!)...
2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?
Did not crossdress while I was married to the 1st wife. I had pretty much suppressed the memories of playing around with my mother's clothes as a child. I didn't start doing any sort of crossdressing until after my divorce and shortly after beginning the relationship with the woman who eventually became my 2nd wife. She knows essentially everything about me.
3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
I would say much more so, but it's different. It's like the difference between looking outside and looking inside. Your viewpoint and perspective changes...

[lady sawdust]

1. Because it makes me feel sexy in a way that my masculine side fails at.
2. Currently single, but when I was dating, I kept my dressing to myself. I don't think the deception hurt any of my relationships. I've always been a private person and dressing has never been the centre of my life, so I can't imagine it effecting my relationships any more than the other activities that I kept from them (i.e. my writing).
3. Aside from one time I've always been more attracted to them than my girl side. Their sexiness is what I always aspired to.

[Carla Williams]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

They are so much more comfortable than mens clothes, they look better, fit better, and make me feel so much better, in a relaxed way, nothing else.



2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

I am single.



3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

See above answer.

[Rianna Humble]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

Because I gave up fighting the need to wear them and now accept that I am transgendered and will need to go further towards transition

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

I don't have an SO - that is partly because fighting my need to express my feminine side meant I was unable to forge meaningful relationships and has left me extremely shy

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

N/A

[sherri52]

The GGs have some questions they'd like to ask so as to better understand the CDs. We've put the questions together and will be posting them in sets of three every week. Please feel free to answer any number of them. We appreciate your input!


1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

#1. I dress because it makes me feel good and I like the way womens clothing fits. I also like the larger selection of clothing in comparison to mens.

#2 I was open and honest with both of my wives and still neither were accepting

#3 I loved my wives, I only liked the way I looked

[AKAMichelle]

1) Cd'ing use to be sexual in the early days which is probably one of the most confusing parts of it. Because if it is sexual can't you modify your behaviour, and the answer is somewhat. It always comes back with no warning and common items to alert you. There is no cause and effect trigger. The oddest thing is that the reasons for dressing change over time. Sometime back the reason was relaxation and de-stressing. Even that reason has modified slightly. I guess this is what makes accepting us so difficult because we can't truly explain it to anyone much less ourselves.

2) I wasn't honest with my wife about my cd'ing for 25 years. The reasons for keeping it secret is different for everyone, but mine was initially was that I thought I could beat it. I was so ashamed of this problem that I didn't want anyone to know anything about it. Over time you eventually learn that you can't fix it or make it go away. Then you are left with shame and the fear of what it will do to your marriage if your SO found out. None of us ever think about the damage that it does now to our marriage. The dishonesty works like a termite slowly destroying the marriage.

3) This one is definitely a "YES", but things have changed since we are preparing to file for divorce. The cd'ing has little to do with that decision but it is still a small part of the reason. I have always been a romantic and did little things for her as a surprise, but in the end it wasn't enough. I know this answer will send shockwaves, but I have to say it. The desire to dress does diminish when my marriage is Great and when the marriage isn't as good then the desire does increase. It has taken me a lot of years to see this correlation.

[2B Natasha]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

Answers

1) I like the way they look. I love the bold statements that you can make. The fabrics and the feel.

2) the ex. I tried to be open wither but. One. She didn't want to hear about it. Two I was young and couldn't put how I felt or why I felt the way I did at the time into words so Natasha would come out in the worst way and in shocking ways. No wonder she didn't want to talk about it. The current women I am interested in I told the first time we meet face to face. I had dropped hints earlier about it and she picked up on them. She wasn't freaked out in the slightest and as a matter of fact has been out with Natasha clubbing and shopping. None issue.

3) There is no possible way I could be more attracted to Natasha more then a GG. Manly the current interest. Natasha is just some fluzzy that likes to go out and dress up. The GG makes my heart sing and puts a smile on my face with just a thought of here and takes my breath away to look at. I was sitting having a coffee today when I recieved an e-mail from her. Just seeing that she wrote me almost, ok it did, make me cry with happiness. How could anything ever overcome that feeling?!

[Lynn Marie]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

I like the way womens' clothes feel on my body. I also like the way I look, but that is more of a challenge to improve.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

No, my GF does not know. We don't live together, so that helps a lot.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

I like and love my SO. I also like my girl-side, but in a different way. I like things pretty much the way they are.

[Kaz]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

I like the idea that there is only one reason... I wish! So you want me to not tell you all the reasons? Well the one that come sto mind instintively is that I feel good in them. they are comfortable, they work for me... it just "feels " right... what you may like to know is how I feel about men's clothes...?

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

There is an assumption here that a lack of disclosure is a deception. I would suggest that is a flawed concept and there is a strong empirical base to support this. I love my SO and my family and will vigorously seek to protect them above my own interests, which in this regard is secondary and relatively low on any scale of human importance. I am VERY CLEAR about this. Does my SO know...yes, because she has found out things over the years.. have I denied anything...no... have we entered into discussions... no... I know the received wisdom from those who have had positive outcomes is that you should be open and honest.... but the received wisdom from those for whom this has created the disaster they feared leaves me convinced that I will protect and nurture those who I am committed to above all else. My values here are very straight forward.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

If you are asking me to choose... it is a no-brainer. My partner is the the most significant person in my life, with the possible complication of kids and now a grandchild... My responsibilities and my natural loyalties and love for these people are fundamental to my being. Would I put this at risk just so I can where pantyhose? I am too old and have been here too long. If I could do life again, given where we are now.. yeah I'd be open and honest. But the reality is that my SO (I think she is not so much an SO as a real person with feelings, attitudes, belief systems, etc.. by the way - the term SO serves to diminish this as it generices some fundamentally important interpersonal issues) does not want this level of detail... and quite frankly I respect that. I am sure many of you will tell me I am wrong and that and what she really wants is....

You may be right, and I am sure that I am possibly wrong.

Sorry... had a rant! the question? I don't understand it... are you asking me to choose between wearing girls' clothes from time to time and my whole family structure? Or are you asking me if wearing girls' clothes diminishes my love/feelings for my SO? Or is it more deeply personal? If my SO were to be more sexually active would this change things? Yes and No.

Hope this helps... when you get the questions right I will look forward to giving greater insights!

Love Kaz xx

[windycissy]

1. I wish I knew!
2. Nope. I keep my secrets well, no harm, no foul
3. Yep, especially when she dolls herself up in a nice dress...

[Angiemead12]

1) It started for fetish, now its just more comfortable and I love feeling and looking feminine

2) yes i am, it has its ups and downs! ups are she helps with my makeup, my photos, my poses, clothes shopping. downs are she is scared i will transition and leave her

3) i love my partner more than my girl side. without her i wouldnt be here.

[giuseppina]

1. It started as an escape and an indicator I was having trouble with bullies at school. The message didn't get through until well after I left secondary school.

2. I've never had an SO and I don't know if I ever will. It's only recently that I've felt attracted to a lady, but it's never gone beyond that. Having said that, it is my plan to inform a future GF of my likes at an appropriate time (when the relationship looks serious).

3. It's hard to answer this one, but I don't think autogynephilia applies to me.

[kaitlin]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
It's hard to explain, I just feel so much more in touch with myself, and I
very much enjoy the feel and look of my clothes!
2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?
From the very beginning I was 100% honest with her as to how I felt! I told her
what I had done in the past and what I wanted to do in the future. She was all for
it, wanting to help in many ways!
3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side? More so! We are very
happy together!

[Babette]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?


IMHO, I think feminine clothes sometimes look better on me than my male clothes. If you ask my wife, she would probably disagree.



2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?


100% open and honest.



3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

If I were ever so inclined to try, I could never hold a candle to my wife. She puts me to shame in both charm and beauty. Therefore, I have no choice but to appreciate her to the fullest and enjoy doing so.

Babette

[5150 Girl]

1. Because in my heart, I am a woman

2. Yes, from the start. Somtimes she even does me up like I'm her life size Barbie doll...

3, I'm not 100% sure what the question is asking?

[Alice Torn]

1) I don't know all the reasons I do it. They feel good, i have nice legs in hose and heels, maybe mother issues, other issues, try to look like lovely women i seen. Love certain styles and looks. Never had a steady girlfriend. 2) No SO at this time. 3) The lady i create in the mirror, is a version of a dream lady. Yes, she is my lady at this time.

[Rachel Morley]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
It allows me to see on the outside what I feel on the inside. I want to (need to?) feel feminine often ("feel" often not necessarily "look" often). Crossdressing allows me to tap into and enhance a side of my personality that I think is healthy and benefits me emotionally, spiritually and ultimately enhances my life.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?I am open and honest. She knew all about me before we were together as we met on a CD forum.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side? I am attracted to my partner way more than my girl side, but thankfully I don't have to make a choice as she likes a feminine husband (especially in how he acts), but hypothetically, lets say she didn't like it, I'd try my best to come to a compromise where I would be able to get a small amount if girl time without upsetting her. Her happiness is the most important thing in my life.

[Karenmarie]

1. I love to wear feminine clothing, I love the way it feels and its so much
more comfortable. Mainly, I love to present as a woman and WOULD
love to completely pass as a woman.
2. No, I'm not. My marriage would be over and my marriage is VERY
important to me.
3. I have managed to keep Karen secret for 15 years, even though I do
find myself "blowing up" for no apparent reason. So, I assume my
answer is that I'm more attracted to my wife then to Karen.

Hope that all of these answers will help you and good luck to you both.

Karen

[girlygirl152]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
I wear girls clothing because it feels good and i really enjoy the styles and fashions and the fabrics there are to choose from

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?
Im not out with my gf about doing this and it really does make me feel bad that i havent. I just truly worry about what she would say if she knew.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
Definetly! I love her more than anything and she is the most beautiful girl I have ever seen. Ive truly never been attracted to any other girl but her

[theresa]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

A compulsion to be who I am

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship? Yes I am, although I know I am lucky and I totally understand some CD's not able to be fully open to their SO, even tho they want to.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side? Oh yes.

[Chickhe]

1. This got me thinking. Could I CD without the clothing? It occurred to me that I dress to appear female. If I could appear to be female without the need for clothing that would also work for me, so I think I CD to appear to be a woman when I feel feminine. Why I feel that way is a mystery.
2. She knows and participates, but it is only on special occasions...I don't think a permanent change would fly.
3. It is apples and oranges. I love my wife, I don't love CDing...it is just something I need to do sometimes. It is not a competition.

[Nicole Erin]

1) I want to be a woman
2) Yes I was when I was married
3) I wasn't really attracted to her a whole lot, especially toward the end.

[RachelPortugal]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

I like the look and feel of feminine clothing.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

I am now totally open and honest. My wife has always known that I am CD/TV but at times I would dress up and go out without her knowing. If she found out she would get very angry, purge my clothes etc and threaten divorce - not because of me dressing but because of the deception. After a long discussion, a while ago, we agreed boundaries so that there was no longer any deception. Now she is happy for me to spend whole days as Rachael.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

I am not attracted to my girl-side, my wife is the only girl for me!

Rachael

[eileendover]

1) number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
To see what I'd look like as a female. To see how feminine I can look, at least to my own eye. I don't get much of a thrill from the feel of wearing feminine clothing - I have to see what I look like.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing?
No.
If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?
Not very much, as far as I can tell. I don't dress very often, only when family is away overnight somewhere. I spend more time on this site than I do dressing, so primary effect comes mostly from reduced attention to SO.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
Yes. Not really "attracted" to my girl-side - my girl-side is still myself, just with a different look.

[~Michelle~]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
Because ~Michelle~ doesn't want to feel naked.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing?
Already told my wonderful wife before I got married. A good relationship is based on honesty.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
Anyone who is more in love with him/herself than the partner seriously needs to start living single.

[t-girlxsophie]

#1 Number one reason you wear feminine clothing

When younger I was bullied at school,dressing up was an escape for me I loved the look,feel and colours of female clothing (still do),I feel am a better more loving person when dressed

#2 Are you open and honest with your SO about your Dressing

Yes she knew from the start I Crossdressed,she loves my Female side,just as much as my male,she herself has said I show my loving,emotional feelings more when am a girl,and she takes a full part in everything I do

#3 Are you Attracted to your Partner as much as your Girl Side

Am So much in Love with my Lovely Wife (probably bored you all already amount of time ive talked about her on this site),She has my complete devotion,her understanding and support is overwhelming,how could I a bloke in a Dress compete.I have to say I could never have feelings for my girlie self,above my Wife,just doesnt make sense to me,I mean you've seen me lol.Infact I find it a wee bit weird to be honest

[Sally24]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
Because it makes me feel good. I don't feel uncomfortable in drab, but while fully dressed I feel like "me" so much more.


2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing?
Told her after we were living together, but before we were engaged. She's always been the 2nd person to know when things change with me. (I'm the 1st)


3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
I love her and am attracted to her in whatever form I'm in. If it's a competition between Sally and her, she wins hands down.

[Michelle I]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
I really wish I knew, in the beginning, I thought it was sexual. Now I do it because it allows me to be me. I feel complete, relaxed and wising I could transistion.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing?
I started when couples did not talk about things like that. I hid for many years, finally we talked. Prior to her passing away she had her moments where she was starting to understand and somewhat accept Melissa. I only wish the internet was around in the early years, I would have had more information for both of us.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
She was my wife, my lover, my Best Friend:), even though she is dancing with the angels, I am still attracted to her. I learned so much from her, style, grace, the love of life, she was the only one, my girl side was second.

[Jessica Kelly]

1. It takes the edge off day to day life
2. Don't have an SO :/
3. See above

[noeleena]

Hi..

1, womans clothes

2, honesty & open

3 attracted to Jos

I wear womens clothes because im a woman & i hated any thing to do with mens clothes ,
.......................

Yes & very open . straight up front & said to Jos i am a woman & all ways have been .
.........................

I love Jos for who she is , She is the mother of ...our... children & i will care for her & will allways love her ,no matter what.
I dont have a girl side , in the sence of dressing on femm because my female side was / is who i am , I love her not as a male or female ,I love her as who i am . Words dont express what i would like to say, Its to emotional .

...noeleena...

[EnglishRose]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

Therapy. :) I've come to accept I'm female inside so some small part of making the outside match helps.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

Yes, and she knows everything about me.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?[/QUOTE]

I am wholly attracted to her and love her with all my heart. My inner fem? I just am, that's all there is to it really.

[anna kate]

I love to dress because it makes me feel good mentally and physically. Been dressing 60+ years and it is still sensual.

Wife knows all. So long as I stay within the "boundaries" all is well.

My wife is my only true love. If she asked, I would give up CDing. I think I would be a very unhappy puppy in that situation, but I would go to great lengths to keep her happy.

[Kerigirl2009]

1. I don't know why I dress, maybe out of habit since I started at around age 9, for me it is not a sexual thrill maybe it did get me excited when I was a child but now days I feel it helps my mind put me in a better place

2. Being open and honest my answer is yes to a degree I am as open as I can be with my wife (though only since I told her 9 and a half months ago) I think it has affected us in a way that has both brought us a bit closer together but also made a few changes in the way she treats me such as joking around with comments, some she just not find as amusing as she used too.

3. As far as being attracted to her that has not changed at all I have always been very attracted to her. I have always wanted to feel sexy with her although this is something that I will never get to fully experience and I can understand why. I am always the man in our relationship, I love my wife now probably more than I did before I told her. however I have a large regret from the guilt of not being honest with her from the beginning.

[Tina B.]

Why? Because my wife makes me. She says if you are going to buy all that, you need to use it.
Really, it's because it's the only way I know to keep my head from feeling like it's going to explode.
Am I honest, to a fault. She has known for 33 years, and she knows it all.
Who do I love, My wife is my best friend, confidant, and lover, me I'm just a guy in a dress, so I would say she is.
Tina B.

[BonnieJG]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing? I Like the look and how they feel and I like pretty things I allwas whanted to be a girl

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship? YES we offen go out to buy thing and she lets dress around the house ONLY

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
my wife is the only girl for me!

[docrobbysherry]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

I'm not sure! I find it sexy, stimulating, and very sensual?

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

No SO.

3) Are you attracted to your partner(s) as much as your girl-side?

Lately? No!:doh:

NOTE: A lot of posted answers to question #3 mentioned their "love" for their partner! But, the QUESTION was about, "attraction", not "love"!

I'm attracted to Sherry, but there's NO love, affection, or companionship involved with her what so ever!

I was married, then divorced. At the end, I STILL loved her, but was NOT attracted to her! Why r so many here CONFUSING those very different feelings? Hmmmm?

[Frédérique]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
I like the feel of it, and I like the feeling it gives me – call it vulnerability (vs. male "security")…


2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?
I don’t have a SO, but if I did I would keep my secret passion hidden. I might also let her do the femininity, and just bask in the glow, depending how feminine she happened to be (this varies).


3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
It depends – what does my imaginary partner look like? You're assuming I must have (or need) one. It needs to be said that there are two of me, co-existing in one body, and I love myself…:battingeyelashes:

[Sheila]

NOTE: A lot of posted answers to question #3 mentioned their "love" for their partner! But, the QUESTION was about, "attraction", not "love"!

Why r so many here CONFUSING those very different feelings? Hmmmm?




:thumbsup::thumbsup: Darn good question Doc :)

[joannemarie barker]

my answer to number 1 is that womens clothes feel incredible and make me feel incredible,i just can't describe how happy dressing makes me feel.
2 and 3 don't apply to me cos i'm single :)

[EnglishRose]

NOTE: A lot of posted answers to question #3 mentioned their "love" for their partner! But, the QUESTION was about, "attraction", not "love"!

There's a very close link between the two there, though, don't you think?

Maybe I could have put "my wife is beautiful, and I'm an ugly hairy woman" but it wouldn't sound as positive, eh.

[Roberta Lynn]

1: I guess if I have to boil it down to a number one reason it's because I like it. I need/have/want to present this part of me. When I do It just feels 'right' .


2: I told my wife before we were married.

3: I like what I see in the mirror, I have a very thick pair of rose colored glasses, I enjoy the way I look and the feeling I have dressing in these clothes, but what I see in the mirror is ME, A feminine me but still me. The question seems to be am I more turned on by looking at myself in the mirror or by my wife. No contest, my wife is the one that still makes my heart beat faster.

[zoe m]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

Because I always had the desire/impulse/fantasy to do it, since my earliest days. Since then I've added some more conscious reasons on top of it, and I try to rationally shape it to be something I like and respect about myself, but at heart it's something I did not choose, though I'm not ashamed of it. "Wanting" it or not is not a question that makes sense to me, because it was always there. That said, I can go without it for months at a time or even more, but I know eventually it's gonna come out.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

I'm happy to say I am now, I just told my partner this week, after being together for a year and a half. She reacted really positively, but it's also true she's a fairly understanding and non-conventional person in general. That said, though I've told her as much as I can, she hasn't seen it yet, so it remains to be seen how it will affect the relationship.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

A lot more so. I'm not really attracted to myself as a woman so much, it's more like I like going into that mode once in a while. So the two are not really in competition in that sense. The question could maybe be phrased as "is your attraction to your partner as strong as your desire to dress as a woman and the enjoyment you get out of it?" I think it depends on the particular relationship you have with your partner. I have been in a couple of relationships where the spark wasn't so strong; by comparison dressing or thinking about dressing seemed like a forbidden world of mystery so that was obviously more exciting at times. I think that can happen with other things too, not just crossdressing. It's different with the person I'm currently seeing because the excitement we have for each other is pretty strong all the time, for a number of reasons. That's part of the reason I decided to tell her, because it actually seemed like the relationship could maybe have the potential to move forward, yet this "secret" was stopping me from really getting close to this person. She's the first non-CD person that I've told. At the same time, as I begin to be more open about my crossdressing, it becomes less of a forbidden and exciting fantasy and more just another form of self-expression. So yeah, I would say that right now, I'm a lot more attracted to my partner right now than to my crossdressing. But I don't feel like I can be myself if I don't let that other side of me exist and explore.

Some people have said "love is different from attraction." I think that's true, though they are closely linked. I can imagine attraction in the sense of erotic excitement often goes out of or at least diminishes in long-term relationships. I don't know if that will happen to me, I hope not but there's no way to be 100% sure (we do all know that men lose erectile ability, statistically speaking, when they get older, though sex should be about much more than that). In the relationship I happen to be in right now, I do feel a lot of attraction for my partner in that sense, and I don't need dressing (or even thinking about dressing) for that purpose when I'm with my partner. My desire to dress has always been a separate thing for me. I don't think we should deceive ourselves into thinking that sexual desire is always going to be there all the time and in the same automatic way as it may be at one particular time. Sex is something you have to work at, not directly of course, but indirectly, by doing the kinds of things that will provoke the spark with your partner to keep going, if that's what you both want. Anyway, those are some of my thoughts, but I'm still fairly young so what do I know.

[Joanne f]

1)
It feels normal and natural and i get great enjoyment from it .

2)
Yes i am completely open and honest about my dressing

3)

It is two completely different feelings, my girl side is an inner peace type of thing whereas my feelings for my wife has to do with my love for her.
So my love for her attracts me to her but my inner peace has nothing to do with being attracted to myself although in a round about way it will attract me to the dressing . (as in the clothes and not me personally)

[Ocean Mist]

1. Because thats the way I was born. I can ignore 'it'. 'It' cannot ignore me. I'm happy with that.

2 & 3. N/A

[BethCD]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
It feels right, like it was meant to be. No sexual , just feels right.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?
I told her right after we married. She was very casual about it, stills tolerates.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

She is my bestest friend on Earth. I'm not in love with Beth, only her.

[MiraM]

There's a very close link between the two there, though, don't you think?

Maybe I could have put "my wife is beautiful, and I'm an ugly hairy woman" but it wouldn't sound as positive, eh.

There doesn't have to be love or any other emotion linked with attraction. I love my partner, and I am attracted to him, but the two are separate. I love my mother too, but I am not attracted to her. There are guys at work I am attracted to, but I don't love them. I wouldn't mind jumping their bones, but there is no emotion involved in that...ok...maybe lust. Love and attraction are two very separate things and one does not necessarily have to go along with the other.

[Tina Dixon]

The GGs have some questions they'd like to ask so as to better understand the CDs. We've put the questions together and will be posting them in sets of three every week. Please feel free to answer any number of them. We appreciate your input!


1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

Love seeing a woman in a dress or skirt and I always had a thing for them were one day as a youngster I had to put one on and well one thing led to another.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

No I'm not, she has found out but I'm not comfortable talking about it with her.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

My girl side has nothing on my wife.

[LaceyNicole]

1) mostly stress relief, but some fantasy also

2) yes

3) I am more attracted to my wife

[Andrea Reynolds]

I dress because the girl inside me loves to feel and look like a girl from time to time. My wife knows that I dress and would rather that I did not, or at least not as often. I love my wife way more than i could ever love myself (and I have a big ego), so Andrea will always take a back seat to her. Andrea

[sonna]

1. it just feels right. it is very hard to explain

2. i was. and she did o.k. with it for a year ,
and all of a sudden i had to throw of my stuff out
or we would get a divorce .so now i have hidding it for
a while now. (what will be will be) and i realy love my wife.

3. yes

[Nigella]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

Cos I look terrible naked :o

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

Yes, see answer #1

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

We work like a pair of magnets, attracting each other :daydreaming:

[PretzelGirl]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

For me it is entirely relaxing. I feel like I am expressing more of myself; what is really inside of me.


2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

I am one that firmly believes that a marriage should be completely open. My wife knows everything and always has, at least within the limits of what I could verbalize and understand myself at the time.


3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

I am not attracted to my girl side. There is no part of it that I do to sartisfy an attraction to myself.

[KateW]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

I have felt drawn towards it since I was very young. I don't really feel as if I am truely being myself without it. I still think and act the same regardless of what I'm wearing but when dressed I feel like I am being honest about myself to the world.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

I introduced the idea to my wife very early into our relationship, and my honesty paid off with fantastic support from her. She has given me skirts, underwear, jewellry and makeup for Christmas, shaped my eyebrows and borrowed my tights on numerous occasions! I feel very lucky and blessed to have her in my life.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
I think they are different things. I am sexually attracted to my wife, where as I don't feel like I'm really myself without the clothes.

[donnah]

Why do I dress? I love the feeling I get from it,it is part of me and suppressing it brought me alot of grief when I tried to stop. Am I totlally honest, no, but we have made alot of progress in the last year which has made the relationship better. Dressing was a huge problem for years in our relationship. Yes I am very,very much attracted to my wife, always will be.

[BettyCooper]

1. Everything feels right when I dress. It is the only time that I feel completely right.
2. My SO, who is wonderful person, would divorce me in a minute if she knew. I have led a rich CD life hidden from her for many years.
3. I am very attracted to my SO. I do not know what the comparison of her to my female side means. I would be insanely happy in a world where I could be my female self with her.

[Abbyru1]

#1) I wear them because like many of you have said,I like the feel,the colors,the texture,the way they feel and the way I look in them. That doesn't mean that I pass as female only that I like what I have on. I know I could never pass even on a dark night dresed in black!
#2) Yes, my wife knows.She tolerates it but doesn't really encourage it.
#3) I like who I am in these clothes but I don't even to pretend that there is a
another "person". I am who I am. I really love my wife much more than the clothing . I
wear it for me and would give it up in a second if my marriage started to fall apart. Based on the complex problems life throws out everyday, giving up clothing is pretty simple.

[Kelly Greene]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
I like looking nice and in my eyes feminine = nice, pretty, and attractive.
it also helps relive stress, but Kayaking, target shooting, and romance with my wife also relive stress.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?
Yes I have to be honest with her she is my cohort in crime

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
I think I can look nice and maybe even attractive but I cant do to me what I can do to my wife
so I have t say that I am more attracted to my wife.

[KayC]

Thank you all for your candid answers, we appreciate them because they help us understand better. Kudos to all of you who responded!

[Sandygal]

I have so many answers for #1. I think the real answer is that It just feels right. Like it should have always been this way.

I would love to be open with my wife. She knows, but it's one of those out of sight, out of mind deals.

I find my wife as hot to me as the day I met her 34 years ago.

[JulieK1980]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

Good question-I have no idea.... lol! I gave up trying to find a reason years ago. doesn't matter, I enjoy it!

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

Yes, I believe to have a good marriage, it requires complete honesty. This goes for other "alternative" things we do as well. ;)

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

Much more attracted to my wife than my girl-side. I try to avoid narcissism anyway.... lol

[JiveTurkeyOnRye]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

Because it's so much fun to do it! I just like the way it looks and feels on my body.


2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

Yes, I am.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

My girl side and boy side are the same, but I'm more attracted to my partners than I am with myself.

[Blaire]

1) I'm drawn to it. I've always wanted to "be pretty," and this is it. I haven't discovered if there's anything serious beyond that yet, though I'm fair certain I'm not TS material.

2) Totally - she knew way before we were married. We don't nnecessarily volunteer absolutely everything, but when it comes up, it's open. If it's important, it's asked about.

3) Partner >> girl side

[Veronica Nowakowski]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

It feels right, it feels good, it's what belongs.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

I don't have an SO to deceive.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

No partner to be attacted to :(

[Kiera79]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

Because it feels good to me and is an extension of who I am as a person.


2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

Yes my baby knows everything there is to know about me and Kiera.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

I love my SO very much but at the same time I love Kiera also. Even though we are one in the same I find that we are two. I have things that I like as a GM but, in the same notion Kiera has things she likes as a GG. Sounds weird I know but it is true.

[Tracy W]

1) no clue, just do

2) yup, we share everything

3) I don't have a girl-side. I'm just me

[Raychel]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
I don't know for sure, But I do know that I feel more relaxed and more myself when dressed.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?
Yes I am totally open with her about it.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
Not so much anymore, I was was, but her total lack of desire has pretty much pushed me away. :sad:

[Lucy Long Legs]

1) I was always embarrassed about my lack of traditional male attributes. When I was a boy I looked like a girl with one (very small) addition. I have always been able to wear female clothing with no adjustments.
2) I used to be but after a time I realised it made her uncomfortable and so I do it when she is not around. She knows I do.
3) When I am dressed, I have no male-type desires - for myself or anyone else.

[Sedona]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

It just feels good, comforting, kind of like seeing an old friend.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

I'm married, and came out six months into our three year courtship. Right, now, I'm probably 95% honest. If I'm dressed, and she comes home, I feel really embarrassed, still, but she ensures me that I don't need to be. I also have a desire to go out dressed (in other towns/cities), that she doesn't accept/encourage/authorize. It causes tension, and except for a couple of partial dressing situations in remote cities, have respected her.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

Absolutely, she's hot.

[ReineD]

If I'm dressed, and she comes home, I feel really embarrassed, still, but she ensures me that I don't need to be.

Just curious, Sedona, why do you feel embarrassed, even when your wife is accepting?

[Jason+]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

1) I like the look and feel of the clothes and how I feel when I wear them. I've described it before as it scratches and itch I can not otherwise reach.

2) During the reign of my first wife I didn't wear or have anything. During our breakup one time in storage I tried on one her dresses that looking back I should have kept. She never knew and to this day I believe would use it ammo against me. For the current love of my life while it took some time to get there she knows all and is as included as she wishes to be.

3) I don't really have a boy side/girl side. We tried that as a means of separating things until it seemed to me that it was easier to dislike/disparage the girl side and since there in my head is only one real me and the sting from the heat burned the boy side as much as it did the girl so she had to go. If the question is do I love my wife more than myself, yes. We discussed at length whether or not I could not be a cross dresser. I could make the choice never to dress again. I can not make the choice not to want to or promise that it wouldn't cause hurt and resentment on my part. She felt that it would be unfair of her to ask that of me and we worked together for our compromise.

[Tomara]

The GGs have some questions they'd like to ask so as to better understand the CDs. We've put the questions together and will be posting them in sets of three every week. Please feel free to answer any number of them. We appreciate your input!


1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

1- I like the way what I wear feels on me and I feel more relaxed wearing what I wear.

2- I told my girlfriend about my cross-dressing early in our relationship and she was and is supportive of me.

3- I am totally attracted to my girlfriend and I don't feel that it has any comparison to my cross-dressing.

Tomara

[TGMarla]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

I'm not really sure. It's something I've always done, ever since puberty. It feels right to me. I've always felt that I'd have liked to have been a woman, and this is as close as I can get to that reality. And I just love the look and feel, as well as the infinite variety of women's attire. And it is such a different experience entirely than the narrow spectrum that men's fashions draw from.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

Not entirely. She knows I do this, but I doubt heavily that she knows to what extent I have taken it. It's not something she wishes to have as a part of her life. So she chooses to not discuss it, participate in it, or really acknowledge it very much. Out of respect and deference to her, I keep it pretty much under wraps.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

Absolutely. I love my wife completely. And the attraction I feel for her is completely different from the attraction I have to crossdressing. Apples and oranges there, I think.

[mapletree]

The GGs have some questions they'd like to ask so as to better understand the CDs. We've put the questions together and will be posting them in sets of three every week. Please feel free to answer any number of them. We appreciate your input!


1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
I just love dressing girly and ptreey

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?
working on it sometimes i feel am hurting my family

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
yes but in different ways

[Renelle]

It's one of those guilty pleasures for me. The feel of the material. If they made men's clothes out of nylon and such, this would all be much easier.

I don't have an SO. I hope I will have the guts to tell her from the beginning. I wouldn't want to hide things. If a new SO couldn't accept it, then I would be better off without her.

I'm very much attracted to certain women. Maybe too much. I tend to idolize them, which isn't really fair to them, but that's how I feel about them.

[christina marie]

1. it is what i feel right in.
2.tried my best to be. she wants no part of it.
3.we have a strict no-physical-contact policy.

[stephanie100]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

I have always beleaved that I should been female and now am going through the change.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

My SO new of my feeling and accepted what i am


3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?


yes probaly equal

[gabimartini]

1. Not sure. CDing appeared out of the blue at age 6 and has never left. Probably never will. So, I keep doing it.

2. After I came out to her, yes. She knows every single detail.

3. I'm not attracted to my girl-side. I'm attracted to my SO!

[Connie D50]

1. To have the feeling of my Fem side expressed.

2. My wife knows all about my CDing.

3. Yes I love my wife I think more then myself.

[sometimes_miss]

I should have elaborated, not everyone wants to read my whole biography.

1. For most of my childhood years, I was told that I was supposed to be a girl, I was often dressed as one, and taught to be like one. The only physical affection I ever knew as a kid, was when I was dressed and acting as a girl. Call it conditioning or whatever, it imprinted the idea that I was really a girl into my mind, and it will never go away. So, I subconsciously always feel like I'm supposed to be a girl and wear girls clothing, so I do whenever I can. Wearing mens clothes feels inappropriate.

2. No SO to be open with. So far, I haven't met a woman who is interested in a guy who is stuck with feeling like he's supposed to be a girl, even if we both know that the rest of me knows it's not true.

3. I never really thought of my 'girl side' as being something to be attracted to. I'm guessing you're questioning the idea postulated by the autogynephilia theory here? Or maybe you mean romanticizing the idea of being a girl as a better life than being a boy. Well, I would say that it's probably just different; not better, not worse, just different. For, if I were magically changed into a girl today, I would not be much better off, just presented with a new set of advantages in life, and some new disadvantages as well.

[Angie G]

#1 The girl In me.

#2 Very open. She konws and accepts my dressing.

#3 YES she's my world.:hugs:
Angie

[Farrah]

) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

I think the #1 reason i wear fem clothing is the fem feeling that comes over me as I'm dressing. It gives me an outlet to be more sensitive and sensual.

No, my wife does not have a clue that i cd. I do feel guitly and a little selfish a times...I guess that why i'm on a 1year hiatus now.

Yes!

[hotskirt]

#1 I love the feeling of womens clothes and like being able to enjoy the best of 2 worlds.
#2 She doesn't know and our relationship is great.
#3.I'm attracted to my wife more than my girl-side but my girl-side is a close 2nd

[Sophie_C]

The GGs have some questions they'd like to ask so as to better understand the CDs. We've put the questions together and will be posting them in sets of three every week. Please feel free to answer any number of them. We appreciate your input!


1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

I actually don't wear it all that much, since I am pretty much closeted and TG, but for comfort, when I do.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

I have no SO. No deception there.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

I have no 'attraction' to my femme side. It is simply what I am. I think what people confuse with "attraction to girl side" is the nagging persistence of the psyche to be true to itself, and given that almost all crossdressing is forced to be closeted, it comes off a bit like an obsession, and that can resemble an attraction to a degree.

If it was not closeted and actually accepted by society, I don't know how much it would resemble an attraction/obsession, except for those who have it as a fetish, much like one would have for vinyl or leather...

[StephanieDragg]

1. I adore the clothes, heels and make-up and how they feel and make me feel.

2. Yes Open and honest about my dressing

3. I am attracted to my wife same no matter what I wear, but she is not sexually attracted to my fem side at all.

[WendyH]

Catching up!

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
Because I need to. I am not a woman, but there is a strong feminine tendency in me that is best expressed by presenting as a woman from time to time.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?
Yes. She knew about me long before we began a romantic relationship and is very encouraging and supportive.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
She always says I'm the pretty one, but I'm not attracted to me, I'm attracted to her, body and soul.

[Sarah Doepner]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

It has changed over the years. When I was very young it was for exploration and because it seemed there was something wonderful there. After puberty it became pretty exciting and it had it's own draw. For the last 20 or more years it's been moving back to where it started. I feel very comfortable, very normal and happy when I'm en femme and there is very little sexual excitement in the experience.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

I was hiding it for a very long time. I was cranky and was putting some of my dressing needs ahead of my wife and family. After it came out and we discussed it, our lives did improve significantly. I'm not sure how things would be if my wife had been unhappy or not accepting of my crossdressing.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

I love and am dedicated to my wife and would do just about anything for her, including changing much of what I do concerning crossdressing. However, I need to pay some regular attention to my girl-side as well. This is something that we have been integrating into our lives now for many years and it would be very difficult to abandon it now.

[deniseh]

1. Yes, The only male clothes I own are my going to work clothes.

2. Yes, I am the same loving caring person regradless of what I am wearing at any given time.

3. I don't know was a cd before I ever feel in love with a woman. Wife is first place, always. She is loving and accepting of my fem side.

[Deidra Cowen]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

I honestly think I am stuck about half way between female and male. I get enjoyment out of dressing and presenting as a female, but I can do the male thing too! The term that applies is Androgeous, thats what I really am I think.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

No SO here. But the last GG GF I had totally knew about my dressing. I met her when in fem mode out at a club. I was also truthful to her about my sexual history and being a wild Tgirl. She was cool with that. I really get mad at those CDs I see with GG GFs or Wives that are secretly bi and fool around. Goes on a bunch!

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?[/

N/A having no SO.

[Petra Bellejambes]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

It is a privilege to cater to the very real feminine aspects of my whole self. Dressing helps reveal a fuller me to myself.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

After 15 years either buried or furtively hidden from my wife, I am out. We are not sure what effect it has on us, but it is not a source of friction.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

I am proud of how I appear, but not attracted as such. My wife has beauty that puts me to shame.

[CharlotteB]

1. Relaxation, and the thrill -- yes part sexual
2. Yes open and accepted
3. Yes

[Tess]

1. I dress because it is still exciting and an adventure, even though I've been doing it for over 50 years. It unlocks a side of me that is otherwise invisible in both mind and body.

2. Absolutely not. Honesty is highly overrated if it is going to hurt the innocent.

3. CD'ing is like golf or fishing for me, only harder to give up. My SO and I are linked at the heart and soul. We couldn't go without each other any more than we could go without breathing.

[Elsa von Spielburg]

1) Sexual thrill. There are times where it just feels right/fun to do (and I tend to get caught up in the fashion at times), but that's #1 anyways and I ain't ashamed to admit it.

2) Absolutely. My GF has been supportive and encouraging from the very beginning.

3) Of course. Way more-so. The 2-girl fantasy only works if I have my crazy-hot GF on the other side of the equation.

[MissKara]

1) I wear feminine clothing because, and this is really strange to say, I am sick of male fashion. No skirts and not enough cute pink. I also feel more complete in females clothing than I do in males :S

2) We are very open. I am lucky to have an SO who is nurturing of Kara and wants her to grow. This is partly because she likes Kara and that she has heard my stories about people being hurtful in the past and doesnt want to see that happen again.

3) I hate to say it but at times, I do find myself being more attracted to my girl side than I am to my partner :(

Lots of Love,
Miss Kara

[Jenniferpl]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

Number one reason is relaxation and it feels right. I slip on a bra and my mind clears up. The internal struggle disappears and I am able to concentrate better. Also because I need to. Jennifer simply refuses to go away. Learning to live with her has been an amazing journey.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

Yes. I was in denial for ever and she was able to convince that I was crossdresser. If purchasing my makeup is encouraging, than she is supportive.



3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

Yes.

[Brooke Anderson]

1) The clothes, the make-up, the hair styles, Women get to have all the fun and I enjoy everything about it. I feel more relaxed with a bra and panties on then I ever do wearing boxers. I also enjoy dressing and taking a time out from reality and pretending that I'm someone else. God made me a man but I'm a woman by choice.

2) Completely open and honest now, she even enjoys the occasional bring it into the bedroom.

3) I love my partner but my girl side has been there for years. I'll never stop dressing so I'll say my girl side wins.

[eluuzion]

1) It feels "sexy", unpressured and makes me feel more aligned with my innate emotional makeup.

2) I am divorced now (many years) and do not have a SO. My CDing was never an issue, since I was on the road 5 days a week when married, and spent the week-ends dealing with my ex's constant extra-marital affairs. If I had the opportunity to experience a genuine and committed partnership, I would have to reveal it. Deception is not something that I believe can exist in a relationship without ultimately ending it. I have been single for many years now with that being a main reason. I could not deceive a partner, ever. I am just not capable of doing it or tolerating others doing it. It makes the whole relationship something completely illogical in my world.


3) Do not have a partner currently. Whenever I did, or when I do in the future, they come before anything else, period. Or I would not be in the relationship. If I lost interest for any reason they would be the first to know, before I took any action outside of the relationship.

[Lexine]

1) The act of wearing feminine clothing does nothing for me. The act of pretending to be someone entirely different than who I am does. Being "Lexi" is a form of escapism for me and can allow me to not think about things in my normal life, even for a time being. There are more reasons to this, but I think this is the primary reason why I do this.

2) Yes. My potential SO knows my dressing habit and loves that I have a sense of fashion for both sets of outfits (male/female).

3) I am attracted to my partner more than my girl-side, seeing as my girl-side is just a different manifestation of my personality. To me, my girl side can never replace the warmth and affection I get from a partner who is NOT me.

[Teddie]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
It's me.


2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?
Very. She actually enjoys mt dressing.


3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
Yes. I do love both, but my SO more.

[pj]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?Ay, yi yi - what? I wish I knew. The need is just there. I don't remember a time when it wasn't.


2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?I am now. When I wasn't, I think it had a very negative impact on our relationship. I had a therapist once who told me about a hundred times, "Secrets are poison." Why did he keep telling me that, I wonder? Ha. But the secret was poison, and I think it caused me to keep a certain distance that I no longer feel is there.


3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?I love my girlfriend more than my girl side. But I put her ahead of me in everything. It's one of the reasons I waited a long time to tell her.

[AmandaM]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

To try to feel like a girl/express femininity from deep inside.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

Yes, she knows everything.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

I am not attracted to my girl side. But I am turned on by the thought of being a woman during sex. For my partner, she's a former college cheerleader, so I have a lot to desire.

[Annaliese2010]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
A) It is a 'place' to go - a sort of escape from loneliness or boredom.
B) It is a safe place - a sort of sanctuary - especially when it seems everything's going wrong, or when I'm uncertain and unsure about things.
C) It's fun and sexually gratifying because I can be the woman I don't have or never met or did meet but then lost.

Of those three interrelated reasons, I would say 'B' is the most important, I guess. Ah...what can I say? It's lonely at the top. Truly it is. ;)

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?
A) I don't have ANY kind of SO at the moment, nor have I been with anyone for years. Baby...I'm about as a-the-fc-lone as a human being can GET and still remain 'sane'. And me a Scorpio no less! Can you IMAGINE what THAT'S like? However, fact is, this year sometime - hopefully by July, I'm getting divorced from a 'wife' I've been separated from for a long time now i.e. living under separate roof, miles apart, having no 'relations' for years...
B) But if I had a suitable SO I wouldn't be engaged in any of this anymore - I would stop completely. Given that fact, I wouldn't be predisposed to inform her of what I was doing before - cuz this here 'now' would immediately become 'back then'.
C) On the other hand, if for some reason it came out that she sort of wanted me to be a girl sometimes, as a sort of role-reversal thing in bed or something - I'd obviously be willing to do it :battingeyelashes: after having gone through all this i.e after already having so much 'practice' being a girl and such. But I'd be doing it for her - to please her - not me - though as I say, it wouldn't bother me like it would most guys who wouldn't even consider such a thing. Not saying I wouldn't enjoy it with her like that, but the enjoyment would primarily come from pleasing her, and knowing, hearing, feeling how it did.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
A) Don't have an SO...
B) If and when I do, then no, I would NOT be attracted to my girly-side. In fact, she will evaporate like a San Francisco morning mist at sunrise in midsummer...and soon become a memory trace that fades just as fast - and i won't miss her one damn bit. Amen!
C) Why? because how could Annaliese possibly hold any interest at all to me, when my babe carries what I need - and most desperately seek! Ya know? I mean WHAT on gods green earth can top that?
D) And aside from the physical appeal - she (my SO to be) offers real friendship and intimacy; a real GG wins hands-down, over the imagined 'woman' in me - even if she is based on some feminine tendency in me that I may have been born with. Be that as it may - still doesn't change the fact that Annaliese pales by comparison. Believe me, I know what alone is all about...and sleeping alone in bed as Annaliese or the guy I am just doesn't compare to some hot babe sleeping next to me...what with all her real-life complexity and unpredictability. Sheeeah!

[Sallee]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
It is fun, a turn on, I like it, Feel pretty, Like what I look like sometimes. No no 1 reason

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?
For the most part yes She tolerates it So I don't get in her face with my dressing but I don't hide it to much either I guess you could say "Don't ask Don't tell"

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
Yes definitely because there is more to me than just my girl side As there is to her. But It is apart of me with out a doubt

[Lola Boubee]

1. It is fun and there is a certain undescribable thrill to it all.

2. Yes, she knows and even enjoys it from time to time.

3. She is the love of my life, and I think it helps our relationship because I do have a bit of a Fem. understanding.

[Dana]

Why do I like dressing in women's clothes?

I very much attracted to women, femininity and all things feminine and have been since a young age. I believe women have much more choices and options than men. Being feminine and getting girly is fun.

I once got so pent up that I traveled 50 miles and went shopping. It was so much fun ~ and I finally understood why women like to shop so much ~ even if they don't buy anything.

I like the fabrics, the choices, the options.

Bottom line is that girls just like fun ~ and its fun being a girl.

I don't have a SO and living in the rural South doubt that I will ever find a woman accepting of my cross dressing. I've resigned myself to accepting the fact that I will be single and alone for the rest of my life. I will probally have to leave enough money in my will to hire six wino's to carry me to my grave? :eek:

But I have no disillusions of such ~ should I marry again or live with another GG? It would only be a matter of time before I wanted to, desired to, needed to dress ~ nay ~ get girly

I realize this may come as shock to some ~ but I did choose to be a cross dresser, and if I had my choice? I would not be one.

But whenever I walk through the Lady's department of JC Penny's or near a Merle Norman store? Or watch QVC or HSN? It drives me bonkers.

Its a double edge sword in that I'm not gay or bisexual? I'm simply not physically, emotionally, mentality, sexually attracted toward men.

I would guess the best way to describe it is that I'm a lip-stick lesbian trapped in a man's body"

[DeSkirt]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
I think it is because I find women and their sexy clothing a turn on. I feel I use my cross dressing as a way to compensate for the lack of sex I wish we had.


2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?
I was totally open with my (current) wife before we were married. This is my 2nd marriage. I pressed her to make sure this was OK with her because I felt it was a major contributer to my first marriage ending and I did not want to do that again. She said it was fine with her. She was involved with my dressing while we were dating and said she had fun with it. She bought me cloths and saw me totally dressed several times. After a good friend of hers told her she heard a rumor about me "cross dressing" She no longer wanted anything to do with it. I am very disappointed because I asked her specifically how she would feel if her family or friends found out about my dressing before we were married and she said it was none of their business. I feel she told me what I wanted to hear just so i would marry her. I do not feel as close to her as I was before this happened. I have a problem do things for her that i don't want to do, because I feel she does not accept me the way I am.


3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
Absolutely! I have a strong sex drive and I would like to make love to her ( I have slowed down some since I turned 50) every day. I don't feel my wife is as affectionate as I would hoped she would be. I feel I use my cross dressing as a way to compensate for the lack of sex I wish we had. I have no desire to cheat on her, but I am frustrated and I resent the fact that she no longer is involved in my cross dressing.


I hope this helps someone in some way.

[Veronica Lacey]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

I feel relaxed when wearing such things.



2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

I am as open and honest as she allows me to be. She is tolerant but not interested in participating. Due to this I cannot discuss all that I think and feel about dressing without the risk of distancing her.



3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

I think this question asks whether or not I am attracted to my wife as much as I am attracted to my girl side, yes? Well, I am not really attracted to my "girl side" (I am a guy in a dress and do not feel all that feminine when I do dress) but I sure find my wife as lovely and beautiful as ever, inside and out.

[Cheryl James]

1. I am not sure I have a #1 reason for dressing. I have felt that I should have been a girl since I was at least 3 years old. Dressing in female clothes relaxes me and allows me to be myself, or at least how I picture that I want to be.

2. No, I am not open and honest about my desires. My wife know of this side of me and hates, did I say hates, it with a passion. I'm not sure that our marriage is going to survive and this is one of the major reasons why. I wish I could be honest but her views are so rigidly opposed to anything that is, remotely, out of the ordinary. Is it her fault? Is it my fault? Perhaps we both married the wrong person.

3. My dressing has caused a wall to be erected between us. So, I am no longer attracted to her. I am attracted to women, but, sadly, not her. I'm not sure I can answer whether I am attracted to myself. Sometime, when things fall into place, I think I look OK and I am pleased. That is not always the case, though. I'm not sexually attracted to myself, if that is the intent of the question.

[Dana]

1. I am not sure I have a #1 reason for dressing. I have felt that I should have been a girl since I was at least 3 years old. Dressing in female clothes relaxes me and allows me to be myself, or at least how I picture that I want to be.

2. No, I am not open and honest about my desires. My wife know of this side of me and hates, did I say hates, it with a passion. I'm not sure that our marriage is going to survive and this is one of the major reasons why. I wish I could be honest but her views are so rigidly opposed to anything that is, remotely, out of the ordinary. Is it her fault? Is it my fault? Perhaps we both married the wrong person.

3. My dressing has caused a wall to be erected between us. So, I am no longer attracted to her. I am attracted to women, but, sadly, not her. I'm not sure I can answer whether I am attracted to myself. Sometime, when things fall into place, I think I look OK and I am pleased. That is not always the case, though. I'm not sexually attracted to myself, if that is the intent of the question.So sorry for thart Hell.

As much as I hate the SOB that stole my wife away from me? I wouldn't wish the Hell He put upon me?

[corrinediane]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
First it was the sexual turn on then it was because I felt better being dressed like a girl.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?
I was but it became a problem that wasn't talked about. I think it was the beginning of the end.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
Oh yea

[RozalynLove]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

As well as liking the look and feel of certain items of clothing that are designed for men, I also like the look and feel of certain items that are designed for women, and it seems incredibly silly that I should miss out on getting to wear them all because the designer did not take this into consideration when deciding who the clothes may appeal to.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

I do not currently have a SO, but I feel it is incredibly important to be open and honest with any potentially romantic partner from fairy early on in getting to know each other, as it eliminates the possibility of them realizing you are not the person they thought you were once you have become attached to having the person in your life.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

I am not really sure what this question is asking, because although I am hugely attracted to women, I am not attracted to myself in the slightest. I am at times very happy with how I look, perhaps sometimes even proud of how I look, but I am never sexually aroused by it.

[BobbiU]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

Not totally sure. Been attracted to pantyhose and panties for over 30 years. It is a turn on for me, and now, when I wear lingerie and nighties at night, it makes our relationship in the bedroom so much better. I'm more affectionate to her, and more willing to do what she needs.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

Mostly, I she is supportive, and encourages , however, she has commented about how strange it is for guys to wear Bra's or makeup, so I have not gone that far with her, and let her know my desire for that YET. No affect on our relationship, she's allowing me to dress part time at home, so I am more then appreciative of that.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
YES