Do You Have Larger Breasts Than Your Wife/SO?

[Traci Elizabeth]

In a recent threat, Stephenie S made the following observation:

"Half the world's population works quite well with breasts, hon.

Once you got 'em you might find it's not THAT big a deal. The REAL awareness comes not from external appearances, but from an inner knowledge of your own gender identity. LOTS of women have small to non existent breasts."

I found that to be an obvious point-of-fact BUT one that we TS most often overlook. That being: LOTS of women have small to non existent breasts.

How many of us are so wound up in our breast size that we loose sight of what is most important - who we are on the inside. I think we legitimize ourselves too much on breast size as if that is the "de facto" standard/criteria defining womanhood.

Yet there is hardly ever if almost never a question about a genetic woman being all woman no matter how small her boobs are. And in fact, a lot of men like small boobs on their partner and in a lot of cases, the smaller the better.

So after pondering this paradox, I ask, why are we so centered around our breasts?

So has the old trite saying that "men think between their legs" been transfixed to TS' think "between our shoulders?"

I would love to hear your thoughts!

[Jennifer in CO]

Traci,
your post question and post comments follow two totally different paths!
The first being antidotal and yes 'back in the day' mine WERE bigger than hers...pissed her off too!
On the 2nd, "between our shoulders" is visual reminder of what we are/have become/are becoming to many. So to chastise some for thinking that way I'd say be cautious. I like to think that we have to work with whats between our ears to care about whats between our shoulders OR legs...

Jenn

[Traci Elizabeth]

Traci,
your post question and post comments follow two totally different paths!

Jenn

Yes, I know. :heehee: But hopefully it will draw attention to my underlying point - just how important are boobs!

[Schatten Lupus]

To me, having good sized breast would only mean a better chance at passing. As for having bigger than my fiance, she has DD's and seeing her ordeals with chronic back pain from breasts that are that large (and other women with large breasts), I wouldn't want my own to be anywhere near that big. I have actually told her I would be ok if she got a breast reduction, and I have actually encouraged her do so.

[morgan pure]

Let us not forget that gg women measure each other very strictly according to physical characteristics. They have a definite pecking order so to speak. If we want to be women we have to be aware of that. Some types of women can make up for flat chests by being athletic and skinny-"boyish" is an accepted feminine standard, but the girls with racks lord it over those who don't. That's an observation, not a criticism.

Also-men and boys have "breast radar." I'm thankfully small still and present as male to the world. My chest is ALWAYS being stared at.

[noeleena]

Hi ,
Depends if your breast feeding & if your a male or a woman in how you look at a woman , most of the women i am involved with are way past that , who has what & size detail we have far more important things to do than worry about that .
as a woman i see the over all package not one detail . & yes i have more breasts than my s o & daughter because i am bigger body wise & bone, yet im with in a females sizeing ,

Because we are all different we dont have to look the same .
I have some women friends who are bigger than i & they are all female & breast size does not enter in to it,
& what i see in them is they are my friends & people i work with & others i see allmost every day . & accept them as they have me.

...noeleena...

[lizlizzie]

Let us not forget that gg women measure each other very strictly according to physical characteristics. They have a definite pecking order so to speak. If we want to be women we have to be aware of that. Some types of women can make up for flat chests by being athletic and skinny-"boyish" is an accepted feminine standard, but the girls with racks lord it over those who don't. That's an observation, not a criticism.

Also-men and boys have "breast radar." I'm thankfully small still and present as male to the world. My chest is ALWAYS being stared at.


To the first part, as a GG, I don't measure women by their physical characteristics and never have. I measure them by the humor, intelligence, common interests. And as teenagers we focused on attracting boys and boys liked breasts. By the time we are in our 20s, it's the whole package that we care about. It's the grooming - I don't want to be out with a woman who doesn't shower and shampoo and brush their teeth, but what is inside that package doesn't matter if they are large, small or the size of their chest.

Having said that, a lot of men don't focus on the boobs, many of them are more into butts.

As to the are they bigger than SO, my spouse is now on hormones, and my resentment is that hers will be a whole lot firmer, she is 12 years younger than me and will not have carried them around for 35+ years or had 2 children. The size will not matter to me, but I am fearful that mine having aged and lowered will not be attractive to her.

I am a 36D and have been depending on weight a 38DD. Based on experience, as somone mentioned, it does wear out the back and it feels like the straps have worn a permanent indentation into my shoulders and then it's the whole sizing thing as what I really need is a 37D+ which doesn't exist so I have to consantly rearrange myself during the day.

[Melissa A.]

Mine are barely a Bcup, if that. If they stopped growing tomorrow, I would be satisfied. They are there and an obvious part of my body. That's all I ever wanted, as far as breasts are concerned. Now that I have them, they just aren't that big a deal. Now, if I could just get that tummy flatter....

Hugs,

Melissa:)

[Myojine]

In a recent threat, Stephenie S made the following observation:

"Half the world's population works quite well with breasts, hon.

Once you got 'em you might find it's not THAT big a deal. The REAL awareness comes not from external appearances, but from an inner knowledge of your own gender identity. LOTS of women have small to non existent breasts."

I found that to be an obvious point-of-fact BUT one that we TS most often overlook. That being: LOTS of women have small to non existent breasts.

How many of us are so wound up in our breast size that we loose sight of what is most important - who we are on the inside. I think we legitimize ourselves too much on breast size as if that is the "de facto" standard/criteria defining womanhood.

Yet there is hardly ever if almost never a question about a genetic woman being all woman no matter how small her boobs are. And in fact, a lot of men like small boobs on their partner and in a lot of cases, the smaller the better.

So after pondering this paradox, I ask, why are we so centered around our breasts?

So has the old trite saying that "men think between their legs" been transfixed to TS' think "between our shoulders?"

I would love to hear your thoughts!

ill have to admit yeah im kinda obessed with the LOOK not so much the size of my boobs(in the future ofc, or CDing)
i personally look for Cuteness rather then sexyness.
im not obessing over big ones as long as they are noticeable and are fitting and make me look "cute"
im actually heavily obessed with how my "parts" downstairs will look when i undergo SRS. long time away for me but i still cant help but be fearful that my female "parts" are gonna look bad or unattractive. seeing as how im attracted to females, im actually rather uninterested in breasts on other girls but am very much arroused by another females vaginal region, as well as my own looking attractive(at least to me)
TMI? maybe but its truthful speaking.

[Diane24]

Arlene and I are both B, nearly C. She is a 36 and I'm a loose 37 so I usually wear a size 36. NO! we don't share bras!

Diane

[Katari]

My ex was/is a 'C' cup, I am a natural 'B' cup (probable (well...is) from being overweight). I have always said that more than just over a handful is a waste.
(hope that is ok to say on here).

All natural on both sides
Katari

[Teri Jean]

You would think that breasts are something that is not an issue with ggs and to some extent you would be correct but then there is this industry called cosmetic surgery and the most desired surgery is breast augmentation.

The fact we can choose what we want and do should tell you that we are no different than out genetic sisters. JMO and .02 worth

[Teri Jean]

Just a quick follow up; my late wife and my two daughters all had/have a plus sized C-cup and so will I. Hugs Teri

[Ze]

Nicely said, Traci. Having grown up female, I've heard plenty o' women say they felt very inadequate because of their smaller breast size. (Or any physical characteristic, really.) It's very depressing to hear, actually. I personally lived the life for a while, whether I wanted to or not. Though I understand the interest in breasts for MtF TGs, the "bigger is better" mentality continues to harm the GGs that MtFs are ironically altering their bodies to emulate.

Oh, and your title is definitely what drew me in. I'd thought it'd be a topic I'd have to set straight, but you automatically beat me to it. :heehee:

Random: To get a good grasp of female beauty issues in America, a very good book is "The Beauty Myth" by Naomi Wolf, in case anybody is interested.


And in fact, a lot of men like small boobs on their partner and in a lot of cases, the smaller the better.

Damn right! :thumbsup: The closer to the bone, the sweeter the meat!

[Hope]

I think that to suggest that breast size doesn't matter to women, or men, or frankly, anyone is a bit of wishful-thinking, or perhaps wish-fulfillment, or perhaps just naiveté. Yes, lots of women have small breasts, but most of the ones who do are not particularly happy about it.

If you have small breasts, or want to have small breasts, that is great. If you are comfortable with itty-bitty-titties, awesome for you, (I'm serious - way to be comfortable with your body-image) but to slander those who are not by suggesting that they are "thinking between their shoulders" is... a bit uncalled for.

[Angel1]

When im wearing a good push up bra with my nu-bra and have my cleavage showing i feel like a million dollars. Breasts really help me pass much better as a girl.
When im on my webcam to guys they see me as a female probably just because they are transfixed with my cleavage

Angel xx

[ReineD]

Let us not forget that gg women measure each other very strictly according to physical characteristics. They have a definite pecking order so to speak.

Yes we do, but it's a Gestalt thing, a unified whole. A striking woman is seen as competition for men's attentions. And what makes her striking is her complete look: her facial beauty, physique, proportion, symmetry, confidence, intelligence, flair, style, etc. It is not about breast size.

If you look closely at the sex symbols, they do have healthy looking breasts, but they also have many other attributes and without them, they would not have achieved their status. Very few women look like that.


Yes, lots of women have small breasts, but most of the ones who do are not particularly happy about it.

I'd like to put this in context. I am 5'9", 145 lbs, broad shoulders, fairly flat stomach, 36B. When I was younger and placed a pencil under my breasts, it would fall to the floor. I always loved my breasts! In contrast, my mother before her breast reduction was something like a 42 EE. Her breasts sagged and they did not at all look appealing to me, especially as she aged. I am in my mid 50's now and I can still wear a tight T with no bra if I should choose to, although I have lost some breast tissue due to aging and having breast-fed 3 babies (but for modesty's sake, I don't).

Now the context. My ex was not one to ogle women with huge breasts. So I never felt that I was lacking. My current partner's glances however frequently turn to the younger, more well-endowed ladies. So now for the first time in my life, I'm thinking I might like to have breast augmentation .. both for the size since I've lost some tissue, and the more youthful, rounder, perkier appearance. I feel as if I am in competition with women who are much younger than I. I'm sure these are strictly my own insecurities, but there you have it. It is all about perceived competition for our partner's attention.

If I were living in a world of GGs only and didn't feel I had to compete for a partner's attention and retention, I would not give a rat's pattoot about the size of my breasts. :)

[CharleneT]

"There's more than one way to skin a ghost" - Father Mulcahey on MASH*

There are GG's that don't care about their breasts, whether they are big, medium or small. There are others that care a lot about it... but one thing I have noticed is that most MTF TS and (it seems) all CD's are more obsessed with this issue than is probably healthy. Especially with the "bigger will help me pass". While I understand that idea, and at one time believed it, I can tell you that it is not true. I'm small, I mean not even an "A", and on a reasonably normal male frame (hence they look even smaller). Do I need more ? Hmmm... you know, I think I do but I do not. I pass pretty well these days, and blend even better. I go swimming and change in a women's locker room with other ladies. Definitely a place where you might be looked at more carefully. Have not had a problem yet. Because the rest of me is what is doing the "passing", not my boobies !

I really like the way that Reine put it:

"Yes we do, but it's a Gestalt thing, a unified whole. A striking woman is seen as competition for men's attentions. And what makes her striking is her complete look: her facial beauty, physique, proportion, symmetry, confidence, intelligence, flair, style, etc. It is not about breast size."

As well her mention of sex symbols having healthy looking breasts, yes indeed - and of a very wide variety of shapes and sizes !! If you take models as examples of what it sexy in America ( and many people do...) you'll find most have quite small breasts. Runway models in particular. They also are often quite tall ... you could say masculine in height. So why are they the ideal ??

You guessed it, the "rest" of the package is what matters.

[Karen564]

If you look closely at the sex symbols, they do have healthy looking breasts, but they also have many other attributes and without them, they would not have achieved their status. Very few women look like that.


I think Reine's whole post hit the nail on the head...

And I also agree it's the whole package that pulls it all together as well, with not just one single attribute, but many of them, but most importantly, it's the personality that really counts in my eyes..

So the physical attributes I or others may be lacking, I feel, can be made up for with a great personality....since real beauty comes from within as well as what you see visually...

I don't feel I'm lacking in the breast or personality dept.'s, but one thing I wish I had more so than anything else at this point, is a perfect set of pearly white teeth..that's what I really want, anything after that, I can work on improving later..:D
So everyones priorities are different...

[lizlizzie]

Karen - I agree with you on wanting a nice set of white teeth. I am more self-conscious about that than about the size of my breasts. And I have had many people in my life, both male and female, say what a great smile, and a whole lot less (and usually they were drunk) who said what a great set of boobs.

Charlene - in regards to the models, and

Reine - in regards to the package

Look at both and you will note it is not the actual size, it's the presentation of cleavage, which can be accomplished whether you or an A or D.

[JoAnne Wheeler]

Not yet, but I am working on it.

JoAnne Wheeler

[Ms Deidre]

Never been married and my SO is very male so no. On the other hand I do hae 3 sisters. Two of them take after my father's sideof the family and are not that large, B cups at best. On the other hand my onesister and I take after mom's side. Mom was well endowed and my sister was a DD by the time she graduated from college. When I started HRT 7 1/2 years ago I was told not to expec too much as I was 49 at the time. Well I got touchd by the boobie fairy asmy one sister refers to it. I am a very full C :) and have actually hadto take a few C cup bras back as they were too small.

[sandra-leigh]

I have recently realized that if I take my natural flesh and squeeze it with one hand, that I am close to or possibly even greater breast volume than my wife. However, my flesh seems to be entirely muscle with nothing loose at all, less than a millimeter for the "pinch test", whereas my wife's breasts are fairly loose and unstructured, so hers appear to be considerably bigger. If I sit down and bend forward a bit then mine move into a female breast shape, but completely firm. I haven't figured out yet how it can be muscle and yet look be looking more and more like female breasts. My projection relative to the center of my chest is 2 1/2 inches, and the difference between my bust measurement and my under-bust measurement is 2 or 2 1/2", which by classic measurement would translate into a B cup.