Anything you would keep?

[Elizabeth 66]

Now that you have found your true self, is there anything you would want to keep from you masculine self, for me it is the fact i have never grown up, but that is all,

Whatever it is what would you keep?

[RockerTerri]

I dont know...see, I have always kind of felt that me has always been a woman, inside. I mean, my personality didnt change much when I began transition, with the exception of being nicer to most folks now, as I have less pent up emotion.

Never was a real "masculine self" to me, so Im not sure if i did...or not?

[Deborah_UK]

my football shirts! :)

in fact that is all I kept

[Teri Jean]

Being all our experiences and family make up our life, it would have to be that. After 60 plus years there is a lot of baggage and some of it is pretty precious. Keep as much as you want and the rest set aside for further inspection as you never know what you may want to keep.

Teri

[Zenith]

I'm keeping my tactical knife and ballisong collection...I'm gonna be an unusual girl...lol

[pamela_a]

I've kept 2 wonderful children, a great son in law and the best granddaughter in the world. The rest can go if it needs to

[~Emma D~]

my football shirts! :)

in fact that is all I kept

why would anyone want to keep Northampton shirts:devil:
joking apart, I know how much you've missed it and it cant be easy

yesterday, I had one of the best days of my life as a parent at a football match - when I have to give it up as I know I will have to I will be devastated.

[Midnight Skye]

I'm keeping my tactical knife and ballisong collection...I'm gonna be an unusual girl...lol

Too funny Zenith! And that shot... post that in a hunter/gunsman forum and you'd have them drooling like mad! :battingeyelashes:

What I'd keep is quite simple. My leadership abilities. I'm worried they'll falter some. I know its not a definitive masculine trait. But it is more difficult for females to be leaders in our society... and I'd really hate to lose my abilities in that area.

[EnglishRose]

My music collection (all MP3s), my utter geekery in terms of gaming and job field, and most importantly my wife and son if I can help it!

[Deborah_UK]

why would anyone want to keep Northampton shirts:devil:
joking apart, I know how much you've missed it and it cant be easy

yesterday, I had one of the best days of my life as a parent at a football match - when I have to give it up as I know I will have to I will be devastated.

I've also kept my Real Madrid, Sevilla, Portugal & England shirts! :tongueout

But yesterday was the first day I missed my old life, I would have loved to be at the football ground. With two more games of the season to go its hard, but
I always knew something had to give

[sherri52]

I'd like to keep my strength but not the muscles that comes with it.

[Hephaestus]

^ I'll second that! I could never stop making knives, but I suppose I'll always have a sort of Rosie the riveter look going on.

[Faith_G]

I'll keep my passion for fixing broken things.

Julie, don't feel weird about the knives. There's always one in my purse, a girl can never be too prepared.

[Schatten Lupus]

I consider myself a fairly androgenous person, so there is not much male stuff to keep.

[Kimberly Marie Kelly]

My memories, my kids, my friends, my experiences. What I don't want to keep is my male tendencies, my male habits, my maleness. Kimberly Marie Kelly :battingeyelashes:

[Karen564]

Hmmm, I only want to keep my sanity, the good memories and of course my precious children.......The rest can go! ....opps, except for my speed boat, I still wanna keep that too....lol

[luvSophia]

Other than some physical things that are connected to and bring back memories of my kids growing up or that were special to my wife and I, very little. For the rest it is limited to what I can fit into my new, much smaller accommodations and however my mind/emotions/thinking evolve naturally as I grow into my new self.

[Suzy Harrison]

I'm keeping my tactical knife and ballisong collection...I'm gonna be an unusual girl...lol


Please remind me that when I next see Julie (hopefully at SCC2011), not to upset her in any way ! :hugs:


...anyway, I would not want anything physical that would remind me of natures cruel trick on me since birth.
I would just want to keep my children and my dear friends

[TNRobin]

Well, I haven't transitioned and I don't know if I ever will fully. I'm kind of 50% on both sides; male and female. I'm really not sure which side I want to remain in, so it's a very confusing issue.

But back to the original question. I'd definitely keep my guns. I would wish that I could keep my strength, but realize that strength and muscle size do go together and I'd really like to have more feminine arms. I'd keep my Jeep and my hobby of off roading and rock crawling with it.

But like I said, I haven't transitioned and don't know how far this journey will take me, so I'm a newby answering a complex question, so I don't know if I have an honest answer for you.

[tanyalynn51]

I'm keeping my tactical knife and ballisong collection...I'm gonna be an unusual girl...lol

If youre going to be unusual too- I am not giving up my guns, nor my love of adventure. I may find a more lady-like gun to carry around though:D I do have a concealed carry permit, and where I live is still a bit of the wild wild west. I cant see my taste in reading changing- I know a lot of gg's that like mystery's and thrillers, which are what I tend to favor.

[Jorja]

If youre going to be unusual too- I am not giving up my guns, nor my love of adventure. I may find a more lady-like gun to carry around though:D I do have a concealed carry permit, and where I live is still a bit of the wild wild west. I cant see my taste in reading changing- I know a lot of gg's that like mystery's and thrillers, which are what I tend to favor.

A more ladylike gun = .44Mag


Jorja

[Elizabeth 66]

All this talk of guns! its hard to get my head around the gun and even knife culture as im from the UK and if i had even a small knife in my purse i would end up in prison!

[tanyalynn51]

A more ladylike gun = .44Mag


Jorja

I love it :D I have a very good friend, a gg, who has one, and swears by it. I actually would probably lean towards something small and compact, as I used to target shoot with a .22- not a lot of stopping power, but if you can hit where youre aiming, that wont matter...

[Jorja]

What I found during transition and 20 years post srs is, you don't have to give up anything you don't want to give up. I still love rebuilding old Harleys, I just restored a 46 Chevy pickup, rock climbing, baseball and apple pie, I love sewing my own dresses, needlepoint and crocheting, cooking, makeup, and pretty pink panties:daydreaming:. It is not about giving up male things for female things. It's about making yourself whole. Making your outside fit the inside.

Jorja

[tanyalynn51]

All this talk of guns! its hard to get my head around the gun and even knife culture as im from the UK and if i had even a small knife in my purse i would end up in prison!

Im in New Mexico, the 5th largest state in the US, and as I said before, still a lot of it is the wild wild west. You dont need a permit to carry a knife, and only felons cant own guns.

[RockerTerri]

All this talk of guns! its hard to get my head around the gun and even knife culture as im from the UK and if i had even a small knife in my purse i would end up in prison!

I only have a small gun...Glock 27. Little gun. Big bullet. Somewhere I once read that

"Gun control is the idea that a woman found strangled with her own pantyhose is somehow morally superior to a woman explaining to the police how her attacker received that bullet wound."

Not trying to derail anything, and I wish I lived in a world where firearms (especially handguns) werent required. Sadly, we dont. That isnt a holdover from me being male at birth, it is a outgrowth of my new found desire to be here (as in, on this planet) a good long while yet.

[Elizabeth 66]

I know in the states there are a lot more guns, and it doesn't stand to say it is going to be a felon who will rape and murder, after all they all did it for the first time, all i was saying is that here it is not spoken as much about, i have in the past used guns on many an occasion, i was an army marksman, but that as a long time ago. it just seemed strange to me, not being from a culture were guns are so available, i know the first time i was in the states and i went to wall-mart, i was shocked to see guns on sale in the supermarket! but still each to our own.

[Angel.Marie76]

Julie, LOVE the sharp & pointy picks, you handle them so well! ;-)

However, in my quest of 'disposing of the male', I feel like I'm going the opposite direction. Rather than think of all or as few of the things that I want to keep, I'm looking forward to being rid of the things I certainly no longer want.. It of course would be a far larger list.

I know I have the things I WILL keep, no matter what, and those things do include sharp and pointies of all shapes and sizes, and boomsticks of various calibers. I know plenty of women who are knife and gun nuts, and I never felt any less womanly with a pair of knee high boots with a CRKT Neck P.E.C.K. tucked away where even a frisker might find it hard to detect. Heck, one of my exes LOVED combat boots, and bought herself a really sweet boot knife that had adjustable tensioned release springs from it's sheath.

AAaaaaaanyway, BESIDES weapons, I think there's a lot of things from my memories that I would like to keep.. I suppose some are connected to memories forged out of 'man-dom', so as I continue to live more in my new life, the more I may even want to dispose of those bindings and create newer versions if possible. Personally I'd love to get rid of every photograph of the male, however with pictures of family and my son in other's hands, I would never be able to escape that visual completely.

Optimally, I'd like to keep all my useful hobbies and likes, and throw away all the maleness, the rude, brash, unrefined-ness of my previous life.

And lastly, I would love to be able to keep my son. With this transition in progress, and his mother 3000+ miles away, there's plenty of debate as to where he'll want to reside in the end. I hope every day that it will continue to be me.