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SandraAbsent
04-25-2010, 11:53 PM
Well I will have to say I had an interesting week to say the least. As Sandra becomes more and more a part of my life, I am learning to love her! I also love coming here and I feel very at ease with everyone here. Which leads to encounter #1 this week.

I was at my sisters house helping her with a webdesign course she is taking. I always run my messenger program and I have a yahoo account for him and her. Well needless to say while sitting with side by side laptops, a notification from this site popped up from my system tray. You should have seen me try to scramble to clear it from the screen. Then suddenly in a very descending tone I hear, "You're getting a message from crossdressers.com?" with her husband only ten feet or so away. I quickly passed it off as just another piece of spam mail like russian brides and viagra ads. She said "oh" and we went on. Personally I don't think she bought it. And my sister who I talk to almost daily, hasn't called all week. I stopped by her house today and it seemed a bit tense. I hope if she knows now, this hasn't ruined our very great relationship. I suppose only time will tell. I know I am not going to bring it up again unless she does.

Then as I am sure you all read, I made my way out of the house for the first time this week. I can only say now that I feel so much more confident about this. Am I ready to do this on a regular basis? Probably not yet, but Im not afraid of it either anymore.

Lastly and I think this is the best day I have had in ages, I went and had drinks with a very good GG friend of mine. She is the most understanding girl that I know, and is very open to "alternative" lifestyles as she partakes in a bit herself. Long story short, I came out to her. I was absolutely stunned at how accepting she was. and we talked for hours about girl stuff :) I actually learned a lot from her about everything from what would look best on me, make-up, and hygene/skin care. It was actually a blast. Later that night, we headed back to my place, and I dressed. Sandra made her first RL friend :hugs: We both had so much fun. For the first time in my life I got called a bitch, why? Because apparently I am blessed with better legs then 90% of the girls she knows...lol. Anyhow I did learn one thing from this whole experience. Walking in heels is one thing, walking in heels after several very strong martinis is completely different.

So this capped off a very wonderful week for me, and I feel like a thousand tons of bricks have been lifted from my shoulders. I know that there are plenty more bricks to be lifted, but maybe someday I wont need them to be so broad :)

I am worried a bit about my sis. Should I let it go or head it off before it becomes an issue?

makin' it real
04-26-2010, 12:36 AM
Oh Sandra, how wonderful your gg friend is so accepting. Doesn't it just feel great to be able to talk with someone in real life? :hugs: And a gg at that! She can help you learn lots of insider information!

Sorry to hear about the glitch at your sister's though. Maybe you could just say something to her like, "Hey, I've noticed we haven't talked much this past week and I've missed you. Are you okay? Is there something going on?" That way you're not naming anything except what's observable and some of what you feel, while leaving it open to her to either brush it aside or bring it out. Even though it seems so obvious to you, it really might have nothing to do with the crossdressers notice.

Still, I'm happy to hear you're coming to ever-greater acceptance of yourself. That's by far the toughest thing for many of us. I applaud and celebrate your coming out! WooHoo!

t-girlxsophie
04-26-2010, 03:41 AM
Hi Sandra,Am Glad you have found a friend to confide in,and am happy that you have made it out of the House dressed,well done!:) From small Acorns.

Regarding your Sister I'm just wondering maybe your Sis is just as worried as you are,and Is unsure how to Approach you about what she saw.
I hope it all turns out ok for you

Sheila
04-26-2010, 04:48 AM
Sandra, glad you had a great time with your friend :)

Your sister .......... is it her or is it your attitude that may or may not have changed, what I am trying to say is did she say in a sarcastic tone or did you read it that way, and did perhaps not your actions, give her the feeling that you wanted to keep things secret, did/does she maybe feel you are shutting her out and feel hurt by that ?

Shelly Preston
04-26-2010, 07:06 AM
Its great to hear your GG friend is so accepting and willing to give you advice too

As for your sister. The best approach would be to call her and get talking again. Only then can you decide if she really knows. You can then choose to explain things a bit more.

The link in my signature has lots of good info on telling people

kimdl93
04-28-2010, 02:14 PM
I know this is a tough one, but maybe you should start planning for that conversation with your sister. If she's like mine, it won't be as much of a surprise as you may think.

Jessy
04-28-2010, 09:22 PM
Nice to hear you had a great time!

I think it would be good if you can get the courage to talk to your sister. If you have a good relationship with her, don't let it become an issue. If her husband read the full "crossdressers.com", I wouldn't be surprised if they checked it out. I know I would :heehee:
If they did, maybe other things started making more sense, and she might be uncomfortable bringing it up to you. After all she saw your reaction, and might conclude you want to stay in the closet, and not bringing it up out of respect.

gabimartini
04-28-2010, 09:56 PM
Tough call about your sister. It's hard to dispense advice since I don't know her and how she's likely to react, should you decide to come out to her.

However, I believe that it's up to you to bridge the gap, instead of waiting for her to bring it up. She may be respecting your space and waiting for you to come forth. So, I think it's better to face it off, than pretending it didn't happen.

My two cents.

Cassandra Lynn
04-28-2010, 10:53 PM
Wow. congrats on having one of those supportive/accepting GG friends to share with, that's so awesome.
As for the sister, i'm hoping it's as has been said, she is not sure about bringing it up to you. My opinion, for what it's worth, is go ahead and try to talk to her as normal and see if she comes around. Confession is totally up to you, only you know your sis.
I just don't like the advice heard on this site, all to often, pushing for coming out to everyone around you. With that said, good luck Sandra. mj (Cassie)

AKAMichelle
04-28-2010, 11:06 PM
Congratulations - You escaped the closet. You will never go back in the closet now. You know how much fun it is out.

As for sister, don't worry about it. If it comes up, then tell her.

Presh GG
04-28-2010, 11:20 PM
Gee Cassie,
I must have missed all those posts!
I've only seen the ones about shareing with the person you plan to spend your life with, [Oh and a few others who have already spent what amounts to half or three quarters of the years already spent in life] While hideing the truth from said "loved one". And liveing a liveing hell afraid of being caught.

But maybe I was absent that day.

Presh GG

Sandra, what is your sister like ?

Cassandra Lynn
04-28-2010, 11:41 PM
Gee Cassie,
I must have missed all those posts!
I've only seen the ones about shareing with the person you plan to spend your life with, [Oh and a few others who have already spent what amounts to half or three quarters of the years already spent in life] While hideing the truth from said "loved one". And liveing a liveing hell afraid of being caught.

But maybe I was absent that day.

Presh GG


Touche, i stand somewhat corrected.

SandraAbsent
04-29-2010, 10:51 AM
Just want to say thanks to everyone for your input. Im not still sure how I am going to approach this, but for now its nice to sit back and absorb the feedback. Just one of the reasons I absolutely love this site.