Dressing at home just is not enough

[StephanieT]

Lately I have noticed that dressing at home is just not enough. If I am going to take the time to fully dress, I need to get out in the world. Nails, shaving, Dressing, make-up, choosing the right outfit and wig is a lot of work. Just as while get out and enjoy myself. Don't really care where I go as it is just fun. Bought some tools at Harbor Freight today and got a mam. Not that I am 100% passable but I work at it and enjoy it. Anybody else feel this way

[SandraAbsent]

I just started going out and I have to say its a blast. I am still really careful about where I go, but getting more and more carefree every time! There is nothing better the sound of your own heels on the sidewalk!

[txrobinm]

To quote my friend Nikkie- we are all 100% passable as T-folk!

[docrobbysherry]

If u'r like me, and CAN'T pass at midnite, driving by a blind person, why would u want to go out dressed in public?:brolleyes:

If I REALLY want abuse, I'll go to a local political rally and hold a up sign saying something nice about our president!:eek:

At least I stand a slite chance of getting out of there alive!:sad:

[Lover girl]

I think it would be great to bust a move on the town. Until coworkers and nonunderstand comunity people decide that your too weird and then the next comes the cries from the comunity to remove you from your job. That's when the fun is over. If anyone out there thinks I'm wrong. I suggest you watch a show that aired on cnn a few months ago. The name of the show is " Her name was Steven " The show was CNN presents. Episode 350 aired on 3-13-10 at7:00 pm central time. After seeing that show and looking at my situation I'm concerned for myself!!!! It makes you think!!!!!!!!!

[Tasha McIntyre]

No way am I getting all Tashed up and staying home. There's nothing quite like getting out and about.:)

[Persephone]

If I REALLY want abuse, I'll go to a local political rally and hold a up sign saying something nice about our president!:eek:

Just please, please don't do that en femme, Sherry! We don't need the bad press! :) :heehee:

Actually, I have been thinking about going to the next Tea Party rally en femme with a sign along the lines of "GLBT's for Freedom!" My bet is that I'll get far more approval than disapproval.

Stephanie, I'm a definite out-and-about crossdresser. Still, like Sandra, I urge you to approach going out with serious consideration. It can have consequences.

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I'll head for my shelter now.

[Angiemead12]

I just started going out and I have to say its a blast. I am still really careful about where I go, but getting more and more carefree every time! There is nothing better the sound of your own heels on the sidewalk!

you said it best, I always wished I could do this!

[Jannette H]

Ladies
I can say from experience their is nothing like the first time being out dressed up. It was a bunch of years ago and you never forget anything about it. You remember everything you wear and the places you walked even if it was a short walk. :battingeyelashes: I made it a point to stay from areas my former wife's friends would go and shop and away from people and friends I knew at the time would be. Try to discrete when you are out. Be careful and most of all have fun I'm positive you will:o

[DinaMature]

Lately I have noticed that dressing at home is just not enough. If I am going to take the time to fully dress, I need to get out in the world. Nails, shaving, Dressing, make-up, choosing the right outfit and wig is a lot of work. Just as while get out and enjoy myself. Don't really care where I go as it is just fun. Bought some tools at Harbor Freight today and got a mam. Not that I am 100% passable but I work at it and enjoy it. Anybody else feel this way

I feel the same way.
In fact, knowing that I can't get out will often stop me from even bothering with it at all. I get real frustrated by that.

I wish I had an attached garage. I could get ready, jump discreetly into the car and leave my neighborhood unnoticed. As is, swarming kids and chatty adults keep me boxed in.

[Darla Jean]

Gosh, I would love to be able to dress and go out in public - a real dream....but I do not think I could ever get to that level by myself. I would need some sisters for support (and to check out my makeup and build my confidence, etc.). I'm a big fellow and hmmmm, not sure I could pass. And I'm not sure where I could find the help, so I'm probably going to stay at home for now. But I envy those who have made the step and love hearing your stories and fantasizing.....

[BRANDYJ]

Yep, just like that old saying.... All dressed up and no place to go. It does get old and we want to venture out.

[Angie G]

I drive at night and love it.Can't get out in the daylight. And that's fine with me.I'm happy.:hugs:
Angie

[SandraAbsent]

Actually, I have been thinking about going to the next Tea Party rally en femme with a sign along the lines of "GLBT's for Freedom!" My bet is that I'll get far more approval than disapproval.

As a "Tea Party" conservative, not a Republican, I would have to say you would be pleasantly surprised. Especially if you stumbled upon me. I believe completely in freedom of every sort including the freedom to be who I am within the confines of morality. By morality I mean as long as what I am doing does not put another person at risk of physical, emotional, or mental harm, I should be able to engage in life at will. Our creator never intended us to be intruded upon by a government, created us in his image, and blessed us with free will. Hmmm created in his image? I wonder if Jerry Farwell would agree with me there, if he saw me en femme? I guess I'm not exactly a religious conservative nut case after all. Or even better, if I phoned Anne Coulter or Sarah Palin to share my views.

Any how get dressed and go out, pass or not. Most importantly have fun.

[Jenny Doolittle]

Yes, It has been interesting over time, It is almost like for every new adventure jenny has just experienced, there is something new she wants to try.

I think coming here and seeing what others have done and enjoyed has something to do with it, but it is also that inner feelings I think we all have inside us, driving us to be more of that ideal female.

Anyway, over 45 years of realizing I am different, trying to understand it and now nurture it has been fun, frightening, expanding, and for me a very worthwhile experience. Hope it can be fro you as well.

[AKAMichelle]

I couldn't agree more. It is just to much trouble to go through all that without somewhere fun to go.

[msginaadoll]

I have noticed I will get dressed and stay in. However... I will not take the time and care that I do when I go out. I will work much longer on my makeup when Im going out, make sure I have all my accesories, and definitely have to put on my nails. Staying in can get made up and dressed in half an hour. Going out at least double or triple that.

[gabimartini]

Sounds like me a few months ago. Before, I would just stay comfortably at home. But then I started having frequent bouts of cabin fever... which led to my first outing. After that, I guess the "dam" broke and now I feel like going out everytime I dress, even if it's just for a drive. I don't always do, but I sure feel like it! :)

[Jannette H]

Sounds like me a few months ago. Before, I would just stay comfortably at home. But then I started having frequent bouts of cabin fever... which led to my first outing. After that, I guess the "dam" broke and now I feel like going out everytime I dress, even if it's just for a drive. I don't always do, but I sure feel like it! :)

You do get better at dressing and going out with time and the more time you spend out the more you want to go out en femme and you can get addicted to it in a way. Don't dress in a way that you would get noticed and read. Just go with the flow and enjoy the moment.:battingeyelashes:

[NathalieX66]

I couldn't agree more. It is just to much trouble to go through all that without somewhere fun to go.

1000% agree.:)

[RADER]

Since I will never be able to remotely pass, Just going down to the mail box
under dressed with forms in-place is like going out dressed to the hill.
I know it is tiny in comparison to a lot of forum members, but you enjoy
what you can get. :daydreaming: Rader

[StaceyJane]

I used to get dressed up for a day with my computr. Nowdays that sounds so boring. I have to get out and do stuff.

[Blake Lively]

For me it's just a private fetish I guess. I have no intention of going out dressed. Right now it's just lingerie and nothing else.

[Nicola2876]

I went through a stage in life when I basically lived at home as a woman and used to venture into the garden for a cigarette (quit now) and go for a drive semi dressed but it becomes not enough in time and the urge to go further creeps in. Now I dress when I can and when that is quite often I do start wanting to go further and go out dressed.

[Kaitlyn Michele]

If you are just in it for fun, there are always places to go...its on you ...yes there is always a risk, but there are private events and gay neighborhoods...remember you are pretty well disguised...

when i was occiasionally crossdressing, i ran into people I knew at very close range on a couple of occasions...since transitioning i've asked them if they remember and none of them had a clue or even remember the day it happened...

i realize that i'm on the east coast and it's a bit more friendly than the deep south, but then get your butt to southern comfort and have some fun

[victoriamwilliams1]

I remember that feeling and I know what you mean:) The urge to get out is strong especially when you see others doing it:)

[charlie]

Hello Stephanie!
You are correct! Open the door and go out. I started by going to a gay bar. From there I found a mall and walked through it and straight out. Then the movie theater. Now I shop and just go out like any other girl. The would awaits you...and you will be amazed, it does not stop much!

[Sheren Kelly]

I think going out is a watershed event in accepting yourself. My first experiences were terrifying, but as I came to accept being both masculine (when required) and feminine (by choice), I came to see the entire world a little differently; less black and white and more gray. I know I have been seen in town by neighbors and on one occasion a woman from work. But if you are confident in yourself, you leave them little opportunity to rain on your parade.

But like Kaitlyn, I live in a metropolitan area on the East coast, so I may have a better location to explore the world as Kelly.

[sherri52]

I am not passable at all and I've never been maam'ed. They also never call me sir. I think there is a little fear in them as they don't want to comment either way even though I've been read. If I were ever to get a maam i think I would faint from the shock.

[kimdl93]

I'm still building up the courage to go out fully en femme. I don't have any illusions about being able to pass, but like so many others above, the urge to be out in the world is growing!

[melina]

I know how you feel.
some times when the urge is just too irresistable, i will put on panties, short shorts, v neck ladies tank top and some cute sandles. top with polished toes and lipgloss and magnetic earrings and ladies watch.
I drive to another town and stop by carwash and spray my car and do some sightseeing. nervous yes, but satisfying. I realy dont care what anyone thinks because no one knows who i am there. Ohh to relive those days when I could pull off the going out fully dressed.

[ShevanAZ]

I agree! I have gone to a few of the gay bars and had a great time! Even GG coming over and saying hello! Although I change before I exit the building...

[Tina P Hose]

After all the time I have been in this little group,I have yet to go in public dressed. Although when, I grow my hair long, I have been called mam, when a customer would see me from behind. ( I work retail at we all were the same uniform).

[dominique]

I had to take the next step and it was going out en-femm. Since then love going out and shopping and being a woman out and about.

[beachgirl33]

I used to derive some enjoyment from trying on a pair of beautiful heels and walking around the house, but my crossdressing has progressed to the point that I only dress if I know I will be leaving the house fully en femme. It takes so much effort to create a feminine appearance that I can't stand wasting the time alone in my house. I also now prefer to go shopping during the daytime. Shopping during the daylight hours would have terrified me during my early outings because of the perception that I was open for everyone to see. Paradoxically, I feel much more safe and comfortable during the day than I ever did during the "cover" of darkness. I have been almost completely "accepted" during my outings to stores like Kohls although I occasionally get a knowing smile or lingering look from a sales rep or another woman. I like to interpret the smile as "I know what you're up to, but you look pretty good anyway."

[abigail43]

You girls who hide away , how are the people in society going to one day understand if we all don't get out there it does not matter if you don't pass for a woman you are a a man who likes to wear dresses so what the world does not understand because they are not informed enough . I love getting out there dressed and I don't hardly ever get negative reactions.I fist started getting out there when I was 20 what's the point of getting dressed if you can't show off getting out

[WendyH]

Absolutely. It's too much work getting all dressed up just to stay at home. If I go to all the trouble of doing my hair and makeup you can bet I'm going somewhere! The thrill of dressing up for its own sake has been mostly gone for a long time; these days I concentrate more on developing my feminine side through social interaction.

[sfwarbonnet]

Yes, the farther I go, the farther I want to go! Now it’s a slip, pantyhose, and a top at home with my wife. Next comes growing real boobs and needing to wear a bra full time. When she becomes comfortable with that… My goal is to go out routinely with her enfemme and to do things (like dinner and a show). This would probably “need” an excuse such as a costume party and need to occur on a vacation away from home. Around here there is too much chance of drop-ins, so underdressing will win but I keep expanding the box – like yesterday I wore sheer pantyhose, slip, short top, and dark pull-on pants for shopping and dinner to add exposing the nylons and slip to our comfort zone.