New CD looking for info

[Elexia]

Hiya, still new to CD but I have being wearing panties alittle here and there sense I was about 12, and it always felt wonderful. Now I'm 28, single parent, and live with my mother and sister, which doesn't know about my dressing. What's a good way to start getting more into it and how could I possibly keep it on the low for awhile untill I get more comfortable with it. And lastly, when I do wear panties, I usually get aroused, will the more I dress, will that stop? Or do I need to train myself not to do that??

[DonniDarkness]

the sexual urges will diminish some, the more you dress.
As far as getting into cding more and keeping it hidden at your moms house....ummmm not gonna be easy, however some things you can try are underdressing under your guy clothes

Garterbelt and thigh-his are usually the norm in my winter underdressing

Cami tops under a guys mode shirt

bathing suit bottoms are fun undies for summer underdressing

whatever you decide to wear, good luck and welcome to the community

[Karren H]

Yeah!! The urges will diminish... After 5 or 6 decades. As far as training.. I'd say using a large hammer...... And after a few sessions you won't get excited about nothing any more! Lol.

[Mackenzie]

Karren is so subtle... hammer doesn't sound too helpful!!

Actually, I don't think the excitement ever really fades. As I have told my precious wife, "you women get to wear the fun things!" It is always enjoyable to slip into some panties and bra, maybe nylons, garter belt, etc. Putting on the makeup, wig and jewelry... that just tips the scales in my book!!

You will have to be very discreet around the house unless you finally decide to tell the other ladies in the house.

Mackenzie

[Sarah Doepner]

Karren is right, a hammer is much better than power tools when you are living with folks you don't want to know.

If you don't take her advice, you should expect that excitment for quite a while. You may find that if you can stay dressed for an afternoon that it will diminish some through the session. Read the posts here and see what applies to you and what doesn't. This is potentially a long, long winding mountain road and not a freeway you will be traveling. Be patient, expect diversions, take care of your family and try to help others along the way.

[kimdl93]

the sexual urges are really a matter of age. I mean, at 28 what doesn't excite the average male. There are ways to take care of, ahem, that problem.

I would agree that while you're sharing the house with family members, you probably need to be a bit circumspect. Unless you are certain you want to come out to them. Best advice is to give it time, pick up a few nice things - avoid hooker wear - and take some time away from home - even a night out of town in a motel. After that see how you feel when you've had the chance to dress for a while.

[Naomi Rayne]

the sexual urges will diminish some, the more you dress.
As far as getting into cding more and keeping it hidden at your moms house....ummmm not gonna be easy, however some things you can try are underdressing under your guy clothes

Garterbelt and thigh-his are usually the norm in my winter underdressing

Cami tops under a guys mode shirt

bathing suit bottoms are fun undies for summer underdressing

whatever you decide to wear, good luck and welcome to the community


i agree with this post entirely. There are tons of things that you can underdress with. Its just a matter of what you like. Take some time to search around sites online and try to find things that you think you might enjoy and then go pick them up.

[Elexia]

take some time away from home - even a night out of town in a motel. After that see how you feel when you've had the chance to dress for a while.



I would be willing to do this, but the bad thing is being a father with full custody I can't just go out for the weekend, that's one area that hinders me Don't get me wrong , I love haveing my daughter but there's never hardly any free time and my time. That and her mother never sees her so I can depend on her taking her for a weekend!

[Nicole Erin]

Well if panties arouse you, that will probably be the case most of your life, but for the rest of dressing, that probably won't arouse.
Most people have a fetish for something, it is normal.

Most CD's dress to feel comfy, there might be that one article they like real well but the rest is just to express a femme side.

[Katesback]

Babysitter????????????????

[joandher]

yeah!! The urges will diminish... After 5 or 6 decades. As far as training.. I'd say using a large hammer...... And after a few sessions you won't get excited about nothing any more! Lol.




this is better than watching the tv , you realy now how to cheer some one up thanks

hugs j-jay

[krissy]

:hugs: hi

keep coming here we all are here for you :hugs:

[Elexia]

I just told one of my best friends today, she's been very understanding. I can't wait for her to move back close to me, couple more months. She's promised to help me with clothing decisions, makeup, and to even throw a CD party for me to help me loosen up. She's always been a wonderful friend, I never expected my friends to except it or even to try to help so much.

[Kate Simmons]

Basically there are no "rules " for crossdressing as it is an individual endeavor. We do what works best for us as we go along. Anyone who says there are "rules" with this game is delusional in my way of thinking.:)

[AKAMichelle]

Karren is so subtle... hammer doesn't sound too helpful!!

While it doesn't sound very helpful, Karen may be speaking from experience on how she solved the problem. :D

As to the main question: Yes it will diminsh but mostly it comes with age.

[docrobbysherry]

If it DOES for u, go for it!:)

If NOT, try preparing a travel kit. Use it when you're out of town at a motel. Even when you're NOT out of town!:D

U MAY find that being turned by dressing, ( maybe even the DESIRE to dress), will DECREASE when u start dating again!:brolleyes:

Then again, I'm over 60, waiting for that to happen to ME!:sad:

[sherri52]

Dressing more at home isn't that bad when you know what to put on and how. You can wear a bra with work shirts but not under T shirts, the straps always show through. You can wear hose and garter, pantyhose or thigh highs under your pants. You can wear fem jeans, most people don't even notice the difference. Some womens tops are very close to mens and you might try one of them. Clear nail polish or get a clear satin finish nail poish.

[Michaela42]

I have to agree with everyone here; if you are not sure about coming out to your family then dress very little/on the cautious side, or else you risk a big confrontation.

Myself, I wear underwear when the situation warrants (dress slacks can sometimes reveal pantie lines), and I keep body hair to a minimum. The best I can really say is to sit down and really think about your situation and then add feminine things as appropriate. I know that it is sometimes hard not to give in and dress completely, but with the living situation you described I would be careful:2c:

[Elexia]

The nail polish isn't much of a issue, I used to wear black all the time, have wore eye liner couple times also, will help applying though. Has for under dressing at work, I work in a boat factory with a bunch of rednecks, so always just jeans and a t-shirt. Has for the arousing issue, When I got home for work today, I got the one pair of panties I have and put them on under my boxers after showering, and still have them on, no problem with "wood" hehe. I think part of it was most the time in the past I looked at it when trying panties and the rare try of silky sleepwear, I alway thought of it in a sexual deviance mind frame so it turned fetish like, though today I realized when putting them on it no different then wearing my boxers and haven't felt like anything more all evening.
When I finally get around to purchasing so more articles I will check out garters, thigh highs and hose. Once again many thanks for the support and willingness to help, I really appreciate it.

[brandie]

when i first started my kids were little so i put it on hold untell they were all on moved out,now i dress all the time. and my wife is fine with it

good luck
brandie

[hoseinok]

I too have found underdressing to be a great way to experince to day "dressed"

[kimdl93]

I just told one of my best friends today, she's been very understanding. I can't wait for her to move back close to me, couple more months. She's promised to help me with clothing decisions, makeup, and to even throw a CD party for me to help me loosen up. She's always been a wonderful friend, I never expected my friends to except it or even to try to help so much.

I think its great that you have someone you can be open with now...or at least soon. Maybe in addition to being supportive of your dressing, she might be willing to give you some respite from the kids - I know you want to be a good parent first. But a weekend with a reliable adult care giver would be fine for them - and good for you to (whether you dress or not).

In any case, good luck and try to let yourself have fun!