Week 4 Inquiring Minds Want To Know

[Di]

We have Week 4 :D of our GG's questions! Thanks in advance for your help all.:love:

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?

11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern

12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?

[Nicole Erin]

10) Sometimes us TG do hear GG's make comments like, "You have better legs than I do" or "you do your makeup better than I do".
I think most of us TG take that as a huge compliment but most of us don't translate it to jealousy. Except in the cases of maybe the most perfect looking TS (sure as hell isn't me) I doubt a GG would feel threatened.

11) My partner was not comfy with my TG-ness, hince my divorce.
When it comes to dealing with TG-related issues like HRT, emotions, or other things that only a TG would understand, then yes another TG voice matters more. When it comes to looking like or assimilating as a woman, then for me, a GG opinion outweighs a TG opinion by a ton. Many TG tend to overdo things like style or mannerisms.

12) Many women are cool with TG-ness, unless it is their own partner who is doing it. Plus, sometimes partners (like my ex) would be cool with it sometimes and nasty about it others. If a partner was 100% accepting then I see no reason to exclude or hide it from her.

[BRANDYJ]

We have Week 4 :D of our GG's questions! Thanks in advance for your help all.:love:

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?

I don't post those thoughts since none of the 3 ladies that were in my life (2nd wife, (died) third wife (divorced) and present SO ) ever were jealous of my looks or ever indicated they were threatened by me in any way. And no, I'd never say it because it is a fun thing to do. I don't get that. It would be a lie and that's not good.

11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern
The only voice and opinion that is important to me is that of my SO. I could care less what my "SISTERS" voice and opinions are. Sure, nice to be complimented, but no one matters to me more then the Lady I love and loves me. No way could a SISTER'S be more valid to me.


12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?

Another thing I don't do. I hide nothing from her...and I do mean nothing. That would be a lie by omission to her and that could cause a break in the trust we have in one another.

[Babette]

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?

I sincerely hope that no one is either jealous or threatened by any aspect of me. To discover that would really depress me. If that has happened to anyone, then I am so sorry because that has never been my desire.



11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern

I'm not sure of your question's point. Are you referring to our "Sister's" opinions of what we experienced, or how we feel, or how we look, etc? I hold my wife's opinion more precious than any one else's. Yes it is her safety, concerns, feelings, sense of fashion, opinions...... that are paramount to all others. Like her, I sometimes solicit the opinions of others because they don't have the same emotional attachment or concerns for my feelings as her. Someone else's perspective adds another dimension to my thought processing.


12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?

Absolutely not!

Babette

[kimdl93]

We have Week 4 :D of our GG's questions! Thanks in advance for your help all.:love:

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?

11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern

12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?

10. No and I never have posted any such thought!
11. I don't beleive for a moment that my "voice" or those of fellow CDers has more validity or weight than that of my partner in any regard - whether it be my appearance, our safety, or whether we chose to go out in public.
12. We haven't discussed going out in public with any seriousness...although I'm interested. Just not quite ready to go there yet - if ever.

[anna kate]

I see no reason for a GG to be jealous of me, they are the ones I'm trying to emulate. I would think, a GG would think, it to be a compliment.

No opinion is more important to me than that of my wife!!!

I hide nothing from my wife, we have a very open relationship, since I came out (20 years ago) to her. There is nothing I can't talk to her about, or show her.

[JenniferR771]

No--I see no reason for jealosy, old, wrinkled face and ratty wig--however, I am a slender size 10. Perky silicone. Lots of women wish they were a size 10.

Since my wife is disapproving--she has expressed negative opinions, about my looks, when she sees photos. Sigh. But I am always happy to get a compliment from fellow cders. Their opinion and support counts because they have been there, done that.

Knows, but not accepting. Does not want to see or hear about cd. Also when I was 10 my mother scolded me severely, due to finding some girly clothes. I am thinking this caused a deep sense of guilt--which has been difficult to overcome.

[Chickhe]

10. Yes, but it is all about her insecurity, not the fact that I look okay... for example, she hates having a big rear-end and when I add padding to increase mine, she feels jealous.

11. Not many can truely understand what it feels like to walk in my high heels. My SO has a certain view of what a man is to her and CDers have a different experience so...it is all about associating with people with a similar history which is really helpful in figuring out problems.

12. It might be we don't know how to express it or there are some things that are private. How many GGs do you know who would talk about their personal grooming habbits with their SO?

[sissystephanie]

10. No!

11. It never was and never will be!

12. We had almost 50 years of her knowing everything about me. That cannot change now! I didn't hide anything from her!

[Elsa von Spielburg]

10) Heh, I've heard the off-comment about my figure, but that's really it. I'm much more jealous of GGs than the other way around.

11) Erm, I care about my GF's opinion first and foremost.

12) I don't. My GF has helped me open up/discover this part of me more than ever.

[Lorileah]

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?

huh? Sometimes I think maybe I am either being interviewed by Matt Lauer where this question gets rephrased in order to trip me up or I missed the part where I said I want to make GG's jealous. Wasn't this question asked in a slightly different manner before? Once again, I don't try and make anyone jealous. I appreciate the comments for males and females of how nice I look, how good my makeup is and how my legs look. I dress to make me happy and I love the attention. I don't make anyone jealous intentionally or otherwise to the best of my knowledge.


11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern

My inner voice is the one I listen to. I don't tell anyone what to wear or how to walk or how to hold a tea cup. When I get suggestions from my SO or people who are with me when I am out and about, I take them as they come. Often I will mull them the rest of the night and many times I will agree that what I wore may NOT have been exactly what I was going for and then move on. However, no one is ME but me and when anyone (sister or SO) tells me I MUST dress like this or that I will most likely ignore them. I think, in general, the draggy Frankenfurter/RuPaul look is at best a short trend when someone starts dressing. It doesn't take long for a TG to learn that these are not common social outfits but they DO fit in in certain situations. On the other hand, forcing one to "blend" or "pass" into your style isn't kosher. We understand your protective feelings, we have them too. But would a GG like it if their SO said "Cover that up you look like a ..."? No they usually react badly to that yet don't understand why we do when you say you don't like what we wear. It's a two way street


12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?

Fear of being torn to shreds? Fear of having that puckery lemon face look thrown at us. Sort of the same reasons GG's don't own up to everything they do.

[sandra-leigh]

10) Some women have directly expressed minor envy of my bustline when I wear my 40G forms (usually as I'm looking over at them and envying their bust-line!). I'm not aware of any other "jealousy" of my looks... not many women would want to be routinely pegged as male by 99.99+% of the population!

If any GG's are envious of my looks, I think it would more likely be envy of my freedom and self-confidence, of the permission I have given myself to go out and dress pleasantly and to be happy. Most people trap themselves: I know I did that to myself for so long (and still do in a number of respects.) It is true, though, that I can afford "nice" clothes and interesting (but not necessarily expensive) earrings, and can afford the time to search for those things. From one point of view, my life is pretty good -- but I wouldn't wish my internal struggles on anyone.


(Note: if I decide later to answer the other questions, I will edit the answers into this message.)

[pamela_a]

10. Women jealous of my looks? I find that highly doubtful. I have had a few female friends tell me it wasn't fair that my bust is bigger than theirs (a natural D) but that's about it. I dress to look nice most of the time and I do receive positive comments from other women on my outfits and look but I can't imagine they are jealous of anything

11. My wife and I tended to have very similar tastes in clothes and she regularly had me shop for her and I don't dress to attract attention. My goal is to blend in like any other woman.

12. Did I hide thing from her? Probably no more than I hid them from myself. The past 8 years she knew as I changed my wardrobe from male to female. Less than 1 year before she passed away I accepted I was TS and started transitioning and she was there for me. The last few months before she died she even started calling me Pam

[Tina B.]

There is only one GG that sees me, and the only thing she is jealous of is my ability to lose weigh faster than she can. That and my wardrobe, she is always telling me if she gets down to my size and I loss some more, she wants my hand me downs. I really hate the thought of her wearing all my clothes, I know they would look so much better on her than me.

I love reading the Sisters opinions, but I don't take anyones opinion over hers but my own.

I might be willing to hide something from her if I could think of anything she doesn't already know. But it's been almost forty years since I told her about me, and I didn't hold back then, and I never did again.
Tina B.

[AKAMichelle]

10) do you really believe that ggs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?

Not in the least. That's why I even insist that a GG would be jealous of my looks.


11) why is your "sisters" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "us", "our" safety should be "our" concern

It's not


12) even though your so knows and is accepting of your cding why do you still hide aspects of your cding from her?

I hid things because my wife wasn't accepting. I think if she accepts me then I should trust her and show her the respect that she is showing me.

[msniki48]

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?[/B]



In no way is there any GG jealous of my looks, at least i don't think so.... uh i wouldn't mind....er it would probably lift my spirits a little. well maybe there is one or two women in this world that would be jealous....:heehee: NOPE i don't think so:battingeyelashes:


11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern

i listen to my wife, but then again she listens to me when it comes to dressing. i think our styles compliment each other.
I would hope that if there are any sisters that would ask my opinion... it would be very veryclose to that of any GG's opinion. dress approprietly for your age and occasion. reality is that no one sees you more than your SO...she sees you from every angle in real time...not some snap shot in the perfect angle and lighting So listen to her!


12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?

I don't,[ NOW]

but until i was totally accepting of myself there is a scense of self loathing, thus the need to hide part of it.. i am not saying it is right, i am just saying it is one reason why it happens. I never knew what TG meant when i was younger, and i hid it from my 1st wife for 23 yrs. it wasn't until therapy that i gained a realization of who i was...and i wasn't so bad, that i became comfortable. My wife passed 8 yrs ago.[ we were both at peace with niki in the end] i hold nothing from my 2nd wife of 2 yrs and we are both at peace...well maybe she is more at peace than me right now...but that is another thread.




Thank you for making me think:hugs:

[Jonianne]

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?

I think I can safely say that no GG's would be jealous of my looks and I would hope no one would feel threatned by how I look, although I might look pretty scary. Maybe that's why all the women and children go running and screaming when I walk by!


11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern

Although I have wonderful CD friends on here, I very much value my wife's opinion more than anyone else. She is the one that sees me live, in person.


12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?

I don't hide anything from my wife and I always try to express myself in a way that I would never feel ashamed if she read everything I posted.


13) Have you stopped beating your wife?

Ahhhhhhh..........

[joandher]

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?

A)I dont think any gg would be jealous of my looks, and ive never even hinted or thought that

11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern

A) Our "SISTERS" voice or opinion is not more valid, but it is also nice to get an unbiased view from outher people,I try to dress to blend in ,and try to not draw attention to myself,and safety is allways a big concern

12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?

A) My darling wife knows about my under dressing which is 24/7 and is excepting of that, and even does all my washing and ironing ,and puts my undies away,and even buys me a few things now and again ,but trying to take it further is a BIG NO NO , I keep hinting but she blocks it out ,and doesnt know that i fully dress and go out shopping , meetings,events,etc
I only wish she would be fully excepting,that would be my dream come true


:hugs: J-JAY

[Sarah Doepner]

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?

Absolutly not. Hey Ladies! Does any one of you really want to look like a guy in a nice women's outfit? I didn't think so.

11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern.

My wife has come to trust my judgement on what I wear and how I behave. It's to the point that she rarely comments on my choices unless I ask her, the same as I'd do on the forum. We have established guidelines for safety and I follow them. If there is any need to change them, I try my very best to consult with her first.

12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?

I'll have to think about that. I wonder if I am hiding something from her and I'm in denial about it. I believe she knows all about my CDing, but maybe it's time to talk again. Did she put you up to asking this question?

[Renee_E]

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?

No I don" think GGs are jealuos of my looks nor would they feel threatened. If I did post anything along those lines it might be GGs beware you might die of laughter.

11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern

They aren't more important, it just is a different perspective.

12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?

My partner is accepting but not always comfortable when I am dressed. Wearing earrings or make up make her uncomfortable. So,I hide those things that make her uncomfortable
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[bredalee25]

#10 I personally have never said that nor do I think that.

#11 On this one I respect the oppinions of sister CD's my wife doesn't understand quite as well as other CD's do. My dressing is confined to our home so "Our saftey" isn't a concern for us.

#12 She knows everthing except about this website as I don't know how she'd react knowing I talk to other CD's she might take as a form of cheating on her so to speak. The last thing I want to do is hurt the most wonderful woman in the world to me. So if keeping a little secret aids me in doing that so be it.

[sherri52]

10) Gg's have no fear of me and I'm sure there is no jealousy.
11) As for opinions my GG friends are always complimenting me and never give me a bad review. Hopefully my sisters here will give me the truth when I ask, without hurting me too much. Of course I'm smart enough not to ask.
12) Both of my exes were unaccepting so everything was hidden from them.

[minalost]

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?

Weird question. I've never though, let alone posted, anything of the sort. My wife doesn't understand my desire to use makeup because she doesn't use any, but that's something I've never translated as jealousy. I'm too tall, too hairy, and too clumsy - so why would ANY GG be Jealous of ME?

11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern

All good points. My "sisters" voice and opinions on these things are NOT more valid than my wifes. That being said, my "sisters" opinions on things that do not affect both myself and my wife or our relationship MIGHT be more valid just because of our shared experiances. Just like my wife's opinion regarding my other hobbies that she doesn't share MAY not be as valid and other hobbiests. Note the "mights" and "mays;" these things are always situational.

12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?

This assumes she is accepting. She's not - but she's getting better at understanding my side of it. I hide specific details because she doesn't really want to know. The same thing that applies to "other hobbies" above applies here. Just like she doesn't tell me all the minute details of her day to day activities. This is something, however, that we both need to work on. I think that better communication and total honesty is a better policy. But it's hard to break the habit of a lifetime...

[Debb]

We have Week 4 :D of our GG's questions! Thanks in advance for your help all.:love:

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?

11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern

12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?

I only have a "real" answer for #12, but here's 10: I don't post these kinds of thoughts, because it'd never occur to me that girls would be jealous of me. Trust me, I'm just an ugly guy in a dress... and here's 11: not sure validity-wise, frankly I'm afraid to ask my wife about a lot of this stuff, related to my cross-dressing. I suppose I lend credence to other CDs' answers because many of them are echoing my own thoughts.

And now for 12: I'm having this very difficulty now. In the past, my wife was really accepting of my crossdressing, and she still is, as far as I know. I guess I just can't see how she can be so accepting, since I can't seem to accept it myself much of the time. I quit crossdressing around two years ago, and in the past few months I have fallen back into the "hobby". I've mentioned it to my wife, and she still seems accepting of it ... and I just can't understand. It's not destructive to our relationship, except when I allow it to be... so what's the problem?

BTW I typed all of this before reading the other responses, just to get it down ... thanks all for reading this!

[Angiemead12]

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?

yes, jealous because I dont have a period, or cellulite on my thighs, or that i have loooong legs. no because Im a man with a flat chest and a small behind.

11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern

I value my partners comments the most.

12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?

i dont hide anything anymore!

[dilane]

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?

I often get complimented on one thing or another by a GG, say my thinness or eyes, or somesuch. But I don't think they're jealous! Chances are it's just girly chit chat. When it is genuine admiration of one or another trait, I take it at face value, not as jealousy.


11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern

I value my wife's opinions more than any T-girl! However, I'm the rare one who doesn't dress in ultra short skirts, etc, hookerware, or the like. I dress like the middle-aged GG's do at the places I go.


12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?

I'm quite open, she knows I go out one night a week, get asked to dance, get an occasional drink bought, etc. (I don't fool around so no need to be secretive).

[MissKara]

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?


I think that GG's arnt that much jealous of our looks (Although there are some really cute ones out there :heehee:), but I think they have feel threatened about our hightended emotional reasoning/level.



11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern


An SO/Partner is not going through the same things we are and usually they don't understand the same way our sisters do.



12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?

I didn't tell everything to my ex-gf because I was afraid at what she would think of me. There are some dark sides to CDing.

Lots of Love,
Miss Kara

[Jenniferpl]

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?

A Gg has nothing to fear from me. I will never be able to compete

11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern

It is my wife's encouragement and acceptance that allows Jennifer to exist. What she says goes. My family is more important that my cross dressing. I refuse to sacrifice that. Any encouragement I receive from my fellow sisters here is just that encouragement. In the end, it is my wife’s opinion that matters and only her opinion. I would not do anything that would endanger her or embarrass her.

12) Even though you’re SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?

I am like an onion. Over the years it has been my wife that has peeled back the layers of that onion. She has slowly been able to make me accept that I am a cross dresser (big time denial). The last layer was peeled back a couple of months ago. The last thing I hide from her was my large breast inserts. She found them and like after peeling back all the other layers, she gave me her full support and encouragement. Over time this has had to have been hard on her but she as stuck to me side.

Since coming to terms that I am cross dresser and that it will never go away, I realized this is a lot more fun with her support and encouragement than sneaking around her behind back and hiding it.

[PretzelGirl]

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?

I don't feel that way and haven't ever posted those thoughts. I can't imagine a GG being jealous about any part of my presentation.

11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern

I think all opinions are valid. If there is a conflict, I would certainly go with my wife's thoughts and I always seek those thoughts. But there also is a lot of experience here and it is something that is good to take advantage of. No one person has all the answers. And for me, this isn't just about listening to my wife, but I also have gotten a lot of good advice from my daughter. And we plan on going out together, so her concerns certainly matter!

12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?

I don't feel I hide anything from my wife. I tell her everything that I can think of that is significant (and a lot that isn't).

[christine55]

It is stupid and self serving to believe that any GG's are jealous of us because of out looks. If a girl passes very well and is very pretty a GG would be jealous only in the same way that one GG would be jealous of another.

I usually dress well and do a pretty good job on my makeup and nails but can't quite pass to cashiers. The two reactions I seem to get are either that feeling of unease or else I get shown a degree of respect, not jealousy, for what I have been able to accomplish instead of my shortcomings.

Hugs, Christine

[Kerigirl2009]

[QUOTE=Di;2143585]We have Week 4 :D of our GG's questions! Thanks in advance for your help all.:love:

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?

No I have never said GG are jealous of my good looks, I think I pail in comparison to all genuine girls, but I wish I had the confidence of a woman.

11) why is your "sisters" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "us", "our" safety should be "our" concern

I do value the opinions of my sisters, However and I hope no one takes offense to this, but I would much rather hear from a Genuine Girl. As far as being comfortable, I have not had the pleasure of being around GG and being able to interact with them while dressed.

12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?

I try not to hide any aspects from my wife anymore, I know that she knows and if she ever wants to ask me about it I try to be honest. I would still rather be allowed to wear whatever my heart desires but I know this would make her uncomfortable being around me and I don't wish to do that.
My largest desire for when I am Keri is to feel at peace with my wife, I so wish I could spend part of my life with her even if it was in private. This would make me very happy and I feel would open up my heart to her ever so much more than I can because I am still shielding myself from her to keep her comfortable.

[Blaire]

We have Week 4 :D of our GG's questions! Thanks in advance for your help all.:love:

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?

11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern

12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?

10 - My looks? Not a chance. Other gals on here, maybe it's true - but I notice that the ones for which it is most likely true, are the ones that don't have much to say about themselves on it. There are a few here that take a little self-image pep talk over the top, and if I'm ever one of them, I hope someone slaps me upside the head with a wet fish.

11 - I can only assume it's a case of like to like, been-there-done-that type of experience. That may offer a greater sense of "validity" for that persons opinion. That said, to use this to ignore your partner's thoughts and feelings is more than just wrong. For heaven's sake, this CD has a partner that will go out with her, and said CD then thumbs her nose at her partner's feelings??

12 - Old habits? A continuance of the initial fears resulting from perceived escalations or discoveries?


I'm finding these questions from the last four weeks interesting, but somehow fragmented. Obviously, they're from a person's experience, but it's hard to give a decent answer without knowing some more of the back story. #11 really stands out for me in this one, but it's partly true for most of them.

[docrobbysherry]

10- Not Applicable to me.

11 and 12- Same answer to both:
I don't think ANYONE of either sex, can understand what my CDing is all about. Except other CDs! And, I'm NOT too sure about THEM!:brolleyes:

[t-girlxsophie]

#1 I can honestly say ive never thought anything like that,they would have to be Very low on self esteem to feel threatened by me

#2 Who would know better what us Crossdressers go through,or experience than another one of us so in some ways their input is invaluable,BUT my Wife knows me better than anyone else and she is the one most affected by my dressing,and whatever major choices I make are run by her first.If She doesn't like anything I want to do then It wont get done.and I don't have any problem with that.

#3 I dont hide anything from my Wife,right from day one she has known everything about Sophie,my past as well as the present day,I would be sullying every promise i've made her if I kept anything from her now

[Shelly Preston]

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?
Not a chance that a GG would be jealous of me



11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern

I think the most valid opinions are from those people i trust that are not afraid to tell me if something is wrong ( which is mostly GG's )


12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?

I don't hide anything now I don't see the point in it

[TxKimberly]

We have Week 4 :D of our GG's questions! Thanks in advance for your help all.:love:

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?


Oh Puh-lease. I do neither. I DO know that my wife has let herself go some, in part because she feels there is little point in her devoting the effort because of what I am. It's not at all that she is jealous, it's more that she sees no point in "competing" with me. This she told me herself a year or so ago.






11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern



Sorry, but this is clearly a question aimed directly someone's partner and probably isn't gonna be relevant to most of us. I DO trust my wife's opinion more than anyone elses - after all, who do you think taught me to put an outfit together? :)






12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?

I don't. I've seen marriage after marriage fail in my lifetime and I always had it in the back of my head that many of the failures were due to not being honest with each other. I tell my wife everything and why wouldn't I? She is my wife, lover, best friend, and the mother to my children. If I can't be honest with her, then who?

[Deborah Jane]

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?

I've never believed GGs to be jealous of me, why should they be? They're the real deal, I'm just a rough copy.



11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern

I value my partners opinion more, after all, she's been out in female clothing a heck of a lot more than I have.



12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?

I don't, she knows more about my C/Ding than I do.

[JulieK1980]

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?

A.) Definitely not. (Of course I don't post anything like that either) lol
-If someone did post that their looks make others jealous I'd say its either overcompensation for their own low self-esteem or they are very narcissistic.....

11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern

A.) My wife is the first person I go to if I have a question. If I wanted a multitude of opinions I'd ask here after I got her answer.

12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?

A.) I don't hide any aspects.

[Emily Ann Brown]

Not hiding even thing from my girlfriend

The only thing she is jealous of is my dress size.

Em

[Lexine]

10) I think it's moreso the fact that my GG friends are now becoming more comfortable with this version of me that I'm presenting to them, hence why they're complimenting me and encouraging what I'm doing. It's not that they're jealous... they're just speaking their mind. When they tell me "You look cute!" they never bring it back to themselves and try to compensate for something.

11) I value both opinions, though more weight would fall on my (potential) SO who will have/has been around me more so than anyone of my sisters here.

12) I came out to my (potential) SO even before our first date. She will know when I go out en femme because I'll let her know.

[Michaela42]

We have Week 4 :D of our GG's questions! Thanks in advance for your help all.:love:

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?

11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern

12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?

10.) I am still new here but I do not think I have made any comment like that. And believe me, if I do it will be surely in jest. The only thing I ever want anyone to be jealous of me for is my great friends and family.

11.) I am single so this question does not apply to me.
12.) See reply number 11.

[Joanne f]

We have Week 4 :D of our GG's questions! Thanks in advance for your help all.:love:

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?

Definitely not.

11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern
Have not spoken in over 20 years, i only listen to my wife.

12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?

I hide nothing of my CDing from her but i am having increasing concerns that i have to hide my TG issues from her as i feel a change in attitude some times which may make me start to hide some of my Cding.:sad:

[suchacutie]

10) GGs jealous of my looks? Not a chance...with one exception...my wonderful wife is jealous of my legs. I guess it's only fair as I'm jealous of many of her body parts!!!! I do know that some here post this silliness about GG jealousy...it's so incredibly silly.

11) My wife's opinions and council are what counts in my life. I love this forum for ideas and to hear what others think, but the bottom line is that no one in my life is more important than my wife, and that includes her opinions vis a vis Tina.

12) Hide anything from her? First of all, that's not possible in the long run...all of you who have been married for a long period of time know what I mean! Second, why would I hide anything from the one person who is my mentor, guide, and confidant? Heck, I've even tried buying clothes without her opinion and it was a disaster. They were so not "Tina" that they are currently in the Good-Will pick up!

:)

Tina

[Traci Elizabeth]

We have Week 4 :D of our GG's questions! Thanks in advance for your help all.:love:

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?

11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern

12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?


10) My wife is far more beautiful and attractive than I ever will be. She is a knock out so there is NO competition in our home.

11) I have to agree with this. My wife's opinion is far more valuable to me than all the sisters combined. She is my "soul mate" and her love for me is endless. She deserves nothing less.

12) I actually don't hide ANY aspect or any part of my transition from my wife. She is an active participant in my transition.


I am sure there are other gals here who have supporting wives and who feel the same as I do.

[tricia_uktv]

Sadly, or possibly not, I missed 1-3 cos my laptop broke but:

10) Sometimes - but I have the body of a supermodel and the feet of a policeman.

11) I value everybody's opinions but tend to ignore most.

12) I don't hide anything any more - in fact my daughter has just met me and is producing a documentary about me for her media course.

I'm not sure where this is going but it sounds fun.

[Rianna Humble]

We have Week 4 :D of our GG's questions! Thanks in advance for your help all.:love:

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?

11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern

12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?

Sorry, I can't properly answer these questions as none of them reflect my position, but I will still try to contribute something.

10) I would be horrified to find a GG who was so badly off that she had to be jealous of my looks. In fact if I ever came across someone like that,I would do my best to comfort her.

11) I don't have the benefit of either partner or SO, I have to take advice where I can.

12) I'm not hiding my cross-dressing, but could it be that sometimes people are just trying not to ram it down the throat of an accepting partner? I know when I came out to my father who lives with me, I still didn't dress openly in all parts of the house until he had time to get used to the idea.

Maybe not the answers you were looking for, but I hope I haven't wasted your time reading them

[Sally24]

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?

I know that it is not uncommon in my experience for spouces to feel threatened by our looks. In most cases it is a slim CD like me, and a wife who has gained some weight thru the years. In my case I think it has more to do with my wife's body issues and less to do with how I look. She has fabulous, thick blond hair, teeth so perfect that people think they are false, cleavage that rivals anything I could even buy, and a face that makes everybody feel like her friend. I have nice legs and I'm skinny, that's about it!

And a competitive thing sometimes develops between a spouce and her CD. My wife very seldom used makeup before I started dressing. Now she often uses makeup, and she keeps her nails long and polished most of the time. Now if I can just encourage her to lose the granny shirts and wear some nice fitted tops!

The other questions do not apply to me at all.

[giuseppina]

We have Week 4 :D of our GG's questions! Thanks in advance for your help all.:love:

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?
I don't know why anyone would want to do that. It's just asking for trouble.


11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern

Doesn't apply as I have no interest in going out.


12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?
I don't have an SO, but there are plenty of ordinary things that I keep secret to avoid negativity. :sad:

[Naomi Rayne]

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?


I would very much hope that GG's are not threatened by me because no matter how much i do to myself to look good they will always look better, and can do it with much less effort



11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern


My "sisters" voices are never more important than my SO. My SO is the most important voice that enters my head. Her safety is extremely important. Going to others for advice is just for another idea or perspective on things.


12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?

I do not hide anything, that is unacceptable

[Sarahwithanh11]

10) Not a chance - no GG could be jealous or threatened by me being prettier because I'm not! If anyone is threatened it's because I'm different and don't fit the traditional molds & stereotypes but sorry I can't help it.

11) Only because my wife has made it clear she wants no part of Jessica.

12) She knows but isn't accepting. She's agreeable as long as she doesn't have to see it and I don't involve anyone else, and I'm totally fine with that arrangement.

[eluuzion]

[QUOTE=Di;2143585]

I do not have a SO, but I am answering anyway.


10) Since I live on Earth, no. I think the issue revolves around the time taken away from relationship time.

11) Personally, I'm too logical to go there in my mind. But ...It is easier to pretend solutions that work in cyberspace (which have no consequences), would actually be possible to pull off in the real world.(which of course rarely if ever true).

12)People are rarely deceptive in only one area of their lives. You either choose to make lies and deception part of your life, or you do not. Once you elect to engage in it, it becomes addicting, because it is "easier" than dealing with the "truth"....until later of course.

One of the reasons I continue to live alone is to avoid dealing with these issues.

[Petra Bellejambes]

Dear Di.

I realize you are merely channeling the GG questions, so I am not shooting the messenger here.

I must say though that the questions have taken a rather belligerent and prejudicial turn this week. This comes as rather a surprise.

I am sure you will get great findings without my continued input, but I simply had to register my disappointment at the direction this survey has taken.

Thank you for making the effort.

Respectfully, Petra

[linnea]

Sorry I missed the previous questions, but here are my responses to 10, 11, and 12:

10--I don't think that GGs are jealous of my looks, nor do they feel threatened by me, and I don't (and never have) post these thoughts. I'm barely passable (if that) and even if I were passable and knock-down gorgeous, I doubt that many GGs would care. I would rather post questions to GGs asking for their advice or even better have a chance to talk to more of them. The ones I have talked to have been very helpful and supportive.
11--I look for good advice wherever I can find it, but I weigh the strength of the advice on its content rather than its source. If good (useful) advice comes from one of my CD sisters, then I take it and use it if I can. If it comes from a GG, then I take it and use it if I can. Some advice from sister CDs has strength because it relates to specific CD problems--tucking, for example--that GGs don't have or have experience with. In cases like that, I would probably consider the CD's advice more likely to be useful.
12--First, although my SO knows about my crossdressing, she is just beginning to acknowledge and possibly accept it. So I'm going slowly. As she becomes more comfortable with her knowledge, I will tell her more and more . . . and more. Right now, I'm willing to tell her everything, but she has declined to ask or hear more, so I'm honoring that. I have offered to tell her everything or some things or whatever she wants. I've told her this lovingly and in a way that acknowledges and is sensitive to her feelings. I'll continue to offer and explain as she indicates she wants to know about it.

[docrobbysherry]

An old girlfriend I used to hook up with. Now, she wants to "just be friends", because:

10. "She's jealous of the way I look, and feels threatened by my dressing!":brolleyes:

11 and 12. Not applicable

[Veronica Nowakowski]

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?

Very few would be jealous of my looks, and they'd be butt ugly. I'm passable, but not grade A at this point. I also don't post those thoughts though.

11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern

Not applicable.

12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?

I have an SO? Why didn't anyone tell me? I'm only hiding it from her because I don't know who she is to tell her!

[Rianna Humble]

I have an SO? Why didn't anyone tell me? I'm only hiding it from her because I don't know who she is to tell her!

:rofl:

[Kaitlyn Michele]

We have Week 4 :D of our GG's questions! Thanks in advance for your help all.:love:

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?

11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern

12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?

10...i've always thought it was pretty obnoxious to make any comparisons to "gg's"....if a gg says she is jealous, its likely to be a way of saying "see ya" or just a way to compliment your appearance

11.. our boards are a fantasy land of acceptance...it was a huge benefit to my mental health to find this forum...i never had a group of folks that i could share things with and actually get a compliment!!!! but i feel its a big mistake to put to much credence into the "you go girl" and "you totally pass" comments... the same holds true in the real world..when you ask for nontg folks opinions there should be a tag that says "could be very bad for your confidence"

12.. too late for me

[pj]

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?Oh, hell no! Ha. I would think it's almost always the other way around, as far as jealousy is concerned.


11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concernI would never rate the opinion of someone I don't really know over that of my girlfriend.


12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?Hmm, I don't. I haven't so far anyway. I can't imagine anything I wouldn't want her to know, since she has been so supportive.

[AmandaM]

Week 4
10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?

I don't think they're jealous, but I think it can be threatening. Some CDers are better looking than their GG partners.

11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern

My wife's opinion matters more than anyone. We're in this together.

12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?

Some things about CDing I'm not even sure about myself. For example, if I was single, I might seriously consider a sex change. Since it's unlikely I will pursue that while married, and the drive isn't strong enough to force me, then why bring it up? It wouldn't be worth the stress it would give her, for something that may never happen.

[flatlander_48]

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?

No, I have no illusions about that.
11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern

N/A
12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?

Perhaps sometimes too much truth is not necessarily a good thing.

[corrinediane]

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?
No I don't believe they are jealous or threatened. Never post those kind of things. That would be presumptuous on my part.

11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern
Everyone has opinions. Choices are for the one that needs to choose. You can always opt out.

12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?
Probably because some of it is sexual and if she doesn't take part or give me the feeling that she understands it is awkward.

[RozalynLove]

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?

I do not post these thoughts, but I have been told by many GG that they are jealous of various aspects of my looks, such as my hair, and due to me trusting what these people say; I do believe at least some are jealous of how I look. That's when I've been dressed as a male, it's not like they were jealous of what a beautiful girl I looked! I have never felt like a GG was threatened by me, but believe it would be entirely possible for them to be depending on the circumstances. An example of such a circumstance would be being in the company of me while dressed and her boyfriend, when she knew her boyfriend was attracted to cross dressers.

11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern

I currently have no partner, but if I did no one's differing opinion would mean more to me that theirs, however I assume that the feelings of the 'sisters' opinions being more important come from their opinions often being the exact same as each others, and of course it is only logical that someone's own opinion on how they should live their life will be more important to them than another person's.

12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?

I do not have a SO, and would not hide aspects of my cross dressing from her if I did, but I think the reason for many people doing it is that they still feel a tremendous amount of shame and fear of rejection because of their enjoyment of cross dressing due to how deeply the negative emotions relating to the cross dressing are ingrained in them.