Your choice of a Doctor

[BRANDYJ]

This question is mainly for those that identify as a crossdresser.

I just had to search for a primary care physician for my insurance coverage. So in my search of those that are in my plan I looked for a GG doctor. I have always liked the service of GG doctors and nurses over that of male doctors. I'm not sure if my motive is because I would feel better with a woman doctor seeing my completely shaved body as opposed to a male doctor. Or maybe because I do strongly feel that a woman is much more concerned, and give better care then men. So I found a doctor that is female, age 30 something and is in general and family practice. I also think the younger the doctor, the more accepting she might be should I have reason or comfort in telling her I am a CD. I think the older ones might be set in there ways when it comes to alternate lifestyles. But I could be wrong. Maybe the older doctors have seen and dealt with more then one that is in her 30's.

How many of you have GG female doctors? How many of you prefer a GG as your primary care physician?

For the GG's reading this....Do you have a preference to your doctor being male or female? My SO will not go to a male doctor herself.

How many of you are out to your doctor?

[AllieSF]

I justed changed my health insurance coverage and had to let go my long time male Dr. who I truly enjoyed and with whom I was very satisfied. My new doctor assigned by the HMO is a female. I went to her for the first time for my toe nail fungus, and she also gave me a quick physical, including a digital rectal exam. She was OK but not my type for my regular GP. I prefer a male Dr. as my General Practitioner, and don't really care what (male or female) any specialist Dr. may be.

[Karen564]

Personally, I think how your choosing your doctor is flawed..

One can not judge another about acceptance based on their age & gender alone..

Do you really want to base an important decision about your health based on whether or not that MD is accepting or not? What does that have to do with the medical care you get?
I'm not saying she won't give you the best care, because she may be an excellent doctor!...
But don't you think his or her qualifications & experience should be at the top of the lists? rather than age & gender?

I just don't see why your so concerned about it just because your a CDer..

My doctor is an older male and is excellent.!!

[Phyliss]

For more years than I care to admit, I didn't bother seeing any sort of Dr. for any reason. Well, as things happen, I finally had to see a Dr. ( not any sort of emergency, just getting old type of stuff)
Not knowing anything about how to find one, I asked a good friend what were his recomendations. Now, B had no idea about me and I kept it that way. He said that it would be better to pick a "lady doctor" (his words) than a guy. His reason was that there wasn't any "macho thing" going on between two men. He also mentioned that women Drs. seem more caring and concerned than some crusty old guy doc who is about burned out over the whole medical thing.

Taking his advice I found a woman Dr. and have been quite satisfied with her. Over the last three years of seeing her every six months for checkups, I've slowly "come out" to her, to the point of talking with her about transition and what it involves.

No comments or judgements from her, simple straight answers and very professional about everything.

[Katesback]

I really think that as a whole most doctors could care less that you are a CD when it applies to giving care. Remember they are there to provide a service and if you told them you were CD they probably would simply write it down and forget about it. I know I would to be honest.


Its about the same thing as going out in the public. I have seen the posts from CDs asking if it is ok to go to a certain store. They dont realize that the service people are there to take your money and thats all they really care about.

Katie

[BRANDYJ]

Hi Karen, thanks for your comments. You are right, the choice of a doctor should not be based on gender or age alone. But since I can choose, I chose who I chose for the reasons stated. If I felt she was not capable I'd be looking again. But remember, I am looking for a primary care Doctor. Beyond her skills for minor things, I'd expect her to recommend the specialist I might need in the future.
But since I do get to choose, I chose a Female. I still think they "might" be more caring then male doctors. There motives to become doctors in the first place usually is because they want to care for people. I think many male doctors are the product of their own parents or family pushing them into it. Maybe his dad was a doctor and he wanted his son to follow his footsteps. or they could have been money motivated from day one. Not that a woman doctor might not be, but perhaps less likely.
So if you think that theory is flawed too, then I will just say it again. I simply prefer female doctors and need not look for a male doctor since there are many well qualified female doctors in my area. Or to be more direct. i simply like GGs much more then men as a whole.
Now if we are talking about a specialty I might need, like open heart surgery or something, then I would care less if the doctor was male or female.
Understand, I am a CD and mostly in the closet. You are more out then me, and beyond being just a CD, so you see things a little differently I suspect. And that's OK.


For more years than I care to admit, I didn't bother seeing any sort of Dr. for any reason. Well, as things happen, I finally had to see a Dr. ( not any sort of emergency, just getting old type of stuff)
Not knowing anything about how to find one, I asked a good friend what were his recomendations. Now, B had no idea about me and I kept it that way. He said that it would be better to pick a "lady doctor" (his words) than a guy. His reason was that there wasn't any "macho thing" going on between two men. He also mentioned that women Drs. seem more caring and concerned than some crusty old guy doc who is about burned out over the whole medical thing.

Taking his advice I found a woman Dr. and have been quite satisfied with her. Over the last three years of seeing her every six months for checkups, I've slowly "come out" to her, to the point of talking with her about transition and what it involves.

No comments or judgements from her, simple straight answers and very professional about everything.

Needless to say, I agree with your friend. Thanks for your comments Phyliss.

At my age, they have already installed a new part (stent) and taken out some failed ones. (gall bladder) lol

When I was in the hospital, two nurses were hooking up the EKG machine and of course noticed the shaved chest. One was bold enough to ask me why my chest was shaved. I simply said my sweetheart prefers it that way. OK, small lie, but it seemed to work.


I really think that as a whole most doctors could care less that you are a CD when it applies to giving care. Remember they are there to provide a service and if you told them you were CD they probably would simply write it down and forget about it. I know I would to be honest.


Its about the same thing as going out in the public. I have seen the posts from CDs asking if it is ok to go to a certain store. They dont realize that the service people are there to take your money and thats all they really care about.

Katie

Hi Katie, I don't disagree with you on the issue of them caring and not caring what I am or am not.
Just call me chicken! I do think about what they think and feel about me being a CD. And If I have to tell or want to tell a doctor, i know it would be a woman and not a man. I guess that is also why I find it hard to shop for my fem things in person too. I don't see that fear ever changing. We are all so different int he way we view our being out and where and to who.

[kimdl93]

both my wife and I go to GG primary care providers. My wife's OB/Gyn is also female.

[Traci Elizabeth]

I have been to many male doctors with myself totally shaved. None of those doctors (old or young) ever bated an eye or made any comments about me being totally shaved.

And for the life of me, I don't see what being a CD has to do with anything medically or how would the doctor ever know you were a CD unless you showed up dressed?

And trust me on this one, there is nothing doctors have not seen or provided medical attention for. The days of Doctor Welby are long gone and I am not sure they ever existed as far as Ozzie & Harriet patients.

[Leanne2]

My GP MD is a male doctor but at the VA I'm assigned to the woman's "Pink" clinic and my doctor is a female OB/GYN. Leanne

[BRANDYJ]

My GP MD is a male doctor but at the VA I'm assigned to the woman's "Pink" clinic and my doctor is a female OB/GYN. Leanne

If I may ask Leanne..Is that because you have transitioned or that you are out and dress fem even at the VA? Just curious.


I have been to many male doctors with myself totally shaved. None of those doctors (old or young) ever bated an eye or made any comments about me being totally shaved.

And for the life of me, I don't see what being a CD has to do with anything medically or how would the doctor ever know you were a CD unless you showed up dressed?

And trust me on this one, there is nothing doctors have not seen or provided medical attention for. The days of Doctor Welby are long gone and I am not sure they ever existed as far as Ozzie & Harriet patients.

I don't disagree with you. I have had a few visits to either a doctor or hospital stay where it was obvious that I shaved. No one said a thing other then the 2 nurses I mentioned earlier.
You are right, just because a man shaves his body does not mean he is a CD
I suspect there are men that do it for either comfort or simply because they don't like body hair any more then I do.

[Amy Lynn3]

I have had both male and female doctors over the years and all I cared about was, that they were on top of their game. I do understand one picking one sex over the other for any reason, but comfort with the one you pick is the most important item to consider.

[WsprsOnTheWind]

Wanting to deal with females in general seems to be typicaly of CD's. From the experience I've had with them anyway.

[BRANDYJ]

Wanting to deal with females in general seems to be typicaly of CD's. From the experience I've had with them anyway.

You might be right wsprs. Could be for a number of reasons. Some of us simply like women more then men.
Others might feel more comfortable in telling or being discovered by a women as apposed to a man.
On personal matters, (like certain reproductive organs) maybe we are more comfortable telling a woman where it hurts or what's wrong.
Add those to the other reasons I said earlier, and just maybe even some non-CD males might prefer a woman.

[MissKara]

I went to her for the first time for my toe nail fungus, and she also gave me a quick physical, including a digital rectal exam.

Isnt that the way... You go in for toe fungus and end up bend over a table having your insides photographed :P

.... Ok, that was bad even for me.

Lots of Love,
Miss Kara

[Starr]

My Dr is Male mid 30's i guess, a couple of years ago my legs broke out in a rash and itched really bad. I went to him and let him look, his only comment was do you shave your legs and i said yes and we went on checking the rash. He at first thought it had something to do with the shaving but i told him i had been shaving them for years and they hadn't done this before. Wound up it was Xama.. no i didn't spell that right but anyway i think you will know what i am saying..

[Chris7ina]

I've had similar experiences with male and female doctors. My body is shaved and none have ever commented or given me a "look".

[Barbara Dugan]

My GP doctor is female and I suspect she is a lesbian my gaydar is always right , she noticed my shaved body and overall look, even when sometimes I go to my appointments with my work uniform, she asked if I was gay and if I was out, she was concerned and understood the burden of being gay and sometimes it take a toll on your overall health. I think she was very professional :hugs:

[Loni]

in all my years, i can not recall having been seen by a woman Dr, other than the dermatologist a couple years back.

but my reg Dr i am not sure about, if he suspects something??

have a problem ingrown toenail, he said something about mens shoes have more room in the toe then womens shoes?? and the last couple times he put the stethoscope to my chest...did it like i was a woman...not a guy.

[Lorileah]

I have a wonderful GG doctor who knows about "me" and makes no judgment but she does want me to exercise more eat better and quit tanning. Funny how she cares more about my health than she does my toenail polish

[PhillyGuy2Girl]

My current Doctor is male and before him I only had one male Doctor and 3 female Doctors. My male Doctors are god but I alaways preferred female Doctors.




Felicity:)

[Diane Smith]

My male primary care physician resigned about five years ago and I was given a short list of available doctors I could select from to replace him. I chose a young female largely because I felt I would be more comfortable with her seeing the changes in my body (nails, piercings, tattoos, shaved). She noticed everything but was totally cool about it all and politely (and somewhat shyly) asked me to explain it all at our very first appointment. I was able to be completely open, and it's been a non-issue since then. She occasionally comments on or even jokes about my nail polish color or latest tattoo, but in no way is she derogatory or disrespectful. I never had any conversations like that with my previous male MD and always felt like he was just a little disapproving, although he never said anything overtly negative. Even if that perception was only in my own mind, it still affected how well I related to him in a way that might not always have been in the best interest of my health care.

Even though the issue may be entirely in my head, the truth is that I am more comfortable talking with a female about my gender issues and body modifications, and therefore it is a better choice for me to have a female doctor.

- Diane

[Sandra]

For the GG's reading this....Do you have a preference to your doctor being male or female? My SO will not go to a male doctor herself.



I am not bothered so long as they are doing a good job. :)

[Babette]

I totally agree with Karen's earlier comments. Furthermore, you should seek a physician that inspires you with confidence in their ability. If I'm not comfortable with someone's personality or skill sets regardless of their gender, then I need to go elsewhere. Effective health care starts with effective communication between patient and physician.

I've been going to the same male doctor for over 20 years. We are approximately the same age and we are great friends. He could care less if I shave my body.

Should you encounter a doctor that takes issue with your shaving, then in my opinion, it's time to consider someone else.

Good luck to you.

Babette

[Daenna Paz]

My primary is female. Just the luck of the draw when I moved ... she is very accepting and does have quite a bit of TG background, with several patients that have transitioned. So lucky me!! :daydreaming:
I agree with the several others that I wouldn't really care about gender, I just want them to know where the rectal thermometer goes ... :eek:

[Cassandra Lynn]

Maybe i'm reading too much into this, but i get a small sense that those of you with male GPs, disagree with those of us who have or would prefer to have Female GPs, at least as to why. Given the need for them to be professional, qualified and good at what they do, all it comes down to is what gender you are most comfortable with. I've had a male doc for years now and he's good but very irritating to me personality wise, and has been known to make comments about my appearance. I'm just to lazy to go through a switch at this time, and yes, i would prefer a female doc, for all the reasons stated already. Just my :2c: mj (Cassie)

[cd_ellen32]

I have suffered from migraine headaches since I was 12. I went to 4 male doctors that blamed everything from my weight and hormones to one saying that I needed to see a shrink. I was at wits end and was blessed when my last male doctor left and was replaced by a female. Finally someone that not only listened to me but tackled trying to find the cause.

28 years later, I will only see female PCP's as I believe that they listen more and are more concerned about your health.

Ellen

[Mi$$ Despair]

I've had a male doc for years now and he's good but very irritating to me personality wise, and has been known to make comments about my appearance.

My fromer male doctor was like that. Heaven forbid I paint my nails or put on some eyeliner, without him making somesort of half-assed comment.

The female doctor is 110% better and alot more concerned about anything I bring up. Plus being younger and cute is a bonus *insert wink* lolz

[Tranny Tee]

I am in the process of changing primary care physicians as my former doctor left the medical group for another position. My next physician will be male as there is no other choice. I have been treated by all the doctors in the group and my next doctor will be someone I can talk to and will trust. I doubt that any of them will bat an eye when I shw up for my physical wearing panties.
As an aside a year ago I had an appointment with my urologist for a checkup. I have a couple pairs of mens underwear for doctor's appointments but when I dressed that morning I put on a pait of black satin panties instead forgetting about the appointment. I got to his office and was disappointed that he did not conduct a physical exam, only asked how I was doing then sent me on my way.

[sherri52]

I go to the VA hospital or clinics and only look for good care. Who sees me or checks me over doesn't matter. I am completely shaven and don't bother taking my toe nail polish off anymore. I'll admit or even mention outright that I am a CD.

[Jamie001]

Why even mention that you are a CD? Why is it important?



I go to the VA hospital or clinics and only look for good care. Who sees me or checks me over doesn't matter. I am completely shaven and don't bother taking my toe nail polish off anymore. I'll admit or even mention outright that I am a CD.

[eluuzion]

Physicians are basically just high paid mechanics. Whatever your medical issue is, it will not be the first time they have seen it, nor will it be the last time.

My dermatologist is female. My previous dentist was female. When I lived in Phoenix AZ my primary care physician was female (I met her at a tennis tournament). My dog's vet is a female. The marriage therapist ("the rapist") was female (still is female, lol). I had a girlfriend in Phoenix that liked to play doctor and she was female. lol

I have been totally shaved for years now. I have never encountered anything but positive responses about being shaved. Most medical professionals like it, since body hair only makes examination more difficult.

I just had hernia repair surgery a month ago. Everyone was impressed. Makes life easier for everyone.

[Vicki-Z]

I have a male doctor. Every visit I make sure I am wearing male underwear and no nail polish or make-up.

I would prefer a female doctor. I would feel more at ease at being me wearing my female underwear. I wouldn't worry about wearing nail polish or makeup.

I know it doesn't make sense but I would just feel more comfortable. I would feel more at ease. Not that a woman doctor would be more accepting of me. I guess it just like where so many GG's prefer women doctors. I always felt like a real woman inside so maybe that's why it always felt more natural to me.

Vicki :hugs:

[swiss_susan]

Personally for me I have always prefered a GG for my primary care.

[mykhelee]

I have had male and female doctors over the years. None of them ever raised an eyebrow about my toenails, shaped eyebrows...or lack of bodyhair below the neck. They did tsk tsk me concerning "marks upon my flesh", but never hassled me about under dressing for an appointment.
They are your Doctor, as long as your behavior does not cause harm, such as smoking, I do not think that they care.
I agree with your decision though, we all have our own level of happy.

:2c: Peace

[Lorileah]

Why even mention that you are a CD? Why is it important?

It goes to cause your honor. It allows the doctor to discuss things that MAY be important to you like are you considering transitioning, could that blotch on your face be from a reaction to make up. Being open and honest with your doctor allows them to think of things that would not normally be considered in a list of rule outs. Sort of like telling your spouse before you get caught. Telling your doctor lets them be prepared for possible problems down the road

[sometimes_miss]

I really think that as a whole most doctors could care less that you are a CD when it applies to giving care. Remember they are there to provide a service and if you told them you were CD they probably would simply write it down and forget about it. Katie

That's just it. They would write it down in your permanent medical records. Where basically everyone in the healthcare industry, insurance industry have access to it. When it really has no relevance to your healthcare, and probably should just be forgotten, the same as if a woman professed a preference for wearing slacks instead of a skirt (which of course wouldn't be written in a record anywhere).
Besides, I know from experience that there are lots of people in the healthcare field that consider us perverts; they talk about us behind our backs, and who knows whether it affects their decisions about how well to treat us. People that like you will give you better care than those who don't, and very often the reverse is also true. Don't be fooled thinking that 'professionals' don't let their personal feelings affect their behavior any more than 'non professionals'. People are people. There will be some good ones, and some bad.

[maryannnite]

i have had both too seem to like the lady doc best but has nothing to do with my dressing

[t-girlxsophie]

I have no preference whether my Dr is Male or Female,its their ability to treat you that should be a priority,fore instance My Dr is a family friend,on one occasion (in distant past)I had cause to have him refer me to a N.H.S. psychologist regarding my CDing,this was done Professionally by him and nothing ever got back to my family.So in my opinion I have no qualms about going to Male or Female Doctor