Do You Ever Truly Get to the Point You FEEL 100% Woman?

[Traci Elizabeth]

My question is simple. Do you ever get to the point that you STOP thinking of yourself as a Trans Woman and THINK of yourself ONLY as a woman?


Can you ever escape knowing you were born a male (I know another question but closely related)?


I am not concerned with physical actions you might have taken (FFS, BA, or SRS) but purely your MENTAL state (whether with or without the help of HRT).

Do you truly believe in your Heart of Hearts that you are a woman (I know yet another question)?

[GypsyKaren]

I accept my past life and feelings because they did happen and helped make me who I am today, but I don't dwell on it and I have no problem with thinking of myself as a total and complete woman.

GK

[Katesback]

Good question. You must be talking about TRANNYLAND.

I think that as time goes by there is a chance that you:

1. Come to an inner peace with yourself

2. You assimilate so well that you no longer think about being different

3. Life becomes completely normal.

Often these tend to fall into place after SRS. Of course there are exceptions but that is the norm. Also age tends to be a factor. The young girls tend to assimilate and move on. The older women tend to have a MUCH more difficult time assimilating.

I often tell girls that are in transition that they should devote the bulk of their time out in the normal world making friends with NON trans people. Why? Well because that is what it takes to assimilate. Hanging out in a safe zone will not get someone to learn whatever it takes to fit in.

Katie

[mapletree]

have not got there yet and I hope that I do some day have this opportunity in my life becasue there is quite a lot of cindy in me which the world has not seen and only after those expereinces would I perhaps be able to figure my feelings out more

[kellycan27]

Yes... I am only a transsexual for the purpose of discussion here. In the outside world I am just another girl. Not an issue.

[Deborah Jane]

I never really consider myself either male or female. However I'm dressed I'm just being myself, I may do some things differantly dependant on how I'm presenting, but it comes naturally either way :)

[Karen564]

I tend to forget more times than not that I was born a male as time goes by

So yeah, I consider myself totally woman mentally,...but theirs still a cruel thing that reminds me of my past life every time I go to the bathroom..& that's when the reality of it all slaps me in the face..

But I'm also a realist, and always know deep down I will never forget my birth defect & past trying to be male, because if I ever forgot that, I would be considered delusional, which I never was or ever plan on being..

But I do my best at not dwelling on my past only because it's too depressing to think about, so I tend to focus more on my current life & the future.....
:hugs:

[Traci Elizabeth]

I accept my past life and feelings because they did happen and helped make me who I am today,
GK

That is true and something we can never change.

I still very much view myself as a Trans Woman but am hoping that over time I can truly distance myself from that mental state. But I have no idea if that is even possible hence the questions.



Good question.

The older women tend to have a MUCH more difficult time assimilating.

I often tell girls that are in transition that they should devote the bulk of their time out in the normal world making friends with NON trans people. Why? Well because that is what it takes to assimilate. Hanging out in a safe zone will not get someone to learn whatever it takes to fit in.

Katie


Katie,

Both points are well taken. I have not even thought about making friends as a trans woman yet. Although, that seems like a very good idea. Perhaps female friends would even be better but hard to do when married unless she would be a friend of both of ours.

I have a long way to go but I am enjoying the journey be it a short one thus far.

[Empress Lainie]

Guess as usual I am in a class alone. I have felt 100% female for some time, maybe even a year now out of my 3.

I think being accepted completely as a woman has made a lot of difference. I am just one of the girls with the people I work with.

I can hardly remember not being Lainie, and not being female.
If I have to refer to my former self, I say my late husband.

[JenniferB]

Gee - I dunno - How does it feel to feel 100% Woman?
Can a person not born a woman really know how this feels?
Or is it a self defined thing?
I feel like a woman right now. :heehee:

[Traci Elizabeth]

Gee - I dunno - How does it feel to feel 100% Woman?
Can a person not born a woman really know how this feels?
Or is it a self defined thing?
I feel like a woman right now. :heehee:


LOL! I knew that response would come from someone! :bonk:

[Karen564]

Gee - I dunno - How does it feel to feel 100% Woman?
Can a person not born a woman really know how this feels?
Or is it a self defined thing?
I feel like a woman right now. :heehee:

Gee, I guess that's one difference between a TS vs the others.

I for one couldn't just turn on the feel like a woman or man switch on demand...never could, and come to think of it, I never knew what it's really like to feel like a man, because I never was one.

Unless you were born a TS or a woman, you will never really know...

[JoAnne Wheeler]

I feel like I will always be a woman "in progress". I would like to get my transition over with. It is wearing me out. But I am not sure if the transition is ever over.

I already feel in my soul that I am am and have always been a female. Every time I get out, the easier and more natural everything seems. In fact, I feel like I am crossdressing when I wear male clothing.

But it will not be much longer until I can be my real self 24/7. I am almost there. But even then, I don't know how I am going to feel.

I KNOW deep inside that I am a woman, always have been and always will be.

JoAnne Wheeler

[Stephenie S]

Yes. Yes you do.

[Sharon]

I am just me, a woman who never actually stops to tell herself "I am a woman." I also have no problems with my previous (somewhat extended) dalliance with trying to be a man. As a matter of fact, I take a sort of perverse pride in knowing who I am regardless of what I was in what seems to be a different lifetime now.

[Jorja]

For the longest time I felt I was always a woman in transition. Always learning, always finding new aspects of womanhood I didn't know about. To be honest, I can't really tell you when I quit thinking I was a woman in progress and simply thought of myself as a woman. It just happened.
I surrounded myself with with regular everyday people and began living life to the fullest. I was accepted as Jorja the woman not Jorja the Transgender woman. I lived for the better part of 15 years with my husband in amongst some of the brightest most inquiring minds in this country. They had no idea I was once a man. As Katie said, if you come to an inner peace with yourself and accept fully, life becomes completely normal. I think we sometimes place too much emphasis on being "Trans" and not enough on being just a person.

You can do it, Go For It!!!!

[GypsyKaren]

I think once you really start living the life, you really don't think about it because life keeps you too busy, I'm more concerned with what to fix for dinner myself.

GK

[TerryTerri]

I think once you really start living the life, you really don't think about it because life keeps you too busy, I'm more concerned with what to fix for dinner myself.

GK

O coolio! Dinner!! Woo Hoo!! Whatcha fixin Karen? What time should I drop by?

Anyway, thanks for the thread and all the responces, although I didn't start this thread, I guess I could have. Being a 'late bloomer' I find that, although it is an undeniable fact I am transgendered (Too man FACTS support it to be in denial), I still sort of struggle with the acceptance in wierd ways. And, due to my life as it is, I am unsure exactly how I will assimilate all this into my life. I know that taking hormones really helped and made me more comfortable living inside my own skin than I can EVER remember being in my life. But, for numerous reasons (financial was the major one, not the only one) I have been off of hormones for a few weeks and intend to remain off of them for a considerable period. Perhaps I am just saying goodbye to my semblance of manhood, perhaps I'm just reaffirming that I need to transition. IDK. But, I really appreciate what you girls have shared regarding this topic. Thank You all! I appreciate it. I am so grateful this forum exists, it really helps me understand things about myself that can seemingly be perplexing.

[girlalex]

yep the older i get the more i feel of my self as a female regardless of my obvious male appearance which i sometimes unconsciously ignore.

[pamela_a]

How does a 100% woman feel?

I'm a woman and I'm finally able to be 100% me so does that count? I'm still pre op so I do get regular reminders of my birth defect but I don't think of myself as anything other than a woman.

[Traci Elizabeth]

Several of you ladies have really given great answers even the short ones. It gives me a lot of hope that as I progress along, just being "me" will be how I view myself.

Because so many changes are occurring with me mentally and physically with the HRT, I catch myself being caught up in those changes and being pre-occupied with them instead of just going with the flow naturally.

Even this website which is the only support I have (other than my wife but I think you get the point) is a constant reminder of being Trans as that's where I do most of my posting, reading, learning, and realizing I am not alone.

[Empress Lainie]

My question is simple.

Do you ever get to the point that you STOP thinking of yourself as a Trans Woman and THINK of yourself ONLY as a woman?

I reached that point some time ago, not sure exactly when.


Can you ever escape knowing you were born a male (I know another question but closely related)?

Obviously I will always know I was born male, but I don't let it bother me.


I am not concerned with physical actions you might have taken (FFS, BA, or SRS) but purely your MENTAL state (whether with or without the help of HRT).

Do you truly believe in your Heart of Hearts that you are a woman (I know yet another question)?

ABSOLUTELY NO DOUBT IN THE LEAST. I can look back on my whole life and see that obviously (in retrospect) I was always female (Just didn't understand it or know it!)

[Bones]

Hey so I'm going to answer this question backwards because I'm FtM.

A lot of the time I FORGET I am trans. It is an unpleasant reminder when someone says something that reminds me, "Oh yeah, I was born female. Damn it." I can sometimes go a couple days without thinking about being trans at all... then something will come up and knock me upside the head.

I always know I was born female. It is most obvious going to the bathroom. But sometimes I just unconsciously sit and pee and not really think about the fact that most men stand.

I believe to the core that I am a man with a birth defect.

[noeleena]

Hi.

This will depend on how your wired, i know i did not see my self as male or female so to see your self in the mirrow sort of did not compute in the sence of oh , im a male or female . & funny as, you just take on board how your brought up . so even knowing any of the names / lables did not sit well with me,
tho i did use transfemale , meaning a transtioning woman & really left it at that.
Knowing full well i was / am both ,
& over the years iv sliped between the two with out any bother ,
till i was confronted on some subjects of, ( your the head of the house & must take on a male role & be a man ) plus a few other details .
one, i was not a male i did & could not be what i was not. i had nothing to relate with males & did not think as one , as a real male. yet i could do some things like a male.
As a woman i will never be 100 % i dont have my womb & all that goes with that.
So really im in the middle , mentalally & emotionally.

I am so much more happy being freed from you are this . To this is who i really am. & my name takes that into account .
noel, no-el, being both male & female, to, noeleena, being female.

...noeleena...

[Jennifer Marie P.]

Yes I always think that Im 100% woman and after my SRS I will be 100% woman.

[Teri Jean]

I am 100% Teri Jean who has a life time of experiences that include being a son, brother, husband, father, and grandfather. Do I feel like a woman? Yes but with an understanding of the male life style.

Teri

[tamarav]

Yes, now virtually everyday. If you don't truly feel it, it is hard to project.

[Jennifer in CO]

way back when.....

By the 2nd year of being "Jennifer", I didn't even think about who I was or had been. I saw "me" in the reflection every time I went past a mirrior. I got up every morning, washed, did my hair, put on my dress, makeup and went to work just like any other woman would. What was down between my legs wasn't even thought about. Even when my wife and I made love, it was a tool for pleasure that one of us had...nothing more.
If your not questioning who you are, your there...

Jenn

[Traci Elizabeth]

I guess only time will really tell for me (what time I have left :D).

I do see myself as a woman for sure but I always know from whence I came.

Then there are the constant reminders such as my male pictures my wife still has set around most of which are her and I in them together.

Then there are still the driver's license, professional licenses, credit cards, etc. Ah but those will be rectified in the not too distance future with a name change!