Going out alone while en femme.

[suzypier]

Hi, do you agree with me that it’s more fun to go out en femme when there is an other crossdresser with us than only being alone to do it. And do you agree that most of the crossdresser still hiding in the closet because it is very hard to find crossdresser like us to go out.

[windycissy]

It is always more fun to have another "girl" to share the experience, but that's not always possible. I enjoy my own company and have tons of fun shopping, people watching at Starbucks, etc as Cissy when there's nobody to play with.

[Sallee]

It is always easier to go out with some one else. Unfortunately I go it alone most of the time. It is just hard to coordinate schedules to get out with others:sad:

[Shelly Preston]

Hi Suzy

I disagree that you need another crossdresser

It's just as much fun going out with a GG :D


I am sure there a lot of crossdressers still hiding

[Stephenie S]

Nope. I find it much more fun to go out with a natal woman.

And going out alone is pretty much a no-no. Girls almost NEVER go out alone, accept to the supermarket or the bank. Heck, girls don't even go to the bathroom alone. Do you want to stand out? Go out alone. EVERYONE will look at you.

The feminine world is NOT just like the guy world with prettier clothes. There are a LOT of really fundamental differences that you have to learn if you wish to navigate it successfully.

Stephie

[suzypier]

Hi Suzy

I disagree that you need another crossdresser

It's just as much fun going out with a GG :D


I am sure there a lot of crossdressers still hiding


Of course Shelly, either one would be fun to go out with, I agree. :)

[Kate Simmons]

It depends on the person or persons really. Sometimes it can be good, other times it can restrict us being ourselves.:)

[crusadergirl]

If u go out alone you can always find you a new friend to hang out with. When u go out you don't have to be like girl and go to bathrooms with them. That would be weird.

[maryannnite]

if i go you to the club i alway find some one to talk to if no other girls are there so alone or not ill still be out there.

[Sara Jessica]

My personal transgendered experience became infinately more rewarding when I made friends. These days, my outings with friends outnumber my solo outings by a margin of about 10-1.

[jenna_woods]

yes that's trreue, I go out alone most of time because no one close to out with. its a lot more fun with another girl with me,

[Starling]

I would most like to go out on the town with two other TG girls, four GGs, a unifomed tour guide and a Yorkie. And it should be partly cloudy. But that's just me.

:heehee: Lallie

[StaceyJane]

I always go out alone. I feel like I'm exploring a new world as Stacey.

[StacyCD]

I have only had the opportunity to go out with other girls when I was in Denver a long time ago. Most often it's just me.

[msginaadoll]

I love to go out with others. However it doesnt happen that often. It is hard to coordinate schedules, and I dont really knowto many local girls, boo hoo

[BRANDYJ]

You might be right. But I'll take it further. I am one of those that does not like to do anything alone regardless of how I am presenting. I hate going out to eat alone. Would never even think about going to a movie alone. The only thing I sometimes do alone is go fishing or hit golf balls. I just don't enjoy anything alone.

[Crissy Kay]

Going out with another cd is about the only way I would go out at all, besides halloween!!

[Michelle_NY]

Yes I agree totally, I am dieing for a NY gf to go with

[Cheryl T]

It's more fun going out anytime with others or a group. We are social beings and that's just the way it is. I enjoy shopping alone, but having someone with me to give an opinion or just share lunch with is so much nicer. Doesn't have to be another CD as I enjoy it just as much with my spouse.

[carhill2mn]

I have been thinking about how to respond to these statements. I frequently go out alone as there are not many girls availale to go with me to the places where I go. I meet a CD friend (who is never en femme when in public) about once a week. I have a GW friend who I love going out with but her schedule is somewhat hectic. There are some CDs that I do enjoy being with. It seems as if many of the CDs that go out like to do the "bar scene" which I do not. So, it is a "mixed bag" for me.

[chris80]

cd + gg )
CD + male friend )less likely to be read
Cd alone )

more than one cd-less likely to get away with not being read

[AllieSF]

Even though I occasionally do go out alone, I definitely prefer to go out with someone else, GG, TG or another male, though the latter has not yet happened. Like others, I too am a social person and prefer a companion/partner in crime, as well as meeting whoever else is out there to talk with, friend or foe.

[Fab Karen]

It's fun to get out with others, TG or not. And fearful people in the closet remain so because they think too much about it, imagining all kinds of things that rarely IF EVER happen ( & in some ideas, never ) when you do go out. This doesn't mean throw out common sense ( a GG wouldn't walk down a dark street alone late at night for example ).



Go out alone. EVERYONE will look at you.

Wrong. Out in a crowd of people a minority will pay attention. And there are people who will look at you in boy-mode, but you don't worry about it.

[t-girlxsophie]

I have actually never been out alone when dressed.I think its great being with another girl.cd or gg you can bounce shopping ideas around with them and have a giggle.much more fun than when alone

[Freddy12]

I'd rather go out with others. It's just more fun

[Tanya C]

Hi Suzy

I disagree that you need another crossdresser

It's just as much fun going out with a GG :D


I am sure there a lot of crossdressers still hiding


I compltetely agree with you Shelly. In fact, my favorite times going out is with my wife. Occasionally, we have a special girl's day where we both get dressed up and go out shopping and maybe dinner.
It's a great joy in my life.

[Carly D.]

I'm of the mind that I would like to meet someone else who cross dresses.. Really I think I would, but how would that go?? I personally can't admit that I cross dress to myself, and to let anyone else know would be a stretch in my book.. In my fantasy I would meet that other cross dresser probably by chance maybe at some store or something.. I think cross dressing is really a lonely thing to do, or it is in my case.. And going out is really a trial of will for me as going out last year I went to controlled situations where if there were many people around or any people around I didn't go into anyplace.. What a chicken I know and I couldn't help it.. Could I go out with another cross dresser?? If we were on equal footing or were in a familiar situation I would say yes.. What that would mean is this, there would be no throwing of one of us to the wolves as it were if things got dicey.. I thought last year if I had someone who could at least run check the place out and give me an idea what it might be like.. But I think I'm talking about a scout team. Maybe too elaborate for just an experience of being in some store for ten minutes.. What a rambling train wreck this reply was..

[NicoleScott]

As a part-time, dress-for-pleasure crossdresser, I've always wanted but never had a crossdressing partner. I would feel safer going out with someone else than going out alone. I think it would be great to have a friend who I could talk with about crossdressing, privately, on an intimate level. Someone to dress up with, someone to go out with either both en femme, or one of us en femme with the other as a date. Not looking for sex, just a friend with cd-ing in common.

[Amanda Stubbs]

I have been going out for years alone visiting other towns for walks, cafe's, amusement arcades, cinemas etc and the occasional pubs in quiet locations. I would only ever go for a walk in my own city after dark. It was always enjoyable, often lonely and occasionally having to deal with the few narrow minded people who chose to comment.

Through these pages I have made and met some wonderful friends and met up with local girls a few times now, my social life seems to have exploded with offers to meet for drinks, meals, walks, days out etc. It's much more enjoyable with people similar to me who share the thrill and expierieces en-femme.

[Jamiegirl1]

Hi, do you agree with me that it’s more fun to go out en femme when there is an other crossdresser with us than only being alone to do it. And do you agree that most of the crossdresser still hiding in the closet because it is very hard to find crossdresser like us to go out.
Hello everyone,I find it very lonely going out alone.I am still in the closet,and married,so it is extremely difficult to find the time to get out.I commute about an hour each way from home to work,I dress everyday for the ride home, but have to change back into my drab clothes before I get home.and occasionally take off work early and go to a gay club.Gays look at you like you're from another planet,but atleast I have someplace to go and occasionally meet someone to talk to.It feels soo good to be out in public dressed sexy with a wig and high heels.Just wish there were more of us girls out there.

[Starling]

Welcome aboard, Jamie. As reported here by our far-flung correspondents, there are clubs and events all over the world, so unless you live somewhere else you'll eventually find someone simpatica to go out with.

:) Lallie

[Danamtv]

Nope. I find it much more fun to go out with a natal woman.

And going out alone is pretty much a no-no. Girls almost NEVER go out alone, accept to the supermarket or the bank. Heck, girls don't even go to the bathroom alone. Do you want to stand out? Go out alone. EVERYONE will look at you.
//I agree with this. Going out with another CD seems to guaranty you both get read in my experience, granted that's not the end of the world. When I was in my early 30's I knew some GG's who would go out with me on occasion, and a guy that was willing to be my escort.

Other than meeting at TG support groups or parties, I've never gone out with another CD and I think my wife would freak. But I know a number of gals who go out as a group all the time, and "safety in numbers" is true.

[Leslie Langford]

I always go out alone. I feel like I'm exploring a new world as Stacey.

...and I can see where going to a gay or lesbian bar or nightclub with a group of CDer's could be a lot of fun, but when it comes to shopping or hitting the malls, I'd rather go by myself. In such an environment, being with a group of other "gurls" displaying varying degrees of "passability" raises the odds of being read significantly and attracting all sorts of undue (and possibly negative) attention.

Now, if I could find a GG to go with me and act as my shopping companion and "wing-man" err, "wing-woman" :heehee:, that would be a whole different matter... :daydreaming::).

[Fiona Lindum]

So far I have only been out alone.

[Megan Thomas]

Hi Suzy

I disagree that you need another crossdresser

It's just as much fun going out with a GG :D

Totally agree, just as much fun, if not more :heehee:

[Molly Wells]

I have been out on a number of occassions, but only once with another TG. She was in town, from another state. We connecte on this site. It was really enjoyable to go out and not be alone. Thanks Sarah!

Molly

[Cheryl James]

In my opinion I would think that sharing the experience with another girl would be rewarding and enjoyable. I've not, yet, had that experience so my baby steps have been alone out of necessity.

[AKAMichelle]

I think it definitely affects our ability to go out dressed. Some of us need a little encouragement or a strong push to get out the door dressed. When I first started going out, I went with another cd'er because I was a little chicken.

[tinalynn]

I've only been out alone. Granted, I've never been to a club, so I have no idea what that is like. But going to a mall in the early evening is awesome! People just getting off work, doing some quick shopping, trying to get home. They don't notice anyone else...

I would really like a friend to go out with. My wife wants nothing to do with it, but I'm working on that!

[WomanAtHeart4]

Oh the joy of going go out with another girlfriend! In my case - it is rare because of local and timing, but I have had a few great opportunities where another cd girlfriend went out together for drinks, dinner and dancing. The night seemed to last for days. We talked and talked like to two long lost sole mate sisters - blissfully ignorant of others around us. If you have not had the opportunity to go out with another cd girlfriend - I recommend it. It medicinal, inspiring, encouraging and absolute bliss. To share these efem moments with a kindred spirit is amazing.
Love,
Stephanie, Womanatheart:)

[Karen__Starr]

I am so much more comfortable out alone or with a male friend

[Traci Elizabeth]

I enjoy having a friend to do things with but I also treasure my alone time to shop and wonder around a my own pace and just do what I want to do.

Both are fun.

[GBNatarii]

I would say that one of the bigger problems I have is that I've no one to hang out with. But that's not even remotely true. The real problem is, I could have fifty million CD'ers to hang out with, the issue comes in that you have to schedule around work times, personal family times, alone times, etc. Every one has something to do, it seems.

Heh, I have a hard time getting even non-CD'ers to hang out because of that.

[phyllis Lavender]

I prefer to go out to events with my darling "sister"

[julie w]

the only problem with going out with another cd to main stream places is
that your chances of getting read go up a lot , that has been my experience
anyway