Friends

[Kate Simmons]

I'm wondering how others feel about their CD, TG and TS friends. Honestly, I've gotten to the point where I just think of them as the people they are and gender doesn't really enter into it. The way they decorate themselves is just a personal choice I figure. The individuality is the main thing and I think of my GG friends in the same way.:)

[sometimes_miss]

You're preaching to the choir. Try posting this question in a regular forum like plenty of fish to see how the average person sees us 'gender gifted' folks. Or, simply do a search over there; it's been discussed in the past.

[Rianna Humble]

For me, the biggest difference between my TG friends and my cisgendered friends is that the TG friends have a bit more of a clue what I am going through - although there are some really wonderful cis people out there who want to understand.

[Deborah Jane]

Honestly, I've gotten to the point where I just think of them as the people they are and gender doesn't really enter into it. and I think of my GG friends in the same way.:)

I agree with this Denise, friends are friends regardless of gender, friends are people you share a common interest with. I have friends who I met on here through this shared interest, but later discovered we have other interests in common too.

[Mea GG]

I see what is presented here. I looked at the boy/girl pics thread once and was really surprised how different many people are in their different modes.

I think Lexi is probably the only one I would recognize as both a boy and a girl.

But what is different from real life here is we only see the you that is presented. It is sorta like Star Trek for me....I do understand that it is pretend, but I can suspend my disbelief. I once remarked to someone how much a certain planet looked like Earth, and they thought I was off my rocker...they felt they had to explain to me it was ALL filmed on Earth.

I do understand that many of you have another side to you, but I don't really see it. I am perfectly willing to believe you are a girl or a guy or whatever you show us. In fact, once in a while I'm a little startled by a reference to hunting or some "manly" stuff and I have to remind myself it is mostly guys here. I know that but I forget sorta...

Re dreams... My niece posted on Facebook that she dreamed of going through McDonalds drive-through for pancakes and a Coach bag. The girl is girly through and through.

And I do see people pretty much as individuals...but mostly it feels like I am hanging out with a bunch of girly girls.

[Tamara Croft]

You're preaching to the choir. Try posting this question in a regular forum like plenty of fish to see how the average person sees us 'gender gifted' folks. Or, simply do a search over there; it's been discussed in the past.Was there really any need for this post? Denise was talking about her friends, not about other boards :rolleyes:

I agree with you Denise, I haven't really thought about gender for such a long time :)

[Jonianne]

I know what you are saying Denise. It's like being around people of different races, after a while you totally forget about that and just see personalities in each other.

You "see" each other without even noticing the outer. That's what the phrase "I see you" in the movie "Avatar" was about.

[Sheila]

they are friends period, does not come into it what they are wearing. I have made several good friends through this site, some have become like family :), the common interest was our lifestyle but we have gone beyond that, like any other interest, fishing golf, work, we will get on with some folks and not with others, because we share a common interest does not mean we will all get along, some i have met and been disappointed with (and they with me) :sad:, others have grown like family, at the end of the day we are all real people, living real lives with our own personalities, some I gel with, some I don't but it is never about the clothes but about the persons :)

[Raychel]

I too have some great friends on this site, Gender doesn't really matter at all, when a person is a true friend, nothing else realy matters.

[AKAMichelle]

I agree that gender is becoming such a none issue.

[msginaadoll]

I think after you met and get to know someone they just become your friend. You accept them for who they are. I also think all my friends are beautiful- and become more so the more I get to know them. Short story I once ran into a friend when we were both in male mode and didnt even recognize him till I drove away. This was at a gas station. I had never seen him before as a guy so completely threw me off.

[diannecourtney]

Sad to sayno pics now how. Any quick answers.:sad::sad:

[Kara Connor]

I noticed about two days into Esprit that I suddenly found it perfectly normal to be in "girl mode" and completely accepted everyone else as they presented. So yes, I think of my TG friends as just themselves. Of course, it did seem a little strange on the last day when I saw some of them back in "drab", and probably vice-versa. One of the many good things that comes from my being a crossdresser is being able to accept others as they are. It is more than tolerance, it is acceptance. At least that is what I strive for.

[kellycan27]

I agree that gender is becoming such a none issue.

Except for some of the TG's :heehee: I love my TG friends....It's just that sometimes it seems like all they ever want to talk about is being ...TG.:straightface:

[midnighter03]

When trying to make friends (of which the only true friend I have is my wife!) I find that race and gender doesn't matter...the only thing that matters is who they are.....deep deep down inside who they are....which is why my wife is really my only true friend. But there is one guy I used to work with that....well as far true friendship goes he is the closest one. However he is 50something and I am 31.

[charlie]

Hello Denise!
My CD friends are just like any friends that I have. We go out to eat, play pool, share laughs and drinks. I do find that some of them are very guarded though as to where and what they will do, and others are quite sexual in how they want to play. The sexual part is way different for me, and although not hard to fend off, uncomfortable at times.

[vikki2020]

You're preaching to the choir. Try posting this question in a regular forum like plenty of fish to see how the average person sees us 'gender gifted' folks. Or, simply do a search over there; it's been discussed in the past.

Actually, I've been spending a lot of time on "regular" sites, dating sites, none of which are aimed at CD's. On some, I do put in my profile that I'm TG, others, just hinted at. I've had pretty much very positive responses, and you can count the negatives on one hand. Even guys that maybe didn't read the profile we're cool after I told them. All in all, I've been treated well, and that's based on a lot of responses!