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jjjjohanne
08-19-2005, 11:51 PM
There is a group (A gay lesbian support group) that is having a meeting on transgender issues. I am not gay, but I thought I would try and attend en femme. My wife does not like for me to dress outside of the house. How can I go to this without lying to her?

Joe
Sweet Jeanette
08-19-2005, 11:53 PM
There is a group (A gay lesbian support group) that is having a meeting on transgender issues. I am not gay, but I thought I would try and attend en femme. My wife does not like for me to dress outside of the house. How can I go to this without lying to her?

Joe

Good Luck!!!!! :lol: :lol:
Julie
08-20-2005, 06:00 AM
Johanne if you're determined to go to this meeting and be en femme then bag some clothes and change when you arrive, I'm sure there'll be facilities there. As for lying to her that is for you to decide, leaving the house to attend in drabs might alleviate that issue anyway.

Julie
Noel Chimes
08-20-2005, 07:41 AM
Does your wife approve of your dressing? Some wife's don't realize that this is more than just some quirk or kink we have. Is her concern that you will be seen by locals who wouldn't approve? Or are there other concerns.
The one thing I have found is to be honest with my wife. She too expressed concerns about me going out "en femme". What I did was ask her to go out with me for a short outing. That way she could see for herself how I handle myself out in public. I would walk past people on the street with her a few yards behind me so that she could see their reactions or hear their comments (if any), and form her own opinions and calm her fears.
cindybarnes
08-20-2005, 07:58 AM
I told my wife I had found others like myself nearby and how important it was for me to meet them in hopes of understanding more about this side of me.
She was worried most that these were people I only knew online and had all kinds of things go through her mind.We agreed on a time limit and I was home on time.
I know if I had gone behind her back and went out somehow someday it would have come out and things would not be the same.
I suggest being upfront and if your wife is against you meeting others then at least you have planted the idea .Hopefuly she will think about you and your needs even if she doesnt understand and someday give in some.


Cindy