Another Step On Deb's Journey

[Sheila]

We have for the last 3 weeks been sat with a rather large white envelope filled with information and a form from Charring Cross, we finally had to fill it in or ignore it yesterday, as that was D Day ......... (they only give you 4 weeks to return the form or you have to start again)

The information was all filled in and the form went into the post yesterday afternoon, so now we wait more forms and her first appointment :)

I know for many the form would have gone back straight away, but she had to be sure as she could be .......... lots of things to take into account, her kids being 3 of them & her Ex who could make seeing them hard :straightface:, we are not saying she will, just could, then she had to try to work out the best and worst case scenario around the kids reactions on an individual basis. So much soul searching has been done here for the last few weeks. There was a lot more than that being thought about, and more will continue to be being thought about in the months to come, but it is another step on her & our journey :)

[katieblush]

Hiya,i have my confirmation of appointment in front of me right now,only i decided to change gender clinics just before the letter arrived :doh:,so now i have to chase my tail ringing around various people to sort this out,this coming week.

I wish you both well,i know just how hard it is for everyone in your immediate circle, family and friends etc :hugs: Katie xx

[pamela_a]

You're so right Sheila, it's a very big step and Debs is smart to consider the options and possible pitfalls as long as she doesn't over think everything. We can all imagine the worst possible things that might happen and use them as an excuse to not do what we know needs to be done.

She's so fortunate to have you willing to go with her on this journey and, perhaps in some ways, even that may make the decisions more difficult because of her love for you.

Plodding along down this path is probably a good thing to do as long as it's done deliberately and not because of fear.

Take care.. both of you. .and my love to you and Debs too. :hugs:

[Sandra]

You already know what we (as in the royal we) think :D

[Veronica_Jean]

It is good to hear that Deb is taking things seriously and taking deliberate steps one by one.

We all have to be comfortable with where we are going and it sounds like she is doing the best she can, which is all any of us can ever ask.

Veronica

[Shelly Preston]

I am sure when making this decision there were a lot of things to be taken into consideration

Good luck with your continued progress :hugs:

[Nicole Erin]

So this is for Debs transitioning?
The OP didn't actually say that but I am assuming

GYOD Debs is lucky to have an SO who is so accepting

[Sheila]

Nicole, sorry yes it is, Charring cross is one of our GIC's

[JulieP]

well i hope for the very best for debs.

[Kieron Andrew]

The information was all filled in and the form went into the post yesterday afternoon, so now we wait more forms and her first appointment :)
Hi Sheila, debs now shouldn't get anymore forms to fill in, just an appointment letter thats all...call em in about another week just to make sure they have it back and she has been put on the appointment list, they should at that point be able to give you an indication of when she will get an appointment

[Sheila]

thanks Kieron, thought there were sorta standard forms of history type thing to fill in ............. and yeah I will call at the beginning of June :)

[Kieron Andrew]

thanks Kieron, thought there were sorta standard forms of history type thing to fill in
Nah the Psych will ask all those questions at the appointment ;)

oh btw i got my first appt letter within two weeks of sending those forms back and the appt was for 6 months later :)

[Rianna Humble]

We have for the last 3 weeks been sat with a rather large white envelope filled with information and a form from Charring Cross, we finally had to fill it in or ignore it yesterday, as that was D Day ......... (they only give you 4 weeks to return the form or you have to start again)

The information was all filled in and the form went into the post yesterday afternoon, so now we wait more forms and her first appointment :)

That's really great! I know this has been anything but an easy decision, but I'm glad for Debs that it has been taken and that you are there to support her.


I know for many the form would have gone back straight away, but she had to be sure as she could be .......... lots of things to take into account, her kids being 3 of them & her Ex who could make seeing them hard :straightface:, we are not saying she will, just could, then she had to try to work out the best and worst case scenario around the kids reactions on an individual basis. So much soul searching has been done here for the last few weeks. There was a lot more than that being thought about, and more will continue to be being thought about in the months to come, but it is another step on her & our journey :)

It is a good thing to consider all the angles, so long as that doesn't scare you out of doing what you know is right. The only problem with "what if" questions is that you have to be careful to keep them in check otherwise you get to the stage of the French saying "With 'ifs' you could put Paris in a bottle", or top put it another way - if you let the "what if"s get out of hand, you can accidentally put up an insurmountable barrier that will never really come to pass.

Luckily, you and Debs have your heads screwed on right and didn't let it come to that.

[Teri Jean]

Best of luck to Debs and yourself as her journey continues. Teri

[Melissa A.]

Best of luck and strength to you both.

Hugs,

Melissa:)

[Midnight Skye]

I wish you both the best. I know you both are nervous and full of all kinds of emotion. I'm glad to hear you took your time to think it all through. Life is complicated when you have so many others in it that you really do care about! Hopefully there won't be too many bumps on the road!

[Charlena]

Good luck and hugs to both of you.