Cheryl James
06-03-2010, 08:39 PM
Having accomplished, at least to my acceptance level, the goals that I had set for myself for the past 13 days, I found myself in a quandary this evening. Two days ago I accomplished a major goal by shopping as Cheryl and purchasing a bra and a top in a department store. I was on cloud nine.
There are many goals left to be realized but some I just don't feel ready for, yet. So I decided to not go out but, rather, to stay home and take pictures. I figured it would be fun and would be instructive to me. I had thought that our digital camera was on vacation, also, but I happened upon it. It has a timer and can be mounted on a tripod. What else could a girl want?
Well, I'll tell you what a girl could want: To be able to purchase a storage device for it. Apparently, the camera is a little old by today's standards and today's market does not demand storage devices like the one in our camera. I didn't want to use the device in the camera as there were a lot of family pictures on it and Cheryl, unfortunately, is not a member in good standing in our family.
So, with the picture idea out, I decided to, once again, go to the mall. I had no burning desire to do this, but I figured that I need all the experience that I can get. So, I dressed very casually in a denim skirt, a white sleeveless top, 2-inch heels, my girl sunglasses and my girl readers in my purse. My leg hair is trimmed very short, but not shaved (another goal), so I, also, wore pantyhose.
I left the house at 6:30 which is still broad daylight in my neighborhood. It is tough to pull that off without totally wigging my neighbors out. I got out, but I don't know if I was seen or not.
About a mile from my house I have to get onto a high speed highway. As I was merging into the very congested traffic a car already on the highway pulled even to me. I glanced over to determine their intentions and to look for an opening to slide into. There was a teenage girl in the front seat of this car who glanced at me as I was glancing at her car. She did a double-take and started craning her neck to get a better look at me. This did nothing for my confidence.
Eventually I did arrive at the mall and entered two separate stores , but not the mall proper. Both stores were pretty crowded and I really didn't feel comfortable. In one I noticed one of the worker bees keeping track of me. They don't actually help customers, so there must have been other reasons for her interest in me. With minimal self-confidence, anyway, I found it to be disconcerting. Also, there were some code messages being broadcast over their loudspeakers and I imagined it to be code for "CD in women's wear".
In the other store I had no real problems until I heard a couple of loud footsteps nearby. I stopped and looked around but I didn't see anyone. So, I took a couple more steps and heard the same noise. It sounded sort of the clip-clop of horses hooves on television. Well, I looked down and noticed the source of the noise. The sole of my Goodwill bought ($5) right shoe was separating from the upper part of the shoe. So, I think that I have been read often tonight, my shoe is falling apart, and I have a long walk back to my car.
So, I am left to question, does confidence ebb and flow like the tide? Or, was my elation the other night just dumb luck never to be repeated? I did kind of laugh at myself because I have known beautiful women who, often, made the serious comment that they felt ugly. They couldn't have been ugly if they wanted to. But, apparently, I can with little or no effort.
There are many goals left to be realized but some I just don't feel ready for, yet. So I decided to not go out but, rather, to stay home and take pictures. I figured it would be fun and would be instructive to me. I had thought that our digital camera was on vacation, also, but I happened upon it. It has a timer and can be mounted on a tripod. What else could a girl want?
Well, I'll tell you what a girl could want: To be able to purchase a storage device for it. Apparently, the camera is a little old by today's standards and today's market does not demand storage devices like the one in our camera. I didn't want to use the device in the camera as there were a lot of family pictures on it and Cheryl, unfortunately, is not a member in good standing in our family.
So, with the picture idea out, I decided to, once again, go to the mall. I had no burning desire to do this, but I figured that I need all the experience that I can get. So, I dressed very casually in a denim skirt, a white sleeveless top, 2-inch heels, my girl sunglasses and my girl readers in my purse. My leg hair is trimmed very short, but not shaved (another goal), so I, also, wore pantyhose.
I left the house at 6:30 which is still broad daylight in my neighborhood. It is tough to pull that off without totally wigging my neighbors out. I got out, but I don't know if I was seen or not.
About a mile from my house I have to get onto a high speed highway. As I was merging into the very congested traffic a car already on the highway pulled even to me. I glanced over to determine their intentions and to look for an opening to slide into. There was a teenage girl in the front seat of this car who glanced at me as I was glancing at her car. She did a double-take and started craning her neck to get a better look at me. This did nothing for my confidence.
Eventually I did arrive at the mall and entered two separate stores , but not the mall proper. Both stores were pretty crowded and I really didn't feel comfortable. In one I noticed one of the worker bees keeping track of me. They don't actually help customers, so there must have been other reasons for her interest in me. With minimal self-confidence, anyway, I found it to be disconcerting. Also, there were some code messages being broadcast over their loudspeakers and I imagined it to be code for "CD in women's wear".
In the other store I had no real problems until I heard a couple of loud footsteps nearby. I stopped and looked around but I didn't see anyone. So, I took a couple more steps and heard the same noise. It sounded sort of the clip-clop of horses hooves on television. Well, I looked down and noticed the source of the noise. The sole of my Goodwill bought ($5) right shoe was separating from the upper part of the shoe. So, I think that I have been read often tonight, my shoe is falling apart, and I have a long walk back to my car.
So, I am left to question, does confidence ebb and flow like the tide? Or, was my elation the other night just dumb luck never to be repeated? I did kind of laugh at myself because I have known beautiful women who, often, made the serious comment that they felt ugly. They couldn't have been ugly if they wanted to. But, apparently, I can with little or no effort.