Feminine state of mind and sex

[girlalex]

it might be a wired question and i don't know if someone else ever asked it here but im just wondering if im not alone in this. so here we go. i was wondering if your sexual excitement is directly related to how feminine you feel at the moment. for me whenever im "exited" thats when i feel the most femme in other words the pink fog is in full swing and i really really feel like "omg im such a girl" however when "its done" i no longer feel very feminine until the next time im sexually aroused.
so is there anyone else out here thats the same?

[SamanthaStMichaels]

I hate to say this, and I hate the word, but that is what they say is Autogynephilia.

In my case, I feel like a woman when I'm excited, I feel like a woman when I'm done. I feel like a woman when I am awake, and I go to bed praying every night I wake for this nightmare and be one 100% female. Including the parts they can't replace.

[Kaitlyn Michele]

samantha is right on and i hate the AGP word too...i guess there has to be words to describe it though...

its important to consider that our situations can be very confusing...which comes first? the femme feeling? or the sexy feeling? are you really sure about your answer?

[SaraTV]

You're definitely not alone in this respect.

Sometimes dressing up is purely sexual for me in that even thinking about it makes me... happy. So I'll just go to a site like fictionmania and "take care of it."

However there are other times, like now, I just want to respect myself as a 'woman' and use all the time I have to enjoy those feelings. I dress myself, try on different clothes, paint my nails, or sometimes all of the above. And the more time I spend being feminine (and the more I restrain my male urges) the more time I want to spend as a woman.

But I can so totally relate. Usually when "it's done," I just want to take (most of) my clothes off and do something else. Not out of guilt or anything like that, but mostly because I haven't had much practice and can't pass yet.

To close - it's good to know there's someone else like me out there who's a little confused about this. Stay beautiful. :)

[Traci Elizabeth]

I never felt that way (after sex I no longer feel like a woman).

I feel like a woman 24/7 except I know where I came from.

[SaraTV]

pink fog is in full swing and i really really feel like "omg im such a girl" however when "its done" i no longer feel very feminine until the next time im sexually aroused.

girlalex, when you are dressed, are you in a hurry to get undressed (or clear 'the fog') or do you want to want to keep it around as long as possible. Have you tried staying dressed after 'it's done'? It might give you better association with what you really want.

[Hope]

I wouldn't say that I get sexually excited by being femme... but I would say that all of my actions and behaviors are more , right, vivid, and intense compared to when I am slogging through life trying to pass as a guy. My wife says my posture is even better. And it doesn't go away immediately after sex.

I would guess that if you don't ALWAYS need to be female, you should be careful about actions that might be permanent, or prevent you from being male.

[Mistybtm]

I was the same way at first but now i get dressed even after sex or stay dressed depending on the situation :o.
I think after a wile you will find that you may do the same.
:2c:

[AlexisWest]

I've been dressing for years, first it was a sexual thing, especially when I was younger. But as I grew older I was more daring, had better resources etc. So it truly became feeling like a woman,

Even now though, while getting undressed, the 'little girl and the twin sisters
get a little stiff. During the 'act' I feel so totally woman, however, after the little girl throws up, I just can't stay dressed and I loathe my actions. I have been told to stay dressed, but I just can't. The best I can do is orgasm while soft, very difficult to do, but it can be done, it does help.

This is a vulnerable time for me, I want to purge and swear off all of it. But after a while, my emotions balance out and I return to AJ's way of thinking.

I have wondered if this is common with all trans girls. I wonder to if that same feeling comes over post-op women after an orgasm.

[Georginamilnes]

When I first started dressing I felt much the same,until I met a man who made me so feminine and complete as a woman. So now,when I am filled with his love juice, i feel warm and fuzzy inside,and want to just hold onto those female feelings forever. That means staying dressed and as attractive for as long as I can.:hugs:

[Tommie T.]

Immediately after I don't want to be dressed the same as when leading up to the main event so I usually put on a pair of panties,a nightie and or a nice flowing nylon robe.This allows me to relish the feeling of having been sexually fulfilled as a woman even though the pink fog that got me there is dispersing.Of coarse 15 minutes later I'm ready to do it all over. lol When younger the dressing was about sex.Now it's an intregal part of who I am.

[missynicole]

i feel the same way aj west does............

[hopingsecret]

This is a tricky one. I don't think it's possible to seperat gender and sexuality. When I first experimented with crossdressing, I did recieve a minor sexual thrill. And same today, when I shave my pits and chest, there's a minor thrill as well. But I have never engaged in relations in femine mode. I've broached it with my wife a couple times, but I honestly can't see it happening.

I guess the question is are you feeling the sexual thrill because you're being your true self or do you think you want to be female because you are experiencing a thrill by dressing up/ role playing? Also how you view feminity. Whether you view the femine strictly in the form of the sexual or not.:2c:

[Karen564]

Sorry,
Are you sure your in the right section? Or am I in the wrong section?

Because I can't relate to any of that...since I don't "get off" being a woman in the manners you describe..
Which even if I did or could, I'd be totally exhausted since I'm a woman 24/7...
But I'm a TS, not a CDer


Yes, I feel very feminine all the time and it never goes away no matter what I do..and if anything, I'm in a higher state of feminine intensity after the act...but that takes a full half hour of stimulation of my breast & clit before I reach a full orgasim...then hrs later, I'm back to my regular female life again..

So thrilled or excited while being dressed I'm not, because in my life, the Real fun begins when all the clothes are off..:heehee:

[Melissa A.]

There are alot of feelings that have been associated with transitoning, and living full time as who I really am, at different times, for me...Hope, excitement, fear, peace, serenity, anxiety, contentment, even a certain amount of "girlishness" from time to time.
But never the kind of sexual giddiness you describe. I don't wanna speak for everyone, but I don't believe that is what being transsexual is about. It's about gender, or sexual congruence, instead of dissonance. I can't get sexually excited about finally being allowed to be me. I save that for other circumstances, and other people.

Hugs,

Melissa:)

[girlalex]

girlalex, when you are dressed, are you in a hurry to get undressed (or clear 'the fog') or do you want to want to keep it around as long as possible. Have you tried staying dressed after 'it's done'? It might give you better association with what you really want.

i want to keep the feminine feeling as long as possible but it seems as if my dysfunctional male libido ruins it. i can wait one week, two weeks, maybe three weeks at the most and the longer i try to resist to do it the more feminine i feel. usually when i don't do "it" for as long as about 3 weeks or more i begin to feel not only more feminine but just really good about myself, which i guess is coming from the notion that girls don't have a penis there for its physically impossible for them to you know what and thats why im trying not to do it. hopefully i make sense.

[Karinsamatha]

I'm with Melissa on this.
Initially there was a slight "thrill" But that has long since passed. I can't wait to get home from work and get out of the drab, and into something appropriate for me.

[Hope]

i want to keep the feminine feeling as long as possible but it seems as if my dysfunctional male libido ruins it. i can wait one week, two weeks, maybe three weeks at the most and the longer i try to resist to do it the more feminine i feel. usually when i don't do "it" for as long as about 3 weeks or more i begin to feel not only more feminine but just really good about myself, which i guess is coming from the notion that girls don't have a penis there for its physically impossible for them to you know what and thats why im trying not to do it. hopefully i make sense.

Girls can't masturbate?

Since when?

[olga]

it’s funny… since I have discovered that I’m transsexual, all my sex drive is completely gone… there’s NOTHING anymore. And I don’t even miss it! I don’t even want it back, because it feels just wrong. Dressing female has become a way to feel normal…

I have felt a slight arousal when I dressed back when I didn’t know, but it was more about the thrill of doing something “forbidden” than actually getting off.

[Kaitlyn Michele]

read this and weep

i just had srs only 6 days ago...i masturbated quite often leading up to my surgery...my whole life i suffered and inability to orgasm with others...i just never wanted sexual relations involving a penis..its quite sad, i was a terrible hopeless lover
.but i never felt shy about feeling orgasm...and i often fanstasized about romance and sex...

now when i close my eyes, and i think those thoughts, even with all the packing still in there, and even with a catheter stuck in there i get that same delightful feeling...i am so happy to feel that i will be sexually normal just like any other woman..

i talked to my doctor about this , and he said his experience is that girls that were sexually active and interested pre srs tend to have satisfying function post srs...and those that don't have a chance of not being able to enjoy sexuality post srs...

i'm just being very specific and honest about my own experience....:o

[olga]

read this and weep

i just had srs only 6 days ago...i masturbated quite often leading up to my surgery...my whole life i suffered and inability to orgasm with others...i just never wanted sexual relations involving a penis..its quite sad, i was a terrible hopeless lover
.but i never felt shy about feeling orgasm...and i often fanstasized about romance and sex...

now when i close my eyes, and i think those thoughts, even with all the packing still in there, and even with a catheter stuck in there i get that same delightful feeling...i am so happy to feel that i will be sexually normal just like any other woman..

i talked to my doctor about this , and he said his experience is that girls that were sexually active and interested pre srs tend to have satisfying function post srs...and those that don't have a chance of not being able to enjoy sexuality post srs...

i'm just being very specific and honest about my own experience....:o

Kate, I hope you’re doing well! Thanks for sharing. I always appreciate your honesty.

In my current state of mind… if that’s the baggage I’ll lose in transition… so be it!

[girlalex]

i just never wanted sexual relations involving a penis..its quite sad, i was a terrible hopeless lover


i just realized that this is exactly how i feel about my self, in fact maybe the reason why i never had a girlfriend and why i'm still a virgin. i really don't give a flying f$#% about my pines is another thing i realized. sometimes when its cold and its really small i feel so much better about my self. i just do. i mean i don't hate that part of my body i just don't really care about it. its just kinda there.

[olga]

i just realized that this is exactly how i feel about my self, in fact maybe the reason why i never had a girlfriend and why i'm still a virgin. i really don't give a flying f$#% about my pines is another thing i realized. sometimes when its cold and its really small i feel so much better about my self. i just do. i mean i don't hate that part of my body i just don't really care about it. its just kinda there.

this is EXACTLY how I feel too…

[SamanthaStMichaels]

read this and weep

i just had srs only 6 days ago...i masturbated quite often leading up to my surgery...my whole life i suffered and inability to orgasm with others...i just never wanted sexual relations involving a penis..its quite sad, i was a terrible hopeless lover
.but i never felt shy about feeling orgasm...and i often fanstasized about romance and sex...

now when i close my eyes, and i think those thoughts, even with all the packing still in there, and even with a catheter stuck in there i get that same delightful feeling...i am so happy to feel that i will be sexually normal just like any other woman..

i talked to my doctor about this , and he said his experience is that girls that were sexually active and interested pre srs tend to have satisfying function post srs...and those that don't have a chance of not being able to enjoy sexuality post srs...

i'm just being very specific and honest about my own experience....:o

Surgery in general makes you feel like crap. I'm finally feeling better myself with my neck surgery.

Ride it out and feel better hun.