married and transitioning

[Victoria Anne]

I am a devoted spouse to an unbelievable GG , it is only with her help through the years that I have been able to accept my CDing and to discover I am not a CD'er but transexual. It was my wife that found my doctor and therapist , she that got me off self medication and itno a proper program under the care of a gender specialist , a teching proffessor MD.

I have now been on HRT for nearly 4 months and have grown so much in the last few years and I owe it to my wife Mrs.M...GG. I have made some further advances lately though small and to some perhaps insugnificant but a great deal to me. Yesterday I closed my yahoo acct for Tim and now only have Viccy's , I am also now presenting a little more towardss female in my daily life at work although I still must retain a primarily male persona I am begining to push the envelope a bit. At home I am spending 90% of my time as myself and learning to be me a bit more each day. This is truely a wonderful feeling and I feel so much lighter if that makes any sence , I am much happier now and can only imagine how I will feel once I have gone as far as I can.

Thank you for listening and so to my question how many of us are married and has your road of transition caused problems or has your spouse been supportive ? I know I am in a small minority have the support I do and I am not sure what I hope to learn from this question but there it is. Thank your all for your support and advise over the years .:hugs:

[LisaM]

Wow, Viccy! I have to admit that your story seems like a fairy tale.

A more traditional story here---my SO knows, basically understands but hopes and prays that it goes away.

[Victoria Anne]

Miss.M is more than that she is a dream come true , she walked away from an acting career that was really starting to take off to be with me a truck driver now how can you beat that she is my life my love and support

[Empress Lainie]

Miss M is a truly great woman. You are truly one of the luckiest people in the world, certainly in the transworld.

I also have a gg friend of 20 years, 17 of them before my transition, who I consider my rock, and without who, I believe things with me would have been more difficult. I must also give credit to my SO, another MTF who lives with me.

[JoAnne Wheeler]

You are so blessed to have the spouse that you have - I can only dream that my spouse would be like yours - but my spouse has already been to her lawyer and has sued me for divorce.

JoAnne Wheeler

[Midnight Skye]

I'm so happy for you Viccy! Three cheers to your wife. My wife is on the fence. She 95% supports my transgendered side and expression. Actually she's been really fantastic about it all. But she is scared to death of me going full time... its my biggest pain point... because I know I need to go full time for myself. I don't know if we'll make it through that, she seems to deeply grasp to the tiny fragment of male left in me... and I want nothing to do with it. But every few weeks she accepts my female side more... so we'll see!

[Traci Elizabeth]

Like you Victoria, I am one of the lucky ones who has a totally supportive wife. We are soul mates and very deeply in love. Even more so after all these years. We have always stood by each other through thick and thin. We both believe in the principles of marriage and the commitment we made to each other.

I could not even conceive of my wife being more supportive than she is. We buy woman's clothes together. We critique each other's outfits. She helps me with my hair, even colors it for me. Teaches me tricks on make-up and the nuances of presenting female.

We still laugh a lot, do things together all the time, and are each other's confidant and best friend.

She continues to accept my physical changes even my growing breasts. The other day we were going out and I put on a very thin white top and my wife said, honey you can't go out in public wearing that top, I can see your breasts and women our age do not go around showing naked breasts. Cleavage yes but not naked breasts. So go and put something Non-see through on. Which I did. That's the kind of relationship we have.

My wife is a very attractive woman. She use to model in the fashion industry at shows, in magazines, and catalogs. She could have chosen anyone but she chose me. Yes, I am very blessed and I make no apologies for being so happy.

Sure we have some difficult decisions down the road. Her aging father who's health is failing him does not know about me and we are keeping it that way by mutual agreement. He would never understand so why confuse or burden him with that knowledge at this point. We are both unsure about SRS but agree that it is not in my near future and perhaps never will be something that either one of us want but the verdict is still out. We want to keep all options open but smartly. But most importantly, my wife wants me to be happy but safe, and not take undue risks at my age.

So Victoria thank the good Lord for every moment you have with your understanding wife. They love unconditionally and are beyond special.

[Dawn D.]

Hi Viccy,

I too am one of the fortunate few!

Your methodology to become who you are and the support of your wife are a near mirror image of my life! As you described your gradual change and integration of your female awareness into your daily life; this is exactly the same thing I did. I am now almost a year and a half into my RLE and things really could not be better (well okay, SRS would be nice to be done with)! My business is actually better now than before! People around town are very accepting of the "new me"!

My wife, like yours is my biggest supporter and my guide. We are more committed to each other now than we seemed to have been prior to me coming out. Without her involved in my transition, I shudder to think were I'd be right now. A loving and supportive partner in this process is most likely the most coveted desire for any of us who go through this adventure. Those of us fortunate enough to have that kind of support owe a great deal of unending gratitude to these special and rare souls!

Congratulations to you! I fully know how you feel!

Dawn

[Hope]

I am one of the lucky ones. I picked well. My wife is incredible, and has been completely supportive of me.

The only problem we have is that my wife doesn't like girls... I am not exactly sure how that is going to play out, but with conversation and experimentation I am sure we will figure it out.

[Victoria Anne]

I know without my wife my life would be so different and I do not know that I would have even accepted my self yet. We are nearing our 14th anniversarry and I have no doubt we will be a very married and loving couple , soulmates unto our dying day and I do thank God for her every day.

[gillian1968]

I too am tremendously fortunate. My wife has been alongside me this whole journey, sometimes a little taken aback by it but so incredibly supportive. She's sad to lose her man, but knows that I'm still the same loving person I've always been.

We have a 5 year plan for my transition, mostly giving me time for full hair removal, our kids to exit high-school, to stabilize my business, and hormones to do their work. Then, we'll be living as a lesbian couple.

[goofus]

Great stories here! I don't know if I'll ever transition, but if I do I hope I'm lucky enough to have a SO like many of you have :)

[Jenn2716]

Congrats Victoria!!
I am also lucky enough to have a loving and supportive wife. We have been married for 10 years and she has stood by me all the way - from my cding days, to my coming to terms with being ts, to my going full time 6 months ago. We've had some long and emotional discussions, but in the end, we just can't imagine not being together. This is not the life she imagined having, but still loves me as Jenn and is prepared to live the rest of our lives together as a lesbian couple.

SRS is pretty much off the table at the moment, but I should be able to start hormones this fall. I'm lucky to have been able to go full time without hormones, but I am so looking forward to getting HRT started.

Anyways, I'm so happy that you and some of the other girls here are fortunate enough to have a supportive spouse. To all the rest, hopefully your present partners will come around. If not, and if the worst happens, keep your head high and stay positive. Your supportive soul mate may still be out there!