oh....shit just hit the fan...

[Myojine]

So i failed...
my secret is no longer, my depression got the best of me and now... well...
My Army unit command knows im a transgender...

fortunately my commander is understandign enough to know that im not a homosexual... but im not sure at all what he feels about this... and i completely feel like shit over this issue and if things do get said... omg my military career could be over...
i just hope hs(my commander)is as "wanting to help" as he says.

[Chloe Renee]

Wow, I hope that everything works out. Keep us posted, amd I wish you luck. The VA in some area of the country appear to be changing the way trans issues are handled.

[ellenwannabe]

I'm retired army and hope all works out for you - at least now he knows and I'll bet he keeps it to himself as he should - I retired as a ltc and I would keep it to myself if an enlisted soldier confided that to me - best of luck - Ellen

[Andy66]

If he is understanding enough to know trans and gay are not the same thing, then there is hope. He may even have dealt with this situation before. Best of luck, dear. :hugs:

[Angiemead12]

its a good and a bad thing right? At least you have someone to talk to now? There must be some positive side to things?

[Kathi Lake]

Myojine,

The world is not over. Luckily, you have a commander that has tried to calm you down and let you know that this may not affect you. It doesn't have to, you know. I was found out as well, and I was even recently promoted to E8.

However, a few of the things you said struck me as odd. Could you please explain what you meant about the phrases:

"my depression got the best of me and now... well..."

"My Army unit command knows im a transgender..."

"but im not sure at all what he feels about this..."

My questions are; What do you mean "my depression got the best of me?" What did you do? Did you do something that requires judicial or nonjudicial punishment?

Your command knows you are transgender? What do you mean by command? Do you mean commander or the entire command? Also, what does that term "transgender" mean to you? What do you think it means to them?

You're not sure about how he feels. Did you ask? Do so. Their feelings may indeed change the direction of your entire military career.

Meanwhile, chill. Stop sweating, stop your heart from beating 100 or beats per minute, and stop biting your fingernails (Seriously. Stop it. It's gross! :)). What will be, will be. Please let us know how it goes as we will be thinking about you.

Kathi

[Maria in heels]

I hope that you are ok, and that everything else will stay calm and he will be understanding...

[Midnight Skye]

Take Kathi's advice she defiantly knows best in this area. On the bright side if you can duck long enough policies should start changing in the military over the next two years... though that doesn't mean people will (sigh). That will take a while in the millitary.

[Traci Elizabeth]

Go see the Army Chaplain. They are there to help and if any repercussions are in the works, sometimes a Chaplain can calm things down or intervene on your behalf provided you have not done anything against the Uniform Code of Military Justice (UCMJ).

Good luck and thank you for your service.

[Melissa A.]

Sorry for my ignorance, but is there anything specifically in DADT about being trans?

Hugs,

Melissa:)

[Bea A]

The military considers Transsexuality as a "disorder" that is incompatiable with military service. It affects "good order and discipline" and if you hold any level of security clearance, it will end that due to "possible compromise". Your chaplain is a good source, but he is a military officer 1st and spiritual advisor second. You should assume no confidentiality. DADT covers homosexual behavior. To some, it may all look the same. I'm curious as to what level Kathy was outed. I hope and wish you the best, but suggest you prepare for the worst.