Had a client who is transitioning.

[Katesback]

Hi there everyone. I recently had a client who is fairly along into the process of transition. She was telling me about the lonely times (I totally understand these) and she asked me if dating a CD would be a reasonable approach to finding someone.

I really did not have a very good diplomatic answer for her. Instead I told her I would do some reasearch and get back to her on the topic.

So here is the question she posed to me. Would you single CDs consider dating a TS girl? I will share your input with her.

Katie

[dennisGTS]

If, I were single, I would date a TS girl.

[sami1952]

yes i would if i was single and if she mind going out with another cd'er.

[Jamiegirl1]

I would love to date a CDer or a TS girl,I am married to a gg,but if I was single again,that is exactly who I would date....

[Teresa Ann]

Hi Kate, Years ago when I was single I did date a girl that was TS and stealth
we got along great but we were too much alike, we both liked women. But we still remain friends and see each other when I am in town. Teresa Ann

[subaru_forster]

:2c:

Beware of the trap of settling with someone for no reason other than acceptance. I don't thing she should date a CDer unless she is attracted to them anyway.

A CDer isn't her only choice. People who are bi, and people who are gay/straight and particularly openminded are also people who may be interested in her.

As for me, well:
1: I am into women
2: I consider a transwoman to be a woman.

Of course, I'm already in a committed happy relationship.

[Katesback]

:2c:

Beware of the trap of settling with someone for no reason other than acceptance. I don't thing she should date a CDer unless she is attracted to them anyway.

A CDer isn't her only choice. People who are bi, and people who are gay/straight and particularly openminded are also people who may be interested in her.

As for me, well:
1: I am into women
2: I consider a transwoman to be a woman.

Of course, I'm already in a committed happy relationship.

I totally understand what you are saying. This person is a client and I am not allowing personal opinions to come into play when I talk to her.

[Cherry Lynn]

I would date a TS woman. I am bi and single but there does not seem to be any TS women in close proximity to where I live.

[Barbara Dugan]

I am a single CD but I wouldn't date a TS woman or a GG .I would date a cute Male or Transexual Male.

[DonniDarkness]

What a person does or what lifestyle they live should not define the physical and mental CHEMISTRY between two people.

She should look for someone who she is compatible with mentally and spiritually.

She should look for love....nothing less

-Donni-

[AllieSF]

I agree with you Donni, except to look for love. From my own experience, and others' mileage may vary, I have found that it is almost impossible to find love when specifically looking for it. I recommend just looking for someone who seems compatible in all areas and then let a friendship build and see what happens. It takes time to build trust, confidence and to truly get to know someone. Keeping it light helps to keep it real. Also the more one dates, the better experience one gets for conversing and just having fun by being yourself.

[kymmieLorain]

Like others have said, IF I was single I would date a TS. Might even go more provided the chemistry is right. But I am very happily married, going on 25yrs.

Kymmie

[Paula W]

If we click, why not? Dating is supposed to be about enjoying your time with said person, if it works it works, if it doesn't oh well, you really are none the worse for it.

[Nicole Erin]

I would date a CD or TS IF they were reasonably attractive and not a flake.

Thing is, I am attracted to femininity. So the CD would have to be like shaven of body hair and make an honest effort to pass and all.

[sherri]

Of course, if the chemistry (no pun intended) was there.

[carrie-ann]

I would but I'm married to a gg. I'm bi so if I was single and she a dom I would if every thing was good to go like our feelings and personality are a match.

[Marcella Camira]

For me there are several if's:
1) is she very passabable?
2) does she want me in fem mode or guy mode when we go out?
3) is she planning on going to full female at a certain point?
4) Why does she want a cd'er vs regular guy?

And thats just the ones off the top of my head! Until she answered mine, I couldn't answer hers.

Later
~Jett~

[Vickie_CDTV]

I can certainly relate, as I am one of those lonely people who longs to find an SO but cannot find anyone who will accept me.

Her approach seems reasonable to me. Even if the CD wants a GG and the TS wants a cisgender man, it may be a reasonable compromise that might work for them. It would be nice not having to do with having to explain oneself, or the frustration of going through many potential partners looking for someone who will accept you as you are.

One thing to be aware of, in terms of the crossdressing, a CD/TS relationship can have the same pitfalls as a CD/GG relationship. Especially if the TS is stealth they may have the same concerns a GG may have (how often the CD can dress, fear of her SO being exposed as a CD or having her past exposed by proxy, when/where the CD can dress, etc. etc. etc.

[Angiemead12]

I would in my altered reality and if I was single!

[charlotte_sp]

For what it's worth, as someone who's attracted to women, I would have no problem with dating a TS (MtF) in general.

My first impulse on reading this post though was that any relationship starting like that would be doomed to failure.
But after thinking about it a bit, it's not such a bad idea.
People start relationships based on much sillier things.
If she is that worried about acceptance, then she's likely (though not guaranteed!) to have an easier time with a CD.

I think Vickie is absolutely right about the potential pitfalls.
Especially if she wants someone who is unambiguously male, she may end up having trouble with a CD.

[Starling]

If I weren't married, I don't see any reason not to date a transwoman, even if she were non-op. I'd like to think I would base any serious relationship on more important considerations.

Frankly, I'm more TS-oriented myself, and I don't care all that much about sex any more. I wouldn't turn it down, but at my age companionship is much more important to me. That might be a deal-breaker with a transwoman who was rarin' to go.

:hugs: Lallie

[RachelDenise]

The simple answer is yes, I'd date a transwoman, pre or post operative. More complicated answer includes how we get along, how our relationship may evolve, what are the expectations, hopes and dreams.........

[k lynn]

yes I would datea ts woman and I am single just have never meet one livein a small town but I find black women more beautifull

[Katesback]

Everyone thank you so much for the input. I will pass it along to my client without presenting any of my own opinions and let her digest the whole thing.

If I had to guess I would say this girl is reasonably early in the process of transition. She presents quite well I will say that but there certainly is a lot of learing to do on her behalf.

I did not ask her any questions about SRS or anything like that. I do HIV prevention so there is not really a reason for me to ask those questions and truthfully I dont care what status someone is. As long as they are happy and safe I am cool.

Katie

[joannemarie barker]

I would date a ts girl,pre or post op :)

[Shelly Preston]

I would suggest dating a CD is just one option she may want to consider

Some Girls who have transitioned/or are transitioning have sucessfully found a partner and this is not limited to any one group.

Its all about finding the right person

[wishing2bali]

I would date a TS Girl, provided she has the traits, personality, and characteristics I look for in any other woman

[AmandaM]

Yes, I would date a TS if single.