Girlie traits when in drab

[dominique]

Have any of you found that when in drab you still do things when you're dressed. For me its when I put male moisturiser on I put it as I'm putting on foundation, putting it on my wrist first. Luckily no body has seen me do it that way.
What do you ladies do.:love:

[sexylegs]

haha sure when i go out clothes shopping in drab with my gf if i find something nice and girlie i still hold it up against me as if i was dressed lol

[kimberly ann487]

My wife has made a few "comments" about how I walk and sit with my legs crossed, etc. I try and watch myself, since I don't want to upset her any more than she already is, which is a lot.:idontknow:

[Allyson Michelle]

sometimes i subconsciously do my "femme" walk and stance when out in public. Nobody has ever said anything though (at least not to where I can hear)

[Debb]

I think maybe yesterday was one of those days for me. I'm trying to integrate my two "sides" into "myself", and sometimes don't notice if I'm a little too femme.

A co-worker was standing in my cube, we were having a conversation about old times -- he was in the Army, I was in the Air Force -- and somehow he got talking about a guy who, I guess, he considered gay. You see, this guy carried around a duffle bag, and left it sitting out one day and the other troops looked inside and found cross-dressing tools of the trade (bra, wig, forms, clothing, makeup).

I've never shown any inclination to talk about that stuff, and his comments seemed pointed to me and worried me a bit. It's almost 100 percent my imagination, though, and I try to realize that, but I gotta wonder ... do I do anything that others perceive as feminine?

In actuality, I don't really care ... but I thought I'd add to this thread, anyways.

[rocketscientist]

Hi D! I always am trying not to look too femme while en drab. Sometimes I forget that I'm not dressed, usually when shopping and I see a sexy pair of heels, cute top, hot skirt, etc.. I'll just start fawning over them, feeling the material, admiring the details(such as buttons,buckles,patterns, stitching,ruffles,etc.) and wondering how I would look and feel wearing it. I catch myself doing this all the time when en drab. I immediately revert to my femme self. Then I realize I am not dressed and have to beat my inner girl back down. At least until she sees something else that catches her eye! LOL. Hugs, Tonya

[AlisonRenee]

oh, I definitely have some feminine body language traits, always have, and they just happen. It's not like I'm trying to blend the two natures. I have to make myself *not* stand hand-on-hip, for example.

[Paula W]

I catch myself not walking like I normally would in male mode from time to time. It is kind of a mix between my normal walk and my fem walk but luckily for me it isn't that noticeable yet because I haven't quite gotten my fem walk down pat yet.

[Josie06]

After all these years they are an 'ingrained' part of me regardless of how I am dresses.

Always crossing my legs, most times double crossing them. Walking with a slight gentle sway in my derriere. Twirling my hair around my finger. Take both my legs out of the car before standing. Sitting on the car seat and bringing both my legs into the car together. Crying during 'special' parts of movies. Plus, I shave my legs, underarms, all over really and moisturize. I am also submissive (not to an extreme though) and emotional.

Just like Kimberly Anne, my wife has made comments and some hurtful. My children just smile or giggle but no comments. On occasion they said I was eccentric.

As I said these are ingrained in my being and even when I try they really don't go away. But I am happy with me, just the way I am. The inner woman in me controls and that is fine with me.

[Elsa von Spielburg]

I gotta say, there are many times where I find myself either crossing my legs above the knee nowandays or slipping into my femme-walk. Just feels right :)

[suzy1]

The fem walk for me too. Plus how I hold the gear stick in my car, and how I hold a champaign glass.

SUZY

[EjayeCD]

I tend to sway my hips more in drab, especially when I wear women's jeans. I have to tuck or I'll have 2 bulges on either side of the crotch. I usually wear women's flats too. I keep my nails longer that most men & I shape them as girly as I can without being too obvious. I also buff my nails to a nice shine without polish.

[kimdl93]

oh, I definitely have some feminine body language traits, always have, and they just happen. It's not like I'm trying to blend the two natures. I have to make myself *not* stand hand-on-hip, for example.

pretty much the same here - plus, I've always been told I throw like a girl :)

[kayegirl]

Yes, The walk, particularly the way I swing my arms. I carry a handbag or shoulder bag (purse) all of the time anyway, often wear flat girl shoes and trousers (but not jeans), have coloured toe nails and wear open toe sandals as much as possible. And at the present time my fingernails are always coated with a clear acrylic polish.

[Proteus]

I sit with my legs crossed a lot. It's not necessarily a CD thing, though, my father did it too. (Don't think he was hiding anything, but who knows? :heehee:). During my teen years with all the homophobia around me I always sat with my ankle on my knee instead, supposedly manlier, but now I don't care if I register on anyone's gaydar. :doh:

As for crying during movies, I've only done that once - watching the end of Schindler's List, and my bedsheet was soaking wet. :cry:

I suppose you could call the over-use of smilies a bit "girly" too, but I swear, that's 1 in every 200 posts that I do that. :smug:

[Rachel Morley]

I'm very similar to Josie, I too find myself crossing my legs, walking with a slight gentle sway, I often take both my legs out of the car before standing and sitting on the car seat and bringing both my legs into the car together.

Like others, my fingernails are long, manicured and painted in a shiny clear at work. The other thing I do is the way I stand, I can't help it but I tend to put my feet together and tuck my elbows in close to my body, bend my arms at 90 degs but have my wrists limp and my palms facing down ... just like I do when en femme. It's an unconscious trait that I can't seem to stop either in boy or girl mode.

[nikkijo]

drab... what is that.... doesnt that require boy clothes???? i may go jeans and t shirt... but they are far from guy stuff so i dunno...... lately i get seriously uncomfortable if i even look at a guy article of clothing... so i really dunno how i act in drab..

[Midnight Skye]

- blushes - My drab still includes mens clothing but I've been wearing half my makeup routine... and I fix my hair only slightly different... and sometimes no different at all. Oh and I've given up on my male voice... I carry that around all day everywhere ;)

Which in the last three weeks has started to result in me being referenced as a female... a very flat chested female wearing a mans shirt, shoes and slacks. Apparently hair, makeup, and voice go along way lol.

[AmandaM]

I have to watch out. The gays and bi's at work hint around me to see sometimes, mistaking fem mannerisms for gayness/fluffiness. I have to make an extra effort to "chat up" macho stuff. I'm in the closet, and definitely don't need the attention or exposure.

[fallen_rayne]

When I'm out I always look for some kind of bargain on dressers or whatever. I walk with a strut every now and then without even thinking about it. xD

[Jane G]

Oh lot's, have to stop myself regularly, hand gestures walk ,flicking my fringe, best is my laugh which is totally fem, I'm told. I have this fun video, at Bruntingthorp proving ground, were a mate looses it a corner and spins. All you can hear is screeching tiers and this mad woman laughing her head off.

[Barbara_MacKenzie]

Crossing my legs is a real give away and something I try to monitor. I do tend to have fairly limp wrists which is so natural I don't realise I'm doing it.

Mind you it doesn't help, when my sister in law walked into our living room and I commented that her shoes were gorgeous! She liked the compliment (I think she suspects, but she's very nice about it).

[Prissy Linda]

I'm very similar to Josie, I too find myself crossing my legs, walking with a slight gentle sway, I often take both my legs out of the car before standing and sitting on the car seat and bringing both my legs into the car together.

Like others, my fingernails are long, manicured and painted in a shiny clear at work. The other thing I do is the way I stand, I can't help it but I tend to put my feet together and tuck my elbows in close to my body, bend my arms at 90 degs but have my wrists limp and my palms facing down ... just like I do when en femme. It's an unconscious trait that I can't seem to stop either in boy or girl mode.

That pretty much describes me to a T, it's just part of my nature.

[Rita D]

Have a couple of times caught myself doing that girly thing of brushing my hair behind my ear with my hand- My male hair is relatively short, too! Force of habit , I guess....

[Michaela42]

Well, every so often I will slip up and make a female like comment; something like I am becoming fat, or I broke a nail. That is not too obvious so most people ignore it, but the other day I slipped up big time (well, for me).

A woman came through my checkout line and I noticed she was wearing a great pair of espadrilles and I complemented her on them and began to ask her where she bought them, if they were comfortable, and all that. To her credit she did not become all embarrassed, mean, or shocked. She politely told me where she bought them and said that she noticed that they had many larger sizes so they may be able to help me. Boy did my face become red :D She just smiled and gave me a wink as she left.

[Naomi Rayne]

I keep my fingernails maintained and squared off with clear polish on them at all times. Shave my legs and wear shorts. Paint my toenails but always have socks on, i have not slipped up with that one yet. And i underdress in panties and hose during most days. Nobody has noticed any of these things yet.

As for crossing my legs that i dont think is an easy tell because whenever u see guys on talk shows they tend to cross their legs over the knee when sitting in the chairs next to the host desk. I have seen a couple "manly" actors do this when being interviewed so i dont think it is that much of a tell but i tend to cross my legs with my ankle on the opposite knee because i have always done that. If anything is a tell it would be the way i sit down when my legs are not crossed. I sit with my ankles crossed as if im wearing a skirt.

[Lexine]

When I call someone over the phone I subconsciously use my female voice to speak. Often times when I consciously speak in my male voice on the phone, when I'm ready to hang up or say, "Thank you!" my female voice comes out.

In terms of styling, I use barettes underneath my hats to hold some of the bangs I have in their places. I also have my eyebrows threaded every two or three weeks and have my nails polished every couple of weeks or so.

[t-girlxsophie]

I just gotta remember to stop saying everything's CUTE.Don't know where it's came from,but I cant stop doing it,Least I've not said It in front of anyone that dont know about Sophie yet.Now that would be awkward:heehee:

[Heather Zor-El]

I've always had feminine mannerisms, so ever since learning of that (first time I noticed was some pictures--some posed and some casual)--about age 10, I've had to try to be more masculine. Goodness, I even played football in 7th grade to try to fit in more, though I was one of the two smallest on the team.
I slip-up a lot, get called Ma'am on the phone, over the fast food intercom, and sometimes even by a salesclerk when I am in person and wearing real, honest to goodness men's-department clothing. My wife thinks its either funny or sad, depending on the day.

I guess I just have to look at it as affirmation of me really being what I realized I always was.

Shouldn't be anything wrong with that, should there?

[Christie ann]

As I read through the list I keep seeing things I do.
Twirl hair when at a stop light.
when ever there is a "womens" department I will go through and check out the new stuff
call "shirts" tops
smooth my skirt before I sit down
smile instead of a head nod at every woman who passes by.

[Joyously 27]

Practically always sitting with my legs cross & while eating using my napkin after every bite.

[Jodygurl]

Interesting thread. I'm still working on my walk (or is it a kick/strut?) and stance so I'm sure I do it when I'm out a lot. Least I hope so. I just love the way that looks. And, it's abazing how nice people can be when you smile at them. Seems to disarm any tendency to be nasty.

In any case I view all these things as a positive.

[cobra6481]

Some of the same goes for me too... crossing my legs above the knee just feels more natural to me.. as well as smiling at others, I agree, it's very disarming.

[Billye Loves Olga]

I am nowhere ready to out in public completely en femme, especially considering that I have no wig, breast forms, makeup, etc., etc.

However, I have had a bi-lateral total knee replacement (that's both knees) and it's actually MORE comfortable to cross my legs ABOVE the knee now - something I couldn't do before. And - I am keeping my body hairless from chin to toe. So, in shorts, which is normal in Georgia at this time of year, my smooth legs are definitely showing. So far, no one has said a word. Not at a pool party, not when I go dancing at the American Legion (of which I'm a member, being a vet - if they only knew) - not even really a glance, even at the Wally World. Is it becoming not that uncommon for guys to show their smooth sexy legs (even with the railroad track knee scars)?

Biggest problem I'm having right now is FINGERNAILS! I have let them grow out to the tips of my fingers, but not beyond (one step at a time). That's quite a lot longer than before (think caveman length - just beyond the quick). They are manicured and clear-polished. Getting accustomed to the extra length in everyday use is challenging. They, the nails, "touch things". I can actuallt "drum my fingernails" and it's the nails, not just the fingertips that are touching the surface. I love it, but am having to become used to reaching for things in a different way since I don't want them to break off just out of carelessness. It's tough learning to be a girl - so many little things to learn and new habits to assimilate :-)

[Kathryn Martin]

I have very feminine speaking habits when I am in conversation. I talk with my hands a lot I smile when at people when I walk and walk straight. Of course I have a swish in my hips. People have noticed all my life and I don't really care much. I am the father of four, am married to a beautiful spouse ..... I got nothing to prove or disprove

Kathryn

[Asako]

Girl habits huh? Well, my natural hair is insanely long(almost to my waist) and I HATE having it short. I will never keep it short again. I love it being between my shoulder blades and waist! My voice goes up and down the scales as I'm talking, depending on the subject. I do tend to walk with my legs closer together now since I've made a conscious effort to do so. That's about it though.