"You're not a transvestite"

[Laurie A]

My SO and I were out today enjoying the sunny weather. We stopped at the local GLBT festival to grab a bite to eat and listen to my favorite local musician. As we were leaving, I asked her what her feelings were regarding my cross dressing habits. I periodically have to check in wiht her to satisfy my insecurities. She asked me if I wanted to come back to the festival wearing a dress. I replied no. (Dressing in public is not important to me). She replied, "Then you aren't a transvestite. You just dress for the thrill sexually"

As usual, she is right. I am not a transvestite, and I do just do it for the the thrill. I am so grateful for having a partner who is so understanding!!!!!!

[Mirani]

PLEASE - let's not continue the thread with definitions. If Dela doesn't want the "T" label, then that's OK.

Dela, labels are not the issue. Being YOU is what is important. If your dressing is for the "thrill" and your SO is happy too --- pop the champagne and enjoy yourselves as it seems to work for you.

Happy days

[TxKimberly]

PLEASE - let's not continue the thread with definitions. If Dela doesn't want the "T" label, then that's OK.

Dela, labels are not the issue. Being YOU is what is important. If your dressing is for the "thrill" and your SO is happy too --- pop the champagne and enjoy yourselves as it seems to work for you.

Happy days

And I was SOOO gonna do just that! It's a side effect of two decade in metrology I guess, but I'm kind of a stickler for accuracy!

In the end though, I suppose your right Mirani, if she doesn't want the label, I don't suppose she has to use it.

It's STILL killing me though . . . :D

[Annaliese2010]

My SO and I were out today enjoying the sunny weather. We stopped at the local GLBT festival to grab a bite to eat and listen to my favorite local musician. As we were leaving, I asked her what her feelings were regarding my cross dressing habits. I periodically have to check in wiht her to satisfy my insecurities. She asked me if I wanted to come back to the festival wearing a dress. I replied no. (Dressing in public is not important to me). She replied, "Then you aren't a transvestite. You just dress for the thrill sexually"

As usual, she is right. I am not a transvestite, and I do just do it for the the thrill. I am so grateful for having a partner who is so understanding!!!!!!...and who loves sex as much as you, you lucky girl! Your sex must be Great!

[Kara Connor]

Sorry Dela, I'm afraid we'll have to escort you out of the forum - only genuine CD/TVs allowed here. Have the eye shadow police visited yet? We have very strict rules about makeup too ...

:)

[ReineD]

Dela, no matter how you identify yourself, it's good to know that you occasionally check in with your wife to ask how she feels about it. You care about her! :)

[Laurie A]

I sincerely apologize if I have offended anyone by using the "t" word ,or any other label, for that matter. It was not my intention to stir anything up.

"Transvestite" was the word she used (and she used it in an endearing way). I personally don't care what she calls me, as long as she calls me.

I should have titled the post "Wow, my SO is really cool!" but I thought the original title was a little more attention grabbing.

Dela

[TxKimberly]

I sincerely apologize if I have offended anyone by using the "t" word ,or any other label, for that matter. It was not my intention to stir anything up.

"Transvestite" was the word she used (and she used it in an endearing way). I personally don't care what she calls me, as long as she calls me.

I should have titled the post "Wow, my SO is really cool!" but I thought the original title was a little more attention grabbing.

Dela

Nah, you have nothing to apologize for. I was poking just a little bit of fun at you because the definition of transvestite is pretty much exactly how your wife described you:

trans·ves·tite definition
Pronunciation: /tran(t)s-ˈves-ˌtīt, tranz-/
Function: n
: a person and especially a male who adopts the dress and often the behavior typical of the opposite sex especially for purposes of emotional or sexual gratification


In other words, first she said you weren't a transvestite , but then she said you were the very definition of a transvestite. Sorry, it just tickled me that's all, but certainly you didn't offend anyone.

(Sorry Mirani, I just HAD to!)

[Jonianne]

Wow, my SO is really cool!

Dela, Mirani wasn't addressing her initial comment to you, she was just asking other posters not to jump in with their particular defination, as tempting as some might find it.:tongueout

Yes, it is great to have a SO that is so willing to be open and supportive. You are very Blessed!

[sterling12]

OK, be proud of yourself....I guess? But not too proud, I hope! You do understand that things change with some rapidity in our World? What you absolutely know you are NOT today, can change tomorrow...or The Day after, and you often can become what you thought you were not! That's why we talk about a "Spectrum."

Anyway, wishing you and yours a lot of luck. You seem to have an assurance that a lot of us would envy.

Peace and Love, Joanie

[Mirani]

In other words, first she said you weren't a transvestite , but then she said you were the very definition of a transvestite. Sorry, it just tickled me that's all, but certainly you didn't offend anyone.

(Sorry Mirani, I just HAD to!)

Apology NOT accepted - how very dare you :eek:....


I sincerely apologize if I have offended anyone by using the "t" word ,or any other label, for that matter. It was not my intention to stir anything up.
Dela

No No No Dela - YOU have nothing to apologise for - only Kim! :)

I was just having a tease because your explanation of not being a Transvestite was what a T is !! Made me smile, but I just knew it might cause a number of us to jump in with all the definitions there are in what "we" do.
So, you have offended no one, in fact you have demonstrated that you care about your SO's comfort/views - something some of us could learn from.

So Dela - you go girl! Have fun with being you whatever label you give yourself or others give you xx

[Yvonne York]

I know where you are coming from with this - labels do not matter. My supportive wife does not state I am a crossdresser or anything. Like Dela, I am lucky to have a soooooooo supportive wife. I enjoy going out underdressed, have once gone out with her en femme, but most of all we have a wonderful life together with me dressing at home, and enjoying everything it brings. Enjoy it both of you!

[t-girlxsophie]

Oh! Sugar,this TV better take my Wardrobe back to.Transvestite stores,as I dont fit that Definition :heehee:

Seriously though I think the part of Dela's post that stood out,rather than the Definitions part,was that she Cares enough to be always making sure her SO is ok with her Dressing,we should never take our loved one's Acceptance for granted

:hugs: to you both

Sophie xx

[Annie D]

When I wear my male clothes (because I really feel like a woman inside) I am crossdressing and when I wear my female clothes (because I get excited) I am a transvestite. Okay, I get it now.....when I am naked I am a pervert.

[Dana]

Dela, no matter how you identify yourself, it's good to know that you occasionally check in with your wife to ask how she feels about it. You care about her! :)

That's what counts!

[victoriamwilliams1]

I sincerely apologize if I have offended anyone by using the "t" word ,or any other label, for that matter. It was not my intention to stir anything up.

"Transvestite" was the word she used (and she used it in an endearing way). I personally don't care what she calls me, as long as she calls me.

I should have titled the post "Wow, my SO is really cool!" but I thought the original title was a little more attention grabbing.

Dela

Your ok:) We all identfy differently and I have told many people if I was asked, "what are you?" my answer is "I am a woman, are you that blind!"

[Tina B.]

Thank you Kim, for keeping me out of trouble, I was all ready with my definition, when I read yours and had a good laugh and I didn't have to give one.
And just remember, as long as you keep the little lady happy, you and her can call you anything you want!
Tina B.
Me I dress for the thrill, and that makes me a transvestite, you it makes something else, and it's all good!

[Jenny Doolittle]

PLEASE - let's not continue the thread with definitions. If Dela doesn't want the "T" label, then that's OK.

Dela, labels are not the issue. Being YOU is what is important. If your dressing is for the "thrill" and your SO is happy too --- pop the champagne and enjoy yourselves as it seems to work for you.

Happy days

Could not agree more!

[sissystephanie]

Whether it is liked or not, Kimberly said it very correctly! Dela was described by her wife as a TV, who then said she wasn't! But that doesn't really mean anything, except for the most iumportant point. Dela's wife LOVES him, and Dela loves back. That is the only important point to be made!!

[Rachel Morley]

I agree. It doesn't matter what you or your wife call "it" just as long as you are both ok with it and don't feel threatened by it. I think you're right ... your SO is really cool :)

[Alice B]

Wow! Your SO is really cool.

[Laurie A]

Nah, you have nothing to apologize for. I was poking just a little bit of fun at you because the definition of transvestite is pretty much exactly how your wife described you:

trans·ves·tite definition
Pronunciation: /tran(t)s-ˈves-ˌtīt, tranz-/
Function: n
: a person and especially a male who adopts the dress and often the behavior typical of the opposite sex especially for purposes of emotional or sexual gratification


In other words, first she said you weren't a transvestite , but then she said you were the very definition of a transvestite. Sorry, it just tickled me that's all, but certainly you didn't offend anyone.

(Sorry Mirani, I just HAD to!)

OK So I really am a transvestite after all! Cool!

[Laura-uk]

Yea that's one cool SO, mine is having some 'teething problems' with my recent coming out but I hope she seek the light hearted side if things and invites me out as Laura sometime soon!!

[Katheryn]

Have the eye shadow police visited yet? :)

YES! And they brought their handcuffs!.... ;) ;)


kdm