Threat of being "Beaten up"?

[Newbie1]

First off, I would like to mention that I am new to this site after coming accross it on Google.
With that said, I do like to wear women's one piece style swimsuits and was thinking of starting doing so in public places. I have heard of many other guys who have or do. I was told however that doing so could get me beaten up or injured by someone as a result of wearing one. Even though no harm or damage would be done. Is this really founded? What are everyone's thoughts on this?

[Rianna Humble]

I think that the risks of being beaten up depend very much on where you go when you are wearing your swimming costume.

There is no doubt that there are areas where being transgendered is seen as a sufficient reason to do violence. It is equally true that there are many areas where people are more tolerant.

Where I work (Brighton in the UK) is noted for being tolerant to "alternative lifestyles". However, I would not wear a swimming costume in public here because I would look like a beached whale :heehee:

[~Trudy~]

You could go halfway with a speedo! I do, and it feels I'm going topless in a 2-piece. People avoid talking to me (Americans are that way), but I can't imagine getting beaten up over a speedo. It's only cross dressing in my mind! Get the tiniest one you can squeeze into.

I think that if you want to go with the 1-piece girls' suit, you have to be very careful of where you go, because you ARE cross dressing. Hanging out at a river bank, for example, would be a very risky prospect. There's a great post on here somewhere about general safety for girls and cross dressers, but can I find it? No. I'm retarded this morning.

[CallMeMeg]

In DC, a guy killed someone because he thought his cheap plastic bracelet was stolen.

A couple of years ago, an umpire, I believe, was beaten up by a spectator because he thought he made a bad call. At a kid's game!

Rocks get tossed through politicians windows because people disagree with them.

I bet you get a lot of "nothing's ever happened to me and I go out five times a week." I'm an amateur by comparison, but the worst I've gotten is a stare when I'm all dressed, and not a comment even though I wear girl's socks (flowers and such on them) and a charm bracelet every day.

The reason the rare tg who is harmed makes the national news is because it's rare. The guys who get beaten daily for walking in the wrong part of town is only local news, because it happens daily.

Start a new trend! A few years ago, I started wearing women's jeans ~ nothing too radical, but with rivet patterns or embroidery on the back pockets. My wife said "everyone will know". Now I see men's jeans with embroidery.

[Billijo49504]

I've done it a few times, but it was not at a public beach. When we travel, we take the motorhome. So we see a strip of beach that looks good. We park and go swimming. I don't think I'd feel safe at a public beach or pool. Of course, some of my pistols are rust proof..BJ

[Colleen03]

I have been wearing one piece swimsuits since I was knee high to a grasshopper (I'm wearing one now actually ;)) I totally see where you're coming from Newbie, and I agree 110% as I would LOVE to casually walk around or swim in my one pieces, however, it's not only about the risk of being beaten up, it's more the rude comments & strange looks. I'm a pretty soild guy in man mode anyway, so if someone tried to beat me up, I would ruthlessly retaliate and that person would be scarred over one piece suits. Would kinda be funny if a man in a one piece beat up someone wearing those lame shorts... anyway, where I live in Canada, I wouldn't do it myself for those reasons, and the fact that I would get labelled a "sick freak" or "pervert", when really it all boils down to the simple fact that I prefer one piece suits over those lame shorts. Am I hurting anyone?? Hell no!! All I want to do is go for a swim in a one piece suit, but with our narrow minded, unaccepting society, I doubt that would happen in my lifetime. If you decide to swim in your one piece suit, I applaud you for doing so. if more & more men did it, hopefully it will be accepted, but until then I guess I have to settle for wearing one pieces in my house.

[MiraM]

What ever happened to the old days? Men used to wear one-piece swim suits.

Vintage Swimwear - Men's 1920s One Piece Swim Suit

[sterling12]

(Sounds?) like you are relating A News Story from a couple of Summers ago. I think it was Ohio, and This Yo-Yo was running around The State Park in a bikini and it was claimed, "exposing" himself. He wasn't making an effort to blend, wasn't making an effort to NOT offend! When they "captured" him, he turned out to be a Man with a serious drinking problem. It DID become a National News Story, and if you want to try for that type of notoriety, we can't stop you.

So if your Queries are for real, and you just want to be "A guy in a women's bathing suit" hangin' around some Public Beach; you DO leave yourself open to an episode of violence! Or at the very least, your going to catch a lot of flack from all Teenage Girls and their Boyfriends. Personally, I've never heard of anyone who would go from "newbie" to wearing a swimsuit on a Public Beach as their First Effort.

If your "for real," do yourself a favor, stick around, learn, and work on self-acceptance. If your "cranking" us, The Mods are going to "Run You" very quickly!

Peace and Love, Joanie

[Schatten Lupus]

Well, if you go out as a man in a woman's swimsuit, then you are going to most likely be harrassed. In the least some stares, name calling, and so on. But no one can make you feel inferior without your consent. The worst that can happen, a beating, broken bones, bruises, cuts, or death. You could get things thrown at you, you might get kicked out of whatever establishment. To reduce the chances of violence, try to blend in, walk like a woman, talk like a woman, and act like a woman. That is unless you really don't want to. Then just be ready for whatever happens.

[Kate Simmons]

Think of it as the sign in a National Park may say about a nature trail: "Travel at own risk." In any case, nothing ventured, nothing gained, one way or the other.:)

[mklinden2010]

First off, I would like to mention that I am new to this site after coming accross it on Google.
With that said, I do like to wear women's one piece style swimsuits and was thinking of starting doing so in public places. I have heard of many other guys who have or do. I was told however that doing so could get me beaten up or injured by someone as a result of wearing one. Even though no harm or damage would be done. Is this really founded? What are everyone's thoughts on this?


First, welcome aboard.

Second, if a woman wouldn't normally do what you're proposing to do, it may be a bad idea. If a woman bonks you on the head and berates you and tells you to go home and change into, "anything else but that!" - don't be too surprised. Sometimes, they speak up for their team...

For the most part, however, most people seem to go on about their own business if your business is just doing normal stuff while wearing whatever you're wearing. Only idiots and fools waste their time reacting to every pair of pants, tie, hat, or t-shirt that goes by. Life is too short - for everybody.

So, use common commonsense when deciding what to wear and where to go and don't worry much about most people giving you a hard time. And, keep in mind, a good number of the people who see you long enough to look twice will be thinking, "Wow, I wish I had the guts to do something like that - looks like fun..."

Getting beaten up, or, the chance of getting beaten up, is not that big a deal if you think about it long enough - and do something about it. You can get beaten up for cheering for the wrong team, spilling a drink on someone, or, keeping your job when someone else gets fired.

Knowing that, have the good sense to take some self-defense courses - it's great exercise and kind of interesting as a hobby - and, you'll realize most people who could hurt you won't, because it could hurt their hands and/or land them in jail.

The bad buys typically only pick on the weak - don't be one of the weak ones that make it easy. Be proud, be prepared, and, be on time.

Nothing wrong with that.

[SaraD]

And I did not get any weird reactions.

Here's a site worth taking a look at for more info on the subject.

http://www.onepieceswim.com/

[linnea]

As with other CD ventures, a person has to be cautious and make good choices. There are places where this would not get a second look and places where it would get the wearer some abuse.
Be safe.

[Sophie_C]

Ah, it's rare as hell, and not worn outside of the gay community since the 80s, but you can see it in this video by Elton John:

http://www.dailymotion.com/video/xvu0b_elton-john-im-still-standing_family

Good luck! I personally don't encourage it, unless you're slim as hell and highly passable (less than 0.0001% of girls) but to each their own.

For God's sake, make some effort and just don't turn out like this, ok?

http://i24.photobucket.com/albums/c26/suezeeque/leotard.jpg

[Nicole Erin]

When considering to wear whatever, you also have to be honest with yourself if you have the figure for it or not.

Even a GG of any figure would catch a lot of strange looks if just wandering out and about in a one piece swimsuit, well unless at the pool or beach.

[Lynn Marie]

Put on your fog lights so you can see better through the pink fog. If it's inappropriate attire or even very different attire for the occasion, you may get some grief. It's to be expected. What would you think of someone being totally inappropriate in your neighborhood?

It only makes sense to wear what you can blend in with and avoid any outfit that is going to get you unwanted attention. Be careful, if a mother thinks you are being inappropriate around her children, she might even beat you up! I wouldn't do it.

[eluuzion]

There is always potential for anyone to get "beat up" (figuratively and literally) by somebody someplace. There is also always somebody out there that will have a "bigger gun than yours"...always.

So, we all need a plan for dealing with those parts of life we cannot eliminate. It is simply a matter of picking the battles you will fight and developing the strategy you will use in the battles that you choose to enter (or cannot avoid). I avoid all of the battles I possibly can and if I am forced to battle (rarely), I play to win (and usually do).

Most of the threatening situations in life can be avoided by using some common sense. It just depends on whether you like to invite or avoid unneccessary drama in your life.
My strategy is to avoid as much drama as possible. I have nothing to prove to anybody but myself.

I have a solid background in martial arts. But I do not go into areas where I might be attacked. If I ever do get robbed, I would just give them my wallet and run. This strategy does not make sense to many people, but it does to me. Life is too short to go looking for nonsense.

just me...

[Joanne f]

I must admit that i find this one quite amusing (towards myself) as every year when i go on holiday i take a one piece black swimming costume with me and keep saying to myself "i will wear it somewhere on the beach " but guess what i never do :lol2::laughing: , maybe this year .:D

[sometimes_miss]

As I grew into something of a beast, it's not the threat of being beaten up so much, as the problem of getting into fights in the first place. It's simply a nuisance, a real pain in the ass. The nasty comments, the loss of respect, subordinates not following orders at work, people dumping work on you, not showing up on time, not holding up their end of agreements, the list goes on and on. Basically, when people find out a guy crossdresses, they usually lose respect for us. As sad as it is, women as well as men often don't take females as serious as males. When we adopt female characteristics, we very often lose status. That's the main reason I will never be 'out'. It simply would make my life more complicated in many ways, and I just don't need (or want) all the drama.

[Anneliese]

I was shopping today at a thrift store in a largely Hispanic neighborhood. One of the reasons I go to this one on occasion is because nobody I know is likely to be there. (By the way, most of my shopping is in thrifts that are mostly black, white, Asian, and where I risk being seen) In any case, today I was given the evil eye by a very tall man with multiple tattoos as I browsed through the lady's clothes. Nothing happened, and again I say THANK GOD for the PC movement at times like these (hate it as a general rule), because it is no longer "acceptable" to beat someone up because they're a cross-dresser. I remember when it was totally ok to pound on a hippie or a gay or a CD.

[windycissy]

I wear a women's swimsuit to the pool all the time, although like everything else I go all the way with it, it would embarrass me to look like a half girl / half guy so I've put together a "Cissy Goes Swimming" look complete with sponge boobs and a ratty old wig I pin up into a ponytail, haven't gotten beaten up yet:

http://im1.shutterfly.com/media/47a0db37b3127ccefa745aab88f700000030O08IatWLlw0aA9 vPgw/cC/f%3D0/ps%3D50/r%3D0/rx%3D550/ry%3D400/

[~Trudy~]

Well Lexi, I'm confused. You state all these negative aspects with such authority, but then you say you're not out, so how do you know? To the degree that I'm out as a CD (quite out there), I haven't experienced any of those things.


As I grew into something of a beast, it's not the threat of being beaten up so much, as the problem of getting into fights in the first place. It's simply a nuisance, a real pain in the ass. The nasty comments, the loss of respect, subordinates not following orders at work, people dumping work on you, not showing up on time, not holding up their end of agreements, the list goes on and on. Basically, when people find out a guy crossdresses, they usually lose respect for us. As sad as it is, women as well as men often don't take females as serious as males. When we adopt female characteristics, we very often lose status. That's the main reason I will never be 'out'. It simply would make my life more complicated in many ways, and I just don't need (or want) all the drama.

[KerryLynn]

I have been wearing a two peice all summer with many trips to the local beach No one has said anything about it to me and in fact some of them have even gotten in conversations with me about bikinis where they got theirs where i got mine you would be suprised what happens when you be yourself

[carrie-ann]

I'm 247 I don't have any problems. I do watch where I go and who's around. Like my wife says you have to act like a female would out by herself. Safety always should come first.

[Joanna Maguire]

I usually wear a one piece when I go to the beach No problems about being beaten up so far.The beach I go to is pretty quite and not many people.At Bondi beach in Sydney Australia at the south end its mostly gay or nude.. The gays wear very short Speedos. They are called "Dick stickers. The more tey reveal genitalia the better it seems. No one ever seems to be attacked. They are also worn about the beach side streets. One pieces I try to hide my genitalia, But CDs and TS's are not harassed . Though a gay might try to pick you up.Rejection posses no problems. at other beaches such as Maroubra there could be problems. Bat at La Peruse beach no problems as theis has become a gay beach. The main problem at other beaches seems to be clashes between Australian "hoons" and Muslim bathers. A few riots and a fatal stabbing a couple of years ago was a real conflict. But as I said I hve not heard of any attacks on CDs
Joanna

[Anneliese]

I have relatives down under, and have been to Bondi. It would sure seem as though Sydney proper is one of the LGBT friendliest places on earth. It would seem to me as though any trouble would more likely be in rural areas, just as it would be in the US. City folk are, in general, more tolerant of differences, whereas country folk have limited experiences with people who are different from themselves.

[brassieres]

I was shopping today at a thrift store in a largely Hispanic neighborhood. One of the reasons I go to this one on occasion is because nobody I know is likely to be there. (By the way, most of my shopping is in thrifts that are mostly black, white, Asian, and where I risk being seen) In any case, today I was given the evil eye by a very tall man with multiple tattoos as I browsed through the lady's clothes. Nothing happened, and again I say THANK GOD for the PC movement at times like these (hate it as a general rule), because it is no longer "acceptable" to beat someone up because they're a cross-dresser. I remember when it was totally ok to pound on a hippie or a gay or a CD.

Now that is the fear where I live too, well except for 1 or 2 places, but by in large, the thrift shops not to be confused with consignment shops are in areas of transition of the rough and tough and the up and coming for lack of a better term.