Being called a Sissy

[Freddy12]

How would you (did you) feel about called being a Sissy? I know at least some of the time this is associated with BDSM, anf I'm not trying to get into that, but if someone called you a Sissy or asked "Are you a Sissy?" How would you react? I would probably say "Yes, I am!"

[msniki48]

When I was younger, i fought every inch for my masculinity...i did not know i was transgendered...so the obvious over compensation. Today, if someone asked me if i was a sissy...i'd say, i guess that is one way of putting it....another would be i'm transgendered.

:hugs:

[AKAMichelle]

I would say no I'm not, but that might be more splitting hair than anything. Regardless of what label someone puts on it, I am a cd'er with a definite feminine side.

[BRANDYJ]

I will freely admit that I hate the term sissy in any way that it is used for anyone. We all tend to have different meanings or images of a name or word when we hear it.
I think of the less then athletic boys that I went to school with and how they were teased, tormented and called a sissy. I knew it was wrong then, and even more so today. I might have even been one of the so called jocks that did the teasing even knowing it was hurtful.
To me it's like saying to a boy that he is not masculine and he is more like a girl. so in one way to look at it, it's like saying that a girl is not as good as being a boy. Another words, a put down of all girls for being less then a boy. That is equally wrong.

The word just bothers me for it's hurtful meaning to those boys that did not have the athletic skills or desires that most of us boys did back in school days.

As much as I like being female as much as I can, and even serving as my dominant SO's maid, I do not like being called a sissy maid. I am not a sissy and would be angry if anyone called me that. So to me, it's not only a put down to little boys and to all girls, it's a put down for my being a cross dresser that happens to enjoy both my masculine side and my feminine side.
I wish the word would just go away. I don't even relate well to any crossdresser that proudly calls him/herself a sissy or sissy maid. To me it's as bad as calling a gay person a fagot or queer.
But my guess is to some the term is not as negative to them as it is to me. I never was a sissy and never will be. But I am a man that has a definite feminine side to my over-all personality. And I'm happy and proud to be me.

It's like being less then the average male is then being more like a female. And that said, it is a put down to all females for not being as important or as good as the average male.

I hope I said this right and you understand what I was trying to say. I do not wish to offend those that think the word is a good thing. It's your right to be called or referred to as you wish.

[Pythos]

I personally dislike it when someone calls themselves a sissy, or when others take it upon themselves to call others sissies.

Sissy when I was growing up was a derogatory term. It was a negative term.

I cringe when I see a CD calling themselves a Sissy.

I see nothing positive about such a term.

On a similar note, why do men insult each other by calling one another the supposedly desired body part of the opposite sex? I stopped doing that long ago when I realized how stupid it was. First of all it is a way of reducing the worth of that male, at the same time reducing the worth of women.

I just don't get that kind of thinking.

[Victoria Anne]

I believe I would say something along the lines of "no I am not a sissy just girly"

[Christina Horton]

Its just words. Words only hurt you if you let them.

If someone called me a sissy I would say something like " ya I am ! I'm a crossdresser so that explains alot. Call me sissy-glorore"! Or something. I don't let people hurt my feelings cuz it's not my prob , it's there's. Now if someone wants a fight I will sissy out of it if I can but if I can't I will trash them. That's just a fact. I when I'm dressed as Christina am very fem and no one has ever called me sissy. No one has ever called me sissy out side of school. My thinking on this is that if someone need to call someone names it's there prob to figger out not mine.

[~Trudy~]

I think "Sissy" is quite derogatory; like the word "pusillanimus" which, swiping from Webster is "lacking courage and resolution : marked by contemptible timidity"

I would reply that cross dressing is just the opposite. It takes quite a bit of courage to dress this way, and some serious resolve to actually achieve it. Going out in public dressed up is not even close to timid, and as for the contemptible part, well that's up to the observer to have a good time with me, or a bad time by himself.

If I can't get my answer in before my wife does, she usually says "He's just very confident of his sexuality". A deliciously ambiguous statement.

[bianca66]

I hate the term Sissy...I tend to associate Sissy with bedroom roleplaying things...I am a female when I dress but can still kick your butt if you call me sissy (even though when I was a kid people said I fought like a girl) :doh:

[BRANDYJ]

I hate the term Sissy...I tend to associate Sissy with bedroom roleplaying things...I am a female when I dress but can still kick your butt if you call me sissy (even though when I was a kid people said I fought like a girl) :doh:

Bianca, I don't even associate it with bedroom roleplaying things. I am submissive to my SO. She is a very dominant but loving woman. She also hates the term and considers it a put down.
And I'm with you, I can and might kick someone's butt if they called me a sissy!

My SO and I laugh at those poor souls that live in fantasy land and call themselves things like... lower then a dog sissy ****s, sissy maids, dogs not worthy etc. They say they kneel and kiss the feet of any woman that would call herself a Mistress. Further that they will do everything with no limits that said Mistress ordered without question...blah blah blah Yeah right, that is until they are told to do the windows! lol so to them, "sissy" = humiliation. And that is sexual to them. Not my bag.

Personally, I think it takes a bigger man to submit to a woman then to ever be considered a sissy. There's a bit of sucking in the machismo or image of a man ruling over a woman that way to many of us were raised to believe.

[bianca66]

Personally, I think it takes a bigger man to submit to a woman then to ever be considered a sissy. There's a bit of sucking in the machismo or image of a man ruling over a woman that way to many of us were raised to believe.

Most of the Sissies that I have come across seem to be hairy men in girly panties...So Icky

[BRANDYJ]

Most of the Sissies that I have come across seem to be hairy men in girly panties...So Icky

In the words of Larry the cable guy...."Now that's funny, I don't care who ya are" lol But I think you are right! icky and yuk!

[Vicki-Z]

Being called a sissy doesn't bother me one bit. I guess it all in the way a term is defined and the generation you grew up in. I don't think of sissy being BDSM or role playing as defined today. When I grew up if someone called you a sissy it meant you were feminine like a girl or in other words you were girly. So based on this yes I am a sissy, girly or feminine, and proud of it. :battingeyelashes:


Vicki :cheer:

[BRANDYJ]

Vicki, you are not much younger then me. So it was considered an insult to be called sissy even when you were a young boy.
But I notice you are in Canada. Maybe a different meaning there. Even in one country, something can have a different meaning in anothyer part of the country.

[juno]

Dictionary.com defines sissy as:
1. an effeminate boy or man.
2. a timid or cowardly person.
3. a little girl.

For myself, I accept definition #1, but not #2. If someone asked if I was a sissy, I would not answer yes or no, but ask what they mean. I generally consider sissy to be derogatory with meaning #2, and would take offense if called a sissy.

[sherri]

I would reply that cross dressing is just the opposite. It takes quite a bit of courage to dress this way, and some serious resolve to actually achieve it. Going out in public dressed up is not even close to timidYou know, it's funny, I've had GGs make this observation to me numerous times, but rarely from a guy. That says a lot about the insightfulness, or lack thereof, of the genders.

It always catches me by surprise though when someone describes what I do as courageous. I guess I have dared to be me, and defied conventions, and pushed my own envelope, but I never felt courageous doing it -- in fact, I've often been shaking in my, um, heels. I wasn't being a heroine, more like just doing what I had to do, like a moth to flame.

[KarenCDFL]

I know that some people are "into" being a "Sissy".

I personally do not equate being a cross dresser as also being a sissy.

From what I have read "Sissy's are pretty much a fetish thing and the people who want to live that lifestyle, well "whatever blows your dress up".

When I was younger, I remember being called a sissy and I know I did not like it only because it was done to make me feel bad on purpose and the word was used maliciously. I did know I did feel feminine but at that young age I had idea why.

[windycissy]

Gosh, I think Cissy is a cute name for a girl. I came up with the name Windy Cissy as a play on Windy City when I was living in Chicago and it just kinda stuck...of course I guess I'd feel differently if I got called a sissy when I was a boy, but I've always been able to separate my two lives.

[Nicole Erin]

Does anyone still even use the word "sissy" anymore?
I have heard many words but I think sissy is really outdated.

[SandraAbsent]

Ok i may feel like a woman, look like a woman, act like a woman, and believe i am a woman. This does not mean that I am a sissy. Thats right in there in the derogatory column along with *******, ladyboy, tranny, fag and so on and so on. My reaction would be to walk away without comment. If it persisted I would ask they stop it and certainly need no explanation from me as to why. If it still persisted I guess I would pop them between the eyes and ask them how much of a sissy they still think i am? Trust me I know plenty of GG that would do the same thing lol.

[Cheryl T]

Even though society may view me as a "Sissy" I still think that it is a derogatory term. I don't consider my expression of my femininity to be "sissy" in nature. I'm just more female than lots of other males...end of story.

[jenifer m.]

most people just assume im gay cuz of the way i dress.so yeah id say yes.i have no problem being called anything.when you are confident in who you are nothing really bothers you.besides being called things just gos with the territory when your a crossdresser.

[~Trudy~]

Most of the Sissies that I have come across seem to be hairy men in girly panties...So Icky

Hey, I'm a hairy man in girly panties! It all depends on the presentation. Well, the contents, too. And the panties.

[sissystephanie]

Trudy, I am not sure I would want to see that!!

I was called a "Sissy" a couple of times in elementary school. Since I was one of the bigger kids in school, it only happened a couple of times. I beat the c*** out of the boy who said it, and the problem never came up again!! Since then I have been called a Sissy when out in public, and I just respond, "Yes, I guess maybe I am!" Tht always ends the problem right there.

[felesaerius]

I fully admit to being a sissy... pink frilly dresses, panties with lace, the works for me please!

[bianca66]

Haha, Trudy...But you have your own category "~Trudy~
in the new dudette set" .... Dudette, oh my! :)

[~Trudy~]

Trudy, I am not sure I would want to see that!!

I was called a "Sissy" a couple of times in elementary school. Since I was one of the bigger kids in school, it only happened a couple of times. I beat the c*** out of the boy who said it, and the problem never came up again!! Since then I have been called a Sissy when out in public, and I just respond, "Yes, I guess maybe I am!" Tht always ends the problem right there.

Oops - did write that? I thought I was just thinking it!

Don't worry, the illusion must be maintained. Some of us can expose more than others, and unfortunately, since my SO can't handle prickly skin, I'm mostly under wraps. (You can see only a couple of slips in the few pix I have up). That's why summer outings are a no-go for me!

Looks by your username you've completely embraced the sissyhood. Yay for you! It's what you make it, right?

Hairless Hugs & Kisses,
Trudy

[Sophie_C]

I don't get it. It's a word used in older generations. No one is called that anymore, at least from my age and younger. A person is simply feminine or masculine, and neither is bad or good. This "sissy" thing (which I guess is meaning "feminine = something to be ashamed of") is something I just can't understand.

:confused::confused::confused:

[Vicki-Z]

Vicki, you are not much younger then me. So it was considered an insult to be called sissy even when you were a young boy.
But I notice you are in Canada. Maybe a different meaning there. Even in one country, something can have a different meaning in anothyer part of the country.

Hi Brandy, how you doing?

Yes, when I was young the term sissy was an insult to a young boy. By calling a young boy sissy you were saying as I stated before that he is feminine or girly.

The definition # 1 and # 3 that Juno gave from dictionary.com agrees with the meaning of the word sissy when I grew up. It was never used as the # 2 definition indicates.


Dictionary.com defines sissy as:
1. an effeminate boy or man.
2. a timid or cowardly person.
3. a little girl.

I think the real difference here depends not only the time period you grew up in as to what the definition of sissy means. But, also to where one stands in the spectrum of being transgender.

For instance two people for example grew up in approximately the same time period and both may have the same definition of sissy as being feminine or girly. However one may find it insulting and one may not. That may be because of where they stand in what I'll call the trangender spectrum. As you know people on this forum vary from being an ocassional crossdresser who still overall feels very masculine and may be happy to be a man and crossdresses just for a little escape from the day to day pressures of life, to someone who is a post op transexual and has transitioned to being a woman.

As I said in my day sissy meant feminine or girly. The occasional crossdresser who has the same definition may find it an insult to his masculinity. Where I stand in the transgender spectrum I like to be called feminine or girly so being called "sissy" is not an insult to me, it's actually a complement. :battingeyelashes:

Remember definitions of words do change over time. Look at the word "gay". Many years ago (yes before my time haha!) it meant being happy not being a homosexual.

Anyways that's the way I see it.


Vicki :hugs:

[Barbara_MacKenzie]

When I was a wee boy it would have been an insult and a fight would have ensued, but now - wouldn't bother me.

[tricia_uktv]

Sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me

[Toni_Lynn]

To me this word is every bit as disgusting as the N-word. It is the ultimate insult. The most hurt filled word ever hurled at me in my world. I despise it and wish it was banished to the deepest pit of hell.

And yes -- I'm in a really angry mood right now :Angry3:

Huggles

Toni-Lynn

[BRANDYJ]

Toni-Lynn, I feel your pain. I was never called a sissy, but watched others taunt a boy with that ugly word. There is no good use of the term in my book.

[sissystephanie]

Oops - did write that? I thought I was just thinking it!

Don't worry, the illusion must be maintained. Some of us can expose more than others, and unfortunately, since my SO can't handle prickly skin, I'm mostly under wraps. (You can see only a couple of slips in the few pix I have up). That's why summer outings are a no-go for me!

Looks by your username you've completely embraced the sissyhood. Yay for you! It's what you make it, right?

Hairless Hugs & Kisses,
Trudy

I do wear feminine clothes, so if that qualifies me as a Sissy then I am one. Yes, it is what I make it! It is my life, to do with as I see fit. But don't call me Sissy to my face, unless you have a big smile on your face! Otherwise, your face will not look the same for some time!! That does not refer to you, Trudy! You are too cute!! But I do prefer real GG's!

[Frédérique]

How would you (did you) feel about called being a Sissy?

I love it*! If you aren’t calling me a sissy, I’m not being a successful tranny. Oh, to be a sissy back in the day, knowing what I know now. :daydreaming: Would I have survived the rigors of youth, with my peers pressuring me from all sides, or would I have been picked on even more severely than I was? I love the boy who is apart from all this male posturing, striding forth along a path of his own making. It’s not easy being a sissy in the outside world, at this point in time, in this environment, but they truly are pearls before swine…

*If you agree, PM me -- I want to meet you...:)

[~Trudy~]

But I do prefer real GG's!

Me too. Yet another lesbian that was sent down the wrong assembly line. (As my mom would say, "there was a new man on the job")

[Jane G]

Depends on who's doing the name calling and why they are doing it.

My old man, GRHS, used to call me a sissy at, 3 in the morning, when he got in worse for ware and he meant it to hurt like hell and it did at the time.

On the other hand my wife calls me a big sissy sometimes and she just means I'm a big daft soft girly and I'm happy with that.

I suspect it's more derogatory on tuther side of the Atlantic.

[Farrah]

I would probably take it as a compliment and say thanks!!

[NathalieX66]

Sissies, IMO, imply inferiority. I guess the female counterpart is tomboy or butch.
I would think that people nowadays view neither sex as inferior to the other, as we humans are far more complicated. Maybe it's ok for a marine drill instructor to call people sissies to push new recruits to shape up. There's definitely a psychological effect at work.
Anybody ever question the integrity of the namecaller? I guess when we're young, we're too intimidated to do that. :straightface:

[Dana]

The term is irrelevant.

The fact of the matter is that every girl/woman has a little masculine streak in them and every male has a little feminine streak in them?

Some more than most ~ thus MTF and FTM ~ it all depends upon which part of the "Bell Curve" you fall upon?

[BobbiU]

Like any other word, I believe it depends on the context that it's used in. If teenagers are calling another teenage boy a "Sissy" that's derogatory in my opinion, and unacceptable, just like someone said, using the "N" word.

As an adult, wearing female lingerie, I find the word totally acceptable, and actually love to hear it when my wife calls me her "sissy", since I can relate it to:

1) an effeminate boy
3) a little girl

Also, I find it as a sign of my SO's acceptance of my crossdressing. Words by themself have no meaning, they only have meaning in the context that they are used. Making me think back to the old George Carlin albums now! :battingeyelashes:

[BRANDYJ]

The term is irrelevant.

The fact of the matter is that every girl/woman has a little masculine streak in them and every male has a little feminine streak in them?

Some more than most ~ thus MTF and FTM ~ it all depends upon which part of the "Bell Curve" you fall upon?

Dana, the fact you pointed out is true. However it has nothing to do with a term considered by most as derogatory. Just like calling a GG a ****, *****, bitch etc.

When someone calls a guy a sissy and says he is acting like a girl, it is usually meant in a very derogatory way...a put down. But to me it is a put down to even women as if acting or being a GG girl is a bad thing. Usually said by some over the top jock that thinks he is God's gift to women and better then the woman he views as weaker.

[Rachel Morley]

Most of the Sissies that I have come across seem to be hairy men in girly panties...So Icky Ha ha ... yes, I have an (icky) image in my mind :)


Dictionary.com defines sissy as:
1. an effeminate boy or man.
2. a timid or cowardly person.
3. a little girl.

Yes, definition #1 is how I perceive what (apparently?) a sissy is supposed to be, (perhaps a bit of #2 as well) ... and that's why people don't like the term because (implied or otherwise) guys especially, associate an effeminate man as being weak and less than desirable. In my world, being weak is not something that needs to be berated, and especially in my world, being an effeminate man is actually something to be celebrated and proud of, so going on that structure, a sissy is a good thing as far as I'm concrned.

Anyway, I'm not particularly bothered one way or the other. If the opposite to being a sissy is being a regular, macho, testosterone charged, red blooded male, then I'd rather be a sissy :)

[Vickie_CDTV]

I have always considered myself to be a "sissy".

Not sure about the generational thing, they used "sissy" when I was growing up in the 80s and 90s.

[suchacutie]

Following Juno:

Dictionary.com defines sissy as:
1. an effeminate boy or man.
2. a timid or cowardly person.
3. a little girl.

I and not 1. for sure, not 2. for sure, and can't be 3. Tina is not into frilly things, so...

I'm not sure how it would be that I'd be called a sissy, so if I were I'd probably start laughing uproariously !!!

tina

[Dana]

I don't know?

I saw espoused of "Lockup" in Las Vegas which showed a TS with breast implants with a tattoo (and balding hair) on Tru TV

The corrections officer asked about a particular tattoo?

"Oh? I was a Green Beret back 28 years ago?"

I'm a retired combat expericed Marine ~ just to get through the Army Green Beret's pre-qualification course?

Isn't nothing but a mother-trucker

[rachael.davis]

I called a long term friend (and former dojo student) a few months ago, and told her where I was going with "gender identity and or expression", we talked for a while.
She finally said just for the heck of it, you taught me to fight effectively, if you turn into a priss who worries about breaking a nail I'm going to fly back east and get my butt beaten like a gong for trying to kick your ass.

Sissy has a whole lot of baqgagethat I'm not picking back up.

[Dana]

Ha ha ... yes, I have an (icky) image in my mind :)


Yes, definition #1 is how I perceive what (apparently?) a sissy is supposed to be, (perhaps a bit of #2 as well) ... and that's why people don't like the term because (implied or otherwise) guys especially, associate an effeminate man as being weak and less than desirable. In my world, being weak is not something that needs to be berated, and especially in my world, being an effeminate man is actually something to be celebrated and proud of, so going on that structure, a sissy is a good thing as far as I'm concrned.

Anyway, I'm not particularly bothered one way or the other. If the opposite to being a sissy is being a regular, macho, testosterone charged, red blooded male, then I'd rather be a sissy :)


Its a relative term ~ in that I am a so-called sissy?

Yes I like girly things, and also getting and being girly:

But I also have been trained and conditioned as a United States Marine as to how to kill you with my bare hands, or with a .45 pistol, or a 9m pistol or a M-14 or a M-16 ~ add in a MK-19. a .30 or .50 caliber?

I haven't any problems killling what needs killing!


I'm self assured in both sides of my personality of being both male aand female ~ just wish I could find a GG that had the same self confidence?

[Miranda09]

Personally, I think the term Sissy is rather demeaning and I don't really appreciate it.

[zoe m]

i don´t like the term and don´t agree with its use. i mean, whatever works for you in the bedroom is good if it stays there, but outside of it, i don´t like the term.

[~Michelle~]

I'm steady enough in my heels so I don't mind. :heehee:

[Kate Simmons]

As with anything else, you can either let it bother you and be all mad or depressed or you can turn it around and make it work for you.:)

[Gerrijerry]

Just words to me. You can let others get to you or you can just not reply to what they have to say. I however on the very few times that others have realized I was a male dressed as a female and called me a sissy or other things said. There are many labels Yes I was born a male don't know why. However I respect your right to be who you think you are please give me the same respect to live the way I feel I am.

[Mistybtm]

How would you (did you) feel about called being a Sissy? I know at least some of the time this is associated with BDSM, anf I'm not trying to get into that, but if someone called you a Sissy or asked "Are you a Sissy?" How would you react? I would probably say "Yes, I am!"

I would have no problem with it, and I would say thank you:battingeyelashes:

[Crysten]

Unless that's what you're aiming for.....seems degrading to me. No one has ever called me that, and I doubt they ever will (and still have teeth in their head when I'm done). I guess it depends on context though. If my wife called me a "big sissy" I suppose I'd probably deserve it. Although actually I tend to be "brave to the point of stupid" and have come close to dying several times during various "extreme escapades". So no, I'm not much of one, and wouldn't appreciate being called one.

PM me and I'll share some of my extreme stories if you're interested. How did this get off topic? No idea.

[kimdl93]

I don't particularly like the term. It brings back memories of unpleasant childhood experiences and teasing. I don't want or need to go there.

[StarrOfDelite]

I agree that the word 'sissy' has a very negative impact outside of a fetish sex context.

I can remember the effeminate boys with whom I attended school, and they were derided, teased, and psychologically abused for years. I felt guilt on many occasions about my participation in that sort of abuse, even before I started crossdressing as an adult.

I would definitely take umbrage if someone called me a sissy now, even when I am dressed as a female. I am proud to be a "Tomboy," which in its own way was almost as bad a name to hang on a girl as "Sissy' was on a boy.

My opinion is that, in the minds of homo-phobes, Sissy is just another term which equates to Faggot or Fairy, and they use it to try to persuade themselves that they are 'better' than someone who doesn't fit their gender stereotypes. And, since I despise that type of person I think that would be primarily why I would object to having someone call me sissy. Otherwise, it's just a collection of letters. If another TG called me a sissy or a tranny or a lipstick lez or whatever, it wouldn't bother me a bit because I'd know it wasn't intended as an insult. If a redneck used the same words, I'd know it was an insult intended to belittle me as a person, and that would piss me off.

[rachael.davis]

I thought about this all week, it has taken me decades to like myself.
no one and by that I mean no one gets to slap a label on me to make them feel better about their place in society.

Sorry, but "sissy" has too many scene connotations for me to accept it from some random jackass.

[Pythos]

The only time I liked the word "sissy" was when it was applied to that big loop of steel that was attached to the back of one of my more wild bikes (it looked like a chopper). It was really tall, and allowed my friends, male and female to ride on the back, on the long banana seat.

It was called a sissy bar. To this day I have no idea why.