silence is broken

[Inna]

I just came back from a week long trip to visit with my sister who I love so much and who lives in Chicago. As usual, I had a great time during stay and spent lots of evenings straight to the morning hours talking with her as I always do so enjoy. Suddenly during one early evening she said: do you have something special to tell me, I froze and then, reluctantly as though someone else was speaking through me said: "yes" but time isn't just right and it would be a burden on her have I told her. Of course, said that there was no way back, but for strangest reason all fear has left and calm has filled the room. She gestured with her finger to follow her into garage where she smokes because of mosquitoes on the porch. We sat down and she said: "so what is it?" "Do you know what transgender means", I asked. "yes I do" she said. Our eyes met and she smiled this most beautiful smile, I started to explain about all the past hurt, guilt, confusion, she listened. During conversation I deciphered that she didn't know and never suspected. A while had passed and she looked at me and said:" why did you keep this from me for so long, now I understand, lots of things make sense to me now. I am so sorry you had to suffer, have I only known before. I love your sole and I hurt when you do" When she said that I simply broke to tears and so did she and we embraced god only knows how long.
Lots of tears have been shed that night but those were tears of joy and love. I have dreamed of night like this all my life but was so afraid the same. My sister proved to me her unconditional and eternal love, she has now lessen my burden and released me from the bond. I am so lucky to have her and cherish the ground she walks on.
I have taken first major steps in my new life and thanks to her I will finally be ME.

[sandra-leigh]

How wonderful!

[Ze]

That's a really awesome story, Alexia. :)

[Mikaela]

Congratulations on finding the support you need, on taking the step that you did, and for having a sister like that.

[Faith_G]

You made me cry...

Our sisters always know when we are holding something back, at least mine did. :hugs: It is such a release to finally tell someone, and to have that person accept you is affirming and healing.

You are going to do well. :happy:

[Monica93304]

As I type this I have tears in my eyes because I want to tell my father so badly about me. I've felt my whole life the same anguish.

Sis, the fact that you've shared this gives me hope that someday I too will lift that burden off my shoulders.

Thank you.

Monica.

[Kathi Lake]

Oh Alexia, I'm happy for you, happy for your sister, and happy for the life that you are beginning. I'm also happy that I was trying out a new waterproof mascara. :)

What a wonderful night!

Kathi

[Karen564]

Oh Alexia, I'm happy for you, happy for your sister, and happy for the life that you are beginning. I'm also happy that I was trying out a new waterproof mascara. :)

What a wonderful night!

Kathi

You found one that actually works?
I've yet to find one that holds up to my tears..so please, do tell..because I need it..


Alexia,
Thats absolutely great!!
And I'm so happy for you...

:hugs:

[Rianna Humble]

My sister proved to me her unconditional and eternal love, she has now lessen my burden and released me from the bond. I am so lucky to have her and cherish the ground she walks on.

I have taken first major steps in my new life and thanks to her I will finally be ME.

I still have tears in my eyes reading that - and like you they are tears of joy. You have a wonderful sister and will now have more confidence to become the wonderful woman you really are.


As I type this I have tears in my eyes because I want to tell my father so badly about me. I've felt my whole life the same anguish.

Sis, the fact that you've shared this gives me hope that someday I too will lift that burden off my shoulders.

Fathers can be incredibly understanding. My dad is 88 and I was dreading telling him. Finally he questioned me on some tell-tale signs and we sat down for a serious chat. At the end he said something very similar to Alexia's sister. He has proved a very strong support since then.

[Hope]

Awesome.

It sounds like you are one of the few people who have family worth having. Count your lucky stars... and remember how many you have when times are tough... and don't forget that having a family that is that awesome for you places a burden on you, a duty to be just as awesome to them.

[Eileen]

Wonderful news Alexia! I am so happy for you. You have a very special Sister!

Eileen

[Tomara]

Hi Alexia
What a great feeling of joy you must have , I sure that your new bond with your sister will bring you even closer and I wish you both all the best.
Tomara

[Nicole_P]

Huge step Alexia- way to go, and godspeed on your journey :hugs:

Nicole

[Laurie Ann]

What a wonderful story. It gives hope to all that understanding existds out there.

[AKAMichelle]

I am so happy for you.

[Inna]

Thank you girls from the bottom of my heart. In fact I would have not had strength to face my sister has it not been for you. Your love and acceptance has empowered me to discard all demons and to let it be as it may. These communities we share in are a life savers and most necessary for us to grow. Once again you have saved me. Love

[Ze]

Psst...and boy.

[Kathi Lake]

You found one that actually works?
I've yet to find one that holds up to my tears..so please, do tell..because I need it..

Lash Power from Clinique is the kind that I used. I received it as a GWP a few months ago. It really does stay on, and comes off with eye makeup remover.


These communities we share in are a life savers and most necessary for us to grow.True words, sis. We really do need each other to survive.

Kathi

[SuzanneBender]

Alexia I am so happy for you and your sister. Coming out to someone you love is so empowering especially when it is met with love and acceptance. Sisters are special I always wished for one because I know if I ever told my brother he would probably make fun of me and beat me up :heehee:.

[CharleneT]

Alexia, you are lucky to have a sister who is understanding and loves the "real" you, however that appears to the world.

Indeed, a joyous and wonderful story to read ;)

:bighug2:

[DonnaLynn77]

Alexia, I'm so happy for you! Your story sounds so similar to the night I told my own sister, I can picture it. We kept waving our hands in front of our eyes and saying "NO TEARS, NO TEARS!" because I wanted it to be a happy memory, not filled with melancholy about the missing experiences or inner turmoil/pain I felt. I found my sister to be quite supportive too, although I later found out that it was really hard for her to grasp and process at first. She's that type of woman, though... never one to complain or let her needs or discomfort come before her family's.

Be sure to check in with her, and remain sensitive to her because she may be trying to 'be strong' for you at her own expense.

Sorry, didn't mean to prattle on so much but... well yeah I did haha. :) Just my $.02 anyway.

Again, congrats! I know how wonderful it is to have support from someone so close to you.

xo,
Donna

[Teri Jean]

Alexia these moments are the things we all want and now you have it. Congrats to you. If it was I, my sister would be getting something special that would instantly tell her how much it means to me to have her acceptance and love.

Hugs to both of you. Teri

[Teresa Ann]

Hi Alexia, Congratulations on your coming out to your sister, it will open up so much. I have to agree with Teri and that you need to send something very special to you sister to show her how much you care about her love. Let us know more because stories like this make my day so much better, I thank you. From Teresa Ann.

[Jessinthesprings]

That is so awsome. I am so happy for you. From the sounds of it you two share a very special bond... something I fear that few experiance. It would have been a tragidy had she not accepted, but I really don't think that's an option...
.:D
I am so happy for you and a little jealous

[Ms Jennifer]

SOOO COOL, Looks like waterproof makeup time.I am so happy it turned out so well for you.

[Midnight Skye]

That's fantastic Alexia! Having a sisters support and love is a wonderful thing. I'm so glad you told her, and even more happy things went over well. Just don't overbear her too much, now that you have a wonderful supportive person in your life ;)

[Spacey]

I can relate to this and you made me cry. I'm glad you have your sisters support and understanding.

[jamie_44]

That is what LOVE is supposed to be, that's wonderful. My brother has never accepted me.

[Victoria Anne]

That is so heart warming Alexia , I had to fight back tears . I am so happy for you.

[boardpuppy]

Hi Alexia,
I understand, I went out for coffee with my sister one night and we talked and talked. I lied to the SO as she told me not to tell any of the family. The next trip to see her was so much easier. I got to fly enfem both ways and she saw me dressed up for the first time. She may not fully understand but I know she has my back, as my mother tried to corner her and get her (sister)to tell her (mother) about my CDing. SO now knows I told my sister and was OK with the telling. My sister ranks up there with your in the "wonderful" range. Don't know how she (mother) fund out about the CDing, glad that is one bridge I don't have to cross yet.

Hugs,
Alice

[Danni Bear]

congradulations and now you have sister you know the love only grows stronger and stronger

the bond closer

love Danni