Inquiring minds want to know-Week 13

[Di]

We have more questions from our GG's thanks for joining in everyone!:D

Week 13

34) Not saying it is wrong I am just wanting to understand. Why the seeming obsession with panties? All the threads about them? I just do not get it.

35) Having to do with your CD lifestyle are you for the most part happy? If not what would make you happier?

36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you? Is there anything we can do?

[Mirani]

Week 13

34) Not saying it is wrong I am just wanting to understand. Why the seeming obsession with panties? All the threads about them? I just do not get it.
Neither do I

35) Having to do with your CD lifestyle are you for the most part happy? Yes


36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you? Is there anything we can do?

Not any more - used to be envious of women ... make-up, nails, shoes .... it made me morose. The only "cure" was .. some CD time.

[BRANDYJ]

34) Not saying it is wrong I am just wanting to understand. Why the seeming obsession with panties? All the threads about them? I just do not get it.
I am not obsessed with panties. I like them much more then the ugly, boring men's briefs of boxers. But no, for me it is not an obsession. True, the feel better, look better and it does give me a reminder of my fem self when in otherwise drab mode.

35) Having to do with your CD lifestyle are you for the most part happy? If not what would make you happier?
Hmm? If I was trimmer and looked better in my clothes, I'd be happier. But that goes for male mode too. Otherwise I am very happy. I have a loving, accepting and understanding SO that loves me in either mode.

36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you? Is there anything we can do?

I'm sure if I think back, I might have. But now I have no depression or sadness due to my CDing.

[eluuzion]

I am single and mentally unstable at times, but I will take a shot at this batch...

34) Answer..the initial stages of "paraphilias" specifically fetish issues...often begin with the attachment to some inanimate object, which becomes a central and compelling object that continues in many areas of later life for that person.

Panties are one of the easily accessable items at any age, particularly for a young person living with parents. (exploring mom's or sister's drawers, etc). One reason you find nylons, bras, panties to be a common compulsive desire for so many.

35) Answer...Yes I have always been a happy human. I am eccentric but I am optimistic and rarely push the "Drama" button in life.
http://www.dramabutton.com/
Happiness is a personal choice, just like many of the other emotional doors in life. CDing for me is not job, it is an adventure!...lol

36) Answer...Nope, no mental mysteries for me. It has always been another toy in the toybox.
Depression is just anger without enthusiasm in my book. Sadness, lonliness and other despair are not products of our experience or circumstance, they are holes we elect to dig with our own shovels...called attitude. I do not believe I have ever experienced "depression" "lonliness" or "boredom".

[Mistybtm]

34) Not saying it is wrong I am just wanting to understand. Why the seeming obsession with panties? All the threads about them? I just do not get it. No obsession with panties it is just normal ware for me.

35) Having to do with your CD lifestyle are you for the most part happy? If not what would make you happier? Yes very happy the only thing that would make me happier would be a special someone to share it with:battingeyelashes:

36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you? Is there anything we can do? Getting all dolled up takes care of any sadness i may be feeling, Yes find me a understanding GG who would push my limits.

[AKAMichelle]

34) Not saying it is wrong I am just wanting to understand. Why the seeming obsession with panties? All the threads about them? I just do not get it.

Remember it is the one of the first article of women's clothing that we try on and wear. It becomes a big deal because it was the first. It is the one item of women's clothing that we can wear everyday and nobody will ever know. To GG's it seems rather silly since they have worn them since getting out of diapers, but we haven't. It does diminish in importance after a while. I don't even think of them anymore.


35) Having to do with your CD lifestyle are you for the most part happy? If not what would make you happier?

Going through a divorce doesn't cause much happiness, but the freedom to do as you want is better. Since cd'ing isn't the biggest thing in my life, I can say that it helps to provide relaxation from the stresses of my job. But it causes it own level of stresses until you meet someone who knows and accepts you the way you are.


36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you? Is there anything we can do?

Depression is a feeling triggered by being alone. The cd'ers who have accepting wives are very lucky. Usually the only thing that helps me is to talk to someone which leaves me very people to talk with. I think the hardest part of being TG is that you can't tell most people which isolates you from the rest of the folks.

[Sally24]

34) Not saying it is wrong I am just wanting to understand. Why the seeming obsession with panties? All the threads about them? I just do not get it.
Boys for one reason or another are obsessed with panties so why should we be any different? :devil: Honestly, I don't understand all the threads myself. But really, girls get a little over the top about them too. Several GGs in my family have literally hundreds of panties in their dressers. And like me, many wear them 24/7 so it is something we can relate to every day.

35) Having to do with your CD lifestyle are you for the most part happy? If not what would make you happier?
I am about 75% happy, which isn't bad. If I had more time and money to spend on Sally that would be better. It seems like work and family suck away most of my time and sometimes it just makes me angry that I don't have time for me! As always, if I could afford a few minor procedures that would make me look prettier that too would make me happier.

36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you? Is there anything we can do?
I think many of us suffer thru this. Some is just your middle aged woman seeing girls younger and prettier than her. We all realize we're not in our 20's anymore and each day adds a few more wrinkles. Then there is the whole struggle to maintain a balance in your life that you and your family can live with. I find that at this stage, I have to get dressed at least once every few weeks or I get very uneasy. Probably the thing that makes me feel the most calm and comfortable is going out with my wife and/or daughter for a day of shopping, lunching and maybe a movie or something. It's relaxing, there is no pressure (as I pass much better surrounded by GGs) and we just have a normal girls day out. I do have a problem after one of those days when I have to take the wig and makeup off and change back into male mode. Sometimes I stall and do computer work for a couple of hours. Other times I'm on the verge of tears while I clean up.

Making more girl time for us and then just acting like we're another one of the girls can help. Other times, just let us cry and understand it's not your fault.

[Cheryl James]

34) No fascination with panties here, but, had you asked about bras I might have a different answer.

35) I am unsatisfied with my CD life because I do not get to explore it often enough.

36) Depressed would not be a word that I would use. It is troubling, however, to have a duality of personality in which half of it must be hidden from those that love us because of the fear that they may not love us were they to learn of that other side.

[insearchofme]

34. I guess the obsession is that next to the bra is is one of the most femenine garmets. It is one of the few garmets we can wear where no one can notice it, unless we desire it to be noticed. For me the cut fits better than male underwear, and of course the different materals are so much fun to wear.

35. I wish my wife was more accepting of my desires. I can only wear panties and night gowns. I'd love to dress and go out.

36. I've never had any depression issues.

[Ricochet]

34) Not saying it is wrong I am just wanting to understand. Why the seeming obsession with panties? All the threads about them? I just do not get it.

When I was growing up (60's & 70's) the greatest desire myself and all the other boys had was to catch a glimpse of a girls' panties under her dress. It was an obsession we had. Fortunately for us, mini-skirts were popular. :)

So, I associated panties with feminism and eventually I started wearing them because I wanted to get as close to femininity as I could.

I admit to having a serious panty fetish to this day. I don't look at or watch porn (I think most of it demeans women), but I do enjoy viewing pictures of women modeling panties (Hanes is my favorite). I love the way the panties hug her body and still allow me full view of her curves.


35) Having to do with your CD lifestyle are you for the most part happy? If not what would make you happier?

Not happy at all. I would like for my wife to be accepting. She is not and never will be. Because I don't want to endanger our relationship, I don't dress up at all, but I do underdress on occasion we she's not around.


36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you? Is there anything we can do?

Yes, depression and sadness, because I would like to share this side of myself with my wife. I have to hold it in and can't let it out. Reading the forums on CD.com acts as a surrogate for me. I'm able to "live" through the people here and the understanding of so many GG's helps me feel better about myself.

[JiveTurkeyOnRye]

34) Not saying it is wrong I am just wanting to understand. Why the seeming obsession with panties? All the threads about them? I just do not get it.

I never really post in those threads, but I am pretty hooked on panties. I'm approaching the point where they'll be the only underwear I wear. The reason for the threads though I think is because they're the easiest thing to wear of women's clothing and not get read at all. Unless you've got lace or an incriminating brand name sticking out of your waistband, you can wear panties as a guy to your hearts galore and have people be none the wiser.

Another thing to consider is that you GGs talk about your underwear amongst yourselves a lot too, or at least most of the ones I've ever met do. Girls go shopping together at Victoria's Secret, and then carry their pink striped bags around the mall displaying what they just bought. They have lingerie parties, meaning purchasing parties in the vein of tupperware parties, not talking about male fantasies of sorority bedrooms of course. And if you look at the marketing for name brands of panties, like VS's PINK line or Frederick's Naughty Knickers, or AE's Aerie lines, they blatantly make a point of selling how fun and flirty and cute panties are, trying to sell the idea that wearing them makes you feel that much cuter or sexier. Now for those of us who are pretty out with it, we can talk to our friends about it the same way GGs can, but to the many on here who aren't open to anyone, the panty threads are the closest thing they can get to the "Oh my god, I got the cutest underwear the other day..." conversations. Most of them probably don't realize how excessive the threads can get because they're not really thinking of each previous thread when they answer a new one, they're just going "oh, fun!"


35) Having to do with your CD lifestyle are you for the most part happy? If not what would make you happier?
I'm pretty happy with it, especially since coming out. The only thing that would make me happier is just more acceptance of it from the general public.


36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you? Is there anything we can do?
Not like I did before I came out. The only thing that occasionally bums me out now is worrying how it will affect me with finding an SO in the future. I dated a girl in Columbus shortly after coming out and she was pretty cool with it, it wasn't something she was "into" per se but it also didn't bother her at all so she was willing to go out with me while I wore skirts and also didn't mind that I wore women's underwear. I broke things off because I moved to LA but I worry sometimes that she may have been the needle in the haystack and that most girls won't give it a chance.

[mklinden2010]

We have more questions from our GG's thanks for joining in everyone!:D

Week 13

34) Not saying it is wrong I am just wanting to understand. Why the seeming obsession with panties? All the threads about them? I just do not get it.

35) Having to do with your CD lifestyle are you for the most part happy? If not what would make you happier?

36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you? Is there anything we can do?


I think the obsession with any particular item of clothing speaks to immaturity on the part of those obsessed. Nothing more dreary, to me, than meeting a "newbie" CDer out on the town who just can't get over their thrill with their undies. TMI.

Best cure for that - go buy a couple of dozen pairs, wear them, and get on with life. After pretreating for stains and folding the (never ending) laundry a few hundred times, coming across another pair of panties isn't that big a deal.


No, no bouts of depression or sadness. A bit cranky sometimes, about having plans, or, wanting to have plans, and having those thoughts upset. But, that happens in life with everything - you set down to watch some TV show and the phone rings....

So, accept such things as part of life - because it is. Celebrate the victories that you have and try to have more wins than losses as you go about each week.


I think my CD lifestyle is just fine. I'd be happier if people could just see it as "something some people do" and leave things at that. But, nearly everyone wants to talk, talk, talk about "the problem," or, "the issues" too much. Talk about something else!

No cure for some of that - people will be people. But, I think that explains why a lot of people get "out and about" for a while and then wind up staying at home more than they thought they would.

CDs are just like everybody else...

When it's all said and done, "There's no place like home."


If the GG's want a "normal life" with their CDer, set some time and space aside for the CDer to do what they (think they) want to do and trust that they'll get things figured out so that the rest of life can go on smoothly.

It's like hunting, fishing, and football. You don't have to understand why they do it, just that they do - and will.

No harm in getting along as long as it makes them (and eventually you) happy(ier).

[Sarah Doepner]

Week 13

34) Not saying it is wrong I am just wanting to understand. Why the seeming obsession with panties? All the threads about them? I just do not get it.

Okay, I'll try to add something to the discussion. I'm not obsessed, but I do like my panties. Panties and not just "underwear". They have their own special girly name and although you can find them in cotton, I would guess most CD's prefer the nylon materials for the texture. Panties come in colors, something less common in mens underwear until recently, but then most of that is in boxers (another reference to a male-dominated activity). Panties can have lace on them, fit in a decidedly different way than men's underwear and can easily be hidden and during that early exploratory stage they can easily be "borrowed". Panties; a gateway to crossdressing! Am I wearing them now? You can't tell and neither will I.

35) Having to do with your CD lifestyle are you for the most part happy? If not what would make you happier?

My first step toward being happy with my crossdressing came when I found out I wasn't the only one around. Not being alone in the world can be a great relief. The next step toward that goal of happiness came after my wife became aware and has accepted this as part of my life. Getting involved with a Tri-Ess support group has helped as well. My vision keeps expanding and now I'm looking for ways to change community expectations, but I have been advised by my wife that it's not a bad idea to go slow on that while we work out family issues first. That's fine, I've come a long way.

36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you? Is there anything we can do?

Not any longer. Not being alone in the world has helped. I do get a little frustrated when I can't take some time for my crossdressing occasionally. I don't need it all the time, but I do much better when I can get dressed a couple times a week. I do have a hard time getting my wife to talk about my crossdressing interests because it's less important now than grandkids, her elderly parents or planning for the next family party. I understand and come here to get that discussion.

[Tina B.]

Week 13

34) Not saying it is wrong I am just wanting to understand. Why the seeming obsession with panties? All the threads about them? I just do not get it.
Not one of the panties treads are mine, although I do like wearing them. But I agree with those that say just about all men are fascinated with panties. We just get to wear them and be fascinated At the same time.

35) Having to do with your CD lifestyle are you for the most part happy? If not what would make you happier?For the most part I am a very happy person, and as far as my dressing goes, I have an understanding wife, and dress pretty much at will, so I'm happy and have no reason to not be happy.
I am closeted by choice, but if the world where more excepting, I would love the freedom. (read world as family)

36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you? Is there anything we can do?Not anymore, back before I came out to my wife, and tried to suppress the desire to dress, I did, and with that came resentment, and anger. Coming out to the wife, and her acceptance was the cure for the depression. That and being able to dress when ever I feel the need or desire to.

[Alice B]

#34. That is an interesting question and answers could be far ranging. I think for the most part, due to advertising, etc., males see woman's panties as a form of expression of femminity and sexiness. The styles, shapes, colors and feeling are different than what most males wear and wearing female panties creates a feeling or illusion of being somewhat female at the time. I find myself selecting my daily choice of style, material and color based upon my mood at the time. This is instead of simply reaching into a drawer and grabbing whatever I come up with.

#35. Yes, I'm happy with myself. I have reached a balance point in my desires to dress and with my wife's acceptance.

#36. Not at all.

[suchacutie]

34) Not saying it is wrong I am just wanting to understand. Why the seeming obsession with panties? All the threads about them? I just do not get it.

Not a firm clue. My guess is that panties are the first item of underdressing and, effectively, the entry port for many to their femininity.

35) Having to do with your CD lifestyle are you for the most part happy? If not what would make you happier? I'm generally delighted, with the one exception that my life is just darned full and Tina doesn't get as much time as we would like for her exploration of her femininity.

36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you? Is there anything we can do? There has not been a negative side to CDing for me, and I sure pray it stays that way!

tina

[Lorileah]

34) Not saying it is wrong I am just wanting to understand. Why the seeming obsession with panties? All the threads about them? I just do not get it.


It is the most intimate piece of clothing a woman wears. It is what is closest to her (and I am sure bra threads run a close second). It is also something that women wear to look pretty and feel pretty to their partner. Guys underwear is rarely made to stimulate the partner, but many women's panties serve no more purpose than just that. There are embellishments of lace and bows and patterns. It is in integral part of pornography for males and has been for well forever. One of the first sexual encounters a boy has is trying to see a girl's panties. Not what lies beneath but the material. As Cd's we cannot have anatomy that mimics a female and panties help cover that. Now, since the question was asked of the TGs here as to why panties are so important...think why do they offer them to women and why do women buy them? Honestly, if the visual stimulation women have with panties were no important to them, would every woman wear white plain cotton? So, part of the answer is women wear pretty underwear, why can't we?

35) Having to do with your CD lifestyle are you for the most part happy? If not what would make you happier?

Yes I am happy with who I am now. It took awhile. What could make me happier? If the world would develop a more open mind about crossdressing and quit cubby holing us as freaks and perverts. It is just clothes.


36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you? Is there anything we can do?

Yes sometimes. Anger takes over when I think about the fact I am a "normal" person but a high percentage think I am not? I don't steal, I am an honest caring person, I am helpful and I care about things. It does not matter what I wear. It took me a long time to realize that I am a good person, always have been and if I am in a skirt or chinos or jeans, that does not change. Now my bouts of depression are from other sources and changing clothes helps relieve it.

[Heisthebride]

34. The obsession, I think, is more lingerie based. Panties are just one of the more common items. CD's haven't had the lifetime of wearing them like the GG's, so we like to enjoy the moment. If we wore them all the time, the shine might wear off the idea.

35. I am happy where I am at, although it takes time to find your groove. My SO is accepting and I try to limit my girlie time so we can both be happy with things. As a result she got me burlesque lessons we go to together and we are renewing our vows in a role reversal wedding. It's hard to not be happy with that.

36. There were times early on when I was new to the whole thing but in time there was no depression or guilt and more acceptance from me. That makes thing easier, I think, for others to accept.

[SuzanneBender]

Di I love these threads keep them coming. Seeing a new one on here is like opening the mailbox and finding the latest VS catalog.



34) Not saying it is wrong I am just wanting to understand. Why the seeming obsession with panties? All the threads about them? I just do not get it.

Speaking of the latest Victoria Secret Catalouge....for me it more an issue of comfort and feel. My underwear drawer is a hodgepodge of mens and womens underwear. The amazing thing is you really can't tell the difference between most of them because I choose them for there material and cut. I despise straight cotton drawers and love spandex and Lycra undies. I have always found the cut of boy shorts (ironic isn't it) and bikini's much more comfy.


35) Having to do with your CD lifestyle are you for the most part happy? If not what would make you happier? My biggest fault is I am never satisfied. There is always something more in life. I am happy with where I am at concerning my transgenderism. I have a life many on this site dream about. I'm blessed with a beautiful wife that supports me even though she hates it and the opportunity to move about in the world en femme every so often. Its a pretty good balance. I would love to be out to everyone and run around singing "I gotta be me" in my finest frillies whenever I would like. Unfortunately, that would come at to high a cost.


36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you? Is there anything we can do?

I wrestle with depression big time. I am not sure its all because of my transgenderism. I think it has to do more with living a life in which I have felt that I never measured up. The skinny effeminate kid grew up, but the sad feelings that come with not belonging never have gone away. I feel like I am letting others down and the energy drains from my body and the negative thoughts take over. I am not sure what helps. The depression seems to fade away and soon I am back in my normal routine again. I wish I could tell you something to help, but I think about the only thing I could say is realize that it is an internal fight with ourselves and not you. Don't get frustrated with us. A peck on the cheek and an I love you is the best remedy.

[Sarah...]

34) Not saying it is wrong I am just wanting to understand. Why the seeming obsession with panties? All the threads about them? I just do not get it.

Me either.


35)a Having to do with your CD lifestyle are you for the most part happy?

No.


35)bIf not what would make you happier?

Not CDing makes me happier. So now I don't. I transitioned instead. I'm so much happier now :)


36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you? Is there anything we can do?

See above. I used to be depressed about it. For 25 Years. I had these bouts because I forced myself to believe I was a CD type person for a long time, despite knowing otherwise for an even longer time. I'm not depressed anymore. Sad about being separated from my soul mate, but not depressed.

Sarah x

[Jenny Green]

34) Not saying it is wrong I am just wanting to understand. Why the seeming obsession with panties? All the threads about them? I just do not get it.
I don't get it, either. Now, BRAS, on the other hand... :-) For me, there's one particular item of clothing that most conveys femininity, and that's a bra. For others, it seems to be panties. But wearing that one item makes my brain switch over like nothing else can.

35) Having to do with your CD lifestyle are you for the most part happy? If not what would make you happier?
Yes, for the most part, happy. I keep it to myself because I've seen several important signs over the years that my wife would not be comfortable at all with it. What would make me happiest is if I could tell her and she would enjoy that part of me. Don't want to go full time, don't want to even go part time, and don't want to out dressed with her. But I would really enjoy shopping with her, and getting her help/feedback on styles/makeup/hair, etc. Heaven would be to have my wife say "I'm going shopping at the mall. Why don't you come along and lets get you a new [insert female clothing article here]."

36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you? Is there anything we can do?
Yes, bouts of depression, but not due to CDing. Due to all the male stuff like job worries, money worries, etc.

[Lexine]

34) Not saying it is wrong I am just wanting to understand. Why the seeming obsession with panties? All the threads about them? I just do not get it.

I don't get it myself, and I CD. I guess it's my boy side talking when he says, "You know, you have to wear SOME form of underwear, or your junk is going to be showing!" He can be so crude sometimes :daydreaming:




35) Having to do with your CD lifestyle are you for the most part happy? If not what would make you happier?

I'm actually quite happy with my life right now! Anything that doesn't make me happy is typically non-CDing related.



36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you? Is there anything we can do?

Nope. Not at all.

[carhill2mn]

Week 13

34) Not saying it is wrong I am just wanting to understand. Why the seeming obsession with panties? All the threads about them? I just do not get it.
I do not think that I am "obssesed" with wearing panties. I wear them for several reasons: they are pretty; they are comfortable; they take up less room in a suitcase and they are easier to wash out and dry when traveling.

35) Having to do with your CD lifestyle are you for the most part happy? If not what would make you happier?
I am, for the most part happy with my CD "lifestyle". One thing that would make me happier would be if CDing were generally
accepted as being OK by society.

36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you? Is there anything we can do?
I do not have bouts of depression. I am often "sad" for a short time when I have to go back to my male "mode".
As to what you can do - help educate those around you about the "truths" re: CD.
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[Blaire]

34- You and me both!

35- I am reasonably happy these days regarding my CDing. Self acceptance does that. Anything that would make life better is external. I s'pose there's a few things that would make me happier, but all fall under the roof with "Don't feel bad you had to borrow my mascara!"

36- Can't say I've been depressed. I get edgy and wistful if things go too long for whatever reason.

[Kelly Greene]

34) Not saying it is wrong I am just wanting to understand. Why the seeming obsession with panties? All the threads about them? I just do not get it.

I don't think I am obsessed with panties, I just prefer them over mens brief swhich are more like diapers than underwear. panties = better colors , fabrics, fit, and feel.


35) Having to do with your CD lifestyle are you for the most part happy? If not what would make you happier?

I wont say that I am unhappy but I could be happier if I were closer to a support group or if there was a place where I could go just to hang out while dressed other than the Mall.


36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you? Is there

CDing helps to relive the stresses of life that can lead to depression.
The only reason I have felt sad about CDing is when I have plans get dressed up and some thing causes them to fall through.

[CallMeMeg]

34) Why the seeming obsession with panties? All the threads about them?
I think they're a symbol ~ something that separates the men from the women. But so are bras and slips so maybe it's the "unmentionable" aspect.

35) Having to do with your CD lifestyle are you for the most part happy? If not what would make you happier?
For the most part, yes. But I'd like to be more open. Hiding is the hardest part. Not being able to share my trips out with my closest friends is hard.

36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you? Is there anything we can do?
See above. My wife, in response to an offer to show pictures says "I know what you look like." Well, she doesn't. She finds the idea of me telling people I CD "embarrassing" to her. So what can you do? Share this most intimate part of our personalities.

[optyks]

34) Not saying it is wrong I am just wanting to understand. Why the seeming obsession with panties? All the threads about them? I just do not get it.

For me its a very intimate and attractive piece of clothing for a woman. Theyre incredibly feminine and sexy, and can be worn anytime you choose for a subtle reminder.

35) Having to do with your CD lifestyle are you for the most part happy? If not what would make you happier?

I guess I'm happy. I enjoy dressing, but being GG would make me much happier


36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you? Is there anything we can do?

I don't have depression because of CDing, rather I have a crushing depression because I wasn't born female. Not many girls understand it, so It's pretty hard to convey and/or explain

[Kerigirl2009]

34) Not saying it is wrong I am just wanting to understand. Why the seeming obsession with panties? All the threads about them? I just do not get it.To me panties are the ultimate giveaway to feminine. between the gorgeous colors and the soft fabrics and the accessories such as lace and bows and little flowers what else could you wear more feminine, besides the matching bra to go with them.

35) Having to do with your CD lifestyle are you for the most part happy? If not what would make you happier?
I believe I am for the most part happy, in order for me to complete my happiness I would like to stop hiding all aspects of myself from family and friends. Those that can't accept I guess are not close enough for me to care about, However that is a bridge that once you begin the journey you have to continue across without knowing what is waiting for us.

36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you? Is there anything we can do? Sadness yes, depression no the sadness is because I know that if I allowed myself to just be me I could be closer to the people who I cared about. I am responsible for how I feel because of my own fears of losing my family. The help would be for me having a fantasy of a real life and the thoughts that go with us everyday. what you can do is have an open heart and an open mind and see the good person that I am weather I am dressed as a man or a woman. preferably a woman because I feel like a better person when I do.

[NathalieX66]

#34 panties mean nothing to me. I'm all about the social aspect.

#35, I would kill myself if I couldn't have my other side.

#36, just accept. As along as we are dedicated to our partners, that's all that matters..... I can't speak for everyone but i try to satisfy those beyond myself.

[TxKimberly]

34) Not saying it is wrong I am just wanting to understand. Why the seeming obsession with panties? All the threads about them? I just do not get it.
Can't help you there as those thread annoy me too.



35) Having to do with your CD lifestyle are you for the most part happy? If not what would make you happier?
What would make me happier? How about a bigger closet and more stuff to put in it?! :D
Just teasing! Yes, I am reasonably happy. . .



36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you? Is there anything we can do?

This question is touching. If you ask me, THIS is a significant difference between most male and females. Here you have the chance to ask anything you want, and you choose to ask what you can do to make our lives better. Who ever submitted this question, I owe you a hug.
Yes, I have often suffered serious bouts of depression. The bad news is that I wouldn't claim to understand it myself and so am hardly in any position to advise you on how to help make it better. In the end, a simple hug and an honest and sincere "I love you" tends to make everything at least a little better. . . :D

[Karenmarie]

34) Love womens panties for as long as I can remember. Like alot of us have said already, it was the easiest thing to slip into when I was a kid and it felt soooooo good. Boy's underwear are useless. No comfort at all. The boxer shorts are even more useless than the standard boy's underware.
I have wondered what would have happened if the panties had been REAL
uncomfortable? Would the CDing come to an abrupt halt.???? I really don't think so, because than came the bra.
35) I have never been happy with my CDing. With my first wife, I told her
but she did not want any part of it and wanted me to see a "counselor" who
would, in her mind, fix me. I have been totally afraid to tell my second wife
for fear of breaking up. We are both getting way up in age and I feel that
its best left alone. I do underdress almost every day and I pray that this will
continue to satisfy me.
36) Because of the above reasons, I do have bouts of sadness and depression. My SO does see them on occasion and will ask me whats wrong.
I'll just say that "its no big thing, just a bout of the blues or whatever".
The only thing that would help me would be for her to know about me and
somehow understand and allow me to be "my femme self" and even maybe
go out with me dressed and go shopping or something. This will never happen. Thanks, ladies, for understanding and the questions.
Karen

[Shelly Preston]

34) Not saying it is wrong I am just wanting to understand. Why the seeming obsession with panties? All the threads about them? I just do not get it.
I wish I knew the answer to that question too


35) Having to do with your CD lifestyle are you for the most part happy? If not what would make you happier? yes for the most part I am happy but thats because I am now a lot more comfortable going out and about


36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you? Is there anything we can do?
There have been times in the past but then it was a lot more difficult to obtain information. I still have times of sadness but not too often
Being able to talk about it is usually helpful

[kayegirl]

I do not feel that I have an obsession with panties, I wera femme panties almost all of the time, because I find them much more comfortable than man pants, and they don't have those hideous fly openings.

Yes I am happy with my cd lifestyle, I could be happier but only if I still had my darling late wife to share this lifestyle with.

No I do not suffer depression when dressed. BUT I do have bouts of depression and sadness when in male mode

[Debb]

34) Not saying it is wrong I am just wanting to understand. Why the seeming obsession with panties? All the threads about them? I just do not get it.

Yeah, I don't get this, either. I mean, underwear is underwear.



35) Having to do with your CD lifestyle are you for the most part happy? If not what would make you happier?

I'm mostly happy. I could be happier having been born a female, I think.... can't say for sure though, that'd be an entire lifetime of differences.


36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you? Is there anything we can do?

I don't have depression, more of an "angst" feeling I guess you'd call it. I probably should have been a girl, but I value my family and friends too much to lose them over this. Not sure there's anything anyone except myself can do about it.

[sissystephanie]

34. I do not have an obsession with panties! They are feminine, and as an active CD I wear them all the time!

35. I am very happy with my CD lifestyle, although I wish my late wife was still here to share it with me.

36. The only sadness I have is because of the loss of my dear wife!!

[PretzelGirl]

34) Not saying it is wrong I am just wanting to understand. Why the seeming obsession with panties? All the threads about them? I just do not get it.

Two ways of looking at your question. The threads? I don't get it either. Not something I care to discuss. But obsession? Depends on your definition. I do have more than I have of drab underwear. Now I hope that is the only time I post about panties. :heehee:

35) Having to do with your CD lifestyle are you for the most part happy? If not what would make you happier?

I do it to be happy. So yes I am. Do I have room for improvement of looks and doing more? Certainly. But that doesn't take away my happiness for what I am doing now.

36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you? Is there anything we can do?

No. I CD because I want to and it makes me happy (see #35). If it made me depressed or sad, I wouldn't do it. I just don't believe in going through life not happy. There are bad things that go wrong in my life. But I choose to not let those things monopolize my time and feelings.

[t-girlxsophie]

#1Honestly dont think im at all Obdsessed with Panties,of course I love to wear them but obsessed,no

#2Am very Happy with my CD lifestyle:daydreaming:

#3Don't have bouts as such,but do at times hate the thought of getting older,wondering how long Ive got left to enjoy my girlie life,these thoughts don't last long though

[Rachel Morley]

Maybe I shouldbn't have answered ....

34) Not saying it is wrong I am just wanting to understand. Why the seeming obsession with panties? All the threads about them? I just do not get it. As obsessions go, I prefer bras

35) Having to do with your CD lifestyle are you for the most part happy? If not what would make you happier? Right now, with the life (and SO) I have, there is nothing that could possibly make me happier.

36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you? Is there anything we can do?Not any more. Once I found out that my SO was ok with it and she saw that it made me happy and thus encouraged it, then all my sadness melted away.

[chrissietoo]

34) Why the seeming obsession with panties? All the threads about them? I just do not get it.

I'm not really obsessed with panties, but I like them. To me, putting them on is WAY different than men's briefs--they are very feminine. Nothing makes me feel more feminine than wearing a bra!

35) Having to do with your CD lifestyle are you for the most part happy? If not what would make you happier?

Yes, happy.

36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you? Is there anything we can do?

Nope


Thanks for asking!

[ErikaLeigh]

34) Not saying it is wrong I am just wanting to understand. Why the seeming obsession with panties? All the threads about them? I just do not get it.

I dont get the panty threads either.

35) Having to do with your CD lifestyle are you for the most part happy? If not what would make you happier?

Somewhat happy. I only get "Girl Time" one day a month, and would love to have more time. But with family, business, and life in general standing in the way its tough to get more ME time. Obviously more Girl time would make me happier.

36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you? Is there anything we can do?

I used to get depressed from time to time, but being able to talk openly with my wife about it now has really helped with that more than I could even imagine. She has become more tollerant and somewhat accepting and its made our relationship better as well as helped with my depression. I do get a little depressed sometimes, but only about a tenth of what it used to be. Of course a little shopping or girl time helps.

That being said, be VERY sensitive to your wife, dont overload her with the CD stuff, take baby steps and hopefully it will work out. It has taken almost 4 years for our relationship to grow around the CD issue, just be patient and take your time for your wifes sake.

[NatalieBliss]

36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you? Is there anything we can do?

Sometimes. I think it has to do with keeping it a secret from people I care about. As a by product I still haven't 100% accepted who I am. Acceptance from the few who I know helps. Maybe just an affirmation that you embrace them fully would help...

[Dana]

We have more questions from our GG's thanks for joining in everyone!:D

Week 13

34) Not saying it is wrong I am just wanting to understand. Why the seeming obsession with panties? All the threads about them? I just do not get it.

The sensual and I love the feeling of nylon, satin, silk. What is all the more I love being and playing the feminine role? Having been the man the husband in the relationship I would love to play and be the "Wife" in the relationship ~ that is to say I would not mind being the submissive and "wife" of the relationship.

And there are many women who would not mind being playing the more dominant role. The more controlling role in the relationship ~ they just want to do so without their DH playing a sissy-submissive role. They want their men to play the subservient and submissive role while still presenting as a fully masculine role in public and to friends and family?

My LTR GF and I broke up and her last marriage broke up because she "wanted it all her way" ~ yet she couldn't deal with my being TG?

She wanted it both ways?
35) Having to do with your CD lifestyle are you for the most part happy? If not what would make you happier?

36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you? Is there anything we can do?

Yes!

1. Communication!

2. Communication!

3. Communication!

4. Understanding!

5. Accepance!

6. Communication

7. Communication

8. Communication

[SheriM]

Why do we like panties?????? Why do we like panties???
Have you looked at a panty rack in a store lately?
The thongs and bikinis and hip hugger panties are made to enhance the most private of female parts and they do it very well. Victorias Secret spends thousands maybe millions on advertising their pretty panties. Mfrs make them as sexy as they possibly can and overcharge for a minute piece of fabric which we, in our pink fog, induced by the ads, are eager to pay.
I can't say that I have ever responded to a panty thread but I have fantisized about being that alluring female in those skimpy panties. Understand that when a VS model on tv walks down the runway in a pretty thong or bikini panty, exactly half the world falls in love with her. In fact it may be more than half although my wife would not be included.
Why do we love panties??? I wouldn't want VS and the rest to waste all that advertising money. I must do my patriotic duty and love 'em too.
SheriM

[Chickhe]

34) Why the seeming obsession with panties? All the threads about them?
For me, it is just utility...they hold certain things in place and male underwear is too bulky to wear under tight clothing. As a male, they look sexy on a woman because they are shaped to accentuate her curves, so that follows through to CDing if you want to appear as femine as possible.

35) Having to do with your CD lifestyle are you for the most part happy? If not what would make you happier?
Not sure, maybe I don't see it CDing as a big deal and I wish someone I know would encourage it.

36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you? Is there anything we can do?
Feeling depressed is all about knowing how to deal with your feelings. I would not say CDing causes it. But, to help someone who is depressed, don't change how you interact with them...you need to know you are still normal, but encourage them to get out and get active. Let them do things that they have enjoyed in the past.

[minalost]

34) Not saying it is wrong I am just wanting to understand. Why the seeming obsession with panties? All the threads about them? I just do not get it.

I don't understand them ether... I'm more of a "bra" person when it comes to obsessions. Oh, and shoes....:battingeyelashes: loooove high heals! And tight fem jeans...:daydreaming: and lipstick...:eek: Just not really obsessed with panties though... :devil:

35) Having to do with your CD lifestyle are you for the most part happy? If not what would make you happier?

In general no :sad:. But that just has to do with the lack of opportunities to dress up. Otherwise I've learned to (mostly...) accept and enjoy being myself, and that includes being a CDer. Make me happier? Give me the time and money to dress up once a month... :D Heck, I'd be happy with once a quarter...

36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you? Is there anything we can do?

Again, what few moments of sadness (I'm generally an upbeat person...) I do get, do to being a CDer, has to do with lack of opportunities. What helps? Buy a know pair of fem jeans or a new bra! Shoes are a good pick-me-upper too! And then dress up in them! How can you help? See my answer above about time an money...
:hugs:

[Joanne f]

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Week 13
34) Not saying it is wrong I am just wanting to understand. Why the seeming obsession with panties? All the threads about them? I just do not get it.
I am trying to think of a sensible answer but really can`t think of one only that maybe it is because it was the first item of female clothing i wore and the most intimate , my wife just says i have this thing about them but yes it is an obsession .(thank the Gods that she likes me in them):)

35) Having to do with your CD lifestyle are you for the most part happy? If not what would make you happier?
No for the most part i am not happy , i can release a lot of my fem feelings and desires through being androgynous and the wearing of bracelets, rings ,nail varnish and a small amount of makeup coupled with not worrying about my feminine ways and gestures but being able to wear what i like when i like would be something that would make me happier.

36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you? Is there anything we can do
Unfortunately yes i do , sometimes it can dominate my thoughts all day it is a constant battle between what i can wear and what i want to wear i know it does not make sense to get like this but it does depress me a lot of the time ,
what helps me, nothing only going to bed at night and starting it all over again in the morning plus a few other things that i am not going to mention , I am not sure who you mean by (we) but thank you for asking , no there is nothing anyone else can do to help me as it is my battle which i have to live with .
(In case this may worry some GGs who have a CD SO i should point out that i personally have deeper issues than the CDing on its own so it is very unlikely that they would turn out like me ) thank god.

[PippaJ]

34) I think its probably because they're the most feminine thing for most of us.
35) I love being CD but i wish i had the confidence to transition or at the very least was passable
36) Regularly, mostly because im so indecisive and unsure of myself :/

[SANDRA MICHELLE]

(34) Panties, I love em. GG's get to wear all the nice clothes and why can't we. As for me I only wear panties, my wife tried to have me wear male undies to go through the screening at the airport and I told her do you really think they care what my underwear look like?
(35) I wish that I could dress all the time as a woman and get breast implants but family considerations won't allow so I am as happy as I can be.
(36) Depression, not a chance. I am the most upbeat and positive person you will ever meet. Life is wonderful inspite of my covert lifestyle.

[Lauren KS]

34) Why the seeming obsession with panties? All the threads about them?

Panties are one of the first links to the feminine side. Panties and skirts make me feel the most girly, and are often the first items I put on. Also, it's easiest to underdress with panties without detection. I don't know why there are so many threads, because I would imagine they could be merged into just a few categories, but I can understand the draw.


35) Having to do with your CD lifestyle are you for the most part happy? If not what would make you happier?

I am happy for the most part. I have a wife who understands, and I dress when I want. I would like several specific clothing items, but all in due time.


36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you?

I'm typically fine with my crossdressing. Once in awhile I might get down because almost no one I know would ever understand the desire.

[dilane]

Week 13

34) Not saying it is wrong I am just wanting to understand. Why the seeming obsession with panties? All the threads about them? I just do not get it.

Me neither. I'm a wholistic presentation type, not fixated on particular articles of clothing.

35) Having to do with your CD lifestyle are you for the most part happy? If not what would make you happier?

Yes, for the most part. If I could be perfectly passable, yes, I'd be a bit happier :)

36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you? Is there anything we can do?

Never have been sad or depressed about it.

[AmandaM]

34) Not saying it is wrong I am just wanting to understand. Why the seeming obsession with panties? All the threads about them? I just do not get it.

35) Having to do with your CD lifestyle are you for the most part happy? If not what would make you happier?

36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you? Is there anything we can do?

34. I'm not sure. Lot's of ideas though. It could be that there is some connection to that most female of body parts. The connection could be the desire to feel closer to women cause you wear something close to that body part. Or it could be a sexual thing, i.e., turned on wearing the closest thing to that female body part. Or maybe the combination of both. Of course, panties are also something we can wear 24/7 if we wish and never get caught. It seems as though there is no female clothing item that is more female than panties.
35. Not really, I tire of the going back and forth. The constant battle in my mind. I guess it's more resistance since there isn't an overpowering maleness fighting back against the femaleness. If I could only accept it more. I joke with my wife that if I could only blend it, I'd be Rod Stewart. LOL. If I only knew how.
36. I have fought low-lying depression my whole life. Probably cause of this gender thing. It helps when I get more time to dress, some me-time. You could help me by understanding that it's something I fight with, it's a struggle. A struggle to understand what it is, and why it's happening to me. In the end, if you could help me enjoy it, or help me feel it's natural, I'd be happier.

[Renee_E]

34) Not saying it is wrong I am just wanting to understand. Why the seeming obsession with panties? All the threads about them? I just do not get it.

Although mens underwear has improved in selection and color selection somewhat over the years, they aren't even close to the variety in panties. I find most mens underwear uncomfortable. Most panties fit better and some provide better support then men's undies.

35) Having to do with your CD lifestyle are you for the most part happy? If not what would make you happier?

For the most part I am happy since I accepted who I am.

36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you? Is there anything we can do?

Sometimes I get down because I feel like dressing and can't because of self imposed boundries. I am not out to the world; only a select few. Nobody can do anything about it but me.

[JulieK1980]

34) Not saying it is wrong I am just wanting to understand. Why the seeming obsession with panties? All the threads about them? I just do not get it.

I don't understand it either, I wear them, but don't feel any need to obsess, or even mention it for that matter.

35) Having to do with your CD lifestyle are you for the most part happy? If not what would make you happier?

I could not possibly be happier. :)

36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you? Is there anything we can do?

When I was younger and trying to come to terms with my self, I suffered a lot. But at some point I came to accept it as a part of myself, and well, see the answer to 35. ;)

[Rebecca W.]

34) Not saying it is wrong I am just wanting to understand. Why the seeming obsession with panties? All the threads about them? I just do not get it.

It was in my younger years an obsession for me. When I was thirteen and I tried on my older sisters yellow panties for the first time, I was hooked for life and I have purchased more panties than any mens underwear since then!:) How can you resist a nice pair of panties. Now panties are just a fun and a sexy way to complete my wardrobe.

35) Having to do with your CD lifestyle are you for the most part happy? If not what would make you happier?

Happy when I am dressed and that is not too often. What would make me happy is to be able to break my internal barriers to go out and meet my fellow CD's while dressed as a woman. That I need help with.

36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you? Is there anything we can do?[/QUOTE]

Just the opposite, I have lost most of my closest family members due to tragic life ending events and my dressing, saved me. Just shopping and tryng on the clothes helped so much in the release of all the sadness. I never took any medication and when I slipped on a pretty dress, life seemed a little better for me.:sad:

[Samantha_Smile]

We have more questions from our GG's thanks for joining in everyone!:D

Week 13

34) Not saying it is wrong I am just wanting to understand. Why the seeming obsession with panties? All the threads about them? I just do not get it.

For me threads about panties (knickers to us brits) are understandable. Guy me has boxers and nothing else.
Girl me has thongs, briefs, hi and low cut shorts in lace, satin, ribbons and sheer see thru stuff.
They feel lovely on, far more than guy underwear.
To me, knickers, garters and bras are pretty much the pinacle of femme attire, without them on, there's little point in dressing at all for me.

35) Having to do with your CD lifestyle are you for the most part happy? If not what would make you happier?

The only thing I would like to do is get out to a club and actually meet some fellow CD/TVs for a chat and a laugh. I cant imagine fear being a problem when Im THERE, in the club, enjoying myself.
It's getting there dressed that worries me.
Im not easily passable for numerous reasons, and my town, let alone my street isn't world renowned for having an open minded populous.

36) Do you have bouts of depression or sadness because of CDing? Why do you think you do? What helps you? Is there anything we can do?

Not really. I see my CDing more as a comforter for times of stress and/or depression, not the cause of it.
It's never gotten in the way of my life or my relationships, so for now its a definate positive force in my life.