First time out with your Wife or SO

[2B Natasha]

Hey Ladies and Gents.

I have a question for those of us that have been out with there SO/Wife/BF. I know this is in the MTF section but it is open to the FTM group as well. It's pretty simple really.

A little back story first here. My present GF and I have known each other since H.S. Lost track of each other for a fare number of years reconnected and found out in time that we where really made for each other. One of the things we did before we where officially dating and in a monogamous relationship with each other was to go out. Myself as Natasha and herself, well, as herself. We had a great time. Fun and easy. But there was no romance in the picture between us. Officially that is. Turns out we both felt strong feelings toward each other the whole time. So Now after a bit of a hiatus, we are going out again. Same club but different circumstances.N o real reason for the lay over other then we just really enjoy each others company so much spending time on the sofa talking and you get the picture, has been to much fun to go out.

So my question to the CD's here is. How did you feel the first time you went out with your partner dressed? Be they SO/Wife/GF/Boyfriend or as yet undecided. Where you hesitant, scared, nervous, tense, stressed, relaxed, at ease, excited....... Alternatively. To the SO/Wife/GF/Boyfriend et al. How did you feel that first time out? Did it seem a little strange to say, hold hands? Did you kiss each other when out? Was there a bit of a hesitation before it happened?

The reason I ask these question is. I am not sure how I feel. Almost nothing special. Like it's an everyday occurrence. Which it isn't, but it sure feels like it.

Cheers
Natasha

PS. Hi Eve, Hi Tammy :D

[Elsa Larson]

My late wife was 5'10". Before I proposed marriage, I took her to a dinner with my local support group.

She was OK with how I was dressed but could never forgive the short gurl who asked how long she had been crossdressing.

[DonnaT]

First time with my wife was the first time meeting others as well. I felt happy that she agreed to go, but other than that, the effect my wife had on my feelings was like it was a natural occurrence going out as a couple.

[mklinden2010]

Hey Ladies and Gents.

I have a question for those of us that have been out with there SO/Wife/BF. I know this is in the MTF section but it is open to the FTM group as well. It's pretty simple really.

A little back story first here. My present GF and I have known each other since H.S. Lost track of each other for a fare number of years reconnected and found out in time that we where really made for each other. One of the things we did before we where officially dating and in a monogamous relationship with each other was to go out. Myself as Natasha and herself, well, as herself. We had a great time. Fun and easy. But there was no romance in the picture between us. Officially that is. Turns out we both felt strong feelings toward each other the whole time. So Now after a bit of a hiatus, we are going out again. Same club but different circumstances.N o real reason for the lay over other then we just really enjoy each others company so much spending time on the sofa talking and you get the picture, has been to much fun to go out.

So my question to the CD's here is. How did you feel the first time you went out with your partner dressed? Be they SO/Wife/GF/Boyfriend or as yet undecided. Where you hesitant, scared, nervous, tense, stressed, relaxed, at ease, excited....... Alternatively. To the SO/Wife/GF/Boyfriend et al. How did you feel that first time out? Did it seem a little strange to say, hold hands? Did you kiss each other when out? Was there a bit of a hesitation before it happened?

The reason I ask these question is. I am not sure how I feel. Almost nothing special. Like it's an everyday occurrence. Which it isn't, but it sure feels like it.

Cheers
Natasha

PS. Hi Eve, Hi Tammy :D



N,

Our answers, no matter how good, probably won't help a whole lot.

Chemistry is different with different people. From much past experience anyway, here goes:

One SO is a real talker and can make a party all by herself. Another is quieter, but very pleasant to be around. Another is unsure, but wants "to do something" different. Yet, another has ideas that seem "out there" but... maybe too far out there... Etc.

What seems to hold a relationship together is mostly friendship. You share things as friends, you are glad to be in each others lives, some days are good days some days are bad days. You value the friendship and keep going, or, you don't.

Going out dressed is not a deal maker. Going out dressed and having a flat tire, having to run back to rescue a kid, or, running into trouble and the both of you handling things well as a couple, those are deal makers.

Sounds like you two have some of the basics on place.. An evening here and there is not a lot to worry about. So, don't worry.

Just see how it goes.

[AKAMichelle]

Scared and hesitant are good adjectives to describe how I felt. I got over those feelings pretty quickly when she was accepting. We had a great time together and like you it wasn't romantic. We were 2 great girlfriends having a good time.

[PretzelGirl]

The first time was to a meeting, so it really didn't seem like a big deal.

The first time not to a meeting was out for dinner and a movie. She had no problem with being around me and we both had a to retract putting our arms around each other a couple of times including in the movie. She also slipped a couple of times by saying my name or referring to her husband. But we had a great time and the only nerves were the ones I got in new situations. My daughter was with us too and they were both supportive the whole way. It may have been easier as they had each other.

[Melanie R]

My first time out in public dressed was in 1982 at the insistence of my wife. We went to a dinner theatre where Christine Jorgensen was performing. The place was packed with no doubt 300 primarily couples and no other CD's. I was very frightened that someone would ask if I was a TS like Christine or I would see friends who would recognize me. No one said anything. My wife said I passed with flying colors. One local ABC television station was present to do a feature on Christine for the evening news and did walk by our table with cameras rolling. The next day my mother said she saw my wife and I on television. After that experience I knew I could go anywhere dressed without fear.

[2B Natasha]

Thanks for the responses ladies. Love to hear the stories. Seems like lobe and understanding is the one consistant in all these stories. Saturday should be fun. Love to hearore stories.

[JoannaCaroline]

My wife would kill me but right now I can't remember the 1st time we went out with me dressed? I told her all of my eccentricities the first time we met (TG is a minor one :-)). I showed her pictures 3 days later on our first date, but I don't remember when I went out with her dressed for the first time. We've done it so many times since then, that I can't remember.

I do remember that we spent most of that 1st summer in San Francisco and I spent a lot of it dressed, but that was 2 months after we met so it had to happen before then.

I remember 1st times when I was earlier and dating other people. Maybe because some of those times were more traumatic. By the time I met my wife I had really gotten over the going out in public fear and I had stopped dating anyone who wasn't open minded enough

[Dena]

It was fun, it was Halloween!