What if....?

[Kate Simmons]

Most of us have our own feminine "standards of excellence" that we strive to maintain in the presentation our our femme selves. It's a lot of work to say the least. What if one day we got up and said the hell with it, I'm tired. I just want to relax and be myself for once. Would our CD "world" come to an end or crash and burn? I'm just wondering what is wrong with taking a break once in a while or if we like it, just stopping altogether. Sometimes we are really the only one who "insists" on being who we say we really are and the rest of the world doesn't really seem to care one way or the other. It may be an adventure to some but there is a whole "other" world out there in just discovering who we are as a person, not as this, that or the other thing. What do you think?:)

[Alice Torn]

Denise, Nothing wrong with any of that, dittos.

[Joanne f]

I am glad you said most :D because i guess that i am a bit different and am happy to just be me and put something on that i like to wear most of the time when i can , a transformation might be nice sometimes but i would not want to have to do that all the time , but then again i have never had the time to try that so i guess i will never know .

[bredalee25]

There's nothing wrong with taking a break from dressing. I've taken several and nobody called the CD police to have me ticketed.

That's what I think

[Nikki A.]

There is an ebb and flow. Sometimes you want to and it's okay not to. GGs don't always dress to "perfection", just go to a Walmart.
My dream would be to be able to wear whatever I felt like wearing at the time. Be it a skirt or dress in male mode, no wig, or makeup etc.

[MargaretJ]

Manys the time I have looked forward during the day, to getting all femmed up, only to find later in the evening it's just to much of an effort, and not bothered. Usually its all the hassle of doing make up, and as you say "standards of excellence" prevent me from turning out a poor image. Looking forward to tonight though, haven't been en femme for 4 days now.

[AKAMichelle]

I think taking a break sometimes gives us perspective. It is a good thing when we can reflect and take the time to learn more about ourselves.

[Emma England]

Why not try stopping, then you will find out.

[Sarah Doepner]

It's pretty natural for me to take days and sometimes even weeks off from dressing, either because the desire isn't there or circumstances don't favor the activity. There are also times when the full process of shave, shower, shave again, do the makeup, pick out the best outfit and then another best outfit just isn't in the emotional cards.

At times like that I'm not unlike my wife who is happy to just get something comfortable on and relax. I'm not about to go out at times like that, but I can have a basic, simple outfit on with no makeup and just sit on the deck in the evening with an adult beverage and watch the wind blow through the trees.

[Andromeda]

No there is nothing wrong with any of the above and it pretty well describes me with fairly low standards ( that is no desire to pass ). with frequent periods with little or no dressing

[Maryesther M.]

I have to take time off all the time. My serious top-to-toe sessions per year can be counted on the fingers of one hand.

During the times off I plan the next real session, and the pleasurable anticipation of it is what keeps me withdrawal-symptom free in the interim.

Meanwhile I look at what all you grrls are up to and in my mind attempt to do likewise next time.

[eluuzion]

Would our CD "world" come to an end or crash and burn?

I can only control myself. The rest of the world may come to an end, but not my world, lol.

I have never been prone to "catastrophic thinking" (all or nothing perspectives). Life is one big toybox for me. Like a world full of little "compartments". I take out one or two toys and play with them until they get "stale". Then I put them back and take out a few more. If they all get "stale", I go looking for new ones. If I cannot find new ones, I make my own, lol.

Nothing really "controls" or steers my ship. I just float around outside of the roped off swimming area and see what is out there. I once took a short "break" from the hamster wheel of the internet. I intended it to be maybe a week or so. I ended up logging back on for the first time 2.5 years later! Never missed it.

So, yes I can relate and concur with your thoughts. I am extremely curious by nature and do not adhere to any "restrictions", install much "structure", or follow many "rules" of society. I do not have many "expectations" for myself or anyone else. I certainly do not feel any responsibility or motivation to live up to anybody else's expectations of me.

I guess that is my answer. Now, what was the question again? hehehe
:love:

[Debb]

Denise, right on. It's in our nature, some of us, to go in cycles. When I find myself in one of the "hell with it" cycles, I either don't dress at all, or dress just enough to forestall a big bump when I get back into dressing.

May I add, these cycles aren't usually predictable, at least for me. During periods of high stress, I would expect to need the comfort of dressing, but that doesn't usually happen. Usually dressing nice and looking femme go out the window when there's a lot of other stuff going on ... and it kinda bothers me, to be frank.

I really love dressing and appearing femme, if only in my own mind. I don't feel it brings out anything special in my personality, I've been working on integrating and no longer even see it as a "two sides of my personality" thing.... but I do feel great when I dress, and it's disappointing when I'm not in the mood.

[Monica73]

I tried to stop when I told my wife and she flipped out. Two months later the urge is back and I can't resist it. With me I just want to wear the clothes as it completes me. It is easy to say do what is in your heart and what you think you are. We all have different circumstances, but in the end will the urge go away...I don't think it will. I've tried.