Dad? Can I borrow your mascara?

[Kaitlyn Michele]

That's what my 16 yr old daughter just asked me!

LOL....i just had to post that.

I was looking at Lorileah's post and i just think about how sad it is for people who are crappy parents and hide behind their bigotry and ignorance.

I'm a great parent thank you, and my kids are great kids..

they suffer from my situation...they feel bad for themselves sometimes and they feel bad for me sometimes, they feel bad for their mom sometimes...but they are learning about life, they love me and they are very very loved...

I've even been slowly meeting their friends..ALL of them very accepting if not complimentary and pleasantly curious..

I'll stop patting myself on the back now, but its necessary because if i don't the people that trash us are left unchallenged

[StaceyJane]

Acceptance is a wonderful thing.

I remember the time my daughter came for a visit and I let her meet Stacey. My daughter did my makeup and we went out together.
A real turning point for me and my own self acceptance.

[Melissa A.]

The most important thing-Did she give it back? :heehee:

Actually, the most important thing is, you are a wonderful parent.

There was a long study completed recently, the details of which I can't remember a thing about, sorry. But it found that the children of LGBT parents, compared to others, are generally happier. and have lower frequency of drug use and teen sex, unprotected and otherwise. Love works, universally! Whoda thunk it??

Hugs,

Melissa:)

[Veronica_Jean]

Kaitlyn,

I remember the first time (except it was eyeliner)... Oh such fond memories.

Now its everything and we even borrow from each other!!

I know you are a good parent. If anything, I feel the rejection, shame, and fear we all face helps us raise our children with open hearts and open minds. The results can be amazing!!

Veronica

[VeronicaMoonlit]

Actually, sharing eye makeup is a bad thing to do germ wise, but her asking was nice.

Veronica Rogers

[TxKimberly]

Awe . . .

[Kaitlyn Michele]

Actually, sharing eye makeup is a bad thing to do germ wise, but her asking was nice.

Veronica Rogers

So i shouldnt eat out of her leftover bowl of spaghetti that was sitting by her bedroom dresser all day? :daydreaming:

[Eileen]

(So i shouldnt eat out of her leftover bowl of spaghetti that was sitting by her bedroom dresser all day?)

Technically no Kaitlyn, but if you made it it was, I am sure, too good to not finish! Good parents more often than not have good children. Seems you pass with flying colors!

Eileen

[Inna]

Germs or not, truth is liberating, however painful or cumbersome truth is a life force which deprived off we die inside little by little. I am one leg into the light of a day and other in the shadows of eternal abyss. I know that by telling my child I would liberate my self, but him being 16 I would add more confusion and perhaps guilt to already teen-hormone driven confusing age. I will wait and die a little each day until his core self is well established and by looking at things the way they are now, germ transfer through mascara won't be an issue:heehee: unless of course he doesn't finish spaghetti:devil:
I am so happy Kaitlyn you have the relationship which allows you to be exactly who you are, have I been strong enough some time ago I would have done the same but as I see it, children are accepting without troublesome aftereffects either very young or after puberty.

[Persephone]

That's what my 16 yr old daughter just asked me!

Very cool, Kaitlyn! At least it is your daughter, I always feel a little weird when my son, who enjoys dressing up for Rocky Horror, comes in and says, "Dad, do you have a pair of heels I can borrow?" or "can you help me with my eye makeup?"

[Ze]

Awesome to hear, Kaitlyn. But always tell her no. :heehee:


Germs or not, truth is liberating,

It's the Sties For Understanding campaign! :D

[Linda Z]

I understand, good job!
Linda Z

[Fab Karen]

...but they are learning about life, they love me and they are very very loved...

I've even been slowly meeting their friends..ALL of them very accepting if not complimentary and pleasantly curious..

I'll stop patting myself on the back now, but its necessary because if i don't the people that trash us are left unchallenged
Amen, sister!

[Nicole Erin]

Only in our lives would this be a normal question.
Ha, you are lucky she hasn't swiped a bunch of your makeup. :heehee:

I bet when she asked it was with the same indifference as asking to borrow, oh say, the car?
I forgot - you should have said - "No problem, but take the dirty dishes out of your room".

And with germs, well, usually people that live in the same house are pretty much immune to each other's germs anyways so why not? Especially with kids, as any parent knows, once the kids know something is in the house, they are going to get their hands on it either way.

It is good to hear your daughter is so cool about it. When she has a family, your grandkids will be open-minded too. things are getting better. :thumbsup:

[Lorileah]

how would you stress your immune system and make it stronger if you didn't share. I mean it's not like you shared lip stick.....uh did you?

Kaitlyn, you prove the point it ain't what you look like, it's what you is that makes a great parent. So do you shop Macy's or Torrid when you both go out?

[Teri Jean]

Kaitlyn, it is great that she is accepting. I did my daughters toe nails before she went out. She asked if I had a black to touch her nails. I told her I had Midnight in Moscow by OPI and it covered just fine.

All you can do is love them and help when they need it.

[Kaitlyn Michele]

I go to Macy's and she goes to Hot Topic...:o

[Sara Jessica]

Such an uplifting little story, thanks so much for sharing!!! :)

Tales such as this give me hope for the future should my children even become part of this (sometimes) crazy TG world I reside in.

[Chari]

"The apple doesn't fall far from the tree" - and in this case the good apple falling from a great tree! So much better to be out and accepted for all we are - no matter what our packaging!

[Aleria]

That is WONDERFUL! Isn't that the ideal that many of us hope for?

[Sally24]

Isn't it a wonderful, if slightly odd, feeling when they need your girl help?

My daughter got caught unprepared when she was home visiting and her boyfriend wanted her to dress up for a fancy restuarant evening. Her apartment was too far away to get ready in time so I found her a LBD that fit the occasion to a T!

[Sammy777]

Very cute story!

[SherriePall]

Kaitlyn -- That's wonderful that she is able to ask like that. Great, too, that others are so accepting.
One little footnote: my daughter borrows my lingerie when she visits, but she asks her mother if she can, believing it to be my wife's. I always hold my breath that she returns it.

[Gerrijerry]

I understand what you are really trying to say in your post. It is wonderful that you and your family can just enjoy life. I wish you well. For those that can not do what you have done. I can only say that it is a challenge and not every family can deal with it.

[PretzelGirl]

Sherrie, I fully understand. My daughter that doesn't know borrows some of "Mom's" stuff every once in a while. I end up asking Mom to go ask for her things back as my daughter has a habit of not returning them.

[Midnight Skye]

That's so awesome Kaitlyn! I love kids... they can really mean the world sometimes. I hope you gave her a high five in there somewhere for being so darn cool! ;)

[Kaitlyn Michele]

I will Skye! In the end, they are teenagers..it seems like they have accepted the reality of it, and then moved on...they didnt like it, and it makes them sad sometimes...but now its usually just like something they can use against me to get what they want..(thats not a bad thing..its just human nature for a teen)...

the risk in the next years is that someone else in their lives makes me an issue..either a parent of their friends or one of their peers...kids are cruel and there isnt anything i can do about it..

[Laurie Ann]

Kaitlyn great story but if you do not toot your own horn who will

[Kimberly Marie Kelly]

Sounds like your daughter is very close to her 'dad' and has accepted you. It gets better as they get older they will be able to defend you, against people that say bad things about you. As an example my ex wife who I've been divorced and separated from for over 11 years now, hates me and thinks my transitioning is an abomination. I've contacted people thru Facebook to reconnect with friends and former in-laws. One of them a divorced husband of my ex's younger sister, when I contacted him thru FB he supposely beat up his children, because I tried to contact 'him', not his kids. Well anyway it got back to my ex and she was livid. She emailed me to say, don't contact any of my family. I knew them for over 20 years before our separation and divorce. She spoke with my daughter and my daughter defended me to her mom, saying I can talk to anyone that I want to. Presently my daughter is not talking to her mom because of this. They do learn to accept you and will eventually defend you against people. I love my daughter immensely.

But this story shows that you have raised your children well. Love them forever. Your friend in PA, Kimberly Marie Kelly :battingeyelashes:

PS Will you be at group this month (15th)?

[Victoria Anne]

That is so cool , you are a wonderful parent and it is truly wonderful to have such a relationship with your kids , it sadly is not so with my kids. I am happy for you .