Samantha B L
07-29-2010, 09:08 PM
I need any and all advice about coming out to an old freind. I had a wonderful SO for years who's passed away. But actually my best freind lives in New Jersey about 10 or 15 miles from the Lincoln Tunnel and she works in Manhattan and Brooklyn. She lived in Brooklyn for years and she grew up in upstate NY in Binghamton. It's a best freinds/pen pals relationship which started in 1983 and we eventually went to the web and now facebook. We're not lovers. I had my SO and she has a guy she's lived with for years. He's a good guy and I send a "hi" once in a blue moon. She's a very cool person and she saw a lot of the very early punk bands like the Ramones and the Dolls in New York.
I have been thinking about coming out to her since we are pretty close. I've been thinking about it for years but I keep chickening out. I think I told her years ago that I was shopping around for a Ronnie Spector Wig which I now have courtesy of fifi-mahony in New Orleans and I also mentioned dying my hair and giving myself female hairdos but I don't even know if all that registered with her. Besides,my snailmail handwriting is horrible and my best freinds and relatives gloss over half of my letters as illegible!
Both of us are published as magazine writers in National Publications. She goes to Europe and the UK about once every 2 years with her guy. the point is she's a very neat person. I feel like I should tell her I CD.
But I keep chickening out! One of my concerns is that she could possibly feel like any mailing I might send telling her about all that is sort of "out of character" with the stuff we usually blab about on facebook and in email. But
I could be wrong. I just don't know. And there's also that she could be one of these people who are patient and tolerant about LGBT and TG/TS/CD people yet get very bored and derisive of "drag queens". I just don't know. this person and I plan to meet for an afternoon or an evening before we both get too old. We've known eachother since 1983 through the Harmony(not the same as eharmony)Rock Penfreinds club in Brooklyn. We talk to eachother almost everyday on email and facebook. Any advice is welcome,guys and gals
Samantha
I have been thinking about coming out to her since we are pretty close. I've been thinking about it for years but I keep chickening out. I think I told her years ago that I was shopping around for a Ronnie Spector Wig which I now have courtesy of fifi-mahony in New Orleans and I also mentioned dying my hair and giving myself female hairdos but I don't even know if all that registered with her. Besides,my snailmail handwriting is horrible and my best freinds and relatives gloss over half of my letters as illegible!
Both of us are published as magazine writers in National Publications. She goes to Europe and the UK about once every 2 years with her guy. the point is she's a very neat person. I feel like I should tell her I CD.
But I keep chickening out! One of my concerns is that she could possibly feel like any mailing I might send telling her about all that is sort of "out of character" with the stuff we usually blab about on facebook and in email. But
I could be wrong. I just don't know. And there's also that she could be one of these people who are patient and tolerant about LGBT and TG/TS/CD people yet get very bored and derisive of "drag queens". I just don't know. this person and I plan to meet for an afternoon or an evening before we both get too old. We've known eachother since 1983 through the Harmony(not the same as eharmony)Rock Penfreinds club in Brooklyn. We talk to eachother almost everyday on email and facebook. Any advice is welcome,guys and gals
Samantha